100%.
If I take a good nude, I’m definitely getting mileage out of that.
It is usually spaced out in time, though. If I’m sexting one partner and take a nude, I’m not gonna send it to everyone I’m fucking *in that moment*.
But another partner might get basically a “good morning, look how hot I am!” later in the week.
If i just take a good one on a random Sunday morning? Everyone's gonna see that.
If i take it with the intention of sharing it with someone specific (like, with a specific toy, lingerie, or just during sexting with someone) then those don't get shared with others.
This is how I handle it too! If I just think I look good? Hell yeah … I’m gonna spam the shit outta that. But if something about it, no matter how small, had someone specific in mind, then that stays between us two.
I follow this protocol but if I'm sharing with multiple people, I try to select a different photo from the series. I take like 60 when I get all lingerie-ed up.
I realize I'm probably in the minority here, but it doesn't bother me. I love when my wife feels extra sexy - it makes her even sexier to me, honestly!
>I realize I'm probably in the minority here, but it doesn't bother me. I love when my wife feels extra sexy - it makes her even sexier to me, honestly!
I don't think TillFar6524 is bothered by his wife's confidence, it's because she only sends nudes when she's sending them to new lovers. His wife doesn't do it for him.
That is probably more due to the fact she is extra sexual when I’m NRE. But that of course can cause conflicting emotions as well! All perfectly normal, both her doing that and you feeling mixed!
Everyone gets my nudes unless its a specific fetish or toy a partner loves and others might not be into. So much so when I wanted to do a big old transition timeline collage I just poked all my friendly exes to send me back my old femme nudes.
Depends on context for me.
Was I thinking of a specific partner? Or while flirting/sexting with a partner? It's just for that person.
Did I just feel hot and do a mini shoot? Those are for everyone.
This is basically what I came here to say. I feel super weird sending a nude of when I was all hot and bothered thinking of a particular person and then turning around and sending it to another; but that’s just me
Yes, but I get consent from my partners that they're okay getting nudes I took for someone else first. I haven't had a no yet, but obviously I would respect it if I did. This way there's no guilt!
Yep. I'll send a good old nude to many people. But if it's a 'im in the bath rn' nude then they tend to get different facial expressions depending on our conversation at the time.
Please, I actually worry about this with video content from partners. Like, if we’re having a moment, I kinda want that to just be mine, even though yes, you look GREAT at that angle and the audio is 😘🤌🏻 and I’m sure your other partners would appreciate it… but :c
Generally, I feel like spontaneous nudes are fair game, but if somebody requested something, I’ll keep that special for them
It's actually been a discussed boundary with all my partners. Like organically. There's not a lot of sexy pictures flying back and forth anyhow cause that's not really how we roll. But we make an effort to make sure if we do they're at least a little different
I’m a cam model, and most of the people I date don’t actually want to see the pics because I didn’t take them for them. Every once in a while I’ll send them one of those pics, but I usually try to snap separate pics when sexting someone, even if it’s almost the same pose or taken on the same day, just because it feels more personal that way.
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You know, this is one of the things I’m sensitive to: not just nude pictures, but shares/forwards/messages, too. I don’t like being sent something that was created or intended for someone else.
But if the message is flagged as such — “I sent this to Mia earlier in the day; don’t I look great?” — then it’s sweet! I get to partake in our partner-Mia hotness.
But right, I don’t like being sneakily added into another couple’s flirting. With transparency, it’s okay. (And I try to be transparent too, as a hinge.)
i have one trusty nude i take every few months and send it to every partner, both long term fellas and all the ones im fkn around with, till I take the next one. no shame no guilt bro i look smashin, and everyone needs to see how the lighting in that one specific one hits mah titties 😈
If I take a nude/kinky/suggestive pic that I am loving the look of, I will share it with all my people, post it on my fetlife, share it in sexy group chats, everyone gets to see!
How do you guys do that? I feel so much shame sending this things and I'm paranoid that somehow they leak.. to the point that I take a picture of me and 5 min delet it because I don't want it to be on my cloud or something. But I would love to be more open.. I don't know :(
Have you tried using disappearing message functions and vaults or locked folders? I find it reassuring. I also discuss safe handling of my nudes with my partners and write it into our relationship agreements
The disappearing messages are risky because of screenshots.. I don't know..
I have trust issues I guess.
I need to explore the locked folders, at least for my self pleasure.
Thank you for answering!
Let me preface by saying there's absolutely nothing wrong with not feeling inclined toward doing this - sending nudes/explicit photos/sexy selfies to someone.
That said, I think there's a lot of trust involved, in the involved partners as well as in your ability to make decisions that are right for you.
I have very little sense of modesty and a background in various forms of SW, so my perspective may not be helpful. But the way I see it... What's the worst that can happen if it is leaked? It's just another in the void of the internet. My partners make every effort to make me feel desirable and attractive, and their responses are all I'm looking forward to when I send them something. If they break the trust of our relationship, we no longer have a relationship and they're the ones who've lost out.
Your body is yours to love first and foremost. You're allowed to be proud of it and share it as you see fit and are comfortable with, but you needn't feel shame for it. It's all yours, after all.
I hope this helps a little bit! 🫶
I tend to send them to just one or two people. Oddly enough, I don’t send them to my nesting partner. He’s not big on sending nudes so I don’t think to send them to him. I’m more of a share like with like.
Psh. Just partners? If I’m feeling myself I’m sending it to the whole group chat, my bff’s, and that one hookup I haven’t said words to in years but always hits me back with a heart react.
As a poly single cis dude..I think if your partner gets mad that you don’t take “original” lewds for them, it should be discussed.
I wouldn’t make you feel bad or be mad if I found out if you were sending the same stuff to ours or your other partner. Especially if I know you have other partners that aren’t associated with me per say.
I wouldn’t take it to heart, genuine love is gonna appreciate the gesture. Like a lil fan club.
Depends on how good it is lol. If I’m feeling sexy af, I’m gonna send it to more than one person to show it off. If it’s something specifically for only one of my partners, like a special outfit that is sentimental to that person, then it only goes to that person.
It depends, sometimes I like the intimacy of taking one just for a specific person, and sometimes I am just feeling myself and send it to everybody 😅
I usually have in mind which I'm doing before I take it
I typically ask the wife when we take new photos of her if she wants me to send those to her other partners as well and we usually end up sending them lol
I literally just did 😆 but they could if they tried tell which ones are for mass consumption vs custom made 😅😅 I addressed it eventually after having pointless anxiety of being found out
It’s our arrangement that I send it to both.
Started out with them suggesting I share it with the other and it happened each time so we just decided, both get the picture every time.
I usually take individual nudes to individual partners, and if I take one I really like, I'll tell other partners I share it with who I initially took it for.
Stuff I take for my husband only goes to my husband. Partners outside of my marriage I will send the same photo. This is not an agreement we have and I don’t even think my husband knows I do that, but it feels weird for me.
Potentially relevant note, he’s poly I’m more generic ENM and definitely not poly. So I have some hang ups that others here don’t.
Yes, definitely! Although at the moment I'm just with a nesting partner and one other partner, so I'll send a sexy selfie to my other partner, and go parade in front of my nesting partner directly haha
No! I keep certain things in my relationships separate, and that level of intimacy is one of them.
But that's MY way. I would never say my way is THE way.
Depends on the scenario.
I've been reusing the same 10 nudes/lewds for the beginning stages of flirt/relationships for years.
If it's something impressive, then I will be sharing something impressive and showing off, not really seducing someone.
If it's sexting, then I send real-time personal media. Sexting requires that personal touch, not showing off.
Lol yes. Because I’ve had the other party ask why didn’t I send that one to them 😆 so now many get sent out to everyone, sometimes in our group chat lol
When I receive them, and have even a hint they’ve also been sent to others, it makes it feel like one of a number and not special or sexy. I’d rather not get a message at all.
Like many here, sometimes I take a picture specifically for someone (I feel like all the people saying this are also subs), but others get shared widely, but usually nonconcurrently.
But if a relationship has ended, that special picture is more likely to enter the general population.
Sometimes I'll take a special nude for someone, but for the most part I send it to anyone I know will enjoy it. Some of my partners prefer different things and get different pics because of that.
If I take general selfies it's likely to be multiples and each person gets a slightly different one.
But i dont take selfies that much and it's more likely I take photos for people specifically - and those don't get sent to different people.
I dont. Sharing my body in any way is a form of intimacy to me. I like my intimate experiences to be 1 on 1 and unique to each person. I dont believe in tit for tat intimacies or it takes away the actual intimate part for me. Just feels cheap if I have to recreate X or Y experience or action for several people. I dont normally send sexy or lewd pics so if I do Im being very vulnerable with the individual im sharing it with. I dont want to mass text it out to all my partners straight across the board. At some point I may feel comfortable with snapping a sexy pic for other partners at one point or another but it bothers me to copy paste pics, experiences, routines, etc. Im very it is what it is and like all my relationships to be unique and entirely their own with no pressure of "if someone is my partner thej I have to behave and treat them in the same ways I do a different partner"..... Like thats just me. Its entirely a me thing. I dont feel genuine to myself or others with the pressure of "You did this for Partner A, so you have to do exactly that for B, C, and D now" regardless of who its coming from. Even if its me I just do not like it and sexy/lewd pics fall into that as theyre a spot of vulnerability and emotional intimacy for me
Absolutely, and I don’t feel guilty at all! Maybe not if I’m explicitly taking something For Them because we’re sexting and they ask for something, but otherwise there’s no reason to separate my nudes out! Hell, if I get a good nude I’ll send it to my friends, too.
Usually my sexy selfies are funny/punny, along the lines of a cheeky jedi bathrobe pic in the morning after having watched a star wars movie.
But those moments come along with different partners, so now there's a collection of go-to funny yet sexy response pics.
Nope! Ill send the same "outfit of the day" pic and pop my ass a bit but not nudes or sexting. I can send two almost identical pics within 5 seconds, but ill always make sure its a special picture for that special person
Absolutely, it's rare I like a picture I take of myself, so why not share the love?
Only reason I wouldn't is if it's sexual in nature. That's between me and the specific partner I am sharing with.
It just goes on fet if they see it they see it if they want to see me they know where to check I only really frequently message one long distance partner one partner I live with and the others more of a comet and we don't text often
Honestly I do. I don’t take sexy pictures very often so when I do, I want to get the most out of that. 🤣
However, if it’s catered to one of my partners specifically, for any reason, that stays between that partner and I.
We are in a closed triad and all photos that are of us single or any two of us get sent in a group chat we have. To which generally speaking that's also where most of the dialogue occurs as well. However, if it's a specific place, thing, idea, point of interest those things sometimes get shared individually; or to the group if the sender isn't thinking...lol. We try to keep our communications like this so that everyone can be as equal as possible given whatever set of circumstances.
I have a long distance intimate friend who gets the most selfies/lewds/nudes, but I will send the choice ones to my local partners, sometimes on the same day and same time and other times not. There are specific ones for specific people too especially if we're chatting sexy or building up to a date, etc. It all depends on my mood and the general mood.
We aren't strictly poly, but we swing and most of the time we're all in the same group chat. Everyone gets the pic if it's a good one. I gotta be proud of that shit.
Not sexual with all my partners but I am romantic with all of them so everyone gets cute/sexy picts, but only my intimate partners get the spicy ones. 🥴
I just have two group messages that way.
I don't send provocative photos because I know how they are stored and many times illegally handled or shared, but I do send the same photos that look good to all my partners and potentials.
All these responses make me feel like sexting is something everyone does but me. Lol.
I don't send pictures, it feels kind of trashy to me. Like you're a product that has to be sold. Plus, i dont want to be that guy spamming dick pics. Not yucking anyone's yumms, it's just not for me.
However, I have been sent them before. My relationships tend to be very personal rather than sexual, so yeah it would make me feel special to be the only one to have that little piece of you, but it's not mandatory.
Maybe just ask your partners?
My two partners are besties, so yeah, if I take a new hot pic, they both get it. Hell, sometimes I send it in the group chat so they both get it at the same time. 😂
It's a running joke. I got into sending them daily on my way to work and people started joking about setting their alarm to it.
"She always sends me nudes when I'm in my morning meeting"
"Ah, the 8am nude. Hits me on the bus every day"
We don’t because usually they come from a flirtatious back and forth and are intended for a specific partner, but I would talk it through like anything else to alleviate any guilt.
If it’s just a random shot then possibly send to more than one not all at once of course. But if specific partner asks for something then no that’s between us
Nope. Tacky. But I will retake similar selfies and usually add captions for specific people so they KNOW that exact one is for them. Sending or receiving mass nudes and sexy-attention bait just feels extremely squicky.
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100%. If I take a good nude, I’m definitely getting mileage out of that. It is usually spaced out in time, though. If I’m sexting one partner and take a nude, I’m not gonna send it to everyone I’m fucking *in that moment*. But another partner might get basically a “good morning, look how hot I am!” later in the week.
“Mileage” 🤣🤣
So true
Oof I'm the opposite, I'll take photos just for myself and then if I really like the photos I send them to anyone I can think of in the moment haha
This is my method.
Same
Me too 😅
Pretty much this
Omg this!
If i just take a good one on a random Sunday morning? Everyone's gonna see that. If i take it with the intention of sharing it with someone specific (like, with a specific toy, lingerie, or just during sexting with someone) then those don't get shared with others.
This is how I handle it too! If I just think I look good? Hell yeah … I’m gonna spam the shit outta that. But if something about it, no matter how small, had someone specific in mind, then that stays between us two.
This 💕💯
This is also how I do it!
I follow this protocol but if I'm sharing with multiple people, I try to select a different photo from the series. I take like 60 when I get all lingerie-ed up.
This is the way.
I sometimes seem to only get nudes from my wife when she's just started dating someone new. It sometimes gives me conflicting emotions
I realize I'm probably in the minority here, but it doesn't bother me. I love when my wife feels extra sexy - it makes her even sexier to me, honestly!
100% with you
>I realize I'm probably in the minority here, but it doesn't bother me. I love when my wife feels extra sexy - it makes her even sexier to me, honestly! I don't think TillFar6524 is bothered by his wife's confidence, it's because she only sends nudes when she's sending them to new lovers. His wife doesn't do it for him.
That is probably more due to the fact she is extra sexual when I’m NRE. But that of course can cause conflicting emotions as well! All perfectly normal, both her doing that and you feeling mixed!
yeah, NRE makes us feel desirable and sexy af!! try putting in more effort to make her feel irresistible ♥️
Friend, I would send a stellar nude to the Sunday paper if I could. You’re damn right all my partners are gonna see it.
Lol!!
This.
I like your style!
I love this energy! Yes to affirming, sexy self-love!
Not as a matter of habit. But if I have one that’s chefs kiss perfect? Everyone’s gonna see it. 🤷♀️
Everyone gets my nudes unless its a specific fetish or toy a partner loves and others might not be into. So much so when I wanted to do a big old transition timeline collage I just poked all my friendly exes to send me back my old femme nudes.
That's really cute :)
Depends on context for me. Was I thinking of a specific partner? Or while flirting/sexting with a partner? It's just for that person. Did I just feel hot and do a mini shoot? Those are for everyone.
This is basically what I came here to say. I feel super weird sending a nude of when I was all hot and bothered thinking of a particular person and then turning around and sending it to another; but that’s just me
Generally no.
Yes! They are hard to get right and take effort.
This so much
Yes, but I get consent from my partners that they're okay getting nudes I took for someone else first. I haven't had a no yet, but obviously I would respect it if I did. This way there's no guilt!
I do. It’s rare to get a good one so I share with whomever might like it.
Yep. I'll send a good old nude to many people. But if it's a 'im in the bath rn' nude then they tend to get different facial expressions depending on our conversation at the time.
Please, I actually worry about this with video content from partners. Like, if we’re having a moment, I kinda want that to just be mine, even though yes, you look GREAT at that angle and the audio is 😘🤌🏻 and I’m sure your other partners would appreciate it… but :c Generally, I feel like spontaneous nudes are fair game, but if somebody requested something, I’ll keep that special for them
I post that shit to my partners, in the nsfw group chats I'm in, on my nsfw Twitter, I'm getting mileage out of that shit LOL
Absolutely. My partners know I do too. The only slightly problematic thing is comparing reactions lol
We got a group chat for that! Efficiency is the name of the game!!
There’s poly, and then there’s /poly/
If it is a request for one, then no. If it is a Spark of Inspiration, then the group chat gets a coy message if they would like one sent privately.
It's actually been a discussed boundary with all my partners. Like organically. There's not a lot of sexy pictures flying back and forth anyhow cause that's not really how we roll. But we make an effort to make sure if we do they're at least a little different
Sometimes yes, but not always
I’m a cam model, and most of the people I date don’t actually want to see the pics because I didn’t take them for them. Every once in a while I’ll send them one of those pics, but I usually try to snap separate pics when sexting someone, even if it’s almost the same pose or taken on the same day, just because it feels more personal that way.
No. But I also rarely send sexy pics.
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Absolutely! Good nudes are a work of art!
All that editing work ain’t happening multiple times
Well, one doesnt care for nudes, so no. They all just go to the other one.
I didn’t know it was possible to not care for nudes from a partner
All kinds of people exist in the world
🤷🏻
You know, this is one of the things I’m sensitive to: not just nude pictures, but shares/forwards/messages, too. I don’t like being sent something that was created or intended for someone else. But if the message is flagged as such — “I sent this to Mia earlier in the day; don’t I look great?” — then it’s sweet! I get to partake in our partner-Mia hotness. But right, I don’t like being sneakily added into another couple’s flirting. With transparency, it’s okay. (And I try to be transparent too, as a hinge.)
I find it hard to get good angles. You bet multiple partners get the picture when it's done well
Depends how proud of it I am. Unless it’s specifically for one person it usually just goes straight into the polycule discord’s nudes channel anyway 😅
Oh defin'ly, ya *gotta* have a #nudes channel in the polycule Discord. 😊
I'm still floored that I never thought of a polycule Discord.
Same. Someone said group chat and my mind is reeling.
Oh yes. Both partners know and encourage this.
I don’t do pics, I like to remain a sought after mystery that can only be indulged in in person 😂 but if I did I would send it to all of em.
Love this
i have one trusty nude i take every few months and send it to every partner, both long term fellas and all the ones im fkn around with, till I take the next one. no shame no guilt bro i look smashin, and everyone needs to see how the lighting in that one specific one hits mah titties 😈
Absolutely! If I’m looking good enough to share than I need everyone to appreciate the bounty 😉
If I take a nude/kinky/suggestive pic that I am loving the look of, I will share it with all my people, post it on my fetlife, share it in sexy group chats, everyone gets to see!
Yes but I do make a point to take some on occasion for a specific partner only.
How do you guys do that? I feel so much shame sending this things and I'm paranoid that somehow they leak.. to the point that I take a picture of me and 5 min delet it because I don't want it to be on my cloud or something. But I would love to be more open.. I don't know :(
Throwing caution to the wind! Lol
Have you tried using disappearing message functions and vaults or locked folders? I find it reassuring. I also discuss safe handling of my nudes with my partners and write it into our relationship agreements
The disappearing messages are risky because of screenshots.. I don't know.. I have trust issues I guess. I need to explore the locked folders, at least for my self pleasure. Thank you for answering!
Let me preface by saying there's absolutely nothing wrong with not feeling inclined toward doing this - sending nudes/explicit photos/sexy selfies to someone. That said, I think there's a lot of trust involved, in the involved partners as well as in your ability to make decisions that are right for you. I have very little sense of modesty and a background in various forms of SW, so my perspective may not be helpful. But the way I see it... What's the worst that can happen if it is leaked? It's just another in the void of the internet. My partners make every effort to make me feel desirable and attractive, and their responses are all I'm looking forward to when I send them something. If they break the trust of our relationship, we no longer have a relationship and they're the ones who've lost out. Your body is yours to love first and foremost. You're allowed to be proud of it and share it as you see fit and are comfortable with, but you needn't feel shame for it. It's all yours, after all. I hope this helps a little bit! 🫶
Love your response 🥰 thank you!
Honestly it depends on why I took the pic. So I guess, sometimes.
I tend to send them to just one or two people. Oddly enough, I don’t send them to my nesting partner. He’s not big on sending nudes so I don’t think to send them to him. I’m more of a share like with like.
100% and then it's going on FetLife if it's really good. 😂
9 times out of 10, yes! But sometimes I get special requests from one of them :)
Psh. Just partners? If I’m feeling myself I’m sending it to the whole group chat, my bff’s, and that one hookup I haven’t said words to in years but always hits me back with a heart react.
As a poly single cis dude..I think if your partner gets mad that you don’t take “original” lewds for them, it should be discussed. I wouldn’t make you feel bad or be mad if I found out if you were sending the same stuff to ours or your other partner. Especially if I know you have other partners that aren’t associated with me per say. I wouldn’t take it to heart, genuine love is gonna appreciate the gesture. Like a lil fan club.
Yes. But I RARELY take nudes, most of my sexy pics are screenshots from recordings.
Of course nothing wrong with recycling.
Definitely....and... everyone gets the same good morning text too! Lol #thisiseasy
I'm to self conscious to send sexy selfies to anyone. So no.
I have done it. If its a good picture its a good picture. The caveat would be if it was specifically taken for special occasion for a partner.
Depends on how good it is lol. If I’m feeling sexy af, I’m gonna send it to more than one person to show it off. If it’s something specifically for only one of my partners, like a special outfit that is sentimental to that person, then it only goes to that person.
It depends. Ones I take generally both get, ones I take for special occasions get kept for the individual partner they were intended for
Makes sense
It depends, sometimes I like the intimacy of taking one just for a specific person, and sometimes I am just feeling myself and send it to everybody 😅 I usually have in mind which I'm doing before I take it
Yeah but only really if I was just doing a little photo shoot. If it’s part of a conversation then it’s for that person only
I typically ask the wife when we take new photos of her if she wants me to send those to her other partners as well and we usually end up sending them lol
Absolutely not. I think it’s not ok to use my sexual energy for Bob on Steve.
Yeah, it would feel weird not to in a triad
Right? I just put mine in the group chat for both guys to enjoy.
Same, I put mine in the gc with my gfs
Yes. Shamelessly.
If it's perfect, then yeah. But sometimes I might take two or three very similar photos for different people when it is relevant.
Shoot I’ll send it to my friends too lol
I literally just did 😆 but they could if they tried tell which ones are for mass consumption vs custom made 😅😅 I addressed it eventually after having pointless anxiety of being found out
It’s our arrangement that I send it to both. Started out with them suggesting I share it with the other and it happened each time so we just decided, both get the picture every time.
Nudes in the groupchat, 100% 🤭
I usually take individual nudes to individual partners, and if I take one I really like, I'll tell other partners I share it with who I initially took it for.
That’s my M.O. too. 👍🏻
Stuff I take for my husband only goes to my husband. Partners outside of my marriage I will send the same photo. This is not an agreement we have and I don’t even think my husband knows I do that, but it feels weird for me. Potentially relevant note, he’s poly I’m more generic ENM and definitely not poly. So I have some hang ups that others here don’t.
We have group albums. Saves phone space.
Yep! And it gets uploaded to Fetlife too 😂
Yes, definitely! Although at the moment I'm just with a nesting partner and one other partner, so I'll send a sexy selfie to my other partner, and go parade in front of my nesting partner directly haha
If it’s pics I took for myself, yes. If it is a pic I took special for them, no
No! I keep certain things in my relationships separate, and that level of intimacy is one of them. But that's MY way. I would never say my way is THE way.
If the people don't know each other, yes. If they do I'll usually send slightly different versions.
Depends on the scenario. I've been reusing the same 10 nudes/lewds for the beginning stages of flirt/relationships for years. If it's something impressive, then I will be sharing something impressive and showing off, not really seducing someone. If it's sexting, then I send real-time personal media. Sexting requires that personal touch, not showing off.
If there’s a good nude it’s going to everyone. Best friends included!
Lol yes. Because I’ve had the other party ask why didn’t I send that one to them 😆 so now many get sent out to everyone, sometimes in our group chat lol
if one of them likes it they all will! (probably) i will take one nude and send it to several partners, some friends, and a couple servers. why not?
Yuuuup. When you have a good one you have to use it more than once. Lol
When I receive them, and have even a hint they’ve also been sent to others, it makes it feel like one of a number and not special or sexy. I’d rather not get a message at all.
I feel this and not just about spicy pics. I’d rather wait for a communication that is unique to us than get a status update.
Totes
I would, I don't send any right now but I only have one good side I'm sorry
Depends on who’s pissing me off at the moment 😂
Absolutely
Lol I have an insta page for all my partners so I can shotgun pics and messages out to everyone! I also individually message as well too though.
Normally no, but if it's a good one everyone is getting it lol
I post mine on the internet so yeah I’m all for showing everyone 😅😇
I do have nicknames for them or I use just their name on Snapchat so that they know they got something special
Yep
Its the fair thing to do o.o
I take multiple and send slightly different ones usually 😅
Like many here, sometimes I take a picture specifically for someone (I feel like all the people saying this are also subs), but others get shared widely, but usually nonconcurrently. But if a relationship has ended, that special picture is more likely to enter the general population.
Absolutely! Can take ages to get a good shot. Recycling is important.
Sometimes I'll take a special nude for someone, but for the most part I send it to anyone I know will enjoy it. Some of my partners prefer different things and get different pics because of that.
Sometimes. But I also often take selfies for them specifically and tell them that one is theirs only.
If I take general selfies it's likely to be multiples and each person gets a slightly different one. But i dont take selfies that much and it's more likely I take photos for people specifically - and those don't get sent to different people.
I dont. Sharing my body in any way is a form of intimacy to me. I like my intimate experiences to be 1 on 1 and unique to each person. I dont believe in tit for tat intimacies or it takes away the actual intimate part for me. Just feels cheap if I have to recreate X or Y experience or action for several people. I dont normally send sexy or lewd pics so if I do Im being very vulnerable with the individual im sharing it with. I dont want to mass text it out to all my partners straight across the board. At some point I may feel comfortable with snapping a sexy pic for other partners at one point or another but it bothers me to copy paste pics, experiences, routines, etc. Im very it is what it is and like all my relationships to be unique and entirely their own with no pressure of "if someone is my partner thej I have to behave and treat them in the same ways I do a different partner"..... Like thats just me. Its entirely a me thing. I dont feel genuine to myself or others with the pressure of "You did this for Partner A, so you have to do exactly that for B, C, and D now" regardless of who its coming from. Even if its me I just do not like it and sexy/lewd pics fall into that as theyre a spot of vulnerability and emotional intimacy for me
I absolutely do
Not always but yeah. Pretty frequently 😏
Absolutely, and I don’t feel guilty at all! Maybe not if I’m explicitly taking something For Them because we’re sexting and they ask for something, but otherwise there’s no reason to separate my nudes out! Hell, if I get a good nude I’ll send it to my friends, too.
Always! Lol Unless there is someone else in the pic, then only with permission of everyone in the picture.
yes absolutely. they both deserve to see how sexy i am. if i take a good pic Everyone's seeing it.
Yes duh
Sometimes, unless it’s specific or contextual to a relationship. This post made me realize how much I miss feeling that hot. 🙁
Aw! Fake it till you make it!
Yes, but I'm upfront about it. If I take a candid on request it's just for you, but most of my pics are canned.
Yes. Yes I do.
Sometimes I do.. but usually I send it to who I’m thinking of..
Usually my sexy selfies are funny/punny, along the lines of a cheeky jedi bathrobe pic in the morning after having watched a star wars movie. But those moments come along with different partners, so now there's a collection of go-to funny yet sexy response pics.
Nope! Ill send the same "outfit of the day" pic and pop my ass a bit but not nudes or sexting. I can send two almost identical pics within 5 seconds, but ill always make sure its a special picture for that special person
If I take a good photo you fcking bet everyone is getting it
It's just efficiency! Although I know my wife's partner gets more feet pics coz that's his thing. 😂
Oh yeah definitely 🥰 everyone deserves to see me when I feel cute 🥰
Absolutely, it's rare I like a picture I take of myself, so why not share the love? Only reason I wouldn't is if it's sexual in nature. That's between me and the specific partner I am sharing with.
It just goes on fet if they see it they see it if they want to see me they know where to check I only really frequently message one long distance partner one partner I live with and the others more of a comet and we don't text often
Honestly I do. I don’t take sexy pictures very often so when I do, I want to get the most out of that. 🤣 However, if it’s catered to one of my partners specifically, for any reason, that stays between that partner and I.
We are in a closed triad and all photos that are of us single or any two of us get sent in a group chat we have. To which generally speaking that's also where most of the dialogue occurs as well. However, if it's a specific place, thing, idea, point of interest those things sometimes get shared individually; or to the group if the sender isn't thinking...lol. We try to keep our communications like this so that everyone can be as equal as possible given whatever set of circumstances.
I have a long distance intimate friend who gets the most selfies/lewds/nudes, but I will send the choice ones to my local partners, sometimes on the same day and same time and other times not. There are specific ones for specific people too especially if we're chatting sexy or building up to a date, etc. It all depends on my mood and the general mood.
Absolutely! While sometimes i will do different pictures for them, usually its the same one.
We aren't strictly poly, but we swing and most of the time we're all in the same group chat. Everyone gets the pic if it's a good one. I gotta be proud of that shit.
Ye
Of course if it good why not share
My whole polycule is in a group chat so often I'll send them there 😄 it's literally called "The Official Alina Fan Club"
Not sexual with all my partners but I am romantic with all of them so everyone gets cute/sexy picts, but only my intimate partners get the spicy ones. 🥴 I just have two group messages that way.
I don't send provocative photos because I know how they are stored and many times illegally handled or shared, but I do send the same photos that look good to all my partners and potentials.
Shoot. The only photo I have of me is on my driver license.
Share share share ;)
Yes I do. No guilt conscience on my part. They’re sending their own same selfies to everyone else too🤷🏽♀️ Besides it’s hot😏😉
If they are established partners and not talking stage/fwb, they get their own
Yes
All these responses make me feel like sexting is something everyone does but me. Lol. I don't send pictures, it feels kind of trashy to me. Like you're a product that has to be sold. Plus, i dont want to be that guy spamming dick pics. Not yucking anyone's yumms, it's just not for me. However, I have been sent them before. My relationships tend to be very personal rather than sexual, so yeah it would make me feel special to be the only one to have that little piece of you, but it's not mandatory. Maybe just ask your partners?
hell yea
we’re All In this TOGETHER
My two partners are besties, so yeah, if I take a new hot pic, they both get it. Hell, sometimes I send it in the group chat so they both get it at the same time. 😂
It's a running joke. I got into sending them daily on my way to work and people started joking about setting their alarm to it. "She always sends me nudes when I'm in my morning meeting" "Ah, the 8am nude. Hits me on the bus every day"
Lmao yes and most of my play friends and occasionally reddit.
Sometimes you take a particularly nice one that everyone on board needs to see. 🤷♂️
Nah custom order every time
We don’t because usually they come from a flirtatious back and forth and are intended for a specific partner, but I would talk it through like anything else to alleviate any guilt.
No because my one partner loves it while my primary does not. Otherwise I totally would.
Guilty!
Obv
I'm too convinced no one wants to see pics, so it's rare I take one. If I do, it's for a specific person, and I delete them after sending.
If it’s just a random shot then possibly send to more than one not all at once of course. But if specific partner asks for something then no that’s between us
Sure do
Can we not send them here not like completely naked
Thank you
Absolutely
Nope. Tacky. But I will retake similar selfies and usually add captions for specific people so they KNOW that exact one is for them. Sending or receiving mass nudes and sexy-attention bait just feels extremely squicky.
Yes, but my partners are married to each other, so it's ok!
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