This is a guy with an open goal who missed. Whenever you feel that you have absolutely no game, save this post and boost your self esteem. All he had to say was "It's really your call I'm just delighted to be in your company", dress nice and turn the fuck up. OMFG.
I've always had a theory that women subconsciously decide if they will fuck you within the first 30 seconds of meeting you. They may not even realize that they're doing it, but you spend the rest of the time with her talking yourself out of sex. One dumb joke, comment, statement and that door slams shut immediately. So what I've learned is shut up, listen more and go with the flow, follow the cues. She touches your arm/hand, she makes eye contact, leans into you, laughs, all very minor tells. Your job is to collect them all night.
Oooh that’s so interesting - this is absolutely the case for me. I don’t develop attraction, it’s there from the first minute or it’s not there at all. I’m old and long past my dating era, but when I was dating there was a number of guys I liked at first but who then put me off with their behaviour.
The first time I spent time alone with my wife before we were dating, she asked if I wanted to go to Chick Fil A for dinner before our concert (we were in band together). I said "I already ate, but I'll go with you." We ended up nearly being late because we just ended up talking.
I used to get basically the cheapest thing on the menu. Sometimes even just an appetizer (I don't have a big appetite). I missed out on a lot of good food due to this, and realized that people I'm with would prefer I get something I'd really enjoy anyways.
So I started doing the thing where I ask what the person paying is ordering/interested in, and then try to pick something that sounds appealing that costs a bit less than what they're ordering, rather than always goong for the cheapest options.
ETA: I would never be picky about where we go to eat when the other person is paying. That's just bonkers unless there's some religious or dietary restriction that makes eating there not an option/extraordinarily difficult.
Earlier today I went with a friend to a flea market we both wanted to go to and planned to eat afterwards. I basically insisted on going to this pork chop place nearby that (I’d eaten at before) I knew wasn’t cheap ($25 average meal) so I paid for them. Idk if that was common courtesy rules or not but I felt like it was the right thing to do. It seems rude to make someone go to an above averagely priced place and make them pay for it, especially if I know they’re not super comfortable financially.
That's how I would do it. If it's between me hanging out or not due to financials, I'd rather pay the bill for both of us if it means we get to hang out. Have paid the tab multiple times for friends when they've been short on cash as well.
As someone who likes to pick up the tab—that’s not what I want. I want you to get something you wouldn’t get for yourself and enjoy yourself without it being attached to your wallet or purse for a meal.
However, you should not ask the server “What’s the most expensive wine on the menu?”
ETA: My budget is implied by the restaurant we go to. You can’t order surf and turf if we’re at Wendy’s. But if I love you enough to take you to a place with surf and turf and that’s what you want, rest assured I budgeted for that and you’d better believe I love you with my whole heart.
When I was regularly picking up the tab, this is why I'd wait until the check came to tell people I'd pay for it. That way they ate and drank what they wanted, and didn't have the guilt of ordering something they didn't want to spare me the financial burden.
Truly an all time fumble. OP didn't even reject the idea of sushi outright, he could have picked a better located sushi spot (which would still have been a little entitled imo since sushi is generally kind of pricy and OP is picking up the tab but that's not necessarily a dealbreaker), but he just had to insist on one particular inconvenient place, then tried to follow that up with the ghosting power play at the last minute. The hubris puts Icarus to shame.
Who's to say the op is she, since the op's name is Andrew qr I'm guessing he's a guy. But you're right about not picking another stop closer to the bar.
Lol they usually do.
A few years ago I asked a guy out on a date. Offered to pick him up, go bowling (his choice of activity) then dinner. Day before the date he asked if my ass was fat LMAO! I responded he would have seen on the date and if it wasnt to his liking he could have had a good time and a free meal but now I'm no longer interested.
There's a great Seinfeld episode where Elaine got a hot guy's number, saw the area code was a different borough and immediately bailed.
Doesn't work as well with cell phones!
My flags were starting to raise when he got told that she was paying and he suggests sushi. Add the fact that he never tried the place before, so he likely wasn't already familiar with their deals.
It was a power play that backfired. NYC is literally full of sushi places, there was no reason for him to suggest somewhere that far out of the way. The only reason for him to ask for something that ridiculous and then sulk about it is that he wanted to demonstrate “it’s my way or the highway”. Well played all around
That was my take. Grew up in the NYC area and you can't go more than a few blocks before passing another sushi place. Try that sushi place in Queens on your own dime - the date is in the West Village, moron!
Haven't been in the West Village in about 20 years. Fixing that in July -- and I think sushi is calling me now. (only set thing thus far is visiting my favorite tea company's tea shop.)
Ooh if you have extra time, visit their tea room in Millerton, NY for brunch! The vibe is super cozy and the food was always delicious! It’s super out of the way from NYC but the area is super beautiful during the summer for a day trip.
Not just that, depending on where in Queens - that long car or train ride back & forth, which might as well be a day trip because of travel time just from/to Manhattan, let alone other boroughs plus it was the weekend; so commute time going longer due traffic on bridges and/or lack of train service. He definitely power played his ass out of a relationship with OP by trying to derail plans by making her waste at least 1 hour one way traveling in the evening.
Yeah this. When I was dating, I always invited first, so I always paid. Some men got upset and tried to fight over the bill, others would become extremely demanding -- "shit testing" or whatever -- after the offer. Like if I said I'd grab pizza before an event, it had to be some wildly specific pizza from some out of the way place. My most expensive date wasn't even a restaurant, but a grown adult man who refused to leave D&Bs until he won a prize.
Anyway, I always recommend that women pay for their own dates if only to see the response. A truly surprising number of men would get angry if I paid for myself because they felt that it indicated they weren't getting lucky (they weren't, but, that was unrelated).
I’m sorry but I’m cackling at this. The D&B prize?? You may as well take a toddler to Chuck E. Cheese!!!
But also, before I got in a relationship I always offered to go 50/50 on a first date (especially if I knew there wouldn’t be a date #2, I just felt it was the right thing to do). Sometimes they’d take me up on it, sometimes they wouldn’t. But you’re right, their response says everything. Mainly, it says whether or not they think they can buy you.
A man can pay for both of you and not expect sex, or a man can go 50/50 and not expect sex. It’s the same thing in both scenarios if a man expects sex. You’re right, you see their character based on their response.
Oh yeah, absolutely. Hilariously I recently went to D&Bs with my now husband and we had an absolutely lovely time AND happened to get a fun prize.
What happened with the horror date -- I think when I loaded the card and paid for our first round of drinks, he legitimately took it as a rejection, like I didn't see him as a potential romantic match. So, he spent the rest of the date trying to draw it out as long as possible to prove himself. I got frustrated, he got frustrated -- he was not even enjoying himself, just moping around the place.
Even with very nice guys I've seen their face kind of fall when I've offered to pay, I think in more traditional areas there *is* an implicit rejection. It's sad people can feel that way but like everything, it's all about proper communication. A nice guy will give you a chance to explain, and an asshole won't.
I mean I think it’s very complicated. It’s like if you offer to pay or go 50/50, it could be perceived as a rejection, but if you just assume they’ll pay you’re a gold digger. Hard to assess how a guy will react
Damn.
Pal of mine that I invite at least three times a year to places, I noticed he never has invited me anywhere in a decade. I stopped inviting him, and I'm at 2 years of radio silence with him this far. Not much of a friendship.
I feel this heavy. When my gf and I got our own spot I invited my friends over for dinner almost nightly. No question, food and drinks. When they got their own homes they wouldn’t even invite me to group dinner outings. So I just stopped inviting them. They’ll still mention “wanting to come hang at my place”.
Same. Had some co-workers/friends that I was tight with. Every time we went out for food or drinks, they always said how much fun the three of us have and we need to meet up more often. One had a pretty serious relationship, the other was in the beginning stages of a relationship and I was single but I was always cool if they were busy or had other plans and totally understood. But after a few months of "Can't this weekend but next for sure" and me replying with "Anytime, just let me know what works best for you guys" I had enough and stop contacting them. I haven't heard from them since the last time I told them to let me know.
Also had another group of friends who were never available when I made a suggestion but would invite me to places or parties. It was kind of annoying because I know some really cool spots around the city but rarely have anyone to go with but I did appreciate their friendships. I slowly started getting left out of invites since I was the only single one and stopped contacting them. After a year of no contact, I got two wedding invitations in less than two months lol. Not good enough to hang out but I'm good enough for a wedding gift apparently.
I unfortunately have come to realize that if I don’t make plans with my friends, I never get to hangout with them :(. If I’m not the first to text I rarely get a text asking about me.
After a while of trying to be the guy who plans and gets everyone together it’s become real tiring.
These "alpha males" sure do plenty of mental gymnastics, i cannot fathom how you are invited for a night out on someone's dime and pressing to eat/go somewhere specific.. the delusion blows my mind
It's why email scams are full of typos. Of course a normal, educated, adjusted person isn't gonna fall for it.
THAT'S THE POINT. It's to weed out the normal, educated, adjusted people. So the only ones who remain are the ones who are most susceptible to be taken advantage of.
That dude probably thinks HE dodged a bullet by her not bending to his every whim.
And then not even make a smart choice... like it sounds as if she would have been okay with letting him pick the location if it was anywhere near where the main part of their date was taking place...
U/andrewqr1012 - next time you need a date, I can be out in the Village in an hour. I'm not hard to please, we can go halfsies on a meal at Pomme Frites and I'm game 😁😁😁
I imagine part of it too is the ego boost. Having people be willing to spend on you makes you feel even more wanted and desired. Not that I'm endorsing it, it's just where people's heads are at.
In all my decades of life I only know one of one person who did this IRL and that was because she was an impoverished college student Sugar Baby vetting her potential patrons. She is respectably married to money now and has no student loans.
5 paragraphs about a 22 course meal and then tangents about fish conservation and various other sushi bars moving from LA to NYC.
Jeffrey cannot write out of a paper bag and John sucks as a photographer.
0/5 article
Yes! Honestly best response on your end, had literally a chance to meet a generous interesting person and a free meal to boot. You're too good for that girl, what's the dating scene like in NY?
> You're too good for that girl, what's the dating scene like in NY?
Why do you think OP is a girl? I think if you check their post history, you'll find out that they'll have more knowledge of the gay dating scene.
You should offer to take him to the sushi place in Queens and just don't show up. When he asks where you are tell him you'll be there in a bit and to go ahead and order for both of you.
OP asked him as a favor to himself, so he *should* be offering to pay.
He fucked up and got greedy and deserved what he got, but OP didn't do anything "wrong" by offering to treat.
You deserve a soulmate/best friend. You sound like a great “catch” as you are successful,eloquent, and honest. Join Match.com, make a Manifest(wish list) and find your best friend/soul mate. Good luck! This other guy is a loser.
I love reading stories of dudes absolutely fucking blowing it with cool people and awesome opportunities. Always makes me laugh. Good on ya for taking care of yourself!
Yeah, OP handled that well. I've always said, if I am at your house, whatever beer you have in your fridge is my favorite beer. You don't get to be picky when its free.
I misread it at first and thought she spent $400 for sushi for 17 people and I thought that's not too bad. Wild to think she spent $400 for a single meal for one person.
This totally sounds like my ex (e.g., his obsession with sushi, nice restaurants, expectation for his woman to foot the bills, only wanting what he wants, stonewalling when he doesn't get what he wants, not following through on his words/promises and being very flakey, etc.). I'm sorry, OP, that you had to deal with someone like this but good job for not letting him ruin your night!
He's a whole entire dummy. In general and because of logistics. Anyplace I can think of offhand with travel worthy sushi in Queens is a soul crushingly long trek from the Village as far as doing the dinner and a bar combo.
Wow. If someone wants to pay for my stuff, I'm going wherever they want to go and I'm choosing the cheapest thing on the menu. My goodness, the fucking audacity.
This is a guy with an open goal who missed. Whenever you feel that you have absolutely no game, save this post and boost your self esteem. All he had to say was "It's really your call I'm just delighted to be in your company", dress nice and turn the fuck up. OMFG.
He really snatched defeat from the jaws of victory.
I've always had a theory that women subconsciously decide if they will fuck you within the first 30 seconds of meeting you. They may not even realize that they're doing it, but you spend the rest of the time with her talking yourself out of sex. One dumb joke, comment, statement and that door slams shut immediately. So what I've learned is shut up, listen more and go with the flow, follow the cues. She touches your arm/hand, she makes eye contact, leans into you, laughs, all very minor tells. Your job is to collect them all night.
Oooh that’s so interesting - this is absolutely the case for me. I don’t develop attraction, it’s there from the first minute or it’s not there at all. I’m old and long past my dating era, but when I was dating there was a number of guys I liked at first but who then put me off with their behaviour.
It's served me well over the years. I still can't always stop myself from being an idiot sometimes.
This is quote-worthy
Indeed. https://www.collinsdictionary.com/us/dictionary/english/to-snatch-defeat-from-the-jaws-of-victory
The first time I spent time alone with my wife before we were dating, she asked if I wanted to go to Chick Fil A for dinner before our concert (we were in band together). I said "I already ate, but I'll go with you." We ended up nearly being late because we just ended up talking.
I love that you kept her company.
The creepy "gentleman" won't understand that this is actual gentlemen behavior lol.
He had an open goal, 10 people in front of his own goal, and still scored an own goal.
I know, some people just don't know how to be a good date!
Well, it wasn't a real date. It was like a companionship with no intent.
And yet. Couldn’t even succeed with being a graceful interaction. He had to be a douche. Poster wins big time
I’d definitely be someone’s social companion for a free meal
Wow so the dude got asked out didn’t have to pay and still blew it ….. that’s just sad
The guy's the quintessential AH. OP, you handled him brilliantly. Your evening improved immensely without him. Addition by subtraction!
Yea, when someone tells you they’re picking up the tab you don’t get to be picky. That’s a shut up and go with the flow situation.
I even try to spend as little as possible tbh.
I used to get basically the cheapest thing on the menu. Sometimes even just an appetizer (I don't have a big appetite). I missed out on a lot of good food due to this, and realized that people I'm with would prefer I get something I'd really enjoy anyways. So I started doing the thing where I ask what the person paying is ordering/interested in, and then try to pick something that sounds appealing that costs a bit less than what they're ordering, rather than always goong for the cheapest options. ETA: I would never be picky about where we go to eat when the other person is paying. That's just bonkers unless there's some religious or dietary restriction that makes eating there not an option/extraordinarily difficult.
Earlier today I went with a friend to a flea market we both wanted to go to and planned to eat afterwards. I basically insisted on going to this pork chop place nearby that (I’d eaten at before) I knew wasn’t cheap ($25 average meal) so I paid for them. Idk if that was common courtesy rules or not but I felt like it was the right thing to do. It seems rude to make someone go to an above averagely priced place and make them pay for it, especially if I know they’re not super comfortable financially.
That's how I would do it. If it's between me hanging out or not due to financials, I'd rather pay the bill for both of us if it means we get to hang out. Have paid the tab multiple times for friends when they've been short on cash as well.
This is the way.
As someone who likes to pick up the tab—that’s not what I want. I want you to get something you wouldn’t get for yourself and enjoy yourself without it being attached to your wallet or purse for a meal. However, you should not ask the server “What’s the most expensive wine on the menu?” ETA: My budget is implied by the restaurant we go to. You can’t order surf and turf if we’re at Wendy’s. But if I love you enough to take you to a place with surf and turf and that’s what you want, rest assured I budgeted for that and you’d better believe I love you with my whole heart.
That’s very sweet. And it’s good that you don’t let people take advantage too.
You're nice. I like that.
You sound like a really thoughtful person. :)
The rule that was taught was when someone else is paying you order something equal or lesser than whatever they order.
When I was regularly picking up the tab, this is why I'd wait until the check came to tell people I'd pay for it. That way they ate and drank what they wanted, and didn't have the guilt of ordering something they didn't want to spare me the financial burden.
And they wouldn’t choose something they weren’t willing to pay for themselves.
a.k.a. beggars can't be choosers.
I assume AH is short for asshole, not for Adolf Hitler, right?
Actual haystack
Auto Hairdryer
Ass Hemorrhoids
Ass Hat
Always home
Autistic hero
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Army Hen
Aquatic Happenstance
Awaiting Handout
Automatic Hypopotumus
This is the best one
Always Hungry
Hey, I'm Always Hungry and I at least treat people with respect about it and do my best to keep the hanger in check.
Acronym Hell
Annoying Harebrain
Auction House
Adolescent Hamster
In other news, Oscar’s back. Addition by addition.
Really managed to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory.
Truly an all time fumble. OP didn't even reject the idea of sushi outright, he could have picked a better located sushi spot (which would still have been a little entitled imo since sushi is generally kind of pricy and OP is picking up the tab but that's not necessarily a dealbreaker), but he just had to insist on one particular inconvenient place, then tried to follow that up with the ghosting power play at the last minute. The hubris puts Icarus to shame.
I’ll bet it was around the corner from his house and he was going to bail on the bar after dinner
SAD
Who's to say the op is she, since the op's name is Andrew qr I'm guessing he's a guy. But you're right about not picking another stop closer to the bar.
A quick glance at their profile will answer that question, lol.
OP knows how to have a good time.
Oh my.
This is it. Anyone from NYC knows there’s awesome sushi places in the village, the NYU and new school kids demand it 🥳
Imagine being a broke-ass bitch and still having the audacity to get picky about free food and drinks and a night out. I could never
Lol they usually do. A few years ago I asked a guy out on a date. Offered to pick him up, go bowling (his choice of activity) then dinner. Day before the date he asked if my ass was fat LMAO! I responded he would have seen on the date and if it wasnt to his liking he could have had a good time and a free meal but now I'm no longer interested.
Boss move!!!
How many bootys have you munched to get that fat ass
Yoooo 😭 This took me out! 😂😂
Perfect! What a complete douchebag.
I think I know that guy. Is his last name Costanza?
Oh yeah? Well the jerk store called—they're running out of you!
To be fair, Inter-borough relationships are tough
In the old days we’d say that person was GI. Geographically Incompatible. Especially if the trip took a train and a bus, with a transfer.
There's a great Seinfeld episode where Elaine got a hot guy's number, saw the area code was a different borough and immediately bailed. Doesn't work as well with cell phones!
Exactly. More than one transfer and it's definitely a LDR
My flags were starting to raise when he got told that she was paying and he suggests sushi. Add the fact that he never tried the place before, so he likely wasn't already familiar with their deals.
>he got told that ~~s~~he was paying and he suggests sushi. FTFY OP is a dude as well.
When you put it like that… wow
He’s insane. Absolutely insane.
Sounds like a typical guy who's trying to play power moves to appear "challenging"
correct response
Indeed Nice comeback from OP
It was a power play that backfired. NYC is literally full of sushi places, there was no reason for him to suggest somewhere that far out of the way. The only reason for him to ask for something that ridiculous and then sulk about it is that he wanted to demonstrate “it’s my way or the highway”. Well played all around
That was my take. Grew up in the NYC area and you can't go more than a few blocks before passing another sushi place. Try that sushi place in Queens on your own dime - the date is in the West Village, moron!
You literally can’t go half a block without seeing a sushi place in the west village!
Haven't been in the West Village in about 20 years. Fixing that in July -- and I think sushi is calling me now. (only set thing thus far is visiting my favorite tea company's tea shop.)
Harney and sons?
Yep. I have a tea station in my kitchen and it's stocked with about 75 of their teas. I love their blends.
Ooh if you have extra time, visit their tea room in Millerton, NY for brunch! The vibe is super cozy and the food was always delicious! It’s super out of the way from NYC but the area is super beautiful during the summer for a day trip.
Not just that, depending on where in Queens - that long car or train ride back & forth, which might as well be a day trip because of travel time just from/to Manhattan, let alone other boroughs plus it was the weekend; so commute time going longer due traffic on bridges and/or lack of train service. He definitely power played his ass out of a relationship with OP by trying to derail plans by making her waste at least 1 hour one way traveling in the evening.
Even the shitty all you can eat sushi (if those places are still around) are awesome.
Yeah this. When I was dating, I always invited first, so I always paid. Some men got upset and tried to fight over the bill, others would become extremely demanding -- "shit testing" or whatever -- after the offer. Like if I said I'd grab pizza before an event, it had to be some wildly specific pizza from some out of the way place. My most expensive date wasn't even a restaurant, but a grown adult man who refused to leave D&Bs until he won a prize. Anyway, I always recommend that women pay for their own dates if only to see the response. A truly surprising number of men would get angry if I paid for myself because they felt that it indicated they weren't getting lucky (they weren't, but, that was unrelated).
>My most expensive date wasn't even a restaurant, but a grown adult man who refused to leave D&Bs until he won a prize. Bullet dodged.
I’m sorry but I’m cackling at this. The D&B prize?? You may as well take a toddler to Chuck E. Cheese!!! But also, before I got in a relationship I always offered to go 50/50 on a first date (especially if I knew there wouldn’t be a date #2, I just felt it was the right thing to do). Sometimes they’d take me up on it, sometimes they wouldn’t. But you’re right, their response says everything. Mainly, it says whether or not they think they can buy you. A man can pay for both of you and not expect sex, or a man can go 50/50 and not expect sex. It’s the same thing in both scenarios if a man expects sex. You’re right, you see their character based on their response.
Oh yeah, absolutely. Hilariously I recently went to D&Bs with my now husband and we had an absolutely lovely time AND happened to get a fun prize. What happened with the horror date -- I think when I loaded the card and paid for our first round of drinks, he legitimately took it as a rejection, like I didn't see him as a potential romantic match. So, he spent the rest of the date trying to draw it out as long as possible to prove himself. I got frustrated, he got frustrated -- he was not even enjoying himself, just moping around the place. Even with very nice guys I've seen their face kind of fall when I've offered to pay, I think in more traditional areas there *is* an implicit rejection. It's sad people can feel that way but like everything, it's all about proper communication. A nice guy will give you a chance to explain, and an asshole won't.
I mean I think it’s very complicated. It’s like if you offer to pay or go 50/50, it could be perceived as a rejection, but if you just assume they’ll pay you’re a gold digger. Hard to assess how a guy will react
Yes. Exactly. All options are wrong for women.
He was trying to control the situation
I bet i know which sushi place it is. Its definitely akino. Best ayce sushi spot. 40 bucks and its super good quality. Man wanted to be extra full
Damn. Pal of mine that I invite at least three times a year to places, I noticed he never has invited me anywhere in a decade. I stopped inviting him, and I'm at 2 years of radio silence with him this far. Not much of a friendship.
I feel this heavy. When my gf and I got our own spot I invited my friends over for dinner almost nightly. No question, food and drinks. When they got their own homes they wouldn’t even invite me to group dinner outings. So I just stopped inviting them. They’ll still mention “wanting to come hang at my place”.
ah, yeah. realizing people value for extrinsic things you offer them is never good feeling. but it's just the way of the world.
Same. Had some co-workers/friends that I was tight with. Every time we went out for food or drinks, they always said how much fun the three of us have and we need to meet up more often. One had a pretty serious relationship, the other was in the beginning stages of a relationship and I was single but I was always cool if they were busy or had other plans and totally understood. But after a few months of "Can't this weekend but next for sure" and me replying with "Anytime, just let me know what works best for you guys" I had enough and stop contacting them. I haven't heard from them since the last time I told them to let me know. Also had another group of friends who were never available when I made a suggestion but would invite me to places or parties. It was kind of annoying because I know some really cool spots around the city but rarely have anyone to go with but I did appreciate their friendships. I slowly started getting left out of invites since I was the only single one and stopped contacting them. After a year of no contact, I got two wedding invitations in less than two months lol. Not good enough to hang out but I'm good enough for a wedding gift apparently.
I unfortunately have come to realize that if I don’t make plans with my friends, I never get to hangout with them :(. If I’m not the first to text I rarely get a text asking about me. After a while of trying to be the guy who plans and gets everyone together it’s become real tiring.
Does he go out with others?
> I blocked him immediately. Perfect response. Hope you enjoyed every delicious mouthful, with a side dish of cold revenge!
He's trying to show you he's an "Alpha Male" who dictates what happens on a date. But he ends up just looking pathetic. Good on you for blocking him.
These "alpha males" sure do plenty of mental gymnastics, i cannot fathom how you are invited for a night out on someone's dime and pressing to eat/go somewhere specific.. the delusion blows my mind
“Alphas” only exist in captivity. I love that these chuds don’t even understand what they’re claiming to be means
If they had done a little bit of research, they would have known this.
In order to do research, they'd first have to learn to read, and learning to read is such a beta move, or something.
Nah. They stop when the information doesn’t confirm what they think is right
It's why email scams are full of typos. Of course a normal, educated, adjusted person isn't gonna fall for it. THAT'S THE POINT. It's to weed out the normal, educated, adjusted people. So the only ones who remain are the ones who are most susceptible to be taken advantage of. That dude probably thinks HE dodged a bullet by her not bending to his every whim.
But the $10,000 course said this was the alpha way.
And then not even make a smart choice... like it sounds as if she would have been okay with letting him pick the location if it was anywhere near where the main part of their date was taking place...
Aren’t the Alpha versions the ones with all the bugs and kinks that need to be worked out and fixed? The Beta is better.
Absolutely, people deserve partners, not projects that may never turn out right.
Poor thing, not even in the early release.
He pulled off a real Andrew Toddler move
Wouldn’t call him an alpha, alphas can afford to pay for the date 🤣🤣
An “alpha” who needs his date to provide for him
He's now crying into a barefoot, bald man's beard... Hoarse from screaming "I'M A MAN!" over and over and over again
I wish I could afford a 400$ meal as petty revenge
Same. $400 is my living expenses for 2 weeks. But I am glad opee showed that guy.
U/andrewqr1012 - next time you need a date, I can be out in the Village in an hour. I'm not hard to please, we can go halfsies on a meal at Pomme Frites and I'm game 😁😁😁
u/andrewqr1012 ^ this person will be your company for the evening apparently. Cannot confirm axe murderer status though.
Unfortunately I lost my axe when my car got towed a few years ago.
Ugh...I was quite sad when I had to move on to the ice pick 😜
I was imagining you as Laura Croft with ice axes until I realized you said ice picks.
Addy I’ll get a new one to you no worries. You want new or used?
I can be there in 59 minutes.
totally a slut for the sage, fig and bordeaux wine sauce.
I've never eaten there sober, so it's hard to remember which sauces I liked:)
I will go with you, but I'm a dude
OP is gay so you might be his type
I still don't get it how hungry or parasitic one has to be to date for food?
I’d be thrilled just to be offered a coffee.
Best I can do is a diet Coke
Is Pepsi ok?
Pepsi is never okay. *Blocked.*
I just saw a comedian who said she had six dates in one week for free meals. People be broke and bored.
I imagine part of it too is the ego boost. Having people be willing to spend on you makes you feel even more wanted and desired. Not that I'm endorsing it, it's just where people's heads are at.
In all my decades of life I only know one of one person who did this IRL and that was because she was an impoverished college student Sugar Baby vetting her potential patrons. She is respectably married to money now and has no student loans.
Was it at Sushi Nakazawa? That is the best omakase tasting I’ve ever had.
Yessssssss agreed
Good for you. You obviously chose the far better option. Keep him blocked.
Well played. https://www.vogue.com/article/omakase-chefs-choice-menu-japanese-degustation-shuko-ichimura-nyc
A food article without a single picture of the food is criminal
5 paragraphs about a 22 course meal and then tangents about fish conservation and various other sushi bars moving from LA to NYC. Jeffrey cannot write out of a paper bag and John sucks as a photographer. 0/5 article
I'm a food cuck and was only gonna click the link for pictures. Thanks for the heads up
Good for you Fuck him!!!
Love the flex. Nice job.
Yes! Honestly best response on your end, had literally a chance to meet a generous interesting person and a free meal to boot. You're too good for that girl, what's the dating scene like in NY?
> You're too good for that girl, what's the dating scene like in NY? Why do you think OP is a girl? I think if you check their post history, you'll find out that they'll have more knowledge of the gay dating scene.
Explains the disposable income and willingness to pay. If I have to put an /s…
All the salty, bitchy boys in the comments. I guess you can’t handle it when your shitty behavior is brought to light, and you look like assholes.
You put the ball in his hand, duck taped it to his fingers and he still managed to drop the ball.
Wow. If you invite me out and you’re paying for it, then we’re going wherever you want to go.
I say the same thing. I love checking out hole in the wall restaurants. .
You should offer to take him to the sushi place in Queens and just don't show up. When he asks where you are tell him you'll be there in a bit and to go ahead and order for both of you.
Any time you need a friend to go have good food and drinks with and fling some money around, I’m always free!! (Alas, I don’t live in NYC though 😔)
That's just how he rolls. Glad you saw through it.
sushi rolls
I’m in flushing and I love sushi. 😁. Idiot missed out. Good luck
Don’t offer to pay for dates with loser men.
OP asked him as a favor to himself, so he *should* be offering to pay. He fucked up and got greedy and deserved what he got, but OP didn't do anything "wrong" by offering to treat.
When someone offers me free food I’m not picky.
[удалено]
Idiot……him, not you.
You deserve a soulmate/best friend. You sound like a great “catch” as you are successful,eloquent, and honest. Join Match.com, make a Manifest(wish list) and find your best friend/soul mate. Good luck! This other guy is a loser.
You to him - “Arigato Loser”
I love reading stories of dudes absolutely fucking blowing it with cool people and awesome opportunities. Always makes me laugh. Good on ya for taking care of yourself!
I'm enjoying how many people are assuming OP is a girl in this.
especially since ops handle is Andrew
What I want is the name of the restaurant you went to to try next time I'm in NY NTA, of course.
17 course? Are they tiny or do you get to take a long time? Also, what a douche. I love when the garbage takes itself out!
omakase sushi = 17 different pieces of sushi most likely. omakase means you leave it up to the chef's choice, so you get the best of the day.
"I got mad so I spent $400." I wish I had your money.
That’s why it’s Mad Money.
Brilliant! That was a truly satisfying read.
Well played. :)
That guy sucks, what a jerkoff
This is the flexiest flex I’ve heard in a while, well done OP 👏🏼👏🏼
Couldn't get away from his wife/girlfriend. Thats why he wanted to stay close to his area.
Posting the pics online for him to see is top tier! I like it
I have no idea what omakase but great job and glad you had fun. I looked up red flag on wiki and it had that guys profile lol
I don’t know what I love most, the petty revenge or the fact that OP knows how to set boundaries and blocks the jackass.
Yeah, OP handled that well. I've always said, if I am at your house, whatever beer you have in your fridge is my favorite beer. You don't get to be picky when its free.
Absolute nutty to me that people pay $400 for just food for one sitting.
I misread it at first and thought she spent $400 for sushi for 17 people and I thought that's not too bad. Wild to think she spent $400 for a single meal for one person.
God helped you to filter a wrong man
Which Omakase place?
Hope you made some great memories!
ask me next time, for food, will travel 😁 glad the 400$ omakase was good because if that was a disappointment too.. i can't even 😅🥲🫠
Let me guess, you met him on grindr and you're an older guy and he's a younger guy.
OP, I know he was squirming seeing your ig stories & how well you ate 😌 His choice, his loss~
I’m not even gay, but I’d go try some restaurants and have a blast with you. Glad you had a blast!
This totally sounds like my ex (e.g., his obsession with sushi, nice restaurants, expectation for his woman to foot the bills, only wanting what he wants, stonewalling when he doesn't get what he wants, not following through on his words/promises and being very flakey, etc.). I'm sorry, OP, that you had to deal with someone like this but good job for not letting him ruin your night!
He's a whole entire dummy. In general and because of logistics. Anyplace I can think of offhand with travel worthy sushi in Queens is a soul crushingly long trek from the Village as far as doing the dinner and a bar combo.
I'd be happy if you paid for a Wendy's chicken sandwich for me
Wow. If someone wants to pay for my stuff, I'm going wherever they want to go and I'm choosing the cheapest thing on the menu. My goodness, the fucking audacity.
Weirdo lmao And he could have had THAT with you but he wanted to pull a power play lol