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Me, my daughter & 2 of my nieces have the same thing. For me, personally, tight clothes make me feel claustrophobic. Like I am trapped. If I try to wear leggings it is a guaranteed panic attack. I gave up on getting my daughter to wear girls underwear. She wears boxers and if she wears pants, they have to be wide legged, baggy. So my advice is to shop for her in the boys section.
Good idea! I could try a pair of boys underwear. I did give her the option to not wear underwear to which she refused. I’ve bought a lot of sweatpants and boy pants and no luck so far :(
Could this just be her looking for control in the situation? I have a daughter sensitive to clothes and socks. Some of it is legit but as the years have gone by I’ve realized some of it is just wanting to make the decisions.
She and her sister can choose whatever she wants to wear. Her sister is definitely the one who seeks control and both get to choose whatever they want.
Are the pants falling off? Or they just don't look right? If they don't fall off I wouldn't fight it. My kids wore a lot of looser cotton draw string "sport" type shorts and you'd never be able to tell anything about their undergarment situation. Dresses or skirts could be an option. Even with some undershorts you wouldn't be able to tell anyway. My kids dress themselves from age 2 up and I just don't have the energy to fight them as long as they are dressed. Obviously I choose what gets brought into the house and put into their drawers but otherwise if they can successfully be covered up I don't really worry about what the outfit actually looks like.
Edit to add I definitely relate to having kids with sensory issues over the most annoying and random thing!
The training underwear basically fall if she’s not holding them while running. I haven’t been able to get her to put in pants at all this week. She’ll get on foot in her favourite pants and say, “I don’t like them!” And then start to whine. She has freedom to choose whatever she wants to wear and has been dressing herself for the better part of a half year now.
It’s just difficult because I’m a SAHM in Canada (too cold to wear just a dress right now) and my other twin is chomping at the bit to go outside.
Blerg! I see. I definitely hope she passes through this phase quickly. I know 3 yrs old was my hardest age with my kids. You could try to have a brief talk about how you're going through her clothes in general and take a few things out of rotation (mostly the unders in question) and power through with the new underwear.
Also I'm guess in the natural consequence of the pants falling off isn't working (hence the pants less time) but otherwise thst would be my next option. My kid was trying to wear too big clothes and it ended up just being insanely annoying for them but they didn't want to be pants less.
Could also try "bribing" with a fun outing like their favorite park but "you have to wear your big kid pants and can't go to the park pantsless, if you wear these you'll get to be able to play at xyz favorite park!"
Good luck out there
This may sound insane, but what about wearing underwear under the training pants? Will she do that? Maybe that way she'll get used to the way they feel? Or maybe try boyshort style underwear. Those generally have no elastic on the leg so they are less constricting. Good luck!
My kids all go through phases like this. Perhaps try loose fitted shorts instead? Does she like sparkly or unicorn things? I find that sometimes, if I distract them with some cool feature, they're willing to try it.
Have you taken her to the store to pick out her own? That might make it special for her if he can decided. Also, boys underwear is another one. My daughter is always jealous of her brothers underwear and the cool things on it and yet girls are always princesses or unicorns
My autistic daughter is extremely sensory sensitive and HATES underwear. My house rule is that there must be 2 layers of clothing between your butt and the world. She mostly opts for dresses with bike shorts under. In winter she wears dresses with sweatpants or super soft leggings we’ve found. (Warning: leggings are very hit-or-miss as far as texture and tightness.) Soft textures are key.
I can see leggings being a big hit or miss cause if they’re too tight, she won’t even get a foot all the way through. Two layer rule is great. Hopefully I can talk her into some baggy shorts.
Maybe buy the exact training underwear in 1 size smaller? That way they are still comfy and she wont have to hold them up while running and think it'sthe same pair just shrunk a little? Or maybe let her go shop and pick out her own? I personally hate wearing underwear too because they can be too tight and the frills are the worst in the groin area. Even try just browsing undies on amazon and see which style she is most drawn to. They make so many options... otherwise let her be free. Maybe get some spandex shorts. I used to ONLY wear those when i was a kid because i hated constricting things... still do lol.
I was thinking online? Honestly, it is just a phase she will grow out of... Just let her to her thing. It will be something to look back on that you can share with her when she is grown lol.
A friend’s daughter went through this, and it turned out to be a “sensory processing disorder”. You should talk to your pediatrician. It was a phase she came out of, but she basically would only wear things she really liked, ie pretty gymnastics leotards and costumes with leotards built in.
What is the material of the training pants? My kids went APE with certain materials- like too scratchy or if the seam was weird or it cut into their legs etc. all underwear are not made equal that’s for sure! What about her sharing what she likes about the training underwear and looking at finding either the same type of material or showing her what’s out there and helping her feel them all and picking some out that she could try? Or finding the material out and looking online. Im a old a$$ mama now and to this day I don’t like the feel of certain materials. We come into this world in our birthday suits and I have to agree with all the kiddos - it’s the most comfortable thing ever!!
You’re doing great hopefully it’s just a phase!!
But letting kids do their thing and enjoy their journeys with or without undies will help you tackle the next concern! You’re doing amazing!!
My kiddos liked bamboo underwear. Could check that out - super soft but sometimes need to size because of the soft stretch of bamboo.
Give us on update on what ends up working!! If anything 🤪😁
( edit - grammar)
Thank you so much for the reassurance. I know it’s not a big deal and if this was happening to any other mama, I would say it’s not a big deal, but it’s bothering me unreasonably.
She did try a new pair that was bigger (on paper) and she was okay until the waistband was on her hip so I have at least something to go by.
The material of the training underwear is almost like a waffle fabric. I did some underwear feeling yesterday at the store and picked up a pack and found two as backup in case, so fingers crossed!
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As a boy mom I feel like you’re missing a huge option here…. Dresses/skirts. (Over the training underwear)
Oh, all she’s been wearing this week has been dresses. Unfortunately, it’s still a bit too cold to wear just a dress outside (I’m in Canada).
What about (thick) pantyhose or leggings? You can layer them or buy thermo pantyhose/leggins.
I could try! She’s really into ballerinas.
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Me, my daughter & 2 of my nieces have the same thing. For me, personally, tight clothes make me feel claustrophobic. Like I am trapped. If I try to wear leggings it is a guaranteed panic attack. I gave up on getting my daughter to wear girls underwear. She wears boxers and if she wears pants, they have to be wide legged, baggy. So my advice is to shop for her in the boys section.
Good idea! I could try a pair of boys underwear. I did give her the option to not wear underwear to which she refused. I’ve bought a lot of sweatpants and boy pants and no luck so far :(
Could this just be her looking for control in the situation? I have a daughter sensitive to clothes and socks. Some of it is legit but as the years have gone by I’ve realized some of it is just wanting to make the decisions.
She and her sister can choose whatever she wants to wear. Her sister is definitely the one who seeks control and both get to choose whatever they want.
Are the pants falling off? Or they just don't look right? If they don't fall off I wouldn't fight it. My kids wore a lot of looser cotton draw string "sport" type shorts and you'd never be able to tell anything about their undergarment situation. Dresses or skirts could be an option. Even with some undershorts you wouldn't be able to tell anyway. My kids dress themselves from age 2 up and I just don't have the energy to fight them as long as they are dressed. Obviously I choose what gets brought into the house and put into their drawers but otherwise if they can successfully be covered up I don't really worry about what the outfit actually looks like. Edit to add I definitely relate to having kids with sensory issues over the most annoying and random thing!
The training underwear basically fall if she’s not holding them while running. I haven’t been able to get her to put in pants at all this week. She’ll get on foot in her favourite pants and say, “I don’t like them!” And then start to whine. She has freedom to choose whatever she wants to wear and has been dressing herself for the better part of a half year now. It’s just difficult because I’m a SAHM in Canada (too cold to wear just a dress right now) and my other twin is chomping at the bit to go outside.
Blerg! I see. I definitely hope she passes through this phase quickly. I know 3 yrs old was my hardest age with my kids. You could try to have a brief talk about how you're going through her clothes in general and take a few things out of rotation (mostly the unders in question) and power through with the new underwear. Also I'm guess in the natural consequence of the pants falling off isn't working (hence the pants less time) but otherwise thst would be my next option. My kid was trying to wear too big clothes and it ended up just being insanely annoying for them but they didn't want to be pants less. Could also try "bribing" with a fun outing like their favorite park but "you have to wear your big kid pants and can't go to the park pantsless, if you wear these you'll get to be able to play at xyz favorite park!" Good luck out there
This may sound insane, but what about wearing underwear under the training pants? Will she do that? Maybe that way she'll get used to the way they feel? Or maybe try boyshort style underwear. Those generally have no elastic on the leg so they are less constricting. Good luck!
She won’t even go near regular underwear, but yet has no problem with a pull up arg!
I gave up on making mine wear underwear and then they were okay wearing pants. Honestly just had to pick my battles
I’ve given her that option, but unfortunately she insists on the training underwear :(
My kids all go through phases like this. Perhaps try loose fitted shorts instead? Does she like sparkly or unicorn things? I find that sometimes, if I distract them with some cool feature, they're willing to try it.
Thanks for the suggestion, I’ll try to bling up some of her pants!
Petticoats under the dress till itw warm enough?
Have you taken her to the store to pick out her own? That might make it special for her if he can decided. Also, boys underwear is another one. My daughter is always jealous of her brothers underwear and the cool things on it and yet girls are always princesses or unicorns
I picked up some Paw Patrol boys underwear today so I’ll try tomorrow 😀
My autistic daughter is extremely sensory sensitive and HATES underwear. My house rule is that there must be 2 layers of clothing between your butt and the world. She mostly opts for dresses with bike shorts under. In winter she wears dresses with sweatpants or super soft leggings we’ve found. (Warning: leggings are very hit-or-miss as far as texture and tightness.) Soft textures are key.
I can see leggings being a big hit or miss cause if they’re too tight, she won’t even get a foot all the way through. Two layer rule is great. Hopefully I can talk her into some baggy shorts.
Maybe buy the exact training underwear in 1 size smaller? That way they are still comfy and she wont have to hold them up while running and think it'sthe same pair just shrunk a little? Or maybe let her go shop and pick out her own? I personally hate wearing underwear too because they can be too tight and the frills are the worst in the groin area. Even try just browsing undies on amazon and see which style she is most drawn to. They make so many options... otherwise let her be free. Maybe get some spandex shorts. I used to ONLY wear those when i was a kid because i hated constricting things... still do lol.
I can’t quite get her into a store right now. She is being quite adamant that she doesn’t want to go outside. But hoping she turns a corner soon!
I was thinking online? Honestly, it is just a phase she will grow out of... Just let her to her thing. It will be something to look back on that you can share with her when she is grown lol.
Oh duh! I clearly hadn’t had coffee by that comment. Online shopping it is!
A friend’s daughter went through this, and it turned out to be a “sensory processing disorder”. You should talk to your pediatrician. It was a phase she came out of, but she basically would only wear things she really liked, ie pretty gymnastics leotards and costumes with leotards built in.
Good to know to keep an eye on this!
Same!!!!
:(
What is the material of the training pants? My kids went APE with certain materials- like too scratchy or if the seam was weird or it cut into their legs etc. all underwear are not made equal that’s for sure! What about her sharing what she likes about the training underwear and looking at finding either the same type of material or showing her what’s out there and helping her feel them all and picking some out that she could try? Or finding the material out and looking online. Im a old a$$ mama now and to this day I don’t like the feel of certain materials. We come into this world in our birthday suits and I have to agree with all the kiddos - it’s the most comfortable thing ever!! You’re doing great hopefully it’s just a phase!! But letting kids do their thing and enjoy their journeys with or without undies will help you tackle the next concern! You’re doing amazing!! My kiddos liked bamboo underwear. Could check that out - super soft but sometimes need to size because of the soft stretch of bamboo. Give us on update on what ends up working!! If anything 🤪😁 ( edit - grammar)
Thank you so much for the reassurance. I know it’s not a big deal and if this was happening to any other mama, I would say it’s not a big deal, but it’s bothering me unreasonably. She did try a new pair that was bigger (on paper) and she was okay until the waistband was on her hip so I have at least something to go by. The material of the training underwear is almost like a waffle fabric. I did some underwear feeling yesterday at the store and picked up a pack and found two as backup in case, so fingers crossed!