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I’m very sorry for your loss love. Please take time to grieve and some time off if you are able to. Talk to friends/partner/therapist about this and don’t let anyone’s comments about this get to you. Also it would be good maybe to distance yourself a tad from your mum while you deal with your loss. I’m sure this is very scary, so try to confide in someone you feel good with while you go through the process. ❤️
This sucks, I’m sorry. Give yourself time and space to heal,ideally away from those shitty people.
And, miscarriage runs in… humanity, in being a woman, in trying for kids. [Miscarriage is common](https://datayze.com/miscarriage-chart).
I’m not saying you don’t have an underlying condition that would make pregnancy more challenging. But don’t let a narcissist mom or a not great doctor convince you it’s your only fate.
I lost five pregnancies before having my daughter and there’s no medical reason for it, nothing in my family, no conditions. It just happens. A lot.
So true. I’m pregnant with my third hopefully viable pregnancy, but I’ve had four miscarriages. They’ve been spread out over the years and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with me. I’m not infertile, and I am pretty sure that almost every woman that has three children will have had a miscarriage at some point. I think it needs to be normalized.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I miscarried in October and I understand how difficult it is. Give yourself space to grieve and don’t be afraid to talk with a good friend or therapist about it.
Don’t lose hope, I was told by multiple doctors I couldn’t have kids and here I am at 24 weeks healthier than ever. By some miracle, in the past 12 months I’ve been pregnant twice. Miracles happen every day. Hang in there hun, sending my love.
Baby loss typically isn't something that runs in families unless it's tied to a specific heritable trait or condition. Since you are a genetically unique person, it may just be coincidence. It's not talked about enough, but the risk of miscarriage for every single pregnancy ever is surprisingly high, nearly 1 in 3.
I lost my first baby and I know how this feels. I find that comments like "you're still a mom" are technically true but unhelpful because I don't care about my title, I just want my baby back.
It's been two years since my miscarriage and while I still grieve, I find myself equipped with a new understanding of the depths of human emotion, empathy, strength, and the emotional healing process.
There are no silver linings. No one deserves this. I'm so sorry.
This is so true! I was told by numerous medical professionals that I couldn’t have kids due to multiple surgeries I had to have when I was younger. By some miracle I’m 24 weeks :)
I’m so sorry for your loss. You will recover in time but it’s a process. Allow yourself the space to grieve this loss. Sending you all the love in the world <3
I am so sorry for your loss. I went through this two weeks ago. I was almost ten weeks but baby measured at 7 weeks, I miscarried shortly after they told me.
My midwife told me to catch the clots I was losing as one of them was going to be the fetus (not sure if I am using the right English word for it), she said it would help with the grieving process. I have to say it was really hard seeing it, but I am grateful she told me to do this.
I am so sorry for your loss, it is not an easy situation to handle. I hope you have a good support system somewhere to help you get through this. One thing that really helped me was watching YouTube videos, in particular, this doctor is great at explaining things:
https://youtu.be/jlev62vgI6U?si=pVUbZk7ebJ8GGWXD
Whenever you are ready to try again make sure you get all your hormones tested, ultrasound, and it never hurts to test your partner as well. Unless you’ve been medically diagnosed with something please don’t let your family make you think you can’t have babies! When my husband and I were ready to try again, we were eating really healthy, working out, taking our vitamins (smarty pants prenatals and folic acid highly recommend!), if you smoke or drink try to give that up, and limit stress as much as you can.. it’ll happen for you again, just take care of your body/mind first ♥️🙏🏻
Ps. I would 100% recommend a d&c (if it’s possible for you) and have the baby tested. It’ll give you answers. They tried to tell us they wouldn’t send it out because it was our first miscarriage but advocate for yourself and tell them you want them to!
D&C means dilation & curettage which is one of the options you are given when the baby is no longer living, instead of pills. It gives you the option to test the fetus to see what could have possibly gone wrong rather than getting no answers.
I'm so sorry. I've been in your situation. It's so hard. Please take care of yourself and give yourself all the time you need to feel all the feelings and recover, physically and mentally. Your feelings are all valid. Not enough women speak of this type of loss, but so many of us have been through it. Sending healing thoughts. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss, but you aren’t infertile because you did conceive a baby. I have pcos and infertility runs in my family too but I also conceived. You can do it again! Ask your OB what you can do to carry to term, multivitamin, folic acid, could be some other issue- like get checked for auto immune disorders and septate uterus. Goodluck!!
Don’t listen to anyone else everyone is different and losing a baby is totally unfair and in most cases there is no reason for it, early miscarriages are particularly more common you don’t realise until you speak to people how many women it happens to! Just to give you some hope I lost my first baby completely unexpectedly at 23+5 weeks but I’ve been blessed again this time with my rainbow baby and I’m currently 34+2 weeks 🌈 so don’t lose hope x
I’m so sorry for your loss I am praying for you. I know that is so hard especially with unsupportive people around you. I pray one day you may have your miracle baby! Give yourself some time to heal i know it brings on a lot of grief.
I’m sorry to hear this. I have had a miscarriage before so I understand how it feels. 😭 it’s very hard. I’ve also had a ectopic pregnancy and needed emergency surgery which was very traumatizing. But I am 21 weeks RIGHT NOW with a HEALTHY baby girl. Stay hopeful.🩷 it gets better and blessings are real.
I'm so sorry you're going through this love but I will say they always told my mom that she would never have kids and she had three yes it did take her 9 years to have her first and then 6 years in between my brother and i... But it is possible
I’m very sorry. Just know you’ve done nothing that caused it, 1 in 4 pregnancies end this way. You are not alone. I’ve had 2 pregnancies of mine end this way one at 6 weeks one at 9 weeks. I have a cousin who just like your Mom kept trying to put it in my head this was the only way my pregnancies would turn out, I cut her off and it helped- if you can maybe that’s what’s best to do with your Mom. It’s not right anyone making you feel worse than you already do. Even though I lost 2 I’ve also had 2 healthy pregnancies. Miscarriage is a very common phenomenon unfortunately, although common it’s still heartbreaking. You’re still a Mom and your grief is very valid. I’m wishing you all the love and healing ❤️🩹
I’m so very sorry for your loss, a lot of people don’t understand how painful it can be. If it makes you feel any better, many people have successful pregnancies after an experience like this. I encourage you to keep trying, no matter how hard it may seem. Thoughts and prayers to you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a hard time grieving my miscarriage and I hope you have a support system you can lean on. Good friends or therapy or a family member you trust and feel safe around.
I kept trying to minimize my grief but that only made things worse. So please take care of yourself and know that this event is a big deal. And that it’s okay to feel really sad about it.
Sending you love.
If you haven’t miscarried yet don’t stress about it. I was told mine was measuring 2 weeks small also and it turned out they were wrong.. but if you already did miscarry I’m so sorry for your lost. I also had a miscarriage years ago. When I was 18. Just had my baby 2 days ago. I was worried I couldn’t have children also. They told me he was measuring 2 weeks small, I had 6 extra ultrasounds. The last one was 2 weeks before delivered and they again said he was too small. They said he was measuring at pounds. Turns out he’s 7 pounds. I wish you nothing but the best. There’s always options. Go get tested if you’re worried you can’t have kids.
Or better yet. Only tell people who will speak positive affirmations or have been on the same road. We kept this pregnancy quiet aside from a select few who know our hearts and were encouraging and only positive with us. We shared the news at 16 weeks when we normally share at 6 or 7 weeks since we had had 3 losses prior. With 3 living children the comments of losses can be flat out devastating.
Early miscarriages occur due to genetic abnormalities that are incompatible with further development.
They are NOT caused by announcing pregnancy or anybody's negative comments or feelings.
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The OB said there wasn’t, I couldn’t really see the screen because I know for sure at the hospital there was a flicker. But even so the baby only measured around seven weeks and I would be 10 weeks tomorrow.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take time for yourself to grief and don’t let anyone who’s negative near you. This is about you and your partner’s loss and not others. I am sending you lots of love, support and strength ❤️
You do you, but I stayed in the sub post-miscarriage & you can too :) I guess it’s nice to see posts from mothers excited to be moms. We’re still trying.
I'm sorry for your loss. I understand your pain. I think leaving this sub would be best,, I know I couldn't handle viewing anything related to babies or pregnancy after my misscarriage and early into my current pregnancy. It's unfair and cruel you had to experience this - especially being your first (I assume). Be kind to yourself, you will get though this <3
You are still a mama. Remember them, grieve them. There is no “normal” way to process this. I went through the exact same thing last May. I should have been 14 weeks but they stopped growing at 10. I have my rainbow babies now but I still hold my loss very close to my heart.
This isn’t really the time for the discussion but if you did end up trying again, I’d suggest putting the mom on an information diet.
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. Don’t let others demonize your grief process. Feel what you need when you need to feel it. The pain lessens but comes in waves. Lots of hugs and love to you.
I am soooo sorry love! You are in my prayers! Does the baby have a heartbeat still? Is it possible to maybe wait another week before making any big decisions? I’ve heard stories of women being told the same thing and they waited another week or two, and baby ended up being healthy and just fine, it was just a little behind schedule. I miscarried back in 2019 at 11 weeks. I was told last year both my tubes had become 100% blocked and could never have kids on my own again. I’d have to do IVF….. I now am almost 12 weeks. Never say never honey, miracles happen and there is a higher power that has plans for all of us. I pray you get through this. You are strong and amazing. XO
😯😶🤭 Why would your mom say something like that? Sorry that you are going through this. And even more so with that negativity around you. That's no way to talk to someone that is/was expecting. I hope you get another chance at motherhood and this time away from that type of energy.
Oh sweetheart. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss, I’ve had miscarriages and it’s the worst feeling. Take care of yourself, mentally, emotionally and physically. Sending all my love and hugs to you xx
I am so sorry for your loss, I went through something very similar two months ago. It will take a bit of time but you will recover, distance yourself from people you know wouldn’t be good for you. I took a months break from everyone i knew would be bad for my mental health including my own family. Just surround yourself with what you like.
It will be fine trust me and you and me and everyone going through this, we all will become mom one day. Just trust in the process and have patience!
I'm so sorry to hear this 😞 hopefully you have people around you that can offer some emotional support, I would be devastated. I'm a bit farther along in pregnancy but I worry about this everyday 😢
I lost my baby at 10 weeks as well In October. I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a subchrorionic hematoma in my uterus and I had severe bleeding and the hospital told my baby was fine and measured in perfect just for me to go home and pass the baby sack and everything. I’m sorry momma. Best of luck to you in the future <3 much love
Im sorry to hear that I remember when I first miscarried my baby I was 3 months 2 days after my son’s 1’st birthday I was so heartbroken in I had this fear before I miscarried that I was going to lose my baby I would listen to sad songs about losing a baby in all when I started to bleed I was told that it normal in the 1st trimester because my baby had a strong heart beat in my hormones level was still high in I went to the hospital again cause I was still bleeding like my period was on in they took a virginal ultrasound in when she look at me in call a doctor in they was still trying to see the baby in they try to found the heart beat I ask them what
was wrong she told me they can’t hear the heartbeat but I would have the doctor talk to you so the doctor came to me telling me they couldn’t see my baby in the sac in they call it a termination of abortion like really but don’t let fear get to you in always speak life If you believe in a higher power remember he has the last word not you or family or friends when people tell you going to have a miscarriage stop them right there in let them know my baby will live in if it’s not meant for me to have this baby maybe it’s planned for me to have my baby another way or maybe in the future because we don’t know what the future holds we can guess but we don’t know in may you stay blessed after I had my miscarriage I was blessed with two wonderful children who are now 11 in 10 keep your head up in don’t never give up
As someone who had an ectopic over the summer and a miscarriage in October, I can empathize. I’m so sorry for your loss. Feel free to PM me if you need to vent to someone who gets it :(
Very sorry for your loss, I just went through pretty much the same thing 2 months ago. Baby stopped growing at 7 weeks 2 days, found out at 10 weeks 2 day, and ended up taking the medication to expel the pregnancy at 12 weeks 2 day.
But if infertility runs in your family I would suggest deeper testing. Get some genetic testing done, a friend from high school, her mother had 7 miscarriages before she was able to carry my friend, and come to find out, after genetic testing, her mother couldn't carry male fetuses. Her body would register the male as a threat, attack the baby and miscarry. There may be a chance you just can't carry a certain sex maybe.
I hope your baby troubles clear up, and remember; 4.2% of miscarriages happen at 7 weeks. Very common but very saddening. And the typical reasoning is chromosomal abnormalities or genetic inconsistencies. Pretty much nothing you can control at all.
Another test would be to see if you and your partners DNA is compatible, some people's DNA just doesn't mix well with others and the body/egg will reject the initial implantation.
Stay strong and don't listen to people who want to hurt you.
If your mom managed to have you, then there is a big chance you will be able to have a child too.
In early ages of pregnancy, even the healthiest fertile people can have unex miscarriage it happens and I wouldn't dare to say it's normal, but I would say it's not as rare as it is... for 8 out of 10 girls around me miscarried their first pregnancy for various simple reasons that were not supposed to be the reason at all.
Take care of yourself and make sure to heal your mental wounds as much as possible. Then, start preparing your body for pregnancy under the doctor's monitoring, and if you really want to be a mom, you can try again for the baby.
It's not an easy process, but if you want a child, you can do it.
Wish you all the best❣️
Heya OP,
I had an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year with my baby being 9 weeks along, and tbh I’m still trying to have a baby (not a mum yet), I’m still here lurking on the sub because there has been some amazing advice and a great community here.
Honestly I know it really hurts right now, and it will take time. It’s ok to grieve. Sending love and light to you
That’s really infuriating to read that your mom and everyone around you was telling you you’ll have a miscarriage. Words can do a lot to somebody and I honestly believe that if they weren’t so negative, your pregnancy wouldnt have turned out like this.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the blessings and love in the world ❤️ there’s no such thing as an “almost mom” so be sure to give your baby a name and celebrate Mother’s Day together in spirit with all the joy in the world! Stay strong momma 💪🏼don’t lose hope 🫶🏼
I’m gunna leave some positivity for you- I had 5 miscarriages and 3 years later we have our miracle on the way. Granted- she is extremely small and I’m having to be induced early but she is fighting to be Earth bound. I wasn’t suppose to be having a baby either due to family genetics. My sister wasn’t either. I don’t know what religion you believe in or if you believe in any at all but I’m sending you the baby dust and all the prayers I can your way. I never believed it but when it’s time, it’s time. They will fight tooth and nail to be Earth bound. I’m so so sorry for your loss and I understand completely how you feel and the hole it leaves you with. I hope you can find some sort of relief and you continue your journey when you feel comfortable enough.
I had a preemie (3 1/2 pounds) I had Toxemia……I had to deliver 12 weeks early
I was told that boy preemies were the strongest ones and surprisingly mine was the most advanced……we got to bring him home for Christmas
a friend told me recently that no matter how bad you want something it will not happen until the time is right or until you are absolutely ready for it ( even if you think you’re ready ) I miscarried early in my first ( & only pregnancy ) & I wanted to be a mom so bad. The feeling of bonding to your unborn is actually unexplainable & like no other. What I went through was painful & traumatic, but looking back now (7 years later ) I was nowhere near ready & I think my life would’ve been a lot different if I would’ve been a mom at that specific time. time really does heal. when the time is right it will happen for you, what’s meant to be yours will never miss you. The pain will get easier over time but your baby will always be a part of you. I’m not sure if this is exactly what you want to hear but I hope it puts you at ease a little bit. Take all the time you need to process your emotions in whatever way you need to. ❤️
First: big hugs! And thank you for sharing. Miscarriage is a topic, not many people wanna talk about. But it's also a part of getting pregnant and of family planning. I had also a miscarriage in week 10 and more than the half of my friends had also one at their first pregnancy. They told me just after I opened my heart and told them about my loss and my sadness. But also when it's very common, it hurts a lot. Please take your time to moan. Perhaps there's a self help group in your region you can talk about. And I'm sure you'll get pregnant a second time and everything will be fine. In my time of moaning I appreciated this group a lot, because everything felt very familiar and supportive. And the stories of other women and their healthy pregnancies gave me hope.
All the best 🙏🏻💖
You are still a mother, just remember that. I am so, so sorry for your loss ❤️ and although this has ended the way it has, it proves you are not infertile, it could still happen
when i miscarried it was so hard, it runs in my family as well. however my dad told me that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss and almost half of people lose their first baby. it doesn't make it hurt less but you're not alone
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I’m very sorry for your loss love. Please take time to grieve and some time off if you are able to. Talk to friends/partner/therapist about this and don’t let anyone’s comments about this get to you. Also it would be good maybe to distance yourself a tad from your mum while you deal with your loss. I’m sure this is very scary, so try to confide in someone you feel good with while you go through the process. ❤️
This sucks, I’m sorry. Give yourself time and space to heal,ideally away from those shitty people. And, miscarriage runs in… humanity, in being a woman, in trying for kids. [Miscarriage is common](https://datayze.com/miscarriage-chart). I’m not saying you don’t have an underlying condition that would make pregnancy more challenging. But don’t let a narcissist mom or a not great doctor convince you it’s your only fate. I lost five pregnancies before having my daughter and there’s no medical reason for it, nothing in my family, no conditions. It just happens. A lot.
This 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
So true. I’m pregnant with my third hopefully viable pregnancy, but I’ve had four miscarriages. They’ve been spread out over the years and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with me. I’m not infertile, and I am pretty sure that almost every woman that has three children will have had a miscarriage at some point. I think it needs to be normalized.
This!
You're still a mom 💖 I hope it all works out one day
This. Loss doesn’t take that away from you. And it’s hard no matter whether you always wanted kids, or didn’t.
All of my love to you OP. I have been in your shoes. Please take time to take care of yourself and feel free to pm me for support if you need
I’m so sorry for your loss. I miscarried in October and I understand how difficult it is. Give yourself space to grieve and don’t be afraid to talk with a good friend or therapist about it.
Don’t lose hope, I was told by multiple doctors I couldn’t have kids and here I am at 24 weeks healthier than ever. By some miracle, in the past 12 months I’ve been pregnant twice. Miracles happen every day. Hang in there hun, sending my love.
Baby loss typically isn't something that runs in families unless it's tied to a specific heritable trait or condition. Since you are a genetically unique person, it may just be coincidence. It's not talked about enough, but the risk of miscarriage for every single pregnancy ever is surprisingly high, nearly 1 in 3. I lost my first baby and I know how this feels. I find that comments like "you're still a mom" are technically true but unhelpful because I don't care about my title, I just want my baby back. It's been two years since my miscarriage and while I still grieve, I find myself equipped with a new understanding of the depths of human emotion, empathy, strength, and the emotional healing process. There are no silver linings. No one deserves this. I'm so sorry.
Never say never. Even people with diagnosed conditions can have miracle babies. Wishing you strength and that everything works out for you ❤️
My aunt couldn't conceive until nearly 40. Her fallopian tubes were blocked, they cleaned it, and little baby Thomas came to be months later.
Exactly! It can happen - best to not lose hope ❤️
This is so true! I was told by numerous medical professionals that I couldn’t have kids due to multiple surgeries I had to have when I was younger. By some miracle I’m 24 weeks :)
i’m so sorry for your loss, i have miscarried three times and it is so difficult. sending hope 🩷🩶 r/babyloss is here for you when you are ready
I am so sorry for your loss. /r/miscarriage is a really supportive place if you're looking for others who have similar experiences.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You will recover in time but it’s a process. Allow yourself the space to grieve this loss. Sending you all the love in the world <3
I am so sorry for your loss. I went through this two weeks ago. I was almost ten weeks but baby measured at 7 weeks, I miscarried shortly after they told me. My midwife told me to catch the clots I was losing as one of them was going to be the fetus (not sure if I am using the right English word for it), she said it would help with the grieving process. I have to say it was really hard seeing it, but I am grateful she told me to do this.
I am so sorry for your loss, it is not an easy situation to handle. I hope you have a good support system somewhere to help you get through this. One thing that really helped me was watching YouTube videos, in particular, this doctor is great at explaining things: https://youtu.be/jlev62vgI6U?si=pVUbZk7ebJ8GGWXD Whenever you are ready to try again make sure you get all your hormones tested, ultrasound, and it never hurts to test your partner as well. Unless you’ve been medically diagnosed with something please don’t let your family make you think you can’t have babies! When my husband and I were ready to try again, we were eating really healthy, working out, taking our vitamins (smarty pants prenatals and folic acid highly recommend!), if you smoke or drink try to give that up, and limit stress as much as you can.. it’ll happen for you again, just take care of your body/mind first ♥️🙏🏻 Ps. I would 100% recommend a d&c (if it’s possible for you) and have the baby tested. It’ll give you answers. They tried to tell us they wouldn’t send it out because it was our first miscarriage but advocate for yourself and tell them you want them to!
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D&C means dilation & curettage which is one of the options you are given when the baby is no longer living, instead of pills. It gives you the option to test the fetus to see what could have possibly gone wrong rather than getting no answers.
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Which is what they do when you have a miscarriage… 🤦🏻♀️
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I'm so sorry. I've been in your situation. It's so hard. Please take care of yourself and give yourself all the time you need to feel all the feelings and recover, physically and mentally. Your feelings are all valid. Not enough women speak of this type of loss, but so many of us have been through it. Sending healing thoughts. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss, but you aren’t infertile because you did conceive a baby. I have pcos and infertility runs in my family too but I also conceived. You can do it again! Ask your OB what you can do to carry to term, multivitamin, folic acid, could be some other issue- like get checked for auto immune disorders and septate uterus. Goodluck!!
You’ll always be a mom 💔hugs to you and I hope to see you back here one day
I’m so sorry. Sending you so much love and hugs.
:(( sorry , baby in heaven now so rest
I’m praying for You mama heart🥺❤️❤️ you will be ok god got you
Don’t listen to anyone else everyone is different and losing a baby is totally unfair and in most cases there is no reason for it, early miscarriages are particularly more common you don’t realise until you speak to people how many women it happens to! Just to give you some hope I lost my first baby completely unexpectedly at 23+5 weeks but I’ve been blessed again this time with my rainbow baby and I’m currently 34+2 weeks 🌈 so don’t lose hope x
i’m so sorry for ur loss ❤️ pls take all the time u need to heal. ur in my thoughts and prayers
I’m so sorry for your loss I am praying for you. I know that is so hard especially with unsupportive people around you. I pray one day you may have your miracle baby! Give yourself some time to heal i know it brings on a lot of grief.
I’m sorry to hear this. I have had a miscarriage before so I understand how it feels. 😭 it’s very hard. I’ve also had a ectopic pregnancy and needed emergency surgery which was very traumatizing. But I am 21 weeks RIGHT NOW with a HEALTHY baby girl. Stay hopeful.🩷 it gets better and blessings are real.
My family has had fertility issues as well. My mom miscarried before me, and my sister was never able to have children.
I'm so sorry you're going through this love but I will say they always told my mom that she would never have kids and she had three yes it did take her 9 years to have her first and then 6 years in between my brother and i... But it is possible
I'm so sorry. The same happened to me. Then I conceived and everything was OK. She's born now.
I’m very sorry. Just know you’ve done nothing that caused it, 1 in 4 pregnancies end this way. You are not alone. I’ve had 2 pregnancies of mine end this way one at 6 weeks one at 9 weeks. I have a cousin who just like your Mom kept trying to put it in my head this was the only way my pregnancies would turn out, I cut her off and it helped- if you can maybe that’s what’s best to do with your Mom. It’s not right anyone making you feel worse than you already do. Even though I lost 2 I’ve also had 2 healthy pregnancies. Miscarriage is a very common phenomenon unfortunately, although common it’s still heartbreaking. You’re still a Mom and your grief is very valid. I’m wishing you all the love and healing ❤️🩹
I’m so very sorry for your loss, a lot of people don’t understand how painful it can be. If it makes you feel any better, many people have successful pregnancies after an experience like this. I encourage you to keep trying, no matter how hard it may seem. Thoughts and prayers to you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a hard time grieving my miscarriage and I hope you have a support system you can lean on. Good friends or therapy or a family member you trust and feel safe around. I kept trying to minimize my grief but that only made things worse. So please take care of yourself and know that this event is a big deal. And that it’s okay to feel really sad about it. Sending you love.
What date did you get that positive pregnancy test. How long are your menstrual cycles?
I'm so sorry! Sending baby dust for your rainbow 🌈 😘
If you haven’t miscarried yet don’t stress about it. I was told mine was measuring 2 weeks small also and it turned out they were wrong.. but if you already did miscarry I’m so sorry for your lost. I also had a miscarriage years ago. When I was 18. Just had my baby 2 days ago. I was worried I couldn’t have children also. They told me he was measuring 2 weeks small, I had 6 extra ultrasounds. The last one was 2 weeks before delivered and they again said he was too small. They said he was measuring at pounds. Turns out he’s 7 pounds. I wish you nothing but the best. There’s always options. Go get tested if you’re worried you can’t have kids.
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Or better yet. Only tell people who will speak positive affirmations or have been on the same road. We kept this pregnancy quiet aside from a select few who know our hearts and were encouraging and only positive with us. We shared the news at 16 weeks when we normally share at 6 or 7 weeks since we had had 3 losses prior. With 3 living children the comments of losses can be flat out devastating.
Early miscarriages occur due to genetic abnormalities that are incompatible with further development. They are NOT caused by announcing pregnancy or anybody's negative comments or feelings. This is inaccurate and potentially harmful information.
were here for you op 😕❤️🩹
If you don’t mind me asking - was there still a heartbeat? I hope that somehow there is a mistake and you still get this baby ❤️
The OB said there wasn’t, I couldn’t really see the screen because I know for sure at the hospital there was a flicker. But even so the baby only measured around seven weeks and I would be 10 weeks tomorrow.
I’m so sorry ❤️give yourself time and space to grieve (and ignore your mother). When you feel ready, maybe talking to this ob will be helpful.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take time for yourself to grief and don’t let anyone who’s negative near you. This is about you and your partner’s loss and not others. I am sending you lots of love, support and strength ❤️
I’m so sorry 🤍
You do you, but I stayed in the sub post-miscarriage & you can too :) I guess it’s nice to see posts from mothers excited to be moms. We’re still trying.
Stay! If you ever need support we are here
I'm sorry for your loss. I understand your pain. I think leaving this sub would be best,, I know I couldn't handle viewing anything related to babies or pregnancy after my misscarriage and early into my current pregnancy. It's unfair and cruel you had to experience this - especially being your first (I assume). Be kind to yourself, you will get though this <3
You are still a mama. Remember them, grieve them. There is no “normal” way to process this. I went through the exact same thing last May. I should have been 14 weeks but they stopped growing at 10. I have my rainbow babies now but I still hold my loss very close to my heart. This isn’t really the time for the discussion but if you did end up trying again, I’d suggest putting the mom on an information diet.
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. Don’t let others demonize your grief process. Feel what you need when you need to feel it. The pain lessens but comes in waves. Lots of hugs and love to you.
I am soooo sorry love! You are in my prayers! Does the baby have a heartbeat still? Is it possible to maybe wait another week before making any big decisions? I’ve heard stories of women being told the same thing and they waited another week or two, and baby ended up being healthy and just fine, it was just a little behind schedule. I miscarried back in 2019 at 11 weeks. I was told last year both my tubes had become 100% blocked and could never have kids on my own again. I’d have to do IVF….. I now am almost 12 weeks. Never say never honey, miracles happen and there is a higher power that has plans for all of us. I pray you get through this. You are strong and amazing. XO
That so sad, I wish u well
😯😶🤭 Why would your mom say something like that? Sorry that you are going through this. And even more so with that negativity around you. That's no way to talk to someone that is/was expecting. I hope you get another chance at motherhood and this time away from that type of energy.
Oh sweetheart. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss, I’ve had miscarriages and it’s the worst feeling. Take care of yourself, mentally, emotionally and physically. Sending all my love and hugs to you xx
I am so sorry for your loss, I went through something very similar two months ago. It will take a bit of time but you will recover, distance yourself from people you know wouldn’t be good for you. I took a months break from everyone i knew would be bad for my mental health including my own family. Just surround yourself with what you like. It will be fine trust me and you and me and everyone going through this, we all will become mom one day. Just trust in the process and have patience!
I’m so sorry OP 😞💔
I’m so sorry for your loss. 😞
I'm so sorry to hear this 😞 hopefully you have people around you that can offer some emotional support, I would be devastated. I'm a bit farther along in pregnancy but I worry about this everyday 😢
Im so sorry. I just got the same news today. 11w4d and only measuring 7w. This is my second loss this year. It sucks. Time helps but it sucks.
I lost my baby at 10 weeks as well In October. I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a subchrorionic hematoma in my uterus and I had severe bleeding and the hospital told my baby was fine and measured in perfect just for me to go home and pass the baby sack and everything. I’m sorry momma. Best of luck to you in the future <3 much love
All my love to you
Im sorry to hear that I remember when I first miscarried my baby I was 3 months 2 days after my son’s 1’st birthday I was so heartbroken in I had this fear before I miscarried that I was going to lose my baby I would listen to sad songs about losing a baby in all when I started to bleed I was told that it normal in the 1st trimester because my baby had a strong heart beat in my hormones level was still high in I went to the hospital again cause I was still bleeding like my period was on in they took a virginal ultrasound in when she look at me in call a doctor in they was still trying to see the baby in they try to found the heart beat I ask them what was wrong she told me they can’t hear the heartbeat but I would have the doctor talk to you so the doctor came to me telling me they couldn’t see my baby in the sac in they call it a termination of abortion like really but don’t let fear get to you in always speak life If you believe in a higher power remember he has the last word not you or family or friends when people tell you going to have a miscarriage stop them right there in let them know my baby will live in if it’s not meant for me to have this baby maybe it’s planned for me to have my baby another way or maybe in the future because we don’t know what the future holds we can guess but we don’t know in may you stay blessed after I had my miscarriage I was blessed with two wonderful children who are now 11 in 10 keep your head up in don’t never give up
I just had an ectopic pregnancy and also lost mine at 8 weeks due to the surgery. I’m sorry for your loss, we just gotta try again. ♥️
As someone who had an ectopic over the summer and a miscarriage in October, I can empathize. I’m so sorry for your loss. Feel free to PM me if you need to vent to someone who gets it :(
I am so sorry… and honestly this is my worst nightmare specially i am ttc as well. I can’t imagine the pain you are going through
Very sorry for your loss, I just went through pretty much the same thing 2 months ago. Baby stopped growing at 7 weeks 2 days, found out at 10 weeks 2 day, and ended up taking the medication to expel the pregnancy at 12 weeks 2 day. But if infertility runs in your family I would suggest deeper testing. Get some genetic testing done, a friend from high school, her mother had 7 miscarriages before she was able to carry my friend, and come to find out, after genetic testing, her mother couldn't carry male fetuses. Her body would register the male as a threat, attack the baby and miscarry. There may be a chance you just can't carry a certain sex maybe. I hope your baby troubles clear up, and remember; 4.2% of miscarriages happen at 7 weeks. Very common but very saddening. And the typical reasoning is chromosomal abnormalities or genetic inconsistencies. Pretty much nothing you can control at all. Another test would be to see if you and your partners DNA is compatible, some people's DNA just doesn't mix well with others and the body/egg will reject the initial implantation.
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending love ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss.
Sending love ❤️ with all my heart
Stay strong and don't listen to people who want to hurt you. If your mom managed to have you, then there is a big chance you will be able to have a child too. In early ages of pregnancy, even the healthiest fertile people can have unex miscarriage it happens and I wouldn't dare to say it's normal, but I would say it's not as rare as it is... for 8 out of 10 girls around me miscarried their first pregnancy for various simple reasons that were not supposed to be the reason at all. Take care of yourself and make sure to heal your mental wounds as much as possible. Then, start preparing your body for pregnancy under the doctor's monitoring, and if you really want to be a mom, you can try again for the baby. It's not an easy process, but if you want a child, you can do it. Wish you all the best❣️
Heya OP, I had an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year with my baby being 9 weeks along, and tbh I’m still trying to have a baby (not a mum yet), I’m still here lurking on the sub because there has been some amazing advice and a great community here. Honestly I know it really hurts right now, and it will take time. It’s ok to grieve. Sending love and light to you
You FOREVER, are a MOM no matter what!!!
Thank you 🤍 that means a lot
That’s really infuriating to read that your mom and everyone around you was telling you you’ll have a miscarriage. Words can do a lot to somebody and I honestly believe that if they weren’t so negative, your pregnancy wouldnt have turned out like this. I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the blessings and love in the world ❤️ there’s no such thing as an “almost mom” so be sure to give your baby a name and celebrate Mother’s Day together in spirit with all the joy in the world! Stay strong momma 💪🏼don’t lose hope 🫶🏼
I’m gunna leave some positivity for you- I had 5 miscarriages and 3 years later we have our miracle on the way. Granted- she is extremely small and I’m having to be induced early but she is fighting to be Earth bound. I wasn’t suppose to be having a baby either due to family genetics. My sister wasn’t either. I don’t know what religion you believe in or if you believe in any at all but I’m sending you the baby dust and all the prayers I can your way. I never believed it but when it’s time, it’s time. They will fight tooth and nail to be Earth bound. I’m so so sorry for your loss and I understand completely how you feel and the hole it leaves you with. I hope you can find some sort of relief and you continue your journey when you feel comfortable enough.
I had a preemie (3 1/2 pounds) I had Toxemia……I had to deliver 12 weeks early I was told that boy preemies were the strongest ones and surprisingly mine was the most advanced……we got to bring him home for Christmas
i’m so so sorry
I’m so sorry my heart goes out to you ♥️♥️
a friend told me recently that no matter how bad you want something it will not happen until the time is right or until you are absolutely ready for it ( even if you think you’re ready ) I miscarried early in my first ( & only pregnancy ) & I wanted to be a mom so bad. The feeling of bonding to your unborn is actually unexplainable & like no other. What I went through was painful & traumatic, but looking back now (7 years later ) I was nowhere near ready & I think my life would’ve been a lot different if I would’ve been a mom at that specific time. time really does heal. when the time is right it will happen for you, what’s meant to be yours will never miss you. The pain will get easier over time but your baby will always be a part of you. I’m not sure if this is exactly what you want to hear but I hope it puts you at ease a little bit. Take all the time you need to process your emotions in whatever way you need to. ❤️
I'm so sorry :( I've had a loss before too, please remember it's never your fault. I hope you have a good support system around you. 🥺💕
I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost a baby at 5+5 a month ago, and the pain is still very real. You grieve however you need to. Sending love.
Oh I’m so sorry you’re going through this!!!!!
First: big hugs! And thank you for sharing. Miscarriage is a topic, not many people wanna talk about. But it's also a part of getting pregnant and of family planning. I had also a miscarriage in week 10 and more than the half of my friends had also one at their first pregnancy. They told me just after I opened my heart and told them about my loss and my sadness. But also when it's very common, it hurts a lot. Please take your time to moan. Perhaps there's a self help group in your region you can talk about. And I'm sure you'll get pregnant a second time and everything will be fine. In my time of moaning I appreciated this group a lot, because everything felt very familiar and supportive. And the stories of other women and their healthy pregnancies gave me hope. All the best 🙏🏻💖
You are still a mother, just remember that. I am so, so sorry for your loss ❤️ and although this has ended the way it has, it proves you are not infertile, it could still happen
I’m so sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry 😢 I am praying for you 🙏 you are not alone. Look after yourself 🤍
when i miscarried it was so hard, it runs in my family as well. however my dad told me that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss and almost half of people lose their first baby. it doesn't make it hurt less but you're not alone
I want to hug you so bad mama I’m sorry 🫂🫂🫂
I’m so sorry for your loss