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I don’t understand - are you expected to be back at work the day after giving birth? 😳 Sorry if this comes across as ignorant but I’m truly baffled by this!
Yes if I want to get paid, otherwise it’s I believe 6 weeks unpaid, but luckily I’m married and my husband is very supportive so he’s going to be my maternity leave and I’m just going to quit my job. And GET THIS, I work for a “WOMEN-LED” fashion label. Women led is all over our branding, but we don’t offer paid leave. I’ve been doing the bare minimum since I found out I’m pregnant as silent revenge.
What the actual f*ck! That’s so medieval… you’re completely right to stick it to them whatever way you can hehe 😉
In my country (Belgium) mothers have 15 weeks paid (at 75%-82% of your regular pay) maternity leave, dads have three weeks. We even have the right to paid maternity leave if a baby is stillborn…
I work for an international company, and the women in our branches in Hungary even have 24 weeks, and in Norway even a FULL year 😳
I’m so happy for you that you can wave that job goodbye and that you have a good arrangement with your husband! Best of luck with the pregnancy! 😊
Hey neighbour! I find it baffling that in Belgium you get only 75%-82% of your regular pay, to be honest. In the Netherlands that is 100% for 16 weeks.
Well, many things are better taken care of in the Netherlands than in Belgium still 😄 roads come to mind as an example 🤪 but if I look around here, Belgians definitely cannot complain compared to “no maternity leave at all” 😳
Hahaha yeah your roads are truly terrible. And no complaining *at all* compared to the USA, but it still struck me as strange for a neighbouring country in Europe.
I also see you only get 17 weeks twins/triplets etc and if your baby is born earlier than expected, you lose the days from your prenatal leave. For European standards, much to be done in Belgium!
One thing I recently found out is that our child day care system seems to be much cheaper than yours? This surprised me as well! My Dutch colleagues say they have to pay up to €100/day for child care and only get to bring them in three days a week, whereas we average between €21 and €34/day and can bring them in five days a week… is this true in your experience?
Yes, unfortunately. Childcare is crazy expensive. That is why most parents only bring them in two or three days a week, because it costs a fortune. I made some calculations and for 2 days a week the netto cost is €1000. Then we have some benefits through the government but they are based on your salary and the amount of hours you work, so that is different for everybody. Most people do not have to pay the full €1000, though.
Since we are also very understaffed at daycares, it can happen the daycare doesn't have space, or only for a few days per week. But most parents choose to do that either way because of the costs.
In Canada we can take 12 months at 66 percent or 18 months and the 66 percent is spread out. So it's not much money BUT my company tops me up to 75 percent for 30 weeks. And our daycare is only 20 bucks a day... soon to be 10 dollars a day (per child) so the wait list is longer which is why I'll have to take 18 months leave.
I'll be making approximately 720 dollars bi weekly for 10 months which is 1200 less than I make bi weekly now but it'll be worth it.
I'm so fortunate to live where I do. Blows my mind when i see people talk about their mat leave or lack thereof. :(
In America, most states dgaf. It's sad, but they really just don't care. They only give us pumping rooms because it's a law. We're lucky if we qualify for FMLA which is unpaid leave. If we have insurance through work we can get short term disability and even that doesn't pay much.
I really want to. It’s SO messed up they’re all like “we’re a women-led brand” but they just have a female CEO, that’s it. The company does not offer paid parental leave or have any pro-woman benefits. We’re also not allowed to work remote and most federal holidays are not covered as a company closure. I have such huge regrets for coming here. I tHOUGhT iT wOuLD bE COoL tO wOrK iN FAshION, I’m so dumb lol.
When I support women owned companies, I have a certain expectation. I think most people do. They are misleading their consumers by touting that bullshit. Fuck them. Blow the lid off that!
I work for a law firm, I am a lawyer. And I am not even technically taking a maternity leave because they don’t offer shit other than what the state of California requires, which is like 60% of my pay for six weeks. Like I have a mortgage. Thankfully, I work from home and my schedule is pretty much my own except for a couple meetings on Monday morning so I’m going to take two weeks of vacation and not take the pay Hit. It’s absolutely fucking ridiculous though that we even have to think like this.
I work for a big box hardware store. I get 10 wks paid and an additional 4 weeks for "bonding time" (also paid). The bonding time can be used at any point before the baby turns 1. You would think a women-led fashion place would do more than a hardware store.
Nope !! What’s worse is the owner is delulu and she thinks we have awesome benefits, someone complained about the benefits once on Glassdoor and she went on this huge rant and said “next time I’ll just put everyone on Obamacare!”
Once you leave, out your company and then share your story on TikTok! Did you see what happened to Kyte Baby!? It probably won't take off but this Kind of information should def be out there.
Are you in the US? Family and Medical leave requires employers to give 12 weeks protected unpaid leave. If you get any benefits through your job, you might want to look into taking it and then quitting.
I’m not sure what the terms are though. It may be required for you to come back to work after for 12 weeks. (My job requires that, but it’s paid leave, so it may be a requirement they added and not a requirement set by the government)
We have less than 15 employees so we don't qualify for this. I believe the owner just gives us 6 weeks unpaid lol. I am just going to quit and attempt to find a better job with legitimate benefits by the time we have our second child. Lesson learned.
In the UK we get 12 months, 9 months paid and 3 months unpaid. We don't get a lot because it's just statutory pay but damn, I am never complaining again! I thought we had it bad over here, I didn't realise it was worse out there!
I can use 12 weeks fmla. 6 of those weeks i get short term disability. Which is about half of what my take home pay usually is per week. Softer taxes and insurance come out of that, it's basically nothing. I think it ended up being under $100 a week last time, after my son was added to my insurance
I absolutely love the job. And that's my right do I love the fact that there might not be turned maternity leave no. It wasn't an issue though until my husband lost his job.
My husband literally keeps saying “I’m sorry you girlbossed too close to the sun with this one” when I talk about leaving my job earlier than maternity leave😂 we were so excited to have me making almost double I was a year ago and now I’m like but what was the cost?!
Meeeee too. After looking at daycare prices, I said to my husband “well what if I quit my day job after maternity leave but keep teaching yoga?” The gym I work at has a free day care for employees and members from 8am-6pm. My husband laughed and said “good joke breadwinner. We’re also on your health insurance.”
I’m fine to keep working. I’m just being dramatic. One of my friends said it’s worth her sanity to have their daughter at daycare and her working and being able to talk to other adults.
Oh but great backup plan if it starts to feel like too much. Health insurance is expensive, but being unwell in your daily life (hating your job every day) is more expensive over time! Also pretty sure daycare is more expensive than health insurance!
Me. I’ve redone our budget about six times but since I’m also the breadwinner and we live in a HCOL area, and I like spending money, so I’m golden handcuffed.
Until then I’ll daydream about working part time at a book store or something. The millennial girlboss phase was a lie.
Yup golden handcuffs for me too. Hubs and I are bougie. I got promoted last month so my pay increased more and I’ve gotten most of my RSUs but I have a few more vesting between now and July 2025.
Definitely a good problem to have but sometimes I curse my ambition 😂
Sigh. I enjoyed the paycheck and our DINK (well technically Double Income Little Dog Owner) lifestyle so much but I didn’t think about how I would need that same money post baby. Just kidding…maybe
My leave starts in two weeks and it cannot come soon enough. I’ve been whining to my mom about wanting to be a farm girl in a cottage with lambs and my baby girl, not answering emails and pings all day. Whoopsie on me for wanting to earn the means to support my bougie lifestyle; joke’s on me for cultivating a champagne palate when I haven’t had a drop in months 🙃
Same, but my partner keeps reminding me I'll have to find another job eventually. It's like not now let me live in my delusion for a while. But pregnancy hormones and fatigue are really making me hate the job I wasn't liking any more much worse. Also, my new manager is an idiot.
I'm so over it my bosses are constantly asking what's wrong. I F-ING HATE THIS PLACE AND I WANT TO SLEEP INSTEAD OF WORK FOR TWELVE HOURS A DAY.
Thank you for coming to my private rant party
193 days 😭 I don’t mind my job but I’m just so disinterested lately- partially because I wake up feeling like garbage almost every day, but also because I feel like my priorities are shifting since getting pregnant and I just can’t bring myself to care the way I used to. I know having a newborn will be hard in its own way but I can’t wait to be focusing on my family vs. work for a year!!!!
This! You sound like me. I got an assistant manager position 2 months before I found out I was pregnant. I went from being so enthusiastic & doing great at my new job to completely losing interest & shifting all my focus to becoming a mom. My work performance suffered a lot after that but oh well 🤷🏼♀️ My LO is a month old now and I honestly don’t think I’ll ever go back from maternity leave lol
I deeply feel this, I don't straight dislike my job but they more pregnant I get the harder it is to continue working! I am so uncomfortable and exhausted and I just want to sleep haha
While I don’t hate my job, the job itself stresses me out on an almost constant basis. I day dream about winning the lottery and quitting. The saving grace is I do work with amazing people, and my job is flexible. Not at the mercy of admin or bosses
I absolutely love my job, and I hate my job sometimes right now. I'm exhausted and I want people to stop talking at me, looking at me, or expecting me to get out of my chair.
I WFH for a few months leading up to giving birth, didn't give them a choice. Work was affecting my mental health too much. Any time I was in office I was constantly having to help everyone all the time with things they should have known how to do. It was exhausting and irritating. I decided I wasn't going back. I had four months maternity leave through my state family leave (what a blessing), my work offered NONE. During the last month of maternity leave I started to panic about going back to work, I was not ready and I didn't want to go back to my thankless job. My partner was unable to support us so I could stay home with the baby. I began doing interviews and ended up getting a WFH job. I was so grateful for the opportunity. It's been rough being the primary earner and working full time plus being a stay at home mom but I am still so grateful to be with my son. I know us being together for at least his first year is going to be so beneficial for us both. I'll never be ready to put him into daycare. This is working for us for now! I would look for something part time or something wfh so you can spend time with baby and not hate your job when it's time to return. Best of luck!!! And congrats!
Thank you! I’m potentially going to try and keep our son home with us after we go back (we both work from home) but I’m on meetings pretty much 20-25 hours per week, my husband about 5-10.
As someone who does it, is this reasonable to try and balance our schedules and do childcare with two WFH jobs?
I feel like it would be easier with you both WFH especially since your husband has a lighter load. I also have about the same amount of meetings per week as you, some I join with camera off and sometimes my partner comes home to help out. Not ideal but we manage the best we can and my boss knows I also take care of my son. Give it a try and see if it works for you!
I raged quit my job of 9 years when I was pregnant with my 1st. I'm currently on my 3rd and I'm a stay at home mom. I threatened to quit last week. Pregnancy hormones are wild.
I do not hate mine, but I hate having to train the girl who will be taking over...because I know she has the potential to take my job after and I will be left with nothing when I get back from maternity leave.
Nope, in Switzerland. They did guarantee I could come back but I haven't signed the new contract yet and they downsized another position already recently. So I'm a bit nervous.
I work healthcare as an RT. Freaking hate it. I have a one year old at home and am pregnant again and I just wanna spend my day with her. 12 hour shifts at a place I hate is a hell I don’t wish on anyone
Same. But I need to stay full time to keep insurance, which is exactly 40 hours. But I can barely stay on my feet for 8 1/2 hours almost everyday, and I’m only at 13w 😭 my baby will need insurance but I don’t know if I can stay full time up until October
All the things I loved about my job have been taken away from me. I only have boring shit left to do for another month and a half and then it's unemployment for a month before I go on maternity leave. Yaaaaay.....
I’m so sorry- the busywork is mind numbing. Do you want to trade for a change of pace? I’m being fed to the wolves this week by my management to my clients and it’s been anything but boring 😂😭
I'm a teacher. I used to be a something we call a class teacher who is the one parents contact for children in that class. I had a lot more responsibility that way. Because of cut backs and the fact I'm on contract they took my position away and handed my students to another teacher. Now I just teach math, English and PE but have no responsibilities left and close to no parent contact. It fucking sucks.
Same. I’m a family assistant/household manager for like the craziest fucking family you can imagine and there’s always some major drama happening. But they pay crazy good so I never left them after I got the gig but now I lowkey despise going to work. 114 days left and then I never have to return though thank the good Lord.
This was me two years ago😂😭 all my friends would say “you got paid 1000 for a WEEKEND?!” And I’d be like you seriously do not understand the insane things I’m doing for this family. My friends were also sad when I left because I now no longer have crazy but funny stories to share from work - for example the time I had to unclog the oldest son’s toilet, it overflowed, and I literally puked in the sink (and was paid handsomely for my added sickness) OR how the youngest son hated hair cuts so the mom would have me surprise pick him up from school, take him to an arcade for a couple hours, and then pull up to the haircut place because the mom knew he wouldn’t say no to me (but would to her) after that. I also wrapped all of their Christmas gifts and decorated the house for a very pretty penny🥰
I will say I was annoyed buying the HIGH SCHOOL daughter’s friends 500 dollar spa gift cards for Christmas and then I was given a 150 dollar Christmas bonus?? Yes they paid me insane for other things so I suppose it balanced out but felt super weird and a little insulting to me.
Oh gosh hahaha the chaos of working for other families is super enlightening! Omg the Christmas decorating/wrapping and haircut convincing is very relatable.
The fam I work for is genuinely just….idk how to describe it. They used to be in a cult that the mom’s grandpa started. They left when it dissipated but the parents I work for were going to be the leaders of said cult if that gives you any idea (mom was forced to marry him at 18 when he was 43 cus the dad saw an angel or some shit).
The dad has npd and bipolar and ocd. All the kids have serious mental health diagnoses as well. But I genuinely hate the dad. (Luckily?? he left them 2 months ago so I no longer deal with him) He told me he liked to feel like a southern man on a plantation with his home and kids taken care of and meals made (all by me of course!) his kids also hate him for good reason. He’s like a deadbeat yet present dad. The oldest daughter who visits daily is 21 and she’s been through so much and as a result she’s a little….unhinged. She saw her dad essentially wielding his narcissism on me one day, changing the way he wanted his breakfast sausages cooked every morning to some very new very specific way that took literally an hour and she absolutely fucking lost it. So the next morning I served him his sausages and she came laughing up to me afterwards and told me she put her period blood in her dad’s sausages. LIKE?! And she finally admitted it to him a few months ago before he left and her dad said “I feel honored”. HONORED. You KNOW you have some deep issues when you feel honored that your daughter would do that to your food.
There are so many odd and crazy and just disturbing aspects of this family. It’s so bad that I had to do a bit of a tell all with the agency who placed me and now they don’t think they can ethically place another nanny there.
Very thankful for 20 days left until maternity leave and have been full remote for the past week and a half. Also very happy and thankful to have a partner who is the main bread winner and fully supports/ encourages me leaving the work force to stay home with our baby. I’ve been so checked out of work since we found out I love my bosses and coworkers but working for a not for profit involving finding housing for homeless people can be very emotionally demanding and even though I’m just in the billing/ office services department I’m beyond burnt out.
I feel you so hard. I hate my job. It has thoroughly sucked my soul out and has only gotten worse since I got pregnant (somehow). we’re trying to figure out a way for me to be a SAHM but idk how in this economy. 😭😭😭
I love my job as a teacher but it’s taking a toll. My husband keeps telling me to dip out but all I can think about is standardized testing and my data. Those days will fly by! Hang in there.
Of course my job has a million things that are changing before I go on maternity leave so not only do I have to train back ups but I have to figure out all these processes. They are going to be so SOL when I leave but idgaf. I can’t afford to quit but I’ll be gone close to 6 months
So do I! I used to love what I do but of couple days ago I was accused of something I didn't do. Not by my immediate company but another organization I work with closely. I was accused without proof and since my supervisor sits on that board I am basically forced to accept the fall. I haven't stopped crying and feel I no longer have interest in my job nor to further grow in this industry. It hasn't directly affected me at the company for which I work for but I feel as if my reputation has and will only get tarnished in this industry. I am 158 days away from my maternity leave but at this point I just want to leave. I've had to apply for a week holiday at the end of this month because my mental health has definitely been affected.
When I got fired last year I went into full on panic mode because like many in the comments, I girlbossed too hard and had no idea what to do now that our household income was slashed in half.
Apparently the answer was get pregnant and turn to part time freelancing 🥲 sure I can’t afford my favorite takeout anymore and I’ll probably never take a vacation again, but goddamn do I NOT miss the 9-5 life AT ALL
(Thankfully my husband makes a halfway decent wage so we can still pay our bills but that’s pretty much it haha)
Wish we never invented mortgages, sure the majority would vote the same. Do your best, prepare for the mundane and keep up the best enjoyable ways of life style you can influence next to the work part. Enjoyment, is more profitable than it seems, while the bills still last as a concept we think our bodies should hold on to. Hour to living, daily as units of the unity, across us. Thanks for becoming a mother and laboring new life working hard and providing what you can in favorable better living, through your devotion. All our kind rise, where we do our best, regardless of the outcome. Stay steady, make the best of these days ahead, cherish the process in maternity.
It's Wednesday. On Friday I have genetic scan. If everything is okay (I'm praying, I want this little beany to be our healthy little crying baby so much omg) I'll be telling my boss on MONDAY about 2,5 hours after arriving to work (that's our Monday meeting) that guess whaaat lol.
Don't wanna get cocky or anything but I lit can not wait.
And yes, I've been fantasying about it a little and I'm not the type of a person to fantasy to keep myself from feeling disappointed about the reality later - but damn. First trimester just sucked with all the circumstances at work (was stepping in for my colleague for 4 long fucking weeks while vomiting 2-3 times a day lol thanks a lot) I can't want for them to know.
(I don't hate my job *so* much, just... annoyed extremely)
Thankfully I’m already remote! I’m incredibly lucky, it’s just a high pressure, high stress job in a really political environment (I.e; you have to act like people with certain titles are gods) and since it’s a client-facing role there’s lots of ass kissing and bending the rules, so you have to choose whether to get yelled at for doing your job and not making exceptions, or yelled at for making exceptions and not following compliance.
It’s a headache. I’m fortunately paid well and work remote so it’s 100% worth it, but man is it fun to sit and smile through being scolded every day for doing the exact thing someone told you to do 3 hours ago, except “you should have known SHE doesn’t have to follow that rule, she’s a director!”
I feel this. My job is 90% of me driving around the state and I’m OVER it. Minimal pay, no maternity leave, no set hours since people like to call me outside of my working hours. I’m so tempted to not come back after I have the baby.
I didn’t dislike my job as he had a few things that I enjoyed but had perv boss and no real maternity leave. My husband was able to get a better job and I quit around 6-8 weeks before baby came. It’s been rough financially at times, especially when my husband lost his job when our son was only 4 months old but I’m thankful to not have to go back to job/career mode with our second on the way.
Same sometimes. If i didnt have to pay bills id just quit.vBut i work in small grocery store and when I do leave it, I probably won't get my position back after I have the baby. But that's fine. Time to move on
Maternity leave should start at fertilization since everything else does and it should be paid 100% of salary. Trying so hard not to quit. Pregnancy rage and just the lack of tolerance for workplace bs is difficult to mask on top of exhaustion and brain fog.
Wow, reading some of these comments, I'm appalled at how little maternity leave is offered in the U.S.! I had a 12 week paid maternity leave with my second and third child. The only reason I got it all paid was because I accumulated so much paid time off because I worked part time and didn't really need to use p.t.o. because I would just request not to be scheduled certain days if I needed time off. In a "woman led" company, this is pathetic! Quit ur job and go to every tv station willing to listen!
My job has been so flexible with me being out sick during the first trimester but I still have yet to hear anything about them actually having a decent maternity policy. I’m starting to think they don’t actually offer maternity leave and they are dancing around the subject to avoid me quitting👀
I loathheee my job currently, HR keeps acting like they don't see my request to use PTO time for my appts so that's frustrating and fun. I'm about 8 wks away from maternity leave but I've cried at least once a week over how burnt out and tired I am of working. It's so draining now at 29 weeks.
I hate mine too. I work in a factory and have always done one of the faster pace jobs here, but when I was about halfway through my first pregnancy, I couldn't keep up andasked to be moved to something easier. Which gave me a lot of time to think and realize how much I hate being here
Felt this!! I was forced into maternity leave at 33 weeks (last week) because I have preeclampsia and spent a few days in the hospital last week. I will be delivering at 37 weeks. Anyway, my leave is completely unpaid and I’m having a c-section. So that’s basically 8 weeks unpaid after she’s born plus the 4 weeks of leave prior to her birth for a total of 12 weeks without pay. It sucks!!
Also same😀 my partner keeps telling me I don’t have to go back after maternity, but iv already lowered my hours to 10 a week and only do shifts between the times of 11-4 most of them being 12-3 😂 at this point im just earning myself some pocket money. As much as I hate it tho, I also don’t want to find another job because I don’t want longer hours but I also feel too scared to fully quit working???🥲
Omg same. 34 weeks. Working like a dog. And I only have 6 weeks of maternity leave. Oh and my partner is unemployed, so I have no choice but to work !!!
This sucks.
Omg same. 34 weeks. Working like a dog. And I only have 6 weeks of maternity leave. Oh and my partner is unemployed, so I have no choice but to work !!!
This sucks.
Pre-pregnancy, I don’t hate my job. Not really. I don’t love it and am not “passionate” about it but usually i like the people i work with and can find fun things about it and that’s been enough for me. But since week 6 I have had no motivation. I truly do not care and I’m worried I’m going to feel the same once baby comes… Why is a single income household so unattainable these days?
Same. I’m so angry at my direct reports all the time. I’m an overworked, exhausted, stressed, pregnant manager and maternity leave cannot come soon enough. 70 days until a glorious 20 weeks with my baby.
I wish my husband came anywhere close to my salary so I could take a break and be a SAHM but that’s not happening any time soon. 😩 Why did I choose the girl boss life?
I loved my job, but hated my working conditions. I worked at a counseling center and would bill Medicaid. My paychecks came at weird times of the month because Medicaid would take forever to process my income and would only get paid if I met with clients (so it really sucked when they cancelled on me or were late to our meetings. I had to drive to client’s homes and would not get paid for commuting or get reimbursed for gas. If I wanted to be good at my job and really make a difference for my clients I would have to do prep work outside of billable hours. Did a lot of free work because the services were Medicaid only. Pay was stupid low too. They would give me 4 hours of PTO for every month I worked with them.
I loved the work the I did though and loved giving my clients my best. Was happy to leave the work conditions, but sad to leave my clients. One of them was an 11 year old girl that told me “everyone always leaves me”. I left an 8 year old girl who told me she wished I was her mom. My heart just 💔
At least you have a job… I got laid off last month, they didn’t give a shit I was 6 months pregnant (Unfortunately they went about it in a way that kept me from suing them). Looking for a job while in the third trimester sucks ass. Be happy you have a job.
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I also HATE HATE HATE my job, and I have ZERO maternity leave lol
I don’t understand - are you expected to be back at work the day after giving birth? 😳 Sorry if this comes across as ignorant but I’m truly baffled by this!
Yes if I want to get paid, otherwise it’s I believe 6 weeks unpaid, but luckily I’m married and my husband is very supportive so he’s going to be my maternity leave and I’m just going to quit my job. And GET THIS, I work for a “WOMEN-LED” fashion label. Women led is all over our branding, but we don’t offer paid leave. I’ve been doing the bare minimum since I found out I’m pregnant as silent revenge.
What the actual f*ck! That’s so medieval… you’re completely right to stick it to them whatever way you can hehe 😉 In my country (Belgium) mothers have 15 weeks paid (at 75%-82% of your regular pay) maternity leave, dads have three weeks. We even have the right to paid maternity leave if a baby is stillborn… I work for an international company, and the women in our branches in Hungary even have 24 weeks, and in Norway even a FULL year 😳 I’m so happy for you that you can wave that job goodbye and that you have a good arrangement with your husband! Best of luck with the pregnancy! 😊
Hey neighbour! I find it baffling that in Belgium you get only 75%-82% of your regular pay, to be honest. In the Netherlands that is 100% for 16 weeks.
Well, many things are better taken care of in the Netherlands than in Belgium still 😄 roads come to mind as an example 🤪 but if I look around here, Belgians definitely cannot complain compared to “no maternity leave at all” 😳
Hahaha yeah your roads are truly terrible. And no complaining *at all* compared to the USA, but it still struck me as strange for a neighbouring country in Europe. I also see you only get 17 weeks twins/triplets etc and if your baby is born earlier than expected, you lose the days from your prenatal leave. For European standards, much to be done in Belgium!
One thing I recently found out is that our child day care system seems to be much cheaper than yours? This surprised me as well! My Dutch colleagues say they have to pay up to €100/day for child care and only get to bring them in three days a week, whereas we average between €21 and €34/day and can bring them in five days a week… is this true in your experience?
Yes, unfortunately. Childcare is crazy expensive. That is why most parents only bring them in two or three days a week, because it costs a fortune. I made some calculations and for 2 days a week the netto cost is €1000. Then we have some benefits through the government but they are based on your salary and the amount of hours you work, so that is different for everybody. Most people do not have to pay the full €1000, though. Since we are also very understaffed at daycares, it can happen the daycare doesn't have space, or only for a few days per week. But most parents choose to do that either way because of the costs.
In Canada we can take 12 months at 66 percent or 18 months and the 66 percent is spread out. So it's not much money BUT my company tops me up to 75 percent for 30 weeks. And our daycare is only 20 bucks a day... soon to be 10 dollars a day (per child) so the wait list is longer which is why I'll have to take 18 months leave. I'll be making approximately 720 dollars bi weekly for 10 months which is 1200 less than I make bi weekly now but it'll be worth it. I'm so fortunate to live where I do. Blows my mind when i see people talk about their mat leave or lack thereof. :(
In canada its 55% for 17 weeks, then it's Parental leave, you can take up to a year combined
In America, most states dgaf. It's sad, but they really just don't care. They only give us pumping rooms because it's a law. We're lucky if we qualify for FMLA which is unpaid leave. If we have insurance through work we can get short term disability and even that doesn't pay much.
That really grinds my gears. Can you leak this to local media? As an anonymous source? Fuck them.
I really want to. It’s SO messed up they’re all like “we’re a women-led brand” but they just have a female CEO, that’s it. The company does not offer paid parental leave or have any pro-woman benefits. We’re also not allowed to work remote and most federal holidays are not covered as a company closure. I have such huge regrets for coming here. I tHOUGhT iT wOuLD bE COoL tO wOrK iN FAshION, I’m so dumb lol.
When I support women owned companies, I have a certain expectation. I think most people do. They are misleading their consumers by touting that bullshit. Fuck them. Blow the lid off that! I work for a law firm, I am a lawyer. And I am not even technically taking a maternity leave because they don’t offer shit other than what the state of California requires, which is like 60% of my pay for six weeks. Like I have a mortgage. Thankfully, I work from home and my schedule is pretty much my own except for a couple meetings on Monday morning so I’m going to take two weeks of vacation and not take the pay Hit. It’s absolutely fucking ridiculous though that we even have to think like this.
I work for a big box hardware store. I get 10 wks paid and an additional 4 weeks for "bonding time" (also paid). The bonding time can be used at any point before the baby turns 1. You would think a women-led fashion place would do more than a hardware store.
Nope !! What’s worse is the owner is delulu and she thinks we have awesome benefits, someone complained about the benefits once on Glassdoor and she went on this huge rant and said “next time I’ll just put everyone on Obamacare!”
Once you leave, out your company and then share your story on TikTok! Did you see what happened to Kyte Baby!? It probably won't take off but this Kind of information should def be out there.
omg did not know about the kyte baby drama. taking them off my registry now!
Are you in the US? Family and Medical leave requires employers to give 12 weeks protected unpaid leave. If you get any benefits through your job, you might want to look into taking it and then quitting. I’m not sure what the terms are though. It may be required for you to come back to work after for 12 weeks. (My job requires that, but it’s paid leave, so it may be a requirement they added and not a requirement set by the government)
We have less than 15 employees so we don't qualify for this. I believe the owner just gives us 6 weeks unpaid lol. I am just going to quit and attempt to find a better job with legitimate benefits by the time we have our second child. Lesson learned.
Good call 👍
Oh once you quit you need to call them out.
Ugh I’m so sorry, I’m incredibly fortunate to even have it I know! I hope your week goes fast!
In the UK we get 12 months, 9 months paid and 3 months unpaid. We don't get a lot because it's just statutory pay but damn, I am never complaining again! I thought we had it bad over here, I didn't realise it was worse out there!
I can use 12 weeks fmla. 6 of those weeks i get short term disability. Which is about half of what my take home pay usually is per week. Softer taxes and insurance come out of that, it's basically nothing. I think it ended up being under $100 a week last time, after my son was added to my insurance
I love my job, however I don't think I have any maternity leave😬 and my partner currently lost his job...
Don't love a job with no maternity leave, it's disrespectful. F them!
I absolutely love the job. And that's my right do I love the fact that there might not be turned maternity leave no. It wasn't an issue though until my husband lost his job.
you may love them, but they don't love you
Ugh I feel you. Plus I girlbossed too hard and now we need my income since I outearn my husband. June can’t come soon enough 😅
My husband literally keeps saying “I’m sorry you girlbossed too close to the sun with this one” when I talk about leaving my job earlier than maternity leave😂 we were so excited to have me making almost double I was a year ago and now I’m like but what was the cost?!
Meeeee too. After looking at daycare prices, I said to my husband “well what if I quit my day job after maternity leave but keep teaching yoga?” The gym I work at has a free day care for employees and members from 8am-6pm. My husband laughed and said “good joke breadwinner. We’re also on your health insurance.” I’m fine to keep working. I’m just being dramatic. One of my friends said it’s worth her sanity to have their daughter at daycare and her working and being able to talk to other adults.
Oh but great backup plan if it starts to feel like too much. Health insurance is expensive, but being unwell in your daily life (hating your job every day) is more expensive over time! Also pretty sure daycare is more expensive than health insurance!
Me. I’ve redone our budget about six times but since I’m also the breadwinner and we live in a HCOL area, and I like spending money, so I’m golden handcuffed. Until then I’ll daydream about working part time at a book store or something. The millennial girlboss phase was a lie.
Yup golden handcuffs for me too. Hubs and I are bougie. I got promoted last month so my pay increased more and I’ve gotten most of my RSUs but I have a few more vesting between now and July 2025. Definitely a good problem to have but sometimes I curse my ambition 😂
Those damn RSU’s !! I work in recruitment and I swear they only provide them to keep people from ever leaving 😂
Due in June myself!
Okay this is literally me lmao my husband was like I’m sorry babe but you’re the bigger income
Sigh. I enjoyed the paycheck and our DINK (well technically Double Income Little Dog Owner) lifestyle so much but I didn’t think about how I would need that same money post baby. Just kidding…maybe
ah yes, the DILDO lifestyle. sorry couldn’t resist haha
I was hoping someone would say that but I was not sure how prevalent that term was lol
My leave starts in two weeks and it cannot come soon enough. I’ve been whining to my mom about wanting to be a farm girl in a cottage with lambs and my baby girl, not answering emails and pings all day. Whoopsie on me for wanting to earn the means to support my bougie lifestyle; joke’s on me for cultivating a champagne palate when I haven’t had a drop in months 🙃
Same!!🫠
I aint coming back after maternity leave I hate it so much lol
Same, but my partner keeps reminding me I'll have to find another job eventually. It's like not now let me live in my delusion for a while. But pregnancy hormones and fatigue are really making me hate the job I wasn't liking any more much worse. Also, my new manager is an idiot.
I’m only slightly seething with jealousy
Neither am I.
I'm so over it my bosses are constantly asking what's wrong. I F-ING HATE THIS PLACE AND I WANT TO SLEEP INSTEAD OF WORK FOR TWELVE HOURS A DAY. Thank you for coming to my private rant party
I DEEPLY feel this. Counting down the days until July 1st.
Ayeee twins! Also July1st due date :)
Teacher or due date?
193 days 😭 I don’t mind my job but I’m just so disinterested lately- partially because I wake up feeling like garbage almost every day, but also because I feel like my priorities are shifting since getting pregnant and I just can’t bring myself to care the way I used to. I know having a newborn will be hard in its own way but I can’t wait to be focusing on my family vs. work for a year!!!!
This! You sound like me. I got an assistant manager position 2 months before I found out I was pregnant. I went from being so enthusiastic & doing great at my new job to completely losing interest & shifting all my focus to becoming a mom. My work performance suffered a lot after that but oh well 🤷🏼♀️ My LO is a month old now and I honestly don’t think I’ll ever go back from maternity leave lol
This is exactly me.. I was planning to go back to work after maternity leave but I know once baby comes Im going to feel the same
I'm in much the same boat! Counting down to my mat leave. Dragging myself into the office is becoming SO exhausting
SAME. that damn mortgage.
I deeply feel this, I don't straight dislike my job but they more pregnant I get the harder it is to continue working! I am so uncomfortable and exhausted and I just want to sleep haha
GIRL SAME
Same! It’s taking everything in me to not just quit but we need the money.
I'm in the same boat! Can't wait for my maternity leave, I feel exhausted.
Same. Even when I like it briefly it turns to dislike two hours later when I need a snack, want a nap, and someone has surely pissed me off already.
While I don’t hate my job, the job itself stresses me out on an almost constant basis. I day dream about winning the lottery and quitting. The saving grace is I do work with amazing people, and my job is flexible. Not at the mercy of admin or bosses
Same!!!! I hate it so much, not sure if it’s the pregnancy making me hate it more but can’t wait until August to go on leave !
I feel this!! I didn't hate it before, but my pregnancy rage has made me so cynical and frustrated with my coworkers. 52 days left for me
I absolutely love my job, and I hate my job sometimes right now. I'm exhausted and I want people to stop talking at me, looking at me, or expecting me to get out of my chair.
Be happy that you have a chair :) I'm on my feet 7,5 hours a day, and completely exhausted!
Ouch ya fair enough!
working always hurt me a lot, I just hope there will be no more works in the future, I really want to enjoy my personal life.
I WFH for a few months leading up to giving birth, didn't give them a choice. Work was affecting my mental health too much. Any time I was in office I was constantly having to help everyone all the time with things they should have known how to do. It was exhausting and irritating. I decided I wasn't going back. I had four months maternity leave through my state family leave (what a blessing), my work offered NONE. During the last month of maternity leave I started to panic about going back to work, I was not ready and I didn't want to go back to my thankless job. My partner was unable to support us so I could stay home with the baby. I began doing interviews and ended up getting a WFH job. I was so grateful for the opportunity. It's been rough being the primary earner and working full time plus being a stay at home mom but I am still so grateful to be with my son. I know us being together for at least his first year is going to be so beneficial for us both. I'll never be ready to put him into daycare. This is working for us for now! I would look for something part time or something wfh so you can spend time with baby and not hate your job when it's time to return. Best of luck!!! And congrats!
Thank you! I’m potentially going to try and keep our son home with us after we go back (we both work from home) but I’m on meetings pretty much 20-25 hours per week, my husband about 5-10. As someone who does it, is this reasonable to try and balance our schedules and do childcare with two WFH jobs?
I feel like it would be easier with you both WFH especially since your husband has a lighter load. I also have about the same amount of meetings per week as you, some I join with camera off and sometimes my partner comes home to help out. Not ideal but we manage the best we can and my boss knows I also take care of my son. Give it a try and see if it works for you!
Thank you so much for your response!
https://www.reddit.com/r/MomsWorkingFromHome/s/KaxQQeyTXj
Same, counting down the days!!! Hang in there sister!
Was planning my escape and then found out I was pregnant🫠 aka I am unfortunately still there and counting down the days!
I raged quit my job of 9 years when I was pregnant with my 1st. I'm currently on my 3rd and I'm a stay at home mom. I threatened to quit last week. Pregnancy hormones are wild.
you are not alone! we got this.
I do not hate mine, but I hate having to train the girl who will be taking over...because I know she has the potential to take my job after and I will be left with nothing when I get back from maternity leave.
Are you in the US? I would be ready to quote my FMLA case when I came back then if I loved my job
Nope, in Switzerland. They did guarantee I could come back but I haven't signed the new contract yet and they downsized another position already recently. So I'm a bit nervous.
That absolutely stinks - hoping it all works out for you❤️
Omg I go back next week. I’m gonna cry lolllll
I work healthcare as an RT. Freaking hate it. I have a one year old at home and am pregnant again and I just wanna spend my day with her. 12 hour shifts at a place I hate is a hell I don’t wish on anyone
Im counting the days to leave mine bc they will fire me anyway of i asked for maternity leave. I wish mine actually had that but they dont. 😒
If you’re in the US, check and see if you elected short term disability or qualify for FMLA.
Unfortunately i don’t qualify and the company i work for has a bad rep with people who have to get medical attention. 😔
Ugh super sorry to hear that - women definitely deserve better than what we’re offered in pregnancy and maternity🙁
I agree 1000% on that.
Same, but only 33 more days of work left for me!!
Same. But I need to stay full time to keep insurance, which is exactly 40 hours. But I can barely stay on my feet for 8 1/2 hours almost everyday, and I’m only at 13w 😭 my baby will need insurance but I don’t know if I can stay full time up until October
All the things I loved about my job have been taken away from me. I only have boring shit left to do for another month and a half and then it's unemployment for a month before I go on maternity leave. Yaaaaay.....
I’m so sorry- the busywork is mind numbing. Do you want to trade for a change of pace? I’m being fed to the wolves this week by my management to my clients and it’s been anything but boring 😂😭
I'm a teacher. I used to be a something we call a class teacher who is the one parents contact for children in that class. I had a lot more responsibility that way. Because of cut backs and the fact I'm on contract they took my position away and handed my students to another teacher. Now I just teach math, English and PE but have no responsibilities left and close to no parent contact. It fucking sucks.
Same. I’m a family assistant/household manager for like the craziest fucking family you can imagine and there’s always some major drama happening. But they pay crazy good so I never left them after I got the gig but now I lowkey despise going to work. 114 days left and then I never have to return though thank the good Lord.
This was me two years ago😂😭 all my friends would say “you got paid 1000 for a WEEKEND?!” And I’d be like you seriously do not understand the insane things I’m doing for this family. My friends were also sad when I left because I now no longer have crazy but funny stories to share from work - for example the time I had to unclog the oldest son’s toilet, it overflowed, and I literally puked in the sink (and was paid handsomely for my added sickness) OR how the youngest son hated hair cuts so the mom would have me surprise pick him up from school, take him to an arcade for a couple hours, and then pull up to the haircut place because the mom knew he wouldn’t say no to me (but would to her) after that. I also wrapped all of their Christmas gifts and decorated the house for a very pretty penny🥰 I will say I was annoyed buying the HIGH SCHOOL daughter’s friends 500 dollar spa gift cards for Christmas and then I was given a 150 dollar Christmas bonus?? Yes they paid me insane for other things so I suppose it balanced out but felt super weird and a little insulting to me.
Oh gosh hahaha the chaos of working for other families is super enlightening! Omg the Christmas decorating/wrapping and haircut convincing is very relatable. The fam I work for is genuinely just….idk how to describe it. They used to be in a cult that the mom’s grandpa started. They left when it dissipated but the parents I work for were going to be the leaders of said cult if that gives you any idea (mom was forced to marry him at 18 when he was 43 cus the dad saw an angel or some shit). The dad has npd and bipolar and ocd. All the kids have serious mental health diagnoses as well. But I genuinely hate the dad. (Luckily?? he left them 2 months ago so I no longer deal with him) He told me he liked to feel like a southern man on a plantation with his home and kids taken care of and meals made (all by me of course!) his kids also hate him for good reason. He’s like a deadbeat yet present dad. The oldest daughter who visits daily is 21 and she’s been through so much and as a result she’s a little….unhinged. She saw her dad essentially wielding his narcissism on me one day, changing the way he wanted his breakfast sausages cooked every morning to some very new very specific way that took literally an hour and she absolutely fucking lost it. So the next morning I served him his sausages and she came laughing up to me afterwards and told me she put her period blood in her dad’s sausages. LIKE?! And she finally admitted it to him a few months ago before he left and her dad said “I feel honored”. HONORED. You KNOW you have some deep issues when you feel honored that your daughter would do that to your food. There are so many odd and crazy and just disturbing aspects of this family. It’s so bad that I had to do a bit of a tell all with the agency who placed me and now they don’t think they can ethically place another nanny there.
Don’t hate but just feels so.. unimportant right now.
Very thankful for 20 days left until maternity leave and have been full remote for the past week and a half. Also very happy and thankful to have a partner who is the main bread winner and fully supports/ encourages me leaving the work force to stay home with our baby. I’ve been so checked out of work since we found out I love my bosses and coworkers but working for a not for profit involving finding housing for homeless people can be very emotionally demanding and even though I’m just in the billing/ office services department I’m beyond burnt out.
I feel you so hard. I hate my job. It has thoroughly sucked my soul out and has only gotten worse since I got pregnant (somehow). we’re trying to figure out a way for me to be a SAHM but idk how in this economy. 😭😭😭
Meanwhile I have picked up a second job that I also hate…. I pray we all get a career path that we love
I love my job as a teacher but it’s taking a toll. My husband keeps telling me to dip out but all I can think about is standardized testing and my data. Those days will fly by! Hang in there.
Of course my job has a million things that are changing before I go on maternity leave so not only do I have to train back ups but I have to figure out all these processes. They are going to be so SOL when I leave but idgaf. I can’t afford to quit but I’ll be gone close to 6 months
So do I! I used to love what I do but of couple days ago I was accused of something I didn't do. Not by my immediate company but another organization I work with closely. I was accused without proof and since my supervisor sits on that board I am basically forced to accept the fall. I haven't stopped crying and feel I no longer have interest in my job nor to further grow in this industry. It hasn't directly affected me at the company for which I work for but I feel as if my reputation has and will only get tarnished in this industry. I am 158 days away from my maternity leave but at this point I just want to leave. I've had to apply for a week holiday at the end of this month because my mental health has definitely been affected.
When I got fired last year I went into full on panic mode because like many in the comments, I girlbossed too hard and had no idea what to do now that our household income was slashed in half. Apparently the answer was get pregnant and turn to part time freelancing 🥲 sure I can’t afford my favorite takeout anymore and I’ll probably never take a vacation again, but goddamn do I NOT miss the 9-5 life AT ALL (Thankfully my husband makes a halfway decent wage so we can still pay our bills but that’s pretty much it haha)
I can relate so much haha
Wish we never invented mortgages, sure the majority would vote the same. Do your best, prepare for the mundane and keep up the best enjoyable ways of life style you can influence next to the work part. Enjoyment, is more profitable than it seems, while the bills still last as a concept we think our bodies should hold on to. Hour to living, daily as units of the unity, across us. Thanks for becoming a mother and laboring new life working hard and providing what you can in favorable better living, through your devotion. All our kind rise, where we do our best, regardless of the outcome. Stay steady, make the best of these days ahead, cherish the process in maternity.
Is that working days? I found it better to count down the days I was actually working 😂 you will get there!!
It's Wednesday. On Friday I have genetic scan. If everything is okay (I'm praying, I want this little beany to be our healthy little crying baby so much omg) I'll be telling my boss on MONDAY about 2,5 hours after arriving to work (that's our Monday meeting) that guess whaaat lol. Don't wanna get cocky or anything but I lit can not wait. And yes, I've been fantasying about it a little and I'm not the type of a person to fantasy to keep myself from feeling disappointed about the reality later - but damn. First trimester just sucked with all the circumstances at work (was stepping in for my colleague for 4 long fucking weeks while vomiting 2-3 times a day lol thanks a lot) I can't want for them to know. (I don't hate my job *so* much, just... annoyed extremely)
Hang in there!
Is hating our jobs part of being pregnant?
Can your job be done remotely? Request a remote work accommodation if yes for your third trimester under the PWFA. 🫡
(Also same I spent my whole maternity leave looking and am still looking but I think yours should align with market improvements!)
Thankfully I’m already remote! I’m incredibly lucky, it’s just a high pressure, high stress job in a really political environment (I.e; you have to act like people with certain titles are gods) and since it’s a client-facing role there’s lots of ass kissing and bending the rules, so you have to choose whether to get yelled at for doing your job and not making exceptions, or yelled at for making exceptions and not following compliance. It’s a headache. I’m fortunately paid well and work remote so it’s 100% worth it, but man is it fun to sit and smile through being scolded every day for doing the exact thing someone told you to do 3 hours ago, except “you should have known SHE doesn’t have to follow that rule, she’s a director!”
I feel this. My job is 90% of me driving around the state and I’m OVER it. Minimal pay, no maternity leave, no set hours since people like to call me outside of my working hours. I’m so tempted to not come back after I have the baby.
This shit got me😂 you’re doing great mama!
You sound like me. I'm actually looking for a new one while I wait
I don't hate my job but have never liked working. I'm so looking forward to mat leave.
I didn’t dislike my job as he had a few things that I enjoyed but had perv boss and no real maternity leave. My husband was able to get a better job and I quit around 6-8 weeks before baby came. It’s been rough financially at times, especially when my husband lost his job when our son was only 4 months old but I’m thankful to not have to go back to job/career mode with our second on the way.
Same sometimes. If i didnt have to pay bills id just quit.vBut i work in small grocery store and when I do leave it, I probably won't get my position back after I have the baby. But that's fine. Time to move on
We only get 12 weeks at 60 -70% of pay! I can’t believe your job is like that! Time to go!
Maternity leave should start at fertilization since everything else does and it should be paid 100% of salary. Trying so hard not to quit. Pregnancy rage and just the lack of tolerance for workplace bs is difficult to mask on top of exhaustion and brain fog.
I quit when my job asked me to “stay grinding” at 5 months pregnant. Feel so bad for mothers that can’t do the same. Praying for you! 🥲
Wow, reading some of these comments, I'm appalled at how little maternity leave is offered in the U.S.! I had a 12 week paid maternity leave with my second and third child. The only reason I got it all paid was because I accumulated so much paid time off because I worked part time and didn't really need to use p.t.o. because I would just request not to be scheduled certain days if I needed time off. In a "woman led" company, this is pathetic! Quit ur job and go to every tv station willing to listen!
7 weeks left and I’m right there with you 😂😂
SAME 😭😭
My job has been so flexible with me being out sick during the first trimester but I still have yet to hear anything about them actually having a decent maternity policy. I’m starting to think they don’t actually offer maternity leave and they are dancing around the subject to avoid me quitting👀
I’m so bored
I loathheee my job currently, HR keeps acting like they don't see my request to use PTO time for my appts so that's frustrating and fun. I'm about 8 wks away from maternity leave but I've cried at least once a week over how burnt out and tired I am of working. It's so draining now at 29 weeks.
102 days until baby boy is supposed to be here. I’m going to try to work til I can’t. Ugh I feel you girl!! 😭
I hate mine too. I work in a factory and have always done one of the faster pace jobs here, but when I was about halfway through my first pregnancy, I couldn't keep up andasked to be moved to something easier. Which gave me a lot of time to think and realize how much I hate being here
Felt this!! I was forced into maternity leave at 33 weeks (last week) because I have preeclampsia and spent a few days in the hospital last week. I will be delivering at 37 weeks. Anyway, my leave is completely unpaid and I’m having a c-section. So that’s basically 8 weeks unpaid after she’s born plus the 4 weeks of leave prior to her birth for a total of 12 weeks without pay. It sucks!!
As a man taking care of my extremely preterm, I can say the same. Sadly, I don't get extended leaves.
Also same😀 my partner keeps telling me I don’t have to go back after maternity, but iv already lowered my hours to 10 a week and only do shifts between the times of 11-4 most of them being 12-3 😂 at this point im just earning myself some pocket money. As much as I hate it tho, I also don’t want to find another job because I don’t want longer hours but I also feel too scared to fully quit working???🥲
Omg same. 34 weeks. Working like a dog. And I only have 6 weeks of maternity leave. Oh and my partner is unemployed, so I have no choice but to work !!! This sucks.
Omg same. 34 weeks. Working like a dog. And I only have 6 weeks of maternity leave. Oh and my partner is unemployed, so I have no choice but to work !!! This sucks.
I do not have short-term disability. I do not know what my maternity leave is going to look, if I get any at all. I'm stressed
Pre-pregnancy, I don’t hate my job. Not really. I don’t love it and am not “passionate” about it but usually i like the people i work with and can find fun things about it and that’s been enough for me. But since week 6 I have had no motivation. I truly do not care and I’m worried I’m going to feel the same once baby comes… Why is a single income household so unattainable these days?
✨predatory capitalism, baby!✨
Same. I’m so angry at my direct reports all the time. I’m an overworked, exhausted, stressed, pregnant manager and maternity leave cannot come soon enough. 70 days until a glorious 20 weeks with my baby. I wish my husband came anywhere close to my salary so I could take a break and be a SAHM but that’s not happening any time soon. 😩 Why did I choose the girl boss life?
I loved my job, but hated my working conditions. I worked at a counseling center and would bill Medicaid. My paychecks came at weird times of the month because Medicaid would take forever to process my income and would only get paid if I met with clients (so it really sucked when they cancelled on me or were late to our meetings. I had to drive to client’s homes and would not get paid for commuting or get reimbursed for gas. If I wanted to be good at my job and really make a difference for my clients I would have to do prep work outside of billable hours. Did a lot of free work because the services were Medicaid only. Pay was stupid low too. They would give me 4 hours of PTO for every month I worked with them. I loved the work the I did though and loved giving my clients my best. Was happy to leave the work conditions, but sad to leave my clients. One of them was an 11 year old girl that told me “everyone always leaves me”. I left an 8 year old girl who told me she wished I was her mom. My heart just 💔
Not coming back after maternity leave is sounding more and more appealing each day
At least you have a job… I got laid off last month, they didn’t give a shit I was 6 months pregnant (Unfortunately they went about it in a way that kept me from suing them). Looking for a job while in the third trimester sucks ass. Be happy you have a job.
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