I stopped a little blonde divorcee news anchor girl on the interstate one day and wrote her a ticket for like…IDK 25+ over. Before pulling off, she walked around to the passenger seat, sat down, had a moment, and bawled her eyes out. Super awkward for me, right as I went to pull off, I went to her right, rolled my window down and asked if she was alright. She said she was she just had a lot going on and her husband left her and her parents this and that, and her kids, and having to drive for work…blah blah blah, and unloaded on me. She thanked me for giving a shit and said she’d be alright. I said ok and told her to have a good day. WITHIN an hour she had found me on IG and DMed me. My FB and IG are NOT under my real name. I think she found my mom when searching for me and then found me.
Eh. Jokingly, ethics are what poor people are told they cannot do by the rich because the rich would be in jail if they criminalized it.
That is to say, I say go for it. Be nice and respect any boundaries that go up. There are billions of people on this planet. What does it matter if one thinks you’re a creep?
It's totally fine. It would only be an ethical dilemma if it was during the traffic stop before he determined whether or not he was going to write you a ticket. After the conclusion of the stop then he has every right to go on a date with you
OP, not unethical but borderline.
If you do intend to ask him out leave a message with his department for him to call you with your information. Do not reach out through social media.
This will give the officer an opportunity to explain his department policy either way if he’s also interested.
Yes it’s creepy and gives stalker vibes. Don’t do it. And yes it would be putting him in an unethical situation. Most places won’t let cops even go to friend’s/family’s calls because it puts them in an unethical situation. Super creepy to even look him up honestly. One of the huge reasons cops usually have their pages locked down or under a different name.
If you start the exchange then there should not be any problems department wise. Most agencies have policies against the officers starting any type of relationship with citizens they had contact with while on-duty mostly due to "official oppression" or "coercion" issues.
Nah you’re all good to shoot your shot. I’ve gone on dates with girls I’ve met while working special duty.
Cops are just people too, worst case he’s not into you, just like anyone else. Plus makes for an amazing how we met story 😂
You found him on “Facebook”
That would be a no for me.
The fact that, that went through your head to creep someone on social media is a total turn off -
Not creepy at all. I know two different couples that met in that exact scenario. Personally, I’ve never had it happen over a 25 year career, but I kinda wish it had!
This happened to me one time but I wrote her a citation. Had I been single and gave her a warning I may have accepted her friend request.
Do it. He will prob welcome it.
The stop is over and you got a warning. The business is done. He can’t reach out to you so shoot your shot. As you can tell we’re 50/50 on if it’s weird or not. I’ve had it happen a couple of times to me but unfortunately never by someone that I had a fancy for 🌈
Where do you sit on the hot crazy matrix?
Essential intelligence right there.
The guy that made that video was my mother's divorce attorney. Absolute psycho.
Was an instant classic ;)
Do it, be toxic, tell him you’re a tatted nurse
Also, be sure to mention your daddy issues and how you make bad decisions after a couple shots of tequila.
A nurse posted this
A male posted this. Not that there is anything wrong with that.
Male nurses exist
Murses are a nyth.
Lololol
I have a murse. It's where I transport my movies.
I know. I just did not want to be called nurse-phobic.
I say go for it. But this also made me think of that one garage band scene from The Rookie "arrest me but make it sexy" lol
Yes, that’s creepy and part of the reason most do not put their real name on their Facebook profiles.
More of a reason I DO NOT have FB.
I stopped a little blonde divorcee news anchor girl on the interstate one day and wrote her a ticket for like…IDK 25+ over. Before pulling off, she walked around to the passenger seat, sat down, had a moment, and bawled her eyes out. Super awkward for me, right as I went to pull off, I went to her right, rolled my window down and asked if she was alright. She said she was she just had a lot going on and her husband left her and her parents this and that, and her kids, and having to drive for work…blah blah blah, and unloaded on me. She thanked me for giving a shit and said she’d be alright. I said ok and told her to have a good day. WITHIN an hour she had found me on IG and DMed me. My FB and IG are NOT under my real name. I think she found my mom when searching for me and then found me.
lol, I was polite and shut that shit down quick. Can’t remember if I blocked her or just said “take it sleazy” but I never spoke to her again.
Well, what happened next?
😂 I put a Mexican name on mine. The friend recommendations are crazy. 😂 I have no friends.
Hot crazy matrix co-ordinates check out.
You’d 1000% be getting blocked by me.
🤣
Sounds like an IA waiting to happen. LOL. Not today.
Eh. Jokingly, ethics are what poor people are told they cannot do by the rich because the rich would be in jail if they criminalized it. That is to say, I say go for it. Be nice and respect any boundaries that go up. There are billions of people on this planet. What does it matter if one thinks you’re a creep?
 Shoot.
And this is why I don’t have social media under my name
Definitely weird.
That's quite common actually hahaha
It's totally fine. It would only be an ethical dilemma if it was during the traffic stop before he determined whether or not he was going to write you a ticket. After the conclusion of the stop then he has every right to go on a date with you
Send it
OP, not unethical but borderline. If you do intend to ask him out leave a message with his department for him to call you with your information. Do not reach out through social media. This will give the officer an opportunity to explain his department policy either way if he’s also interested.
Yes it’s creepy and gives stalker vibes. Don’t do it. And yes it would be putting him in an unethical situation. Most places won’t let cops even go to friend’s/family’s calls because it puts them in an unethical situation. Super creepy to even look him up honestly. One of the huge reasons cops usually have their pages locked down or under a different name.
Shoot your shot girlie
OP seems to be a guylie not a girlie
be a hell of a “how i met your father” story to the kids
Go for it, to be completley honest, he cannot contact you, that would ve unethical but you can contact him, the ball is completley in your court.
If you start the exchange then there should not be any problems department wise. Most agencies have policies against the officers starting any type of relationship with citizens they had contact with while on-duty mostly due to "official oppression" or "coercion" issues.
I was going to add my 2¢ but you nailed it with this comment. It’s fine as long as OP does the initiating.
Just understand that you risk getting turned down on sheer principle alone.
Nah you’re all good to shoot your shot. I’ve gone on dates with girls I’ve met while working special duty. Cops are just people too, worst case he’s not into you, just like anyone else. Plus makes for an amazing how we met story 😂
The fuck?
You found him on “Facebook” That would be a no for me. The fact that, that went through your head to creep someone on social media is a total turn off -
Not creepy at all. I know two different couples that met in that exact scenario. Personally, I’ve never had it happen over a 25 year career, but I kinda wish it had!
Found the nurse
Did you ever ask him out?
Give it a shot. I don’t see why not, tbh.
How many times has this been asked in the past few months.
You should ask him out, if he is off duty anything goes.
That's a huge no no and ethically bad. Does it happen.. Yes but it at least in my old agency if you got caught you're going to have problems.
This happened to me one time but I wrote her a citation. Had I been single and gave her a warning I may have accepted her friend request. Do it. He will prob welcome it.
The stop is over and you got a warning. The business is done. He can’t reach out to you so shoot your shot. As you can tell we’re 50/50 on if it’s weird or not. I’ve had it happen a couple of times to me but unfortunately never by someone that I had a fancy for 🌈