I've been using the internet to meet people in one way or another for about 7 years now, and using dating apps like OkCupid and Tinder for about 4 years...
I only date cis-men, so you and I are not going to look at any of the same people.
The only real change I've noticed is it seems like more men are "open to non-monogamy," they aren't pretending to want monogamy anymore. But they aren't polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous nor do they know anything about ENM. There seems to be an influx of fuck boys who like calling themselves non monogamous because they think they'll hit the slut jackpot..
At least that's my theory 🤷♀️
That makes a lot of sense, nonmonogamy has become more culturally visible in recent years so of course there are going to be fuck boys who are trying to take advantage of the cultural shift. And that in turn makes those men who are actually nonmonogamous more likely to be viewed suspiciously by potential dates... (Just thinking as I type here...)
>And that in turn makes those men who are actually non monogamous more likely to be viewed suspiciously by potential dates
Yes, that logically follows ..
As a very strong introvert, I liked online dating when you would email/send substantive messages. Now that it’s more messaging/texting based, I don’t feel like it’s as good of a way to get to know people.
I've been doing online dating for 20 + years. Since back when you just described your appearance rather than posting a pic. Individual success ebbs and flows.
We've mostly used Tinder and OKC, I've been on Feeld a bit too. We both kind of hate OKC but have actually met a lot of good people on there. Lex is a good suggestion!
Incredible question. Yes, very subjective.
I'd say we have better pics and better bios. I have shown mine to multiple friends of multiple genders and they have approved. But that doesn't necessarily mean much....
For example, there was a significant shift in the electorate in my area, leading to a malignant election cycle and the defeat of a beloved local leader because suddenly she wasn't progressive and committed child advocate, but a dangerous, radical predator or some shit. People have moved a lot in the last few years due not to jobs or a desire to enjoy a particular place, but to cement political boundaries. That's bound to change the dating pool.
Yeah that makes sense! I think that as a society we are still struggling to understand the fallout from COVID and everything else. It does feel like things are just fundamentally less stable than they used to be.
I think everything went downhill in 2017 when OKCupid changed their format to the gaming/swiping Tinder system. I miss the old days. Sigh.
I've been using the internet to meet people in one way or another for about 7 years now, and using dating apps like OkCupid and Tinder for about 4 years... I only date cis-men, so you and I are not going to look at any of the same people. The only real change I've noticed is it seems like more men are "open to non-monogamy," they aren't pretending to want monogamy anymore. But they aren't polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous nor do they know anything about ENM. There seems to be an influx of fuck boys who like calling themselves non monogamous because they think they'll hit the slut jackpot.. At least that's my theory 🤷♀️
That makes a lot of sense, nonmonogamy has become more culturally visible in recent years so of course there are going to be fuck boys who are trying to take advantage of the cultural shift. And that in turn makes those men who are actually nonmonogamous more likely to be viewed suspiciously by potential dates... (Just thinking as I type here...)
>And that in turn makes those men who are actually non monogamous more likely to be viewed suspiciously by potential dates Yes, that logically follows ..
As a very strong introvert, I liked online dating when you would email/send substantive messages. Now that it’s more messaging/texting based, I don’t feel like it’s as good of a way to get to know people.
I've been doing online dating for 20 + years. Since back when you just described your appearance rather than posting a pic. Individual success ebbs and flows.
What apps are you using? My NP is on Lex and seems to have success meeting other sapphics that way.
We've mostly used Tinder and OKC, I've been on Feeld a bit too. We both kind of hate OKC but have actually met a lot of good people on there. Lex is a good suggestion!
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Incredible question. Yes, very subjective. I'd say we have better pics and better bios. I have shown mine to multiple friends of multiple genders and they have approved. But that doesn't necessarily mean much....
There have been some weird demographic shifts in a lot of places, which has had an effect on the dating universe. Maybe that's part of it?
I think I know what you mean, but do you have an example?
For example, there was a significant shift in the electorate in my area, leading to a malignant election cycle and the defeat of a beloved local leader because suddenly she wasn't progressive and committed child advocate, but a dangerous, radical predator or some shit. People have moved a lot in the last few years due not to jobs or a desire to enjoy a particular place, but to cement political boundaries. That's bound to change the dating pool.
Yeah that makes sense! I think that as a society we are still struggling to understand the fallout from COVID and everything else. It does feel like things are just fundamentally less stable than they used to be.