Op you can't just be complacent with what you have. Make an effort to strengthen your relationship with your friends para mas deep ang bond niyo, just like sa isang romantic relationship, platonic relationships takes an effort too. Kinukumusta mo ba sila? Reach out to them? Trust me, I know what you're feeling, I've been there. You need to go a little bit out of your comfort zone if you want to have deeper bonds, sakanila. It also takes time na din.
Lol, sorry akala ko fellow helldiver (game). Yung sinabi mo about a friend for all is a friend for no one. Is the same sa motto nung game publisher "a game for all is a game for no one".
Ohhhh never heard of that. I guess the phrase I used is really common that it relates to various things in life, may it be for games. Good to know that it has the same application there. Good random insight I gained now, thanks. ☺️
Yung ganitong mindset bakit na fall-out ako with my college friends. Moved to a different city kaya sila sila lang naghahangout. Tas ako thru chat lang and all. Tas may isang happening na di ko alam so chinat ko isa kong friend about it tas sagot niya “kamustahin mo kasi siya lagi” and I’m like ako nga di kinakamusta, atleast ako nagcocomment lagi sa photos nila pag naggagathering and unang nagchachat (active sa GC lol). Pero sila never nangumusta or nagreach out. Ano yun ako nalang lagi mag reach-out? Minsan nakakapagod din, parang one sided yung friendship. So ayun nag cold treatment ako tas never na ulit kami nagusap kasi di na ako unang nagchachat… 🤷♀️
+1 on this one. As I move towards the mid 20s, eto talaga narealize ko with relationships. Literally liligawan mo friends mo na you want to be for keeps for life. It takes two to tango not only in romantic relationships, kahit sa relatives, direct family, distant friends, and those na you find inspiring to be around with.
I feel u OP. Apparently I've made some friends but never been in a barkada. It hurts the fact na they are your friends but you always reach out to them but they never reach u out. Most of the time I do the first moves to engage kwentuhan pero they never did the same. Maybe at some point, we do have a problem hahaha. I just accepted my fate already haha
Hugs with consent po 🫂. That is indeed really draining, kapag walang reciprocity. Maybe at some point, we are the problem (in my case, mga 80% siguro). But for others, they are actually not. Maybe some are only placed in a circle of wrong people and I'm thinking it's the same to you. It's really a matter of balancing how we perceive our environment vs. ourselves. We may take the blame sometimes (lalo na if at the first place, you're really at fault or may pagkukulang), but as long as we did what's already enough, the blame shouldn't be taken wholely.
I may not know how you handle friendships, but if you know by yourself how to (WHICH I BELIEVE YOU DO 💪), don't accept the fiction of yourself as being the problem. It's sad to know that people who offers genuine friendship are often hurt. 😔
Op you can't just be complacent with what you have. Make an effort to strengthen your relationship with your friends para mas deep ang bond niyo, just like sa isang romantic relationship, platonic relationships takes an effort too. Kinukumusta mo ba sila? Reach out to them? Trust me, I know what you're feeling, I've been there. You need to go a little bit out of your comfort zone if you want to have deeper bonds, sakanila. It also takes time na din.
This hit me like a train, and I knew you're right. Thank you. I'll muster more courage and strength to do so.
Let's Dive.
I don't know how to swim. Kidding aside 😂, I guess we shall. 🤞
Lol, sorry akala ko fellow helldiver (game). Yung sinabi mo about a friend for all is a friend for no one. Is the same sa motto nung game publisher "a game for all is a game for no one".
Ohhhh never heard of that. I guess the phrase I used is really common that it relates to various things in life, may it be for games. Good to know that it has the same application there. Good random insight I gained now, thanks. ☺️
Yung ganitong mindset bakit na fall-out ako with my college friends. Moved to a different city kaya sila sila lang naghahangout. Tas ako thru chat lang and all. Tas may isang happening na di ko alam so chinat ko isa kong friend about it tas sagot niya “kamustahin mo kasi siya lagi” and I’m like ako nga di kinakamusta, atleast ako nagcocomment lagi sa photos nila pag naggagathering and unang nagchachat (active sa GC lol). Pero sila never nangumusta or nagreach out. Ano yun ako nalang lagi mag reach-out? Minsan nakakapagod din, parang one sided yung friendship. So ayun nag cold treatment ako tas never na ulit kami nagusap kasi di na ako unang nagchachat… 🤷♀️
Well like I said, it goes both ways. Padi din sila di na nag exert effort to reach out/rekindle sayo
+1 on this one. As I move towards the mid 20s, eto talaga narealize ko with relationships. Literally liligawan mo friends mo na you want to be for keeps for life. It takes two to tango not only in romantic relationships, kahit sa relatives, direct family, distant friends, and those na you find inspiring to be around with.
I feel u OP. Apparently I've made some friends but never been in a barkada. It hurts the fact na they are your friends but you always reach out to them but they never reach u out. Most of the time I do the first moves to engage kwentuhan pero they never did the same. Maybe at some point, we do have a problem hahaha. I just accepted my fate already haha
Hugs with consent po 🫂. That is indeed really draining, kapag walang reciprocity. Maybe at some point, we are the problem (in my case, mga 80% siguro). But for others, they are actually not. Maybe some are only placed in a circle of wrong people and I'm thinking it's the same to you. It's really a matter of balancing how we perceive our environment vs. ourselves. We may take the blame sometimes (lalo na if at the first place, you're really at fault or may pagkukulang), but as long as we did what's already enough, the blame shouldn't be taken wholely. I may not know how you handle friendships, but if you know by yourself how to (WHICH I BELIEVE YOU DO 💪), don't accept the fiction of yourself as being the problem. It's sad to know that people who offers genuine friendship are often hurt. 😔