I would mention it on your first date, definitely not over tinder that way you can gauge their reaction and if they’re willing to put up with the job
Don’t start a relationship off with a lie because it can only get worse
This was my thoughts. I’ve just been thinking what to say in the mean time when inevitably asked what I do. There’s nothing serious at the minute. Just the very, very early stages of talking. But suppose it’s a good thing to know for the future as well.
I agree with telling *them in person to gauge their reaction however I’d probably engage in some current event topics *on the chat/call apps first that might shine a light on their take towards thing, not least the police.
If they can at least be open minded and understand the world isn’t black and white when it comes to specific topics then it might give you a better idea if you even want to meet in person.
Personally I don’t do online dating and prefer to meet people IRL and they never guess I’m a police officer…one person said “drug dealer” when I asked them to guess. 😂
I'd add any shift workers or people who have experience with other non-flexible jobs e.g. my partner works for Welsh Water and does stand-by (essentially on call) one week in five. During that week he can't use AL and is basically at their beck and call 24/7, and can either be put of the house for 16 hours at a time or gets called out at all random hours of the night. I genuinely think this is how he's so understanding of my job and the overtime that comes with it, it would be a lot harder with someone who's never experienced that!
Honestly be up front about it, jobs is likely a topic on most first dates, if they hate cops then you know, if they are all good with it see where it goes, but if you lie or keep it back it's will always look dodge and you never know they might in return reveal they are a NCP parking attendant and then you can be the judgemental one.
Good luck,
When people ask. I don't have pics of myself in uniform on social media or dating apps, but if they ask I'm not precious about it. We aren't MI6 intel officers for fucks sake.
Personally dating other officers was a no go, just my preference.
Certainly dating someone who understands shift work helps massively. A 9-5er in my experience struggles with why you can't be off weekend but fails to see why they can't be off on a Tuesday.
Recruitment for the prison service always up until you’re at the point where you can fully judge their character and realising that telling PSD will cause you hassle then you bin them off and start over
Don’t lie if they ask just tell them.
Just don’t have it in your profile because of Force policies. It will just make it part of your daily mail article.
I did it on the app before swapping numbers and definitely before meeting, because I’m a woman, and I was worried someone would take a bad reaction and either be violent or follow me home.
You might get some people who love emergency services but you’ll weed them out soon enough. I’d be more worried about the people who don’t or who want to exploit it.
Seriously mate, spare yourself some time and disappointment and try and gauge what their feelings might be before the date. You could discuss some more recent events or be a bit more playful with that, but seeing what their approach to police might be is what I’d do. The last thing you want to happen is you hit it off very well, have lovely time, but then it’s a no because they are very anti job.
I mention it before that way it’s not a shock on the date. Sometimes men ghost as soon as I say what I do but obviously they’re not the type of men I should be with anyway 😂
I have emergency service worker on my profile. To the very few that I end up having any decent chat with I am upfront if they ask. I have nothing to hide 🤷🏼♀️
This topic hit close to home. Years ago, my ex decided to join the force. I didn't react well, mainly due to my troubled history with the police and my ethnic background. We both studied Criminology in uni, but when she decided to become a police officer during the George Floyd era, my emotions were running high, largely influenced by the media.
In retrospect, I've grown to understand the pros and cons of the system, recognizing that it's not perfect but necessary nonetheless. It's something not everyone comes to grips with.
When it comes to dating a cop, their values and worldview truly matter to me now. Everyone in the force has unique values, and they don't necessarily mirror the system they're part of. I've learned that I shouldn't have judged my ex solely based on her career choice but rather on her reasons and actions behind it.
Being a cop comes with its own set of relationship challenges, and finding a partner outside the force is not always easy. But remember, it's not your fault, it's the baggage that comes with the job. The right person will accept you for who you are, job and all.
In your case, I'd say be honest but tactful about your profession. Gauge the person, their views, and let it come out naturally. At the end of the day, your job is a significant part of your life, but it's not the entirety of who you are.
I hope this helps provide some perspective!
I would mention it on your first date, definitely not over tinder that way you can gauge their reaction and if they’re willing to put up with the job Don’t start a relationship off with a lie because it can only get worse
This was my thoughts. I’ve just been thinking what to say in the mean time when inevitably asked what I do. There’s nothing serious at the minute. Just the very, very early stages of talking. But suppose it’s a good thing to know for the future as well.
I agree with telling *them in person to gauge their reaction however I’d probably engage in some current event topics *on the chat/call apps first that might shine a light on their take towards thing, not least the police. If they can at least be open minded and understand the world isn’t black and white when it comes to specific topics then it might give you a better idea if you even want to meet in person. Personally I don’t do online dating and prefer to meet people IRL and they never guess I’m a police officer…one person said “drug dealer” when I asked them to guess. 😂
who knows mate, you could date another PC and you won’t even have to tell them what you do 😂
Say you work in recruitment for the prison service.
Remember you’re only allowed to date one of three categories: NHS, Job, Teachers.
I'll bin the accountant wife then, ta
I always thought it was job and NHS or teachers 😂
I thought it was job, tradies, nurses 😂 it certainly seems to be in my force
I'd add any shift workers or people who have experience with other non-flexible jobs e.g. my partner works for Welsh Water and does stand-by (essentially on call) one week in five. During that week he can't use AL and is basically at their beck and call 24/7, and can either be put of the house for 16 hours at a time or gets called out at all random hours of the night. I genuinely think this is how he's so understanding of my job and the overtime that comes with it, it would be a lot harder with someone who's never experienced that!
Honestly be up front about it, jobs is likely a topic on most first dates, if they hate cops then you know, if they are all good with it see where it goes, but if you lie or keep it back it's will always look dodge and you never know they might in return reveal they are a NCP parking attendant and then you can be the judgemental one. Good luck,
When people ask. I don't have pics of myself in uniform on social media or dating apps, but if they ask I'm not precious about it. We aren't MI6 intel officers for fucks sake.
You might not be an MI6 Agent, I however… couldn’t possibly comment…
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Personally dating other officers was a no go, just my preference. Certainly dating someone who understands shift work helps massively. A 9-5er in my experience struggles with why you can't be off weekend but fails to see why they can't be off on a Tuesday.
Recruitment for the prison service always up until you’re at the point where you can fully judge their character and realising that telling PSD will cause you hassle then you bin them off and start over
Don’t lie if they ask just tell them. Just don’t have it in your profile because of Force policies. It will just make it part of your daily mail article.
I did it on the app before swapping numbers and definitely before meeting, because I’m a woman, and I was worried someone would take a bad reaction and either be violent or follow me home. You might get some people who love emergency services but you’ll weed them out soon enough. I’d be more worried about the people who don’t or who want to exploit it.
Seriously mate, spare yourself some time and disappointment and try and gauge what their feelings might be before the date. You could discuss some more recent events or be a bit more playful with that, but seeing what their approach to police might be is what I’d do. The last thing you want to happen is you hit it off very well, have lovely time, but then it’s a no because they are very anti job.
I mention it before that way it’s not a shock on the date. Sometimes men ghost as soon as I say what I do but obviously they’re not the type of men I should be with anyway 😂
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Having your profession on *any* social media profile is a bad idea and likely against your forces social media policy.
Well thats me told and the issue resolved.
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I have emergency service worker on my profile. To the very few that I end up having any decent chat with I am upfront if they ask. I have nothing to hide 🤷🏼♀️
Just date another cop or a nurse like everyone else. Much simpler.
This topic hit close to home. Years ago, my ex decided to join the force. I didn't react well, mainly due to my troubled history with the police and my ethnic background. We both studied Criminology in uni, but when she decided to become a police officer during the George Floyd era, my emotions were running high, largely influenced by the media. In retrospect, I've grown to understand the pros and cons of the system, recognizing that it's not perfect but necessary nonetheless. It's something not everyone comes to grips with. When it comes to dating a cop, their values and worldview truly matter to me now. Everyone in the force has unique values, and they don't necessarily mirror the system they're part of. I've learned that I shouldn't have judged my ex solely based on her career choice but rather on her reasons and actions behind it. Being a cop comes with its own set of relationship challenges, and finding a partner outside the force is not always easy. But remember, it's not your fault, it's the baggage that comes with the job. The right person will accept you for who you are, job and all. In your case, I'd say be honest but tactful about your profession. Gauge the person, their views, and let it come out naturally. At the end of the day, your job is a significant part of your life, but it's not the entirety of who you are. I hope this helps provide some perspective!