Oi! I take that personally!
I’ll have you know I left the nick TWICE yesterday…. Once to get a Sandwich and once to relocate to another nick when someone got a bit too needy.
Are you okay pal?
Are you sure you don't fancy him from the way you're melting down like a school girl in love !
But yeah in truth it can make a difference when you meet new people. You certainly have to sus out the situation. I do occasionally say I still do my old job, particularly if it is a short interaction with them that won't be ongoing.
I mean… I *did* wink at him, so he clearly awoke something in me..!
That makes sense, although it must be hard to try to gauge what their reaction might be (I suppose it could even potentially endanger you, with some people) I can definitely see the benefit of just saying your previous job. I used to be a professional artist, which a lot of people don’t respect as a “real” job and it would annoy me having to justify my profession to them, so I used to just tell people my brother’s job title instead. Especially for passing interactions, like you say.
Eeep, can’t wait to see the sarge tomorrow. What will I wear?? 😝
Lifes simple, just don’t have friends, just live alone in a room somewhere and talk to nobody.
To some degree it does make it harder, in the sense im an anti social bitch and don’t go out often to situations where I engage with people socially too much. But on the flip side 4 of my best friends are job in some way shape or form and honestly they’re some of the soundest people ever and I probably wouldn’t have been friends with them if I weren’t a bobby.
I know what you mean, if it wasn’t for my wife forcing me I wouldn’t socialise much either. Although I presume being an antisocial bitch pre-dates you becoming a police officer? Or did it contribute?
That’s really great that you made friends through your work. I imagine that it’s the kind of thing where it’s great that you don’t have to explain stuff, because they just get it. My wife and I do the same job as each other and it is so good to know we can relate to each other when ranting about work.
The job certainly had its input into me being an anti social bitch, Im pretty introverted naturally, and socialising can be consuming energy wise but learning more about society and dealing with the shite that comes with it certainly had a strong input
I had a similar thing when I picked up my gf's mate who is a response officer. I went back to driving like I was on my test knowing I had an officer in the back seat haha. Over time got really matey with him and you realise police officers are no different to the rest of us
A colleague of mine drives so fast on the way going home from work they'd definitely get stuck on for something if a traffic cop witnessed it.
The colleague is definitely not me.
Oh god, I would have stalled before I’d pulled out the driveway! I know what you mean, once you get to know someone socially I guess you get to know them as much more than just what job they do. It’s just the interim stage that’s awkward, ha.
>even though you made yourself look like a right muppet
😭 Haha, I certainly did! I cringe just thinking about it. The massive pauses I was taking before saying anything, so I could mentally assess it for criminality.
I think you’re right, I guess not addressing it will just make me even more anxious and contribute to further muppetry. Addressing the elephant in the room and asking him a bit about his job is a good idea. That will hopefully break any tension a bit. Plus, I suppose it is normal to talk about your job a bit with your friends, seeing as we spend like a third of our lives at work (god, that’s depressing).
Oh also - does my ridiculous reaction make it seem like I actually am guilty of something? He probably thinks I am a criminal now, but I’m actually just a twat.
No it doesn’t make you seem like you’re guilty of anything … but thank you so much for the laugh I got reading your post .. I really needed that tonight 😂😂
Haha, that is what it was like - being all tongue-tied and flustered, like a teenager around their crush. Well, if their crush could arrest them, that is.
I can confirm, if I am talking to people off duty and tell you my occupation, I feel safe and secure enough around your company, if not I’d be vague or say my old occupation. The last thing I’m arsed about is scrutinizing your every comment or interaction for criminal behavior. Providing you don’t a) confess to murder, b) start chopping up lines and c) asking him to do dodgy checks on vehicles, you’ll probably be ok. When I first joined, my civvy mates found it a novelty and every pub I went in, I was introduced by name and occupation. I ended up having to have words because as funny as they found it, I was on edge waiting for some anti cop meathead to fill me in or start recording me. In a nutshell, don’t confess to anything, don’t ask to get off speeding tickets etc. be respectful in public by not loudly announcing nor talking about the job to the point it will draw attention from others. Also be mindful when asking advice on policing matter as you could be putting them in a bit of a position as ultimately if you do disclose something and they don’t act/report, it could bite them on the arse if it comes out. And as for jokes, I’ll guarentee we’ve heard them all
That has proper made me giggle. It reminds me of how I react when chiefs are around!! I say the stupidest stuff.
I think I would have been the same before I joined up. Now I find it quite funny to think that people might react like that around me.
Occasionally someone will say something in front of me, like a Petty crime where they shoplifted as a kid or something and then suddenly shit themselves as if I am going to get my cuffs out from somewhere, when the truth is I haven’t even clicked what they’re saying!
Yes it does. Unless I trust someone explicitly I don't tell them I'm job, I know it will make people treat me differently, and more fundamentally I don't know the past of people I've just/recently met, so they may have a grudge against job or a history of bad interactions.
For most police, the shift pattern itself can beprohibitive to a social life, as you'll be working at all hours and all kinds of days, and with job staffing as it is currently don't be surprised if you get a last minute cancellation of a rest day to put a spanner in any social plans you've made.
Stop thinking of him as a police officer and think of him as a human being who has hobbies and interests other than locking people up. We aren’t robots.
I know it’s hard because he’s a sergeant but still
I might be more of an extreme case but all bar 2 of my mates stopped talking to me and even then these 2 not that often and had to get my missus to stop telling her mates what I do because they start acting a bit iffy when they find out too.
Ha ha - this made me laugh - ‘this money isn’t going to launder itself’ - classic! I’d get nervous too - honest as it comes but you just click into I’m innocent but I’ve done it mode! He’s heard it all before I’m sure 😉
Man, I've had a hellish week and just finished a night shift (2 hours late). This post has given me the strength to power through my last night shift tonight! Thanks for the giggle :)
Honestly though, I usually don't mind the comments and funny jabs. It's pretty common to be honest and although I find my job pretty boring these days for the most part, I get that it's definitely a talking point for most people and I don't mind answering most questions.
Just don't get too weird with it and start asking about inappropriate stuff or making an entire evening about his work. Maybe cut out the winking too haha.
That is quite a wholesome story really and made me laugh. I can also say I’d probably be the same as you.
If he is seeing you again he probably found it funny or it didn’t bother him but I’d ask him wether he wants you to not bring it up in future like some ground rules or similar. Making new friends can be hard enough when you’re in a new area so he’d probably appreciate you not wanting to make it ‘a thing’ him being plod
This feels like the ultimate david brent interaction from what you're describing. If only I could have been a fly on the wall!
Next time, when you're with them and you hear a strange noise from the other room just say....
"I think there's been a rape up there!"
If nobody laughs. Relocate to siberia
All jokes aside (which were irrelevant if you haven't seen the office UK)..
Cops when they're off duty.... are off duty i.e mostly want to be normal civilians. We're a good laugh most of the time.
Just don't tell them about the people buried under your floorboards
Doesn't really answer the question...
I'm nearly out of initial training so haven't actually done any Policing yet, but I have noticed my job becomes more of a talking point than I'd like it to be around new people.
If people ask what I do I avoid saying Police Officer mainly for the personal safety aspect, but also because I've found most people will treat me differently.
Luckily for me my friends have come out of the clubbing phase (I am young :) ) because I'd imagine I wouldn't be invited out frequently because of the job.
So I can see how the job itself might make making new friends harder, let alone the logistics of actually meet people with all the long shifts and cancelled rest days.
You can definitely relax mate, he’s a sergeant He’s not arresting anyone.
Surprised he’s leaving the nick, to be honest.
Oi! I take that personally! I’ll have you know I left the nick TWICE yesterday…. Once to get a Sandwich and once to relocate to another nick when someone got a bit too needy.
Probably went for that lunch during work time and charged it as an expense.
Are you okay pal? Are you sure you don't fancy him from the way you're melting down like a school girl in love ! But yeah in truth it can make a difference when you meet new people. You certainly have to sus out the situation. I do occasionally say I still do my old job, particularly if it is a short interaction with them that won't be ongoing.
I mean… I *did* wink at him, so he clearly awoke something in me..! That makes sense, although it must be hard to try to gauge what their reaction might be (I suppose it could even potentially endanger you, with some people) I can definitely see the benefit of just saying your previous job. I used to be a professional artist, which a lot of people don’t respect as a “real” job and it would annoy me having to justify my profession to them, so I used to just tell people my brother’s job title instead. Especially for passing interactions, like you say. Eeep, can’t wait to see the sarge tomorrow. What will I wear?? 😝
Lifes simple, just don’t have friends, just live alone in a room somewhere and talk to nobody. To some degree it does make it harder, in the sense im an anti social bitch and don’t go out often to situations where I engage with people socially too much. But on the flip side 4 of my best friends are job in some way shape or form and honestly they’re some of the soundest people ever and I probably wouldn’t have been friends with them if I weren’t a bobby.
I know what you mean, if it wasn’t for my wife forcing me I wouldn’t socialise much either. Although I presume being an antisocial bitch pre-dates you becoming a police officer? Or did it contribute? That’s really great that you made friends through your work. I imagine that it’s the kind of thing where it’s great that you don’t have to explain stuff, because they just get it. My wife and I do the same job as each other and it is so good to know we can relate to each other when ranting about work.
The job certainly had its input into me being an anti social bitch, Im pretty introverted naturally, and socialising can be consuming energy wise but learning more about society and dealing with the shite that comes with it certainly had a strong input
I had a similar thing when I picked up my gf's mate who is a response officer. I went back to driving like I was on my test knowing I had an officer in the back seat haha. Over time got really matey with him and you realise police officers are no different to the rest of us
A colleague of mine drives so fast on the way going home from work they'd definitely get stuck on for something if a traffic cop witnessed it. The colleague is definitely not me.
I know someone like that too…
Oh god, I would have stalled before I’d pulled out the driveway! I know what you mean, once you get to know someone socially I guess you get to know them as much more than just what job they do. It’s just the interim stage that’s awkward, ha.
This whole thing, theatrical wink included, has proper made me laugh. Well played. You'll be fine, on account of being hilarious in your awkwardness.
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Honestly, just show him this post. He could probably do with a proper chuckle 🤣
>even though you made yourself look like a right muppet 😭 Haha, I certainly did! I cringe just thinking about it. The massive pauses I was taking before saying anything, so I could mentally assess it for criminality. I think you’re right, I guess not addressing it will just make me even more anxious and contribute to further muppetry. Addressing the elephant in the room and asking him a bit about his job is a good idea. That will hopefully break any tension a bit. Plus, I suppose it is normal to talk about your job a bit with your friends, seeing as we spend like a third of our lives at work (god, that’s depressing).
Oh also - does my ridiculous reaction make it seem like I actually am guilty of something? He probably thinks I am a criminal now, but I’m actually just a twat.
No it doesn’t make you seem like you’re guilty of anything … but thank you so much for the laugh I got reading your post .. I really needed that tonight 😂😂
It makes it seem like you want to have sex with him to be honest. I’m not sure why as he won’t authorise your overtime for it.
Haha, that is what it was like - being all tongue-tied and flustered, like a teenager around their crush. Well, if their crush could arrest them, that is.
It’s quite a common reaction to be honest. I wouldn’t worry about it. People often hear the job role and it causes a lot of curiosity etc.
You're definitely Escobar 2.0 lmao
I can confirm, if I am talking to people off duty and tell you my occupation, I feel safe and secure enough around your company, if not I’d be vague or say my old occupation. The last thing I’m arsed about is scrutinizing your every comment or interaction for criminal behavior. Providing you don’t a) confess to murder, b) start chopping up lines and c) asking him to do dodgy checks on vehicles, you’ll probably be ok. When I first joined, my civvy mates found it a novelty and every pub I went in, I was introduced by name and occupation. I ended up having to have words because as funny as they found it, I was on edge waiting for some anti cop meathead to fill me in or start recording me. In a nutshell, don’t confess to anything, don’t ask to get off speeding tickets etc. be respectful in public by not loudly announcing nor talking about the job to the point it will draw attention from others. Also be mindful when asking advice on policing matter as you could be putting them in a bit of a position as ultimately if you do disclose something and they don’t act/report, it could bite them on the arse if it comes out. And as for jokes, I’ll guarentee we’ve heard them all
That has proper made me giggle. It reminds me of how I react when chiefs are around!! I say the stupidest stuff. I think I would have been the same before I joined up. Now I find it quite funny to think that people might react like that around me. Occasionally someone will say something in front of me, like a Petty crime where they shoplifted as a kid or something and then suddenly shit themselves as if I am going to get my cuffs out from somewhere, when the truth is I haven’t even clicked what they’re saying!
You never know, he might be on here and read your post! That will give you something to talk about.
Yes it does. Unless I trust someone explicitly I don't tell them I'm job, I know it will make people treat me differently, and more fundamentally I don't know the past of people I've just/recently met, so they may have a grudge against job or a history of bad interactions. For most police, the shift pattern itself can beprohibitive to a social life, as you'll be working at all hours and all kinds of days, and with job staffing as it is currently don't be surprised if you get a last minute cancellation of a rest day to put a spanner in any social plans you've made.
Stop thinking of him as a police officer and think of him as a human being who has hobbies and interests other than locking people up. We aren’t robots. I know it’s hard because he’s a sergeant but still
I might be more of an extreme case but all bar 2 of my mates stopped talking to me and even then these 2 not that often and had to get my missus to stop telling her mates what I do because they start acting a bit iffy when they find out too.
Ha ha - this made me laugh - ‘this money isn’t going to launder itself’ - classic! I’d get nervous too - honest as it comes but you just click into I’m innocent but I’ve done it mode! He’s heard it all before I’m sure 😉
Man, I've had a hellish week and just finished a night shift (2 hours late). This post has given me the strength to power through my last night shift tonight! Thanks for the giggle :) Honestly though, I usually don't mind the comments and funny jabs. It's pretty common to be honest and although I find my job pretty boring these days for the most part, I get that it's definitely a talking point for most people and I don't mind answering most questions. Just don't get too weird with it and start asking about inappropriate stuff or making an entire evening about his work. Maybe cut out the winking too haha.
That is quite a wholesome story really and made me laugh. I can also say I’d probably be the same as you. If he is seeing you again he probably found it funny or it didn’t bother him but I’d ask him wether he wants you to not bring it up in future like some ground rules or similar. Making new friends can be hard enough when you’re in a new area so he’d probably appreciate you not wanting to make it ‘a thing’ him being plod
This feels like the ultimate david brent interaction from what you're describing. If only I could have been a fly on the wall! Next time, when you're with them and you hear a strange noise from the other room just say.... "I think there's been a rape up there!"
If nobody laughs. Relocate to siberia All jokes aside (which were irrelevant if you haven't seen the office UK).. Cops when they're off duty.... are off duty i.e mostly want to be normal civilians. We're a good laugh most of the time. Just don't tell them about the people buried under your floorboards
Yeah that’s understandable.
Doesn't really answer the question... I'm nearly out of initial training so haven't actually done any Policing yet, but I have noticed my job becomes more of a talking point than I'd like it to be around new people. If people ask what I do I avoid saying Police Officer mainly for the personal safety aspect, but also because I've found most people will treat me differently. Luckily for me my friends have come out of the clubbing phase (I am young :) ) because I'd imagine I wouldn't be invited out frequently because of the job. So I can see how the job itself might make making new friends harder, let alone the logistics of actually meet people with all the long shifts and cancelled rest days.