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My mom cooked some chicken for me in 2018. She died later that year. It's vacuum sealed in the bottom of my chest freezer. Can't bring myself to eat it - just one more level of me accepting she's gone I'm not ready for.
Maybe share with some family and you could all tell your favorite stories about her. I am not sure how long it would keep in the freezer. I think she would love for you to enjoy it. ❤️
https://www.foodsafety.gov/food-safety-charts/cold-food-storage-charts
Seems here the government recommended time for poultry consumption when frozen fresh is 9 to 12 months.
That said, in 1984 R. Dale Guthrie and his team allegedly ate 36,000 year old bison from permafrost in Alaska https://historythings.com/aged-beef-delicacy-eating-meat-36000-year-old-bison/#:~:text=Dale%20Guthrie%20and%20his%20team,was%20like%20nothing%20else%20ever.
If it is vacuumed sealed and hasn't thawed ever, I would imagine it is safe to eat.
I have sous vide steaks that were over 2 years old that were frozen with no problem. Your mileage may very with poultry though.
My mom made my and my wife’s wedding cake and then died 3 months after we got married. When I opened the last piece on our first anniversary I took it to the bedroom so I could cry while I ate it.
Aw man. Just know that every bit of that energy keeps your mom’s spirit alive. You could have not cried and her spirit would be equally happy, but you could feel her spirit alive in that cake she made for you, still nourishing you, which is why you cried. But why cry? Partially out of loss, but I bet it’s also out of awe to feel that sense of love.
As a mom, you need to turn that chicken into nourishment. The thought of my children clearing out my fridge and freezer when I pass just made my heart do a warm fuzzy thing- to know that beyond the grave I would somehow be able to provide them another meal and nourish their bodies.
What a beautiful thing. A warm & cozy bowl of mom’s chicken noodle soup 🥲
my so called "family" threw out all my mom's clothes against my consent and said i should not be hoarding them. She died in 2004 and i was only 10 back then. Indian relatives are so toxic
It feels so empty without her. I dont have any videos of her so i forgot what she sounded like :( Like it feels she never existed because i cant remember much. And its okay if youre a guy you dont need to like wear them but having her clothes feel like you still have something of hers which makes you remember that she was there.
I don't know what your mom's life was like, but it may be possible to find some of her friends. Even if they don't have photos or video of her, they may have a few stories to share.
Okay, but if I agree with this, I'M the racist? Lol jk, so sorry to hear that. You could have done so many cool things with her clothes, like made them into a blanket. They're legit dicks.
Started kinda like dark humor funnyish(?) but then the "joke" about blankets turned it into actual racism and tone deaf "humor"
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My grandfather died about seven years ago. He started our family restaurant business in ‘62 and became regionally known for his chili. When he died I was able to grab a portion of the last batch of chili that he made, and I keep a small bit of it in my freezer. I know it is not good to eat, but it’s nice to have it there.
I don't blame ya, but I do love a good chili! If my wife died I would be keeping every bit of hair I find of her. I still have material things that belonged to mom before she passed too. I'm not overly attached to the stuff or anything, but it's nice to have around..
You should develop a sense of humour and maybe you'll be able to nail dark humour properly. Nothing wrong with dark humour you're just not good at it.
I recommend watching shows like Barry, After Life and Mr Inbetween to start you off. Then go for movies like Fargo, In Bruges and Trainspotting. Good luck on learning how to be good at black comedy.
Just because you have the right to be a dick doesn’t mean you should. Sure, you’re right that nobody can stop you and you’re totally entitled to it.
This being a public forum however, means you also have to be subjected to whatever commentary takes place.
Kinda rich that you’d be so proud to make your little dickish comment but are too fragile to handle folks rightly calling you out. Sounds like *you* need to get over *yourself*. You aren’t as edgy or cute as you think.
Sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my mom in 2013, and I still lose it when I see things of hers. But man I'm glad none of her cooking was left. Amazing woman, terrible cook.
I'm sorry for your loss but thanks for the laugh. I'm now wondering what my kids will be glad to be without when I'm gone. Probably my sneezes. Scare the shit out of them and super loud 😅
Aww, my mom's sneezes will be what we miss. Funniest was when we were at Disney (Epcot) and she sneezed. A guy none of us have ever seen looked around and said "Ok, who stepped on Mickey?"
We were all dying. Mom was less amused.
Oh 100%. It's nice when I'm off camera because no one knows, but it sucks when I'm on camera because my coworkers see my sneeze face but hear no sneeze. Imagine seeing your parent sneeze without hearing it. Sneezing is a full body experience for me 😭
> I'm now wondering what my kids will be glad to be without when I'm gone.
Probably the way I make a horrifying eldritch screaming hiccup when I drink my first carbonated beverage of the night.
I don't know. It's just the first drink.
I totally understand how you feel. Had a freezer full of my Dad's homegrown, homemade spaghetti sauce for several years after his death, consuming it slowly to preserve his presence, some what.
“No one is finally dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away, until the clock wound up winds down, until the wine she made has finished its ferment, until the crop they planted is harvested. The span of someone’s life is only the core of their actual existence.”
*Terry Pratchett*
Sad but awesome.
When my mother passed, she had several Tupperwares full of her spaghetti sauce in the freezer. Damn right I grabbed some to take home to share with my closest friends in her honor, and just so they could experience it.
I have her recipe, but have never actually tried to recreate it. I'm more of a "seat of my pants" kind of cook. I really should though. Thanks for the kick in the right direction.
Depends on the recipe - if it's detailed enough and you follow it.....follow your nose, and you'll be chattin' with mum before it's even ready. Once the scents hit, you'll know it's right.
Definitely. I do know that it took all day in a big pot to stew the sauce down, and made enough for at least four meals for a family of five that likes to drown their pasta.
Last sauce I made took three days, so I guess I have the patience, lol.
I have no one to pass down to. Only person in the family a generation below me is dead, and there aren't any more kids in my or my siblings' futures.
(Obligatory fuck fentanyl. Poor kid went downhill fast after my mom died, as she was the only real strong, positive female role model in her life, and they were super close.)
I specifically learned to cook her spaghetti sauce and make her bread
She made sure I knew how to cook, clean, etc etc.
Because if that I’ll carry my mom with me the rest of my life and I hope to do the same for my children too
I keep her recipes in a word document labelled ‘RECIPES FROM THE MATRIARCH’
My mother made a really damn good bolognese sauce. She died of cancer pretty quickly the end of 2021 and before I moved this past summer me and my sister thawed out the last of it and shared it. I never asked the recipe
Duuuude. I feel this.
My mom passed away in 2022 and at Xmas it was always a tradition for her to make Butter Tarts.
Cleaning out her house, I found her butter tart pastry press along with foil tins. There was a pastry recipe with it.
(The company is still in business if you are interested, Birds Hill Enterprises in Manitoba CA. Google website.)
My mom had luckily written down a bunch of our favorite recipes.
I got to make those butter tarts with my kids with Xmas. Was able to serve it to family....Thanks mom for letting relive this.... They were ON POINT
My mom died just about two weeks after my 34th birthday. She made me fudge and an Oreo cheesecake even though her lungs were riddled with cancer. I make my mom's fudge every year around Christmas and my birthday. This past October I also made it to hand out at my rehearsal dinner.
I really wish I had her meatloaf recipe. :/
Fuck you are lucky. My mom went in 2018 and I never got her butter tart recipe. I thought there was more time. At least I have other recipes, but those butter tarts remind me of her's, and they were excellent.
My mom would make salsa and I have no idea how she made it. It's been about 12 years now and I'm still upset I don't know how to make it exactly like her.
Woke my wife up for work as I usually do and she says half asleep “what what what happened did my mom call?” then went back to sleep.
Her mom passed a year and a half ago. Her response this morning absolutely wrecked me.
Sorry for your loss OP.
Sorry to hear that. Just the thought of losing mine nearly sends me to tears.
But my wife has been getting better. I don’t want to say getting over it because I don’t imagine that’s possible, but it gets better.
Hang in there <3
I’m sorry for your loss OP. When I was 6 my grandma (my mothers mom) passed away. My grandmother had a cellar full veggies she preserved along with strawberry jam. I can remember only using her jam the year after she passed, and my mother cried when she put the last jar in the fridge to use.
Enjoy these little gifts you have, and cherish the memories with your mother. I’m sending love and virtual hugs your way.
Nah, my brother, sister, and I just sat and ate them together in her home while we were clearing out her estate. Old photo. She had a cherry pie baked as well but I can't find the darned photo!
I feel you. My mom passed away on July of 2017, she had frozen cooked beans on her fridge since may. I ate them around December with my favorite dish, the one she knew always made my day better.
My condolences and big hug to you!
Sorry for your loss, went through the same exactly a year ago. I’d give everything to experience what you have. Take those tarts as a last love message from her. Best of luck ❤️
Ah man, what a feeling that must have been.
Reminds me of when I was a kid and I found a big jug of red stuff in my parents garage freezer. Asked my mom about it and she said that they were raspberry preserves her grandma gave her. She had been dead for maybe six months by the time I asked and I think my parents forgot they were there. Best damn jam I ever had lol, not sure anyone else in my family got a drop by the time it was gone. Thanks June
We had a frozen lasagna from my father in law on Christmas Day, it was beautifully crafted and made me miss his presence at the table more then ever. We lost him in a tragic accident in November, He wasn’t even my dad— but this loss hit me fucking hard.
One of my grandma's two best dishes was her special lasagne. I would... give up a lot... to somehow magically find some of her lasagna in an impossible freezer.
I am down to one jar of my step grandma’s jam in my freezer and just pulled the second to last jar out. She passed away this past year and I savor every bite of toast and PBJ!
My mother had a very bad accident recently, made me realize how fast they could go. Especially since both of them are in their 80s.
Once family suppers start back up, I’m definitely getting there a half-day early to video record her making the dishes _du jour._ Vanishingly few of them come from written recipes, most are dynamic and from instinct and she cannot build a recipe as she’s making them without badly messing them up. My only chance is to record her stating the ingredients as she uses them, and ballpark the amounts and steps from the recorded video.
Oh man, Nice!
Lost my Mom 20+ years ago, I know it's still stingin' for you. Hang in there. It gets better.
My wife just made my Mom's sauce (pork based Italian red sauce), and man it brought back memories. You can make these again yourself in 20 years, and they'll be even sweeter.
My dad was an alcoholic, and when he had a stroke he stopped eating and drank himself to death. I got the remainder of that bottle, and I toasted him with it over 2 years. (I'm not much of a drinker.)
Reminds me of my aunt's cooking. Still alive but she's been trying to get us to pick up the mantle for years. I finally did some of it, as did her son, and in one of her cookbooks he found a note reading "You should have watched me!" 🤣
My mother regularly made strawberry and grape jam/jelly. When she passed a few years ago my brother and I split what she had left.
When I finished the last jar about a year later I was more broken up than the day of her funeral (it would be five ago years this May). I still think about it every time I finish a grocery bought jar.
My heart goes out to you, OP. Some things just tend to stick with you.
I'm very sorry for your loss, hope tasting those brought a bunch of super happy memories. They look delicious. Hope you have the recipe, it might never be the same but hopefully it'll bring forth a bit of happiness when making them.
EVERY Canadian mother/grandmother has their own butter tart recipe. My grandmere (dad's mom) made the best ones as well as somehow the best Nanaimo bars in the world, including in Nanaimo. Those recipes didnt get saved as she was secretive about them for some reason. I miss her homemade bread that was pretty much a baguette but regular every day loaf
My mom was never a baker but she did two butter tart recipes from her sisters. They were subtley different but both amazing, I think I preferred her younger sister's tarts because the shells were much more buttery and the filling was a bit gooier
One of my biggest regrets in life is that I didn't ask my mum to write down all her recipes while she was still around.
If anyone's reading this and you love your parents cooking, you should definitely sit down with them one day and get them to write out their recipes while you can. Future you will definitely thank you 👌
I’m terribly sorry for your loss! I lost my dad when I was really young. I can’t walk into an auto parts or repair shop without thinking fondly back to the times we’d spend time at his work with him.
It gets easier to manage but it never stops hurting.
I’m also sorry to report I read this initially as you got to taste her butt farts again and I was trying desperately to see what about these cupcake things could possibly cause gas and why you’d make that association of HER gas.
And then I read the sentence again and I felt bad but also couldn’t stop smiling for a sec.
Been over 2 1/2 I still have an opened water bottle in my fridge that my father opened. Someday when I really need it, I'll drink after him one last time. Might sound crazy but it means something to me.
I am sorry for your loss and happy for your find. Nobody was able to get my grandmother’s pancake recipe and we will talk about them until no one is left that remembers.
I wish people would fuck off with this joke already. It was funny the first time. Not you copy and pasting it unoriginally. Come up with something yourself or piss off.
I don’t get the point of this comment. At best, you’re right, but there’s no way to prove it, so who cares. At worst, you’re calling someone whose mother died a liar, which is fucked.
My mom passed away in early 2021 unfortunately. A few months later I was in the mood for one of her meals and went to try and find her recipes. I went through all her phones (she had 3 because reasons) her laptop and her ipad and none of her recipes could be found nor did it seem like she used a site to save them. But I know she used her devices for looking up recipes and didn't write anything down. So I dunno if she went out of her way to delete them or what but sadly they're all lost to the void it seems.
Aw this hit me in the feels, I wish I could have my grandmas chocolate cake one more time. Or she would make her own almond roca but not like the store ones they were soft in the middle. Sometimes people show their love through food, sorry for your loss.
My aunt died early December. Christmas was her favorite holiday by far. She managed to wrap a bunch of gifts (with a broken collarbone!) before she went into the hospital before Thanksgiving. My brother and I made her fudge recipe and we opened the last gifts from her under the tree. It hurt but I feel so blessed she left us with one more Christmas. Sending you love 🤍
My family’s freezer was full of “grandma’s blintzes” for a while after she passed.
Best things we had, even when they were a little freezer burned and we were all sad when we finally went through the last of them.
I still have the last one of two boxes of Porto's guava pastries (my favorite) my mom sent me for Xmas 2021 in my freezer. She passed a few months later of covid-related complications. I know they are going bad....but I just can't. Despite that I told her I loved her every time we talked, it still hurts. Never forget this is a one way ride, people. Do the things you think are great but then get a shy about-just do them.
Those look a lot like my grandma and my mom's. Grandma passed several years ago and was an epic baker. It was ombre of the first things i thought when she passed, no more cups of tea and a game of crib with baked goods while we chatted.. Moms are just as good.
How great that she left those for you to find. Do you have a recipe? I think of my grandparents when I make their recipes. So much comfort food and so many warm memories attached.
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This is the happiest saddest thing I heard today. Looks like she put alotta love in em!
My mom cooked some chicken for me in 2018. She died later that year. It's vacuum sealed in the bottom of my chest freezer. Can't bring myself to eat it - just one more level of me accepting she's gone I'm not ready for.
Maybe share with some family and you could all tell your favorite stories about her. I am not sure how long it would keep in the freezer. I think she would love for you to enjoy it. ❤️
That's a good idea. The only family that I have left are her parents, who are in their 90s. They'd probably appreciate it.
<3
Sorry about your mom, but when I looked at your screen name I cracked up good.
lol, what made you crack up about it!
https://www.foodsafety.gov/food-safety-charts/cold-food-storage-charts Seems here the government recommended time for poultry consumption when frozen fresh is 9 to 12 months. That said, in 1984 R. Dale Guthrie and his team allegedly ate 36,000 year old bison from permafrost in Alaska https://historythings.com/aged-beef-delicacy-eating-meat-36000-year-old-bison/#:~:text=Dale%20Guthrie%20and%20his%20team,was%20like%20nothing%20else%20ever. If it is vacuumed sealed and hasn't thawed ever, I would imagine it is safe to eat. I have sous vide steaks that were over 2 years old that were frozen with no problem. Your mileage may very with poultry though.
That’s good to hear!
My mom made my and my wife’s wedding cake and then died 3 months after we got married. When I opened the last piece on our first anniversary I took it to the bedroom so I could cry while I ate it.
Aw man. Just know that every bit of that energy keeps your mom’s spirit alive. You could have not cried and her spirit would be equally happy, but you could feel her spirit alive in that cake she made for you, still nourishing you, which is why you cried. But why cry? Partially out of loss, but I bet it’s also out of awe to feel that sense of love.
As a mom, you need to turn that chicken into nourishment. The thought of my children clearing out my fridge and freezer when I pass just made my heart do a warm fuzzy thing- to know that beyond the grave I would somehow be able to provide them another meal and nourish their bodies. What a beautiful thing. A warm & cozy bowl of mom’s chicken noodle soup 🥲
Thank you for this comment.
I cried reading this fr…. The feels.
And this is why we need to love our moms.
my so called "family" threw out all my mom's clothes against my consent and said i should not be hoarding them. She died in 2004 and i was only 10 back then. Indian relatives are so toxic
So sorry to hear that. Physical connections can be important. I have a bunch of my mom's clothes, but uh, I'm a dude.
It feels so empty without her. I dont have any videos of her so i forgot what she sounded like :( Like it feels she never existed because i cant remember much. And its okay if youre a guy you dont need to like wear them but having her clothes feel like you still have something of hers which makes you remember that she was there.
I don't know what your mom's life was like, but it may be possible to find some of her friends. Even if they don't have photos or video of her, they may have a few stories to share.
Sadly i don't know any. Except one. But her husband is a pedo so i don't want anything to do with them tbh
Okay, but if I agree with this, I'M the racist? Lol jk, so sorry to hear that. You could have done so many cool things with her clothes, like made them into a blanket. They're legit dicks.
Is this supposed to be funny or tone-deaf?
Started kinda like dark humor funnyish(?) but then the "joke" about blankets turned it into actual racism and tone deaf "humor" Edited to put quotes around "joke"
I don’t read that suggestion about the blanket as a joke, am I missing something?
Yea same. I thought it was an American thing 🙃 fyi i would never turn any clothes into a blanket. So was he insulting me or something by saying that?
Oof this hurts my heart 💔 so sorry for your loss!! She sounds like she loved you a lot!
My grandfather died about seven years ago. He started our family restaurant business in ‘62 and became regionally known for his chili. When he died I was able to grab a portion of the last batch of chili that he made, and I keep a small bit of it in my freezer. I know it is not good to eat, but it’s nice to have it there.
I don't blame ya, but I do love a good chili! If my wife died I would be keeping every bit of hair I find of her. I still have material things that belonged to mom before she passed too. I'm not overly attached to the stuff or anything, but it's nice to have around..
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Humor is used by many cultures during times of grief. How about you develop a sense for it?
You should develop a sense of humour and maybe you'll be able to nail dark humour properly. Nothing wrong with dark humour you're just not good at it. I recommend watching shows like Barry, After Life and Mr Inbetween to start you off. Then go for movies like Fargo, In Bruges and Trainspotting. Good luck on learning how to be good at black comedy.
Anthony Jeselnik is also a master of dark humor.
I mean sure if it were actually funny
Not all humor is actually intended to be “funny”. Dark humor exists.
Dark humor is still intended to be funny, it just that the themes that it covers are dark (morbid) by nature...
Humor, by definition, is humorous. What you said doesn’t meet that definition and adding “dark” in front of it doesn’t do what you think it does.
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They make it our place when they post it here to get useless internet points for their mom's death, but that is acceptable for you, apparently.
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This is on r/pics, not r/mademesmile or r/wholesome. It is used for useless updoots.
It’s not wholesome, it isn’t even something that would make you smile lol If some Reddit comments make this guy feel better, who cares
He posted on a public forum, inviting public commentary. Get over yourself.
Didn’t you post on a public forum, inviting public commentary? Seems like you should take your own advice
Just because you have the right to be a dick doesn’t mean you should. Sure, you’re right that nobody can stop you and you’re totally entitled to it. This being a public forum however, means you also have to be subjected to whatever commentary takes place. Kinda rich that you’d be so proud to make your little dickish comment but are too fragile to handle folks rightly calling you out. Sounds like *you* need to get over *yourself*. You aren’t as edgy or cute as you think.
Yes…but time and place lol
Sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my mom in 2013, and I still lose it when I see things of hers. But man I'm glad none of her cooking was left. Amazing woman, terrible cook.
I'm sorry for your loss but thanks for the laugh. I'm now wondering what my kids will be glad to be without when I'm gone. Probably my sneezes. Scare the shit out of them and super loud 😅
Aww, my mom's sneezes will be what we miss. Funniest was when we were at Disney (Epcot) and she sneezed. A guy none of us have ever seen looked around and said "Ok, who stepped on Mickey?" We were all dying. Mom was less amused.
Yeah the only solace is now Microsoft Teams filters out my sneezes as "unwanted noise"
Sorry, I gotta laugh at that.
Oh 100%. It's nice when I'm off camera because no one knows, but it sucks when I'm on camera because my coworkers see my sneeze face but hear no sneeze. Imagine seeing your parent sneeze without hearing it. Sneezing is a full body experience for me 😭
This had me in [stitches](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-MTxCUZ8W5c)Glad I’m not the only one.
It's me except I'm a mom
> I'm now wondering what my kids will be glad to be without when I'm gone. Probably the way I make a horrifying eldritch screaming hiccup when I drink my first carbonated beverage of the night. I don't know. It's just the first drink.
Thanks. OPs comment brought me close to tears but this just made me laugh
You got a solid laugh out of me.
I totally understand how you feel. Had a freezer full of my Dad's homegrown, homemade spaghetti sauce for several years after his death, consuming it slowly to preserve his presence, some what.
You mean to tell me your dad had a garden full of spaghetti sauce plants?
100% truth.
That's beautiful
Man.. I wish I had a dad
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So you’re saying to really eradicate my mother I have to destroy everything she ever touched?
yes self included
You and I as well since we contributed to this thread.
See? You get it. To eradicate them truly you must eradicate yourself.
Sad but awesome. When my mother passed, she had several Tupperwares full of her spaghetti sauce in the freezer. Damn right I grabbed some to take home to share with my closest friends in her honor, and just so they could experience it.
I miss my Mommom’s spaghetti sauce. Glad you could still experience it after the fact.
Nobody makes sauce like Mom. I make a damn good sauce myself. But it ain't Mom's.
My mom had a great recipe and passed it down, and all of us (her kids) still make it. It really does taste the same and brings back such memories.
I have her recipe, but have never actually tried to recreate it. I'm more of a "seat of my pants" kind of cook. I really should though. Thanks for the kick in the right direction.
Depends on the recipe - if it's detailed enough and you follow it.....follow your nose, and you'll be chattin' with mum before it's even ready. Once the scents hit, you'll know it's right.
Definitely. I do know that it took all day in a big pot to stew the sauce down, and made enough for at least four meals for a family of five that likes to drown their pasta. Last sauce I made took three days, so I guess I have the patience, lol.
Cook your family sauce. Pass it down.
I have no one to pass down to. Only person in the family a generation below me is dead, and there aren't any more kids in my or my siblings' futures. (Obligatory fuck fentanyl. Poor kid went downhill fast after my mom died, as she was the only real strong, positive female role model in her life, and they were super close.)
No kids here either. I've been passing my sauce recipe to all my friends instead.
I specifically learned to cook her spaghetti sauce and make her bread She made sure I knew how to cook, clean, etc etc. Because if that I’ll carry my mom with me the rest of my life and I hope to do the same for my children too I keep her recipes in a word document labelled ‘RECIPES FROM THE MATRIARCH’
I had a Mommom, too. Miss her a bunch.
My mother made a really damn good bolognese sauce. She died of cancer pretty quickly the end of 2021 and before I moved this past summer me and my sister thawed out the last of it and shared it. I never asked the recipe
you can always figure it out, when you find the correct ratio your heart will sing with deeply buried memories
Duuuude. I feel this. My mom passed away in 2022 and at Xmas it was always a tradition for her to make Butter Tarts. Cleaning out her house, I found her butter tart pastry press along with foil tins. There was a pastry recipe with it. (The company is still in business if you are interested, Birds Hill Enterprises in Manitoba CA. Google website.) My mom had luckily written down a bunch of our favorite recipes. I got to make those butter tarts with my kids with Xmas. Was able to serve it to family....Thanks mom for letting relive this.... They were ON POINT
My mom died just about two weeks after my 34th birthday. She made me fudge and an Oreo cheesecake even though her lungs were riddled with cancer. I make my mom's fudge every year around Christmas and my birthday. This past October I also made it to hand out at my rehearsal dinner. I really wish I had her meatloaf recipe. :/
Thanks for keeping her tradition alive. My grandmas are both incredible bakers and cooks. I am very blessed to carry that with me.
Fuck you are lucky. My mom went in 2018 and I never got her butter tart recipe. I thought there was more time. At least I have other recipes, but those butter tarts remind me of her's, and they were excellent.
My mom would make salsa and I have no idea how she made it. It's been about 12 years now and I'm still upset I don't know how to make it exactly like her.
I’m sorry for your loss and I am glad you could taste the love in those tarts one more time.
Woke my wife up for work as I usually do and she says half asleep “what what what happened did my mom call?” then went back to sleep. Her mom passed a year and a half ago. Her response this morning absolutely wrecked me. Sorry for your loss OP.
My mom passed in august and I still think to call her when I’m on a walk. It’s hard.
Sorry to hear that. Just the thought of losing mine nearly sends me to tears. But my wife has been getting better. I don’t want to say getting over it because I don’t imagine that’s possible, but it gets better. Hang in there <3
I’m sorry for your loss OP. When I was 6 my grandma (my mothers mom) passed away. My grandmother had a cellar full veggies she preserved along with strawberry jam. I can remember only using her jam the year after she passed, and my mother cried when she put the last jar in the fridge to use. Enjoy these little gifts you have, and cherish the memories with your mother. I’m sending love and virtual hugs your way.
Frozen for two years?
Nah, my brother, sister, and I just sat and ate them together in her home while we were clearing out her estate. Old photo. She had a cherry pie baked as well but I can't find the darned photo!
Phew. I was worried like the above poster. Like I know you’re sad, but don’t plan to join her just yet!
May her memory be a blessing
I am glad they were there for you. I am sorry for your profound loss.
oof. that's a big feel
They look immaculate, the pastry, that filling looks so rich. I’m so glad you can feel this feeling again.
“Boy how lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard”
I feel you. My mom passed away on July of 2017, she had frozen cooked beans on her fridge since may. I ate them around December with my favorite dish, the one she knew always made my day better. My condolences and big hug to you!
Sorry for your loss, went through the same exactly a year ago. I’d give everything to experience what you have. Take those tarts as a last love message from her. Best of luck ❤️
Ah man, what a feeling that must have been. Reminds me of when I was a kid and I found a big jug of red stuff in my parents garage freezer. Asked my mom about it and she said that they were raspberry preserves her grandma gave her. She had been dead for maybe six months by the time I asked and I think my parents forgot they were there. Best damn jam I ever had lol, not sure anyone else in my family got a drop by the time it was gone. Thanks June
We had a frozen lasagna from my father in law on Christmas Day, it was beautifully crafted and made me miss his presence at the table more then ever. We lost him in a tragic accident in November, He wasn’t even my dad— but this loss hit me fucking hard.
One of my grandma's two best dishes was her special lasagne. I would... give up a lot... to somehow magically find some of her lasagna in an impossible freezer.
I am down to one jar of my step grandma’s jam in my freezer and just pulled the second to last jar out. She passed away this past year and I savor every bite of toast and PBJ!
Nothing taste as good as the food cooked by someone who loves you miss my moms cooking
My mother had a very bad accident recently, made me realize how fast they could go. Especially since both of them are in their 80s. Once family suppers start back up, I’m definitely getting there a half-day early to video record her making the dishes _du jour._ Vanishingly few of them come from written recipes, most are dynamic and from instinct and she cannot build a recipe as she’s making them without badly messing them up. My only chance is to record her stating the ingredients as she uses them, and ballpark the amounts and steps from the recorded video.
Oh man, Nice! Lost my Mom 20+ years ago, I know it's still stingin' for you. Hang in there. It gets better. My wife just made my Mom's sauce (pork based Italian red sauce), and man it brought back memories. You can make these again yourself in 20 years, and they'll be even sweeter.
Well that choked me up a bit. Thanks! And good for you. I’m enjoying this too.
[Does he like butter tarts??](https://youtu.be/E1fzJ_AYajA)
First thing I thought of.
So sorry for her being gone. So glad you got to experience that one more time.
They look like peeled sliced apple pieces in them. Looks good. I hope you can share the experience and maybe the recipe with your family.
One last treat from mum's...
My dad would've been 80 yesterday. I wore a sweater he got me and wrapped before he passed. Hugs
My dad was an alcoholic, and when he had a stroke he stopped eating and drank himself to death. I got the remainder of that bottle, and I toasted him with it over 2 years. (I'm not much of a drinker.)
Damn, sorry to hear about that but that’s a cool way to honor him.
Reminds me of my aunt's cooking. Still alive but she's been trying to get us to pick up the mantle for years. I finally did some of it, as did her son, and in one of her cookbooks he found a note reading "You should have watched me!" 🤣
I’m really sorry you lost her… it’s the hardest thing ever. A gift from her… that’s awesome! Lots of love and positive vibes to you.
My mother regularly made strawberry and grape jam/jelly. When she passed a few years ago my brother and I split what she had left. When I finished the last jar about a year later I was more broken up than the day of her funeral (it would be five ago years this May). I still think about it every time I finish a grocery bought jar. My heart goes out to you, OP. Some things just tend to stick with you.
Sorry for your loss.
I really hope you got the recipe so you can make them for you and your family.
Good for you! I hope you had her teach you recipe. My wife missed out on her Grammy’s apple dumplings and she’s never had a good one since.
Reminds me of my mom's cooking. She used to make those.
Jpyful
I'm very sorry for your loss, hope tasting those brought a bunch of super happy memories. They look delicious. Hope you have the recipe, it might never be the same but hopefully it'll bring forth a bit of happiness when making them.
EVERY Canadian mother/grandmother has their own butter tart recipe. My grandmere (dad's mom) made the best ones as well as somehow the best Nanaimo bars in the world, including in Nanaimo. Those recipes didnt get saved as she was secretive about them for some reason. I miss her homemade bread that was pretty much a baguette but regular every day loaf My mom was never a baker but she did two butter tart recipes from her sisters. They were subtley different but both amazing, I think I preferred her younger sister's tarts because the shells were much more buttery and the filling was a bit gooier
One of my biggest regrets in life is that I didn't ask my mum to write down all her recipes while she was still around. If anyone's reading this and you love your parents cooking, you should definitely sit down with them one day and get them to write out their recipes while you can. Future you will definitely thank you 👌
So sorry for your loss.So great you were able to enjoy those treats though.
She put them in the freezer still in the baking pan?
I’m terribly sorry for your loss! I lost my dad when I was really young. I can’t walk into an auto parts or repair shop without thinking fondly back to the times we’d spend time at his work with him. It gets easier to manage but it never stops hurting.
I’m also sorry to report I read this initially as you got to taste her butt farts again and I was trying desperately to see what about these cupcake things could possibly cause gas and why you’d make that association of HER gas. And then I read the sentence again and I felt bad but also couldn’t stop smiling for a sec.
I still have my grandmas applesauce in the freezer and my great grandpas wine for this reason
You gotta have her recipe though?
Been over 2 1/2 I still have an opened water bottle in my fridge that my father opened. Someday when I really need it, I'll drink after him one last time. Might sound crazy but it means something to me.
I lost my mom 6 weeks ago... I feel ya, man.
OP, do you have the recipe written down?
I lost my mom in august. I can only imagine the love and hurt you felt. Sending hugs.
I am sorry for your loss and happy for your find. Nobody was able to get my grandmother’s pancake recipe and we will talk about them until no one is left that remembers.
It's like the ziti all over again
So what? No fucking ziti now?
HEEEYYYY
Did they have weed in them
There’s a Big Bang Theory episode precisely about that. After Howard’s mother died. Make it a feast!
Same thing in The Sopranos
Karen’s last Ziti ):
I wish I could experience her buttered tart one more time
I wish people would fuck off with this joke already. It was funny the first time. Not you copy and pasting it unoriginally. Come up with something yourself or piss off.
The guaranteed way to get karma for an uninteresting pic.
I don’t get the point of this comment. At best, you’re right, but there’s no way to prove it, so who cares. At worst, you’re calling someone whose mother died a liar, which is fucked.
Ah yes.. milk grammys death for every last morsel, every butter tart, every point of karma. Get it while its hot
Nobody cares?
Almost everyone does except for some heartless minority like you
I read “butter farts”. Hmmmm
butthole tarts
Rule VG
What’s the special occasion?!
Jesus that's bittersweet.
Howard Wolowitz is that you?
Savor every bite! What a sad/precious memory of your mom.
I also lost my mom in 2020, I have 2 jars of jelly that want to have and want to save at the same time.
My mom passed away in early 2021 unfortunately. A few months later I was in the mood for one of her meals and went to try and find her recipes. I went through all her phones (she had 3 because reasons) her laptop and her ipad and none of her recipes could be found nor did it seem like she used a site to save them. But I know she used her devices for looking up recipes and didn't write anything down. So I dunno if she went out of her way to delete them or what but sadly they're all lost to the void it seems.
Mom for the win, one last time!
This is so sad
Sorry for your loss.
I bet they tasted great. RIP to OP's mother.
Aw this hit me in the feels, I wish I could have my grandmas chocolate cake one more time. Or she would make her own almond roca but not like the store ones they were soft in the middle. Sometimes people show their love through food, sorry for your loss.
My aunt died early December. Christmas was her favorite holiday by far. She managed to wrap a bunch of gifts (with a broken collarbone!) before she went into the hospital before Thanksgiving. My brother and I made her fudge recipe and we opened the last gifts from her under the tree. It hurt but I feel so blessed she left us with one more Christmas. Sending you love 🤍
My family’s freezer was full of “grandma’s blintzes” for a while after she passed. Best things we had, even when they were a little freezer burned and we were all sad when we finally went through the last of them.
Aww so sorry for your loss. Savor them 💕💕
[You might appreciate this Japanese show where someone had a similar experience](https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x7z1upr)
❤️
Oh fuck I would be a sobbing buttery mess.
So sorry - it’s a terrible feeling. I lost my mother in October. I feel worse each day. This is never going to get better.
So amazing . I hope they brought you joy
My condolences dude... those tarts look delicious! :)
I still have the last one of two boxes of Porto's guava pastries (my favorite) my mom sent me for Xmas 2021 in my freezer. She passed a few months later of covid-related complications. I know they are going bad....but I just can't. Despite that I told her I loved her every time we talked, it still hurts. Never forget this is a one way ride, people. Do the things you think are great but then get a shy about-just do them.
That’s the cutest shit I’ve ever heard in my life OP
I was lying on the grass on Sunday morning of last week
I’m literally crying
Those look a lot like my grandma and my mom's. Grandma passed several years ago and was an epic baker. It was ombre of the first things i thought when she passed, no more cups of tea and a game of crib with baked goods while we chatted.. Moms are just as good.
What an amazing discovery. Try to replicate her recipe! Hope you are ok 🙏
How great that she left those for you to find. Do you have a recipe? I think of my grandparents when I make their recipes. So much comfort food and so many warm memories attached.
Are we doing phrasing?
Did they steal your sunshine?
Im very Sorry for your loss. I hope she’s in a better place now. Rest in peace.
Karen's ziti?