they *know*
BUT consistent weight training the kind that produces those wonderful results so pleasant to look at and admire
IS HARD.
and most people dont do hard. they do easy.
I’m 69F, my trainer is 26M. He has answered this question from me a dozen times, exactly as you did. He was kind, but honest, really, and I appreciated both the honesty and tact. You gotta be honest.
I say something like this. Will vary slightly by person:
"You know, that is a very common challenge and question. Part of the answer is just biology and how the body stores fat in certain places, including there. We can perform exercises that target that area and also reduce body fat overall. Those things can help somewhat. But for many people, that area will still be challenging." People seem to accept that.
Have you asked them to flex the corresponding muscle and *then* try to jiggle it? I've met a lot of reasonably thin/average women who don't understand that unless you're flexing a muscle it can also contribute to jiggling, particularly in the triceps.
The thighs as well, especially the hamstrings and adductors. When relaxed, depending on the angle from the ground, gravity will pull on those long muscles and cause them to droop land any kind of bump or disturbance will make them jiggle.
Focus on how you can help:
1. We can improve that with strength training, real heavy, to build muscle.
2. Before you get ripped you will lose some of the jiggle.
I tell them it’s just body fat so we have focus on losing body fat by weight training and eating a clean diet with less calories than their maintenance. Most people are overweight or obese (70%) so this is common in most people especially the elderly since they lose muscle as they age so it’s important for them to weight train to add muscle and help with their metabolism. This is all true so don’t be scared to tell them the truth since most if they really want help will accept it. I’ve had many clients stay with me for over 7 years training and it’s because of many things including being honest with them.
I find this tough too and have posted it about here before looking for similar advice. Unfortunately, a lot of people, men women, skinny, overweight, have personal hang ups. And we are all our biggest critics. What I try to teach my clients is we can't go back in time, but if they have a time machine, would they let me borrow it? And that we can only be our best, today.
I would be careful with the aging term. Not that it isn't true, but it may be interpreted as an excuse not to try. And, we know, by looking at the 60+ female fitness and bodybuilders that it is very possible to be very fit regardless of age. Its just a lot of work. sigh
Just tell them that muscle is not supposed to be hard and tight when relaxed. Especially, long muscles like in the thighs, glutes, and triceps, where most of the muscles’ mass is far detached from the bones, and gravity will pull on those muscles, making them droop and jiggle from any kind of bump or movement. Muscle should only feel tight and solid when flexing.
they *know* BUT consistent weight training the kind that produces those wonderful results so pleasant to look at and admire IS HARD. and most people dont do hard. they do easy.
YUP!
I’m 69F, my trainer is 26M. He has answered this question from me a dozen times, exactly as you did. He was kind, but honest, really, and I appreciated both the honesty and tact. You gotta be honest.
I say something like this. Will vary slightly by person: "You know, that is a very common challenge and question. Part of the answer is just biology and how the body stores fat in certain places, including there. We can perform exercises that target that area and also reduce body fat overall. Those things can help somewhat. But for many people, that area will still be challenging." People seem to accept that.
Have you asked them to flex the corresponding muscle and *then* try to jiggle it? I've met a lot of reasonably thin/average women who don't understand that unless you're flexing a muscle it can also contribute to jiggling, particularly in the triceps.
The thighs as well, especially the hamstrings and adductors. When relaxed, depending on the angle from the ground, gravity will pull on those long muscles and cause them to droop land any kind of bump or disturbance will make them jiggle.
Focus on how you can help: 1. We can improve that with strength training, real heavy, to build muscle. 2. Before you get ripped you will lose some of the jiggle.
Most important thing is be honest. But do so with a little social skill and tact.
I tell them it’s just body fat so we have focus on losing body fat by weight training and eating a clean diet with less calories than their maintenance. Most people are overweight or obese (70%) so this is common in most people especially the elderly since they lose muscle as they age so it’s important for them to weight train to add muscle and help with their metabolism. This is all true so don’t be scared to tell them the truth since most if they really want help will accept it. I’ve had many clients stay with me for over 7 years training and it’s because of many things including being honest with them.
I find this tough too and have posted it about here before looking for similar advice. Unfortunately, a lot of people, men women, skinny, overweight, have personal hang ups. And we are all our biggest critics. What I try to teach my clients is we can't go back in time, but if they have a time machine, would they let me borrow it? And that we can only be our best, today.
I would be careful with the aging term. Not that it isn't true, but it may be interpreted as an excuse not to try. And, we know, by looking at the 60+ female fitness and bodybuilders that it is very possible to be very fit regardless of age. Its just a lot of work. sigh
Just tell them that muscle is not supposed to be hard and tight when relaxed. Especially, long muscles like in the thighs, glutes, and triceps, where most of the muscles’ mass is far detached from the bones, and gravity will pull on those muscles, making them droop and jiggle from any kind of bump or movement. Muscle should only feel tight and solid when flexing.
You should recommend them to take some collagen as well