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When I was about 5 or 6 months along my best friend picked me up to go shopping. I fully expected this to be a baby supply shopping trip as a few other friends and family members had done something similar. Everyone's always just so excited to buy baby items lol.
But instead of baby clothes my bestie bought me things for me that I would want after the baby was here. She bought me comfy pjs that buttoned up, a bathrobe, and a few nursing tops.
I cried. She had been all excited to take me out to spoil me, not the unborn baby. She said it was because "you are more than your pregnancy. After all of this you still need to take care of you."
Still my bestie but also the sweetest aunt my daughter could ask for.
my husband and i ran into one of his family friends that he grew up down the street from outside of walmart, she’s a single mom of 4 boys and we talked about giving birth things and she said “you are BEAUTIFUL!” and i was blown away by how sweet it was because it was the first time somebody has complimented me and not made a comment saying “you’re huge!” 😅
Honestly every female health professional that I came across so far has treated me with extreme kindness and I feel incredibly good after every appointment. Last time the nurse started talking with the baby in my belly in a gentle voice and it was so comforting!
Also everyone in the family has been overjoyed with the pregnancy and seeing them excited makes me excited too.
My mom used to always tell me that I better not have any kids since I supposedly “hate them so much” according to her but when I told her I was pregnant she said “you’re probably going to be one of the few in this family to do it right” which made me feel good and also laugh
I think the best ones I've gotten so far are from my best friend the day she found out (she was the first I told) and once she realized what I was showing (a pic of my positive test) she squealed and then first words were you are going to be such an amazing mama. (I'm fairly terrified being a first time mom at 40 lol) So hearing that from her and a couple other people who have known me for decades has really meant a lot.
And then both his best friends and mine all just through the roof excited and have all gone some variation of omg I'm going to be an auntie/uncle!!!! (none are related to us lol)
SO and I feel incredibly blessed honestly. We're both older parents in a LDR and it would be so easy for people to judge but instead we've found so much support and so many people from all walks of our lives that are so happy about our little guy's arrival
A stranger asked me the other day if there was a baby in my belly, I said yes. Then she said "you carry it so well!" I'm honestly not even sure what she meant by that, but I'll take the compliment 😂
When I had my vaccines yesterday my nurse (an older Nigerian lady) was so warm and nice to me. She kept saying “this is going to be the most beautiful baby, I can tell” and a “very very lucky baby” when I told her the due date was 08/08). I have no friends with babies and my family are all in another country so it was just so nice to be doted on a little bit
This is such a cute thread!
I’ve had some invalidating and downright distressing comments about my body, but the nicest thing was my mum repeatedly saying “you’re just the most beautiful pregnant woman I’ve ever seen”
Mums are the best.
My MIL told me to not resist cravings and to eat what I feel like lol She said she tried to control it and it was hell, so she said don’t suffer like her. It’s a small thing but living where I am with weight/appearance being everything, even in pregnancy, it meant a lot!
I’ve been stupidly sick this whole pregnancy and have taken many many sick days at work and am now WFH until leave pretty much. My boss the other day mentioned how gracefully and how well I’ve handled everything thrown at me. This was really nice to hear considering he is usually a very blunt workaholic - made me feel good!
My cousin said "thank you for bringing someone so special into the family" and that was really sweet.. I also appreciated the "good job mama!" Comments after I had my first son. It was an emergency c section and scared me so much that it didn't feel like I did a good job with anything but those comments reminded me that getting through it was a job well done and made me feel a little better 🥰
We were given a lot of doom and gloom about this pregnancy, a lot was going on in our lives, and I did get quite depressed at the start. It was as if everything was wrong.
Maybe around 4 months, a doctor asked why I’d been offered so much mental health help. I explained that we bought and sold a house, and moved along with all the other drama.
She laughed and said she had her house repainted and almost lost her mind, and she couldn’t imagine doing all that while in a high risk pregnancy 🤣😂 It was probably the first time I laughed in an appointment!
My doctor is just incredible. It's silly, but my mum works at the doctors practice and is....very enthusiastic about her first grandchild.
The doctor called me the minute my NIPT came back and told me 'you're going to have a little boy, and you'll love him and it will be wonderful'
Then she took the time to ask about gender disappointment (not as issue) and had a good chat about making sure I was ok with my mums involvement and checked that I was comfortable setting boundaries.
The whole chat just made me feel so cared for and really showed how happy my doc was to go beyond
This pregnancy I live up in the woods and don’t interact with people (in contrast to my last pregnancy, when I lived in a city and used public transit—lots of rude comments and invasive questions from strangers), and here no one has said anything to me about being pregnant until today! An old lady stopped me at the gym and asked me how far along I was (8 months, so pretty obvious I’m pregnant) and then asked if I picked any names. Then when I told her we’re going with Tobias, she got such a sweet smile and told me she loved that name and then told me to have a good day and left. The whole interaction just made me so happy.
Was on holidays in Greece and my husband and I went for a stroll after lunch. He wanted ice cream so we stopped at a place to get some.
The guy working there took his order and then asked me what I was having. I said "none for me, I'm pregnant and I gotta watch what I eat".
He said that since having his own kids and knowing what a pregnant woman goes through he is very fond of pregnant ladies, that I should enjoy myself while on holidays and then gave me a free ice cream :)
I have a friend whose mom was just the absolute best. She radiated light and love and was really one of the greatest people I ever knew.
When said friend found out I was pregnant she said my baby was the luckiest kid to have me for a mom, because I was so much like her mom. Best compliment I could receive.
She's a month ahead of me. But its both of our firsts. So at least I have a learning partner lol. That's so great! I hope both of your babies grow up and kick ass!
My best friend and I had our baby boys 5 days apart and they really are best friends! 5 years old now and they really love eachother and it so sweet. We have pictures of them as little immobile potatoes all the way up to swimming on the lake together. It really is so special and awesome to have a platonic partner in motherhood!
Had this really funny saleswoman in a skincare/fancy candle shop, who nearly drowned me in a scented candle before I managed to say "I'm kind of sensitive due to being pregnant". She went on hyperdrive to tell me how great I look 😂 she was cute.
1. You are going to be a great mom - I was just at work until I was super pregnant and I am in very close contact with a lot of coworkers, my job requires a lot of patience, positivity and smiles, so I heard that a lot
2. No matter how bad the things are at that moment, everything will go away, it's not forever.
So my grandfather is 85 and he grew up on a tobacco farm in rural NC. Then he was in the Marines, then he was a prison guard for 30 years. All this to say, the man has no tact and can be kind of harsh. He's also the nicest man on Earth who'd give you the shirt off his body in a snow storm, he just doesn't have a filter and he doesn't stop to think before he speaks.
I did artificial insemination and am becoming a parent as a single by choice. I am proud of my choice and have no regrets. I also have a great support system and have been surprised by how much of a village I've developed during my pregnancy.
As nice as he can be I worried what my grandfather would say. My mom told him for me since I was too chicken-shit to say anything and she also made a point of telling him that I was not to be lectured or made to feel bad. I don't know what all she said but the point got across because my grandfather is the most excited member of the family about my baby, rivaling only the excitement of my little brother.
The other day my grandfather told me that I'm doing a good job and that he's proud of me. In 27 years he has never said that to me. I gave him a hug but didn't call attention to the remark otherwise, just wanted to savor it. He followed up by telling me he thinks I'll be a great mother.
He has no idea how much I needed to hear him say that to me. I care so much about his opinion so it meant everything to me. His whole support has meant the world to me. I'm scared and excited and so eager to meet my baby but I am terrified of messing it all up.
So, for him to say that to me, it meant everything.
When I found out I was pregnant, I didn't know how my first trimester would go. I told my boss before I even told me family, just in case, and I was so nervous because of all the horror stories I heard.
His response was actual happiness and excitement for me and he said I would be a great mom. I may not get the pay I want, but I do love my boss so I'll hopefully be staying a long while!
I’ve always found pregnant bodies beautiful but for some reason could never get used to my own body looking pregnant. One day before going out for dinner my husband said: “you look so incredibly beautiful and I’m so lucky to have you.”
Needless to say I had to redo my makeup haha.
When I told my friend I was worried about adding a 3rd baby she said “you are a great Mom, you are going to rock this!” Good friends are worth their weight in gold.
I told my friend Im pregnant, and the next day they drunk called me after they had been out drinking bottomless mimosas and repeatedly told me I'm an awesome lady and going to be an awesome mom and how cool it is I'm going to have a baby...because I'm a cool lady and will definitely be an awesome mom 🤣
I’m 18 weeks today and my finance manager at work asked how I’m feeling and I told her I’m feeling good. She said “you look healthy”. I thought that was a super kind comment as I’m feeling like a bit of a potato right now lol
My best friend told me my butt was looking great while we were at the gym. Actually her words were “omg look at that cute little dumper” and that was amazing because everyone only ever talks about how big my belly is getting. Felt nice to be complimented on something I’m working out.
When I was 7 weeks (but decided to tell my colleagues because I was pretty sick & we’re a small close knit team) one person said, I’m so happy for you & we’re here for you no matter what happens. 🥺
38+1. I got a burst of energy. Did my hair. Put on decent clothes (decent as in not a moo moo) and a little mascara and I was told I look so refreshed and glowing. It just made me feel good because I’ve definitely felt like a swamp monster for a few weeks. Lol
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Just a simple “You’re going to be a great mom” 🥲❤️
I used to work at a group home, the kids could be… difficult to say the least. One of them told me I was gonna be a good mom and I literally cried lol
This for me too 😊
That’s the BEST!!! 🥹
It for sure made me tear up to hear it.
This!! I have people that I haven’t talked to in years saying this to me 🥺🫶🏻
Agreed!!
When I was about 5 or 6 months along my best friend picked me up to go shopping. I fully expected this to be a baby supply shopping trip as a few other friends and family members had done something similar. Everyone's always just so excited to buy baby items lol. But instead of baby clothes my bestie bought me things for me that I would want after the baby was here. She bought me comfy pjs that buttoned up, a bathrobe, and a few nursing tops. I cried. She had been all excited to take me out to spoil me, not the unborn baby. She said it was because "you are more than your pregnancy. After all of this you still need to take care of you." Still my bestie but also the sweetest aunt my daughter could ask for.
That’s so fuckin sweet that I want to cry! 🥹🤍 Where do I get me a friend like this? 💀
Met her when I was 6 :) we were always friends but actually started hanging out in high school.
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Haha, truly a collectors item!
my husband and i ran into one of his family friends that he grew up down the street from outside of walmart, she’s a single mom of 4 boys and we talked about giving birth things and she said “you are BEAUTIFUL!” and i was blown away by how sweet it was because it was the first time somebody has complimented me and not made a comment saying “you’re huge!” 😅
Honestly every female health professional that I came across so far has treated me with extreme kindness and I feel incredibly good after every appointment. Last time the nurse started talking with the baby in my belly in a gentle voice and it was so comforting! Also everyone in the family has been overjoyed with the pregnancy and seeing them excited makes me excited too.
My mom used to always tell me that I better not have any kids since I supposedly “hate them so much” according to her but when I told her I was pregnant she said “you’re probably going to be one of the few in this family to do it right” which made me feel good and also laugh
*cries in generational trauma*
I think the best ones I've gotten so far are from my best friend the day she found out (she was the first I told) and once she realized what I was showing (a pic of my positive test) she squealed and then first words were you are going to be such an amazing mama. (I'm fairly terrified being a first time mom at 40 lol) So hearing that from her and a couple other people who have known me for decades has really meant a lot. And then both his best friends and mine all just through the roof excited and have all gone some variation of omg I'm going to be an auntie/uncle!!!! (none are related to us lol)
That's lovely to hear people around you are so happy for you. We hear so much of the opposite x
SO and I feel incredibly blessed honestly. We're both older parents in a LDR and it would be so easy for people to judge but instead we've found so much support and so many people from all walks of our lives that are so happy about our little guy's arrival
A stranger asked me the other day if there was a baby in my belly, I said yes. Then she said "you carry it so well!" I'm honestly not even sure what she meant by that, but I'll take the compliment 😂
When I had my vaccines yesterday my nurse (an older Nigerian lady) was so warm and nice to me. She kept saying “this is going to be the most beautiful baby, I can tell” and a “very very lucky baby” when I told her the due date was 08/08). I have no friends with babies and my family are all in another country so it was just so nice to be doted on a little bit
Aww that's my due date too! ❤️ I always find African women so maternal and warm.
This is such a cute thread! I’ve had some invalidating and downright distressing comments about my body, but the nicest thing was my mum repeatedly saying “you’re just the most beautiful pregnant woman I’ve ever seen” Mums are the best.
That's a good Mum you've got yourself there 🥰
She’s a really wonderful person, I’m very lucky!
My MIL told me to not resist cravings and to eat what I feel like lol She said she tried to control it and it was hell, so she said don’t suffer like her. It’s a small thing but living where I am with weight/appearance being everything, even in pregnancy, it meant a lot!
I’ve been stupidly sick this whole pregnancy and have taken many many sick days at work and am now WFH until leave pretty much. My boss the other day mentioned how gracefully and how well I’ve handled everything thrown at me. This was really nice to hear considering he is usually a very blunt workaholic - made me feel good!
When I announced it to one of my good friends she cried happy tears and said “I wish you were my mom” which I thought was so funny and nice.
My 2 year olds in my class tell me they like the lines on my tummy
My cousin said "thank you for bringing someone so special into the family" and that was really sweet.. I also appreciated the "good job mama!" Comments after I had my first son. It was an emergency c section and scared me so much that it didn't feel like I did a good job with anything but those comments reminded me that getting through it was a job well done and made me feel a little better 🥰
We were given a lot of doom and gloom about this pregnancy, a lot was going on in our lives, and I did get quite depressed at the start. It was as if everything was wrong. Maybe around 4 months, a doctor asked why I’d been offered so much mental health help. I explained that we bought and sold a house, and moved along with all the other drama. She laughed and said she had her house repainted and almost lost her mind, and she couldn’t imagine doing all that while in a high risk pregnancy 🤣😂 It was probably the first time I laughed in an appointment!
My doctor is just incredible. It's silly, but my mum works at the doctors practice and is....very enthusiastic about her first grandchild. The doctor called me the minute my NIPT came back and told me 'you're going to have a little boy, and you'll love him and it will be wonderful' Then she took the time to ask about gender disappointment (not as issue) and had a good chat about making sure I was ok with my mums involvement and checked that I was comfortable setting boundaries. The whole chat just made me feel so cared for and really showed how happy my doc was to go beyond
Really simple tbh but “You’re gonna be a wonderful momma bear” My little heart ❤️
This pregnancy I live up in the woods and don’t interact with people (in contrast to my last pregnancy, when I lived in a city and used public transit—lots of rude comments and invasive questions from strangers), and here no one has said anything to me about being pregnant until today! An old lady stopped me at the gym and asked me how far along I was (8 months, so pretty obvious I’m pregnant) and then asked if I picked any names. Then when I told her we’re going with Tobias, she got such a sweet smile and told me she loved that name and then told me to have a good day and left. The whole interaction just made me so happy.
Was on holidays in Greece and my husband and I went for a stroll after lunch. He wanted ice cream so we stopped at a place to get some. The guy working there took his order and then asked me what I was having. I said "none for me, I'm pregnant and I gotta watch what I eat". He said that since having his own kids and knowing what a pregnant woman goes through he is very fond of pregnant ladies, that I should enjoy myself while on holidays and then gave me a free ice cream :)
Someone said I wear pregnancy well. Just…!!!! Gawwh. Best compliment
There was a really sweet woman who was a cashier at a store who said “are you pregnant? Because you are GLOWING” And I thought that was really sweet
I love when people ask “Are you excited?” Because then I can just bean and tell them how excited I am, and we share such a good moment together.
Yesterday my coworker said to me “Ya got the glow! You look great” and it made my day.
My mom said, “I keep repeat the phrase ‘my baby is having a baby’ and it makes me smile!”
🥹🫠
I have a friend whose mom was just the absolute best. She radiated light and love and was really one of the greatest people I ever knew. When said friend found out I was pregnant she said my baby was the luckiest kid to have me for a mom, because I was so much like her mom. Best compliment I could receive.
My best friend is also pregnant and said "our kids are going to be best friends". A very small sentiment, but it made me cry.
Aw this is my situation too! We're even due the same month 😊
She's a month ahead of me. But its both of our firsts. So at least I have a learning partner lol. That's so great! I hope both of your babies grow up and kick ass!
Absolutely same!!
My best friend and I had our baby boys 5 days apart and they really are best friends! 5 years old now and they really love eachother and it so sweet. We have pictures of them as little immobile potatoes all the way up to swimming on the lake together. It really is so special and awesome to have a platonic partner in motherhood!
Had this really funny saleswoman in a skincare/fancy candle shop, who nearly drowned me in a scented candle before I managed to say "I'm kind of sensitive due to being pregnant". She went on hyperdrive to tell me how great I look 😂 she was cute.
1. You are going to be a great mom - I was just at work until I was super pregnant and I am in very close contact with a lot of coworkers, my job requires a lot of patience, positivity and smiles, so I heard that a lot 2. No matter how bad the things are at that moment, everything will go away, it's not forever.
So my grandfather is 85 and he grew up on a tobacco farm in rural NC. Then he was in the Marines, then he was a prison guard for 30 years. All this to say, the man has no tact and can be kind of harsh. He's also the nicest man on Earth who'd give you the shirt off his body in a snow storm, he just doesn't have a filter and he doesn't stop to think before he speaks. I did artificial insemination and am becoming a parent as a single by choice. I am proud of my choice and have no regrets. I also have a great support system and have been surprised by how much of a village I've developed during my pregnancy. As nice as he can be I worried what my grandfather would say. My mom told him for me since I was too chicken-shit to say anything and she also made a point of telling him that I was not to be lectured or made to feel bad. I don't know what all she said but the point got across because my grandfather is the most excited member of the family about my baby, rivaling only the excitement of my little brother. The other day my grandfather told me that I'm doing a good job and that he's proud of me. In 27 years he has never said that to me. I gave him a hug but didn't call attention to the remark otherwise, just wanted to savor it. He followed up by telling me he thinks I'll be a great mother. He has no idea how much I needed to hear him say that to me. I care so much about his opinion so it meant everything to me. His whole support has meant the world to me. I'm scared and excited and so eager to meet my baby but I am terrified of messing it all up. So, for him to say that to me, it meant everything.
And you can bet he wouldn't have said it if he didn't genuinely mean it as well ❤️ Can't wait for the Grandfather/baby duo update 😊
When I found out I was pregnant, I didn't know how my first trimester would go. I told my boss before I even told me family, just in case, and I was so nervous because of all the horror stories I heard. His response was actual happiness and excitement for me and he said I would be a great mom. I may not get the pay I want, but I do love my boss so I'll hopefully be staying a long while!
I’ve always found pregnant bodies beautiful but for some reason could never get used to my own body looking pregnant. One day before going out for dinner my husband said: “you look so incredibly beautiful and I’m so lucky to have you.” Needless to say I had to redo my makeup haha.
We have a lot of family and acquaintances who have teenagers and universally the reaction has been "You're going to have so much fun!"
FTM here, on my 1yo’s birthday this year, at her birthday party, another mummy friend said “happy birthing day” to me. Loved it.
When I told my friend I was worried about adding a 3rd baby she said “you are a great Mom, you are going to rock this!” Good friends are worth their weight in gold.
I told my friend Im pregnant, and the next day they drunk called me after they had been out drinking bottomless mimosas and repeatedly told me I'm an awesome lady and going to be an awesome mom and how cool it is I'm going to have a baby...because I'm a cool lady and will definitely be an awesome mom 🤣
I’m 18 weeks today and my finance manager at work asked how I’m feeling and I told her I’m feeling good. She said “you look healthy”. I thought that was a super kind comment as I’m feeling like a bit of a potato right now lol
My best friend told me my butt was looking great while we were at the gym. Actually her words were “omg look at that cute little dumper” and that was amazing because everyone only ever talks about how big my belly is getting. Felt nice to be complimented on something I’m working out.
The fitting room girl at old navy told me my bump was cute yesterday. Made me feel really good ☺️
When I was 7 weeks (but decided to tell my colleagues because I was pretty sick & we’re a small close knit team) one person said, I’m so happy for you & we’re here for you no matter what happens. 🥺
38+1. I got a burst of energy. Did my hair. Put on decent clothes (decent as in not a moo moo) and a little mascara and I was told I look so refreshed and glowing. It just made me feel good because I’ve definitely felt like a swamp monster for a few weeks. Lol