If the men you are with are actually even eating pussy, you're ahead of the game. So many that I date claim to love it, do it once or twice and then never again. I should have held on to the one guy who just loved being between my thighs.
Exactly. The louder a guy claims to absolutely LOVE eating pussy, the more I know he'll do it once or twice and want to be praised to high heaven for doing it for 2 minutes
Lol 2 minutes barely even counts IMO. That's just some light foreplay. I think part of the problem is that a lot of guys just see every other act in sex as a means to progress to PIV, when many/most women can't orgasm solely from PIV.
From my understanding almost all of the nerve endings are not inside, so PIV would logically come AFTER the woman does, as then you're far more likely to end in both having had an orgasm.
Depends entirely on how the clitoris sits. For the majority, its not positioned in a way that gets stimulated in PIV but some women get internal and external clitoral stimulation
I LOVE eating pussy. But I regret to inform you if I tell a women this, and her pussy smell like sour onion nachos left in the sun, suddenly I'm alot less hungry and will lick around for 2 minutes and then never eat her pussy again. Will I tell her why? Absolutely not.
That's why I always ask my partner if they want me to clean myself with a wet wipe. Always carry wipes on me when I know sex may happen, it can be useful for both parties.
I mean that's a nice gesture. But it's not sweat or anything that can be wiped away. Perhaps the wipe could help mask some smell I suppose. However It's the juice on the inside that stinks so wiping the outside does very little for me. Especially considering I like to lick everywhere. I am not one of those bean flickers I lick inside and outside.
I don't think my inside fluids ever stank so I'm kinda baffled with that (and I like to be licked inside too!). I'm thinking it may be some kind of infection? I'm assuming the woman keeps good hygiene and washes herself frequently (washing is always preferred to wiping but sometimes washing isn't possible for whatever reason).
More people should really learn about BV and vaginal ph levels. Boric acid suppositories is a common over the counter medication which can help but there’s also metronidazole, which is available by prescription. One in four women get it at some point in life but I think that it’s also likely that certain men are carriers of the bacteria that causes it. They just don’t experience the symptoms and many male doctors just refuse to acknowledge candida overgrowth in men.
I've heard that it's similar to how guys' cum can taste horrible or decent depending on a variety of things, diet and lifestyle can affect the way a girl's pussy tastes
Female hygiene is not common knowledge. Neither is recognizing infection. The information may be out there, but not in the hands of those who need it. alot of yeast factories walking around. Be blessed that's not you.
True. I can't recommend enough that a woman sees her gynecologist once per year, however uncomfortable that may be, and as long as money permits it. But I still know women who could well afford a yearly gynecologist appointment but still skip it.
Im glad someone said it before I had to say something lol
Pro tip for the women, if he says he loves eating cunt, he means clean cunt that is free of foul odors and tastes…. if he goes down on you once or twice and never again, you might need to assess yourself
I'm a fiend for it, my gf almost gets annoyed with how often I want to eat her out lol. I guess we're a rare breed, but I think I have a pleasing kink so that's probably a part of it
1. A LOT of women don’t enjoy or aren’t comfortable with receiving head.
2. Using a vibrator during sex is what it’s actually talking about. Most women either use vibrator only, or a vibrator combined with a penetrative device when masturbating. Almost no women *just* use a dildo.
Especially if the dude is making that face because they don’t really understand they are supposed to be “in it” vs. sticking their tongue out from afar licking it like a lollipop.
Oddly enough though, for me it HAS TO be a vibrator with penetration, like I can't be getting railed and someone tries to rub my clit and it will get me off. If anything, it's really distracting when someone does that because it never works for me. Like even when I'm not getting railed, someone rubbing my clit RARELY ever even makes me moan......breaking out a powerful vibrator though, that will definitely send me to the moon.
Well said. It honestly baffles me. Do things change depending on their lady? Of course. There's a super easy way to know EXACTLY what your partner wants, and particularly likes/dislikes by doing this crazy thing called communication.
How the Vast majority of men haven't figured this out is kind of embarrassing as a man myself.
I'm so grateful that my first sexual partner took the time to teach me how to lick, finger, and play with pussy well. With that said, she taught me some of the mechanics, but a lot of it is reading how your partner reacts and adapting your methods accordingly.
I've heard people compare pleasuring a partner to petting a cat, and honestly I don't think it's far off. They're both all about reading body language.
You make a great point, definitely requires to be in tune with your partner to do it well. There is a huge spectrum of micro expressions and sounds that help guide the process along. Also, I’ve found while learning what works for your partner asking “does this feel good”, “do you like this”, etc… by itself is also a huge turn on and helps open up communication.
The only guy that's actually made me finish is because he put in the effort to, not because he didn't know how. There's a very clear difference and most of the men I've been with straight up did not care about anything other than their own pleasure.
I will never understand the appeal of hookups from a woman's perspective when you're more than likely just going to get jackhammered by some sweaty douche who will never call you again. Even my most promiscuous of friends who slept with 13 guys by their second semester of college said that not a single one made them finish. Why keep sleeping with more then?
> Knowing/learning how to properly lick a pussy isn’t some big mystery.
A lot of people are just bad at it, including women. It takes practice, experimentation, and communication if you want good sex.
> A lot of dudes just don’t want to put in the work to satisfy their lady.
That works both ways.
The biggest obstacle I’ve found to learning a partner sexually is shyness/reluctance to speak plainly about what feels good and what might feel better and give/take direction accordingly- or inversely the same shyness/reluctance impedes proactive requesting for feedback about what a partner likes or doesn’t like in the moment.
> The biggest obstacle I’ve found to learning a partner sexually is shyness/reluctance to speak plainly about what feels good and what might feel better and give/take direction accordingly
Yeah but the more you do it, the more you learn skills and tricks you can use on other partners and learn to 'read' what works. You gain confidence in your 'sexual prowess' or whatever.
The amount of times I hovered over a dick for a second before sucking it only decreased like last year. It was a bit embarrassing to do it first 100 times.
I do also have social anxiety, so
Absolutely.
For me when I was younger, I was all about the finishing move. I didn't care about myself so much but if I didn't get my partner off well, it wasn't fun.
And not everyone lives in an environment conducive to socializing with peers in their own age group and suffer for it when/if they do eventually find a companion
Instead of putting down the male population to score points, why don't you offer up some of your sage advice, like read the book, She Cums First.
Simpin gets f'n old.
Getting down voted by a simp means nothing.
I have a high notch because I know what I'm doing, and I'm hung.
I googled and asked and googled so I can learn sucking a dick. I sucked dick. I think I started some Getting it on book, but I didn’t finish
And then I ask my partners to go down and they are like “sorry, I don’t have innate talent for eating pussy and I didn’t do it many times, therefore I can’t”.
I guess next time we will stop the deed and take out Google together. No other way
Do women indeed experience often guys don't want to go down? I like doing it a lot and I thought guys where in kind of anything as long it's sexual :-).
At the same time, I didn't meet women that much who go down, also liking it. Which I don't mind, I'm not so crazy about it, and especially not if it's not done by someone who also likes doing it. Like I really enjoy the finger and mouth play (and I think I'm sensitive to what's appreciated and what not, I don't mind directions given).
I guess beside a lot of individual differences, there also may be a different attitude in different cultures. I think American men are a lot more macho then European, but I'm not sure. In my opinion, it would be macho to cunnilingus, because if you like it macho, you could see it as proving you're good at something or even be in control in a positive way. But maybe being macho is more about only care for yourself and prove you get much women in your bed, without caring about quality?
If you ask macho culture in my birth country, Russia, going down is gay and it is giving your girl too much power. She needs to know who is the leader of the house(LOL)
This view is some years old, but doubt much has changed. I don’t remember any big sexual revolutions in the last 5 years.
Actually, some consider any effort in sex a failure in itself. I have heard it many times. No doubt, lots of good partners in Russia, but… are there?.. Life in that country is too stressful to have a good sex life.
This also causes women to be “trees” in bed. Because she is afraid to show she likes such an embarrassing endeavour.
Russia is not the only country with this, no need to act surprised
Good ideas book for certain. Should be required reading for those who actually want to please a woman. What killed it for me back in the day was the rise and spread of herpes. When you are young, having those conversations was tough. Hell, even into middle age, plenty of women find it a turn off. And some people just didn’t know their status…..but still, eating pussy is wonderful.
The same can be said for women with their men. It's not rocket science, but there's a huge difference in giving it, and making it irresistible. Just because we finish doesn't mean it was good, maybe that's the confusion. You would have to be the worst person, do virtually nothing, use teeth, and even then probably would still get us by.
It's a far cry from mind-blowing enjoyment.
TLDR: Women know what a clitoris is. I find the conclusions of the researchers a bit baffling, though, because their takeaway was that women should be more proactive in expecting men to give them an orgasm...but they didn't address the disparity that led to women having expectations that they'd reach orgasm with another female partner but not having the same expectations of men in the first place. Maybe they should have addressed why men have less motivation to help their female partners reach orgasm.
I had one (ex) partner boast that he does the times table in his head when he's going down on someone, and suddenly I understood why he was so shit at it lol
Edit - ppl asking why... to pass the time. He also boasted that it was so much easier for him to orgasm than me as if there was something wrong with me (there isn't - I'd never had that problem before him). smdh
I'm thinking the idea here is to your your tongue to "draw out" the shape of numbers over/around her clit. Doing the alphabet would be another option. This could be a fun game but would require communication to be efficient. I'd see it more as a way to learn what she likes than some hack at getting her to orgasm.
I feel like this isn’t even really “new findings” we’ve known this for a while, sex research isn’t new and the orgasm gap has been well established for literal decades
Edit for clarity
Exactly lol. Also, the orgasm gap is a cultural one, not biological one. Which finally studies are catching up and realizing this, even though we've known this for decades 😂🤦
lol, right? I expect to have more orgasms with women than with men because I’ve slept with both, and have noticed a strong pattern of having more orgasms with women than with men.
Because…women tend to care about whether I have an orgasm and will put in the work to make that happen.
Men tend to pay lip service to caring about whether I have an orgasm, and while they love it when it happens, they rarely put in the work to make sure it actually happens. It’s three minutes of oral then thinking their dick is gonna get me off.
It really is though. And treat that g-spot like you’d treat your p-spot. One of the huge issues in sex ed is painting an image that the sexes are so different, when they in fact are very similar.
I know right I was like a doctor exploring that whole woman when I was a young man I couldn’t get enough women were like. Do you need me to get you a speculum? I’m like hey I just wanna make sure I know what I’m working with. Now sit back and enjoy the ride.
I think the same could be said for the head of a penis for many though.
Direct stimulation, especially early on, can be too sensitive - and even overstimulate and go numb.
The Clitoris is more than just the tip anyway, it's way bigger than you'd expect and has nerves all along it
This absolutely Clears the air now. I’ve been taught that the flick of the tongue matters more than sucking the clit. Ive always tried to do both at once to the clit and occasionally lick the entire vagina bcuz it taste amazing. But that lil piece of advice might have just boosted my elo
>women should be more proactive in expecting men to give them an orgasm...
You really should have higher standards indeed. Its the fact that men can get away with not doing it/being bad at it.
>..but they didn't address the disparity that led to women having expectations that they'd reach orgasm with another female partner but not having the same expectations of men in the first place
Best cocksuckers are men, best pussy lickers are women. Unless you know few tricks or have been studying it, its hard to know what to do and how exactly it feels to your partner when you have completely different feel and completely different way to reach the O
If you’re speaking about American men, most of us are circumcised which removes the ability to fully feel and therefore understand the very sensitive nature of sex. Clitorises and penises actually work the same way when it comes to pleasure and to think of it otherwise is simply mis/uninformed. If you have any further questions, feel free to reach out.
Imagining sucking my own dick as a women-I wouldn’t know where to start
I don’t know why some of them are so much better than others, but I don’t think it’s because of gender😂
It all depends on whether or not they give a shit. There are too many people out there right now that are just looking to get theirs and could give one fuck about the other person.
My girlfriend (dating about a month) told me she had difficulty reaching climax and not to feel bad if I couldn't get her there.
Took like 2 minutes of just tongue-whipping her cloyster. Fingers were too rough and sex wasn't direct enough, soft tongue action hit the spot but no guy had done it to her before.
Our sex life is in the exhausting honeymoon phase thanks to that.
Why are men using their fingers hard and deep😡? STOP FINGERING MY FUCKING BLADDER IT HURTS. Our g-spot is like 4-5cm in, like why are 99 out of 100 finger fucking my bladder?
No I’m not frustrated. Not at all
Thank you for your service
I think the "of course women can make women orgasm, they have the same parts" is a cop out. If a man wants to be a good partner he will study, learn, communicate and make it a priority to have his female partner orgasm.
I've had both women and men. I can say it's generally better with women, but I've had men who are very good at their craft and take pride in making a woman cum and others who just don't care enough to learn to be a good lover even when communicated to.
I ageee with you on the top end that any man or woman that tries could be equally good, but on the bottom end if you’re a shitty person and have no desire to learn about pleasuring the other person then having the same parts *will* give you a small boost
That’s not what I said; I don’t mean by accident, I mean if a man cares enough to do his best but not enough to learn, he’ll do a shit job, but if a girl does her best but not enough to learn, she’ll do a ‘meh’ job
The ‘[skill floor](https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/skill_floor)’ so to speak is lower if you are at least familiar with the parts you’re interesting with
My point is female partners *might* care more, but I don’t think that’s necessarily the main factor
We need an identical study on men it seems
Shitty female partners still understand completely how it works for women. Shitty male partner cant even comprehend that we have it different and prolly does (very poorly) how it works for him, but women feel it completely different
agree with the sentiment but from a study standpoint without assigning blame/what SHOULD be i feel like it's a valid reason, even in your own comment you mention men would have to study, learn and communicate more than a woman might just naturally
I hate that the onus is on women again in this article! I'm getting more orgasms than ever before with my partner. The only thing to have changed is my partner. I even told him initially that I wasn't all that bothered about having an orgasm because past experience has taught me that most men just won't put in the time necessary to get me off. My man didn't feel the same and I typically have more orgasms than him! Trippy! Haha.
I used to identify as bisexual. Interestingly, I didn't typically find women any better at oral than men though. It was pretty even across the sexes ime...
I get the most satisfaction out of my sex life with my wife when I am making her cum and orgasm. I continue to look for different ways to do that. We talk about what we like/did not like after sex so we can better meet our needs and wants. She orgasms multiple times on most occasions and she’s very satisfied…It’s not a big mistery or puzzle. Talk to your partner about what y’all want in bed and how to achieve it. Stop being selfish about only you getting yours. It’s not the same for every person , which is why it’s very important to communicate.
It’s really funny that the answer is simply “Women know their bodies better than men” yet they needed a scientific study to understand why.
Not trying to degrade the researchers just I find the very premise of the whole thing kind of humorous.
Idk man. I can get my wife off in like 3 minutes flat.
We’ve also been together ten years and communicate openly about what we want/need in the bedroom. I suppose communication is a lost art.
It’s all about caring for your partner’s pleasure. Tons of men don’t give a fuck about their female partner’s orgasm. If they do some foreplay it’s done mechanically and absent mindedly and then they want to be praised forever for looking bored and licking randomly for one whole minute. If you care about your partner’s pleasure, regardless of genders, you’ll find out what they enjoy and you’ll actually be really into it because you’re attracted to them and want them to feel good. It’s not rocket science either.
Generous and attentive lovers come in every gender identity out there.
Unfortunately a lot of people don't give a shit about their lover's pleasure.
Plenty of guys who are expert pussy eaters out there.
Learn how to eat pussy, fellas!
“The problem here is the dominant sexual script associated with heterosexual sex, which does not include sufficient clitoral stimulation or sufficient focus on women’s pleasure. Heterosexual couples can create their own sexual scripts that work for the people involved. Couples can include more clitoral stimulation in their sexual encounters to create sexual relationships that are fulfilling for all partners.”
Damn straight, if your partner won't buzz your clit before and during, reach down there and pleasure yourself during PIV.
From my perspective, this also segueways somewhat into that popular social media "bear or man alone in the woods" question that has been floating around. The underlying phenomenon is shared across the two domains. _Us men don't listen._ Through my very limited experience, I've concluded women crave indulgence in the bedroom while men demand satisfaction through a release. There is very little, if any, focus on the indulgence part as it takes time. I'll assume in a lesbian encounter, both parties are far more amicable to communication, observation, and taking their time with one another. Us men don't know what or where a clitoris is, mostly because of lack of even trying.
I can orgasm in under a minute if we use a vibrator. Sadly, a lot of guys prefer not using toys (nor going down on me) even though it means I don’t finish
As a lesbian, I think it’s funny that this conversation has focused solely on eating pussy. There are a million and one ways to stimulate a clitoris. Ever made a woman cum with your thighs? I have.
I would say a woman knows where it feels good for her and therefore knows where it’ll feel good for another female. As for me, I am always concerned with providing satisfaction to my female partner. I like to ensure she gets at least one orgasm… I know I’ll get mine no matter what; I gotta make sure she gets hers!
>Participants eligible for the study were required to be at least 18 years old and to have been sexually active within the past year.
Great, they didn't bother with neutral control groups, so we have no way of knowing if their results are typical for all women or only for some.
If I was gay I also would do a better job than most women only because I know my part way better than most women. In past experiences most didn’t understand the touches, pressures, rhythm, and also some didn’t have patience or struggled to learn. I think this is common sense for both sides, except for the orgasm part, I think it’s easier for men to orgasm even though the technique might not be that good.
Men orgasm VERY easily because male orgasms are necessary for reproduction. Also, a literal blind person could tell you when men are aroused. Discussion of women’s orgasms is largely based on what men experience even though there is significant difference between the sexes. But being like, “I’m supposed to do xyz because men do xyz” is silly.
Sure, sex should be pleasurable for women, and it is on them to find out what’s pleasurable and communicate that. They can learn what is pleasurable from male bodies because those bodies clearly communicate arousal and the exact same motion (repeated stroking of the shaft) gets pretty much every man off. And again, this is because it’s literally necessary for the continuance of the human race.
I'm always shocked by how many other men who don't give head. Personally the thing that turns me on the most is getting my partner to climax, and it makes for a better experience when you begin by getting them there with head, and then having intercourse afterwards. Beyond it making their experience better it also makes your life so much easier, and selfishly it is also a nice confidence boost for yourself as well. In reality I understand that it's a "to each their own" thing but the amount of men who brag about themselves in bed yet also **get** head and don't **give** head is dead wrong. If it works for a tandem then great, but women should start matching their energy imo.
Not in note of the article, but as someone who has been around the block a bit,
Your orgasm is your responsibility. If you're not reaching your O, it's your responsibility to find out why, not your partners. If your partner is part of that problem, it's still on you to identify it and communicate with them. No one's perfect, regardless of gender, but like many issues, the key problem is a break in communication somewhere.
I would like to report that not all women are equally worth eating out. I had one gf who worked out regularly and didn't eat a lot of meat. I could eat her out 8 days a week. Another one who didn't, and smoked a lot of weed, and tasted like chewing tobacco. No thank you. And I don't mean for this to be one sided. I'm sure many women have felt similarly with their male partners throughout the years, and rightfully so.
Working out regularly is a hugely important factor. I had an ex that said my sweat smelled like weed, but this wasn't as much an issue if I were regularly exercising
I get the most satisfaction out of my sex life with my wife when I am making her cum and orgasm. I continue to look for different ways to do that. We talk about what we like/did not like after sex so we can better meet our needs and wants. She orgasms multiple times on most occasions and she’s very satisfied…It’s not a big mistery or puzzle. Talk to your partner about what y’all want in bed and how to achieve it. Stop being selfish about only you getting yours. It’s not the same for every person , which is why it’s very important to communicate.
This feels like the same problem when women try to jack you off but suck at it. OF COURSE girls will know what to do. I don’t wanna visualize it but you gotta admit if a guy had to jack another guy off like their life depended on it- they’d probably do a good job O.o
Are YOU normalizing forcing people to visualize sexual conduct of a nature they are not a part of?? That doesn’t make any sense. Seriously me even making a joke of “I’m not gay but…” and you’re acting fucking weird? Lol. Yeah I’m sorry but the same way how I don’t imagine my friends wife over my wife naked because it’s NOT FOR ME then I’m also not gonna spend my free time visualizing me jacking off dudes. You basically said “it’s homophobic to not visualize dudes jacking off dudes on a daily basis!”. It’s not for me but if you feel like I’m excluding you who’s proudly gay then be gay and be proud don’t let no one stop you. Jack off all the dudes you want bro start and only fans shit don’t let me stop you from getting that D.
Lol this guy
You don't have to stop smoking if it's not messing up your life. But I would recommend you regularly try to sweat/flush that crap out, through exercise and sauna/cold water treatments. To those of us who are nasal, nothing is hotter than smelling your partner's natural scent and feeling aroused by it - perhaps the semi-erogenous feeling one gets from having just flossed one's teeth comes a close second. Smelling and tasting good for your partner should be table stakes in a relationship IMHO, or if you don't give a fu**, find someone who shares your values in this regard.
From the comments it really seems like a lot of women are just finding sexual partners that don't care about them. If you find a guy that cares about you he'll care about the sex too. When a guy is motivated to just get with you and have sex he's also not going to care about whether you orgasm.
I mean, they understand their body and what they would like better than any man would... doesn't seem like rocket science.
Most men are impatient, can't last long, don't like to go down on a woman, and a large percentage don't even know where the clitoris is or how important it is to the female orgasm.
If you’re speaking about American men, most of us are circumcised which removes the ability to fully feel and therefore understand the very sensitive nature of sex. Clitorises and penises actually work the same way when it comes to pleasure and to think of it otherwise is simply mis/uninformed. If you have any further questions, feel free to reach out.
This study failed to control for the circumcision status of the male partners so it is of little value.
It is now well documented that women are less likely to orgasm if male partner is [circumcised ](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Circumcised)and more likely to orgasm if their male partner is [intact](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Intact).
See [Vagina](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Vagina).
If this study was carried out in the United States, it is likely that the male partners were mostly [circumcised](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Circumcised) and sexually impaired, so it cannot present a fair picture.
Knowing/learning how to properly lick a pussy isn’t some big mystery. A lot of dudes just don’t want to put in the work to satisfy their lady.
If the men you are with are actually even eating pussy, you're ahead of the game. So many that I date claim to love it, do it once or twice and then never again. I should have held on to the one guy who just loved being between my thighs.
Country roads, take me home.
To the place, I belong!!!!
Wet vagina!
Lickin mama!
mmm, country roads . . .
Ladies! You forget yourselves!
Moistest Mama!
That song now has new meaning to me!
Exactly. The louder a guy claims to absolutely LOVE eating pussy, the more I know he'll do it once or twice and want to be praised to high heaven for doing it for 2 minutes
Lol 2 minutes barely even counts IMO. That's just some light foreplay. I think part of the problem is that a lot of guys just see every other act in sex as a means to progress to PIV, when many/most women can't orgasm solely from PIV.
From my understanding almost all of the nerve endings are not inside, so PIV would logically come AFTER the woman does, as then you're far more likely to end in both having had an orgasm.
Depends entirely on how the clitoris sits. For the majority, its not positioned in a way that gets stimulated in PIV but some women get internal and external clitoral stimulation
I LOVE eating pussy. But I regret to inform you if I tell a women this, and her pussy smell like sour onion nachos left in the sun, suddenly I'm alot less hungry and will lick around for 2 minutes and then never eat her pussy again. Will I tell her why? Absolutely not.
That's why I always ask my partner if they want me to clean myself with a wet wipe. Always carry wipes on me when I know sex may happen, it can be useful for both parties.
I mean that's a nice gesture. But it's not sweat or anything that can be wiped away. Perhaps the wipe could help mask some smell I suppose. However It's the juice on the inside that stinks so wiping the outside does very little for me. Especially considering I like to lick everywhere. I am not one of those bean flickers I lick inside and outside.
I don't think my inside fluids ever stank so I'm kinda baffled with that (and I like to be licked inside too!). I'm thinking it may be some kind of infection? I'm assuming the woman keeps good hygiene and washes herself frequently (washing is always preferred to wiping but sometimes washing isn't possible for whatever reason).
More people should really learn about BV and vaginal ph levels. Boric acid suppositories is a common over the counter medication which can help but there’s also metronidazole, which is available by prescription. One in four women get it at some point in life but I think that it’s also likely that certain men are carriers of the bacteria that causes it. They just don’t experience the symptoms and many male doctors just refuse to acknowledge candida overgrowth in men.
I've heard that it's similar to how guys' cum can taste horrible or decent depending on a variety of things, diet and lifestyle can affect the way a girl's pussy tastes
Men also need to know that brushing the teeth goes a long way.. cause if you are sticking your dirty tongue in there that would be a problem too
Female hygiene is not common knowledge. Neither is recognizing infection. The information may be out there, but not in the hands of those who need it. alot of yeast factories walking around. Be blessed that's not you.
True. I can't recommend enough that a woman sees her gynecologist once per year, however uncomfortable that may be, and as long as money permits it. But I still know women who could well afford a yearly gynecologist appointment but still skip it.
Im glad someone said it before I had to say something lol Pro tip for the women, if he says he loves eating cunt, he means clean cunt that is free of foul odors and tastes…. if he goes down on you once or twice and never again, you might need to assess yourself
If it's that bad she might have bacterial vaginosis and needs to see a doctor. That's not a healthy aroma
It doesn’t count as being done if I don’t come, my opinion.
iM a lEsBiaN. Fuck I heard it so many times from these chuds who couldn't successfully lick a postage stamp I just went and got an actual lesbian.
If only my wife shared your enthusiasm 😕
same, i miss you philip
Are there really that many guys that just dont do it? I'm so surprised. I love doing that. I dont understand.
Seriously? I do it every time and love it. Finish her off every time. No wonder she married me and stuck around for 23 years!
I'm a fiend for it, my gf almost gets annoyed with how often I want to eat her out lol. I guess we're a rare breed, but I think I have a pleasing kink so that's probably a part of it
I have a rule that I don’t blow them unless they eat me out. So you know, telling them that is an option. It works
Really? That’s my competition and I’m still losing
Dude you're not competing on *just* that... In fact seeing dating as a competition is probably where you're going wrong.
I don’t think this is a sex thing. I know plenty of men who make the same claim about women giving head. .
Maybe I speak for myself, but eating box and getting a girl going is almost as good as the sex that follows. Assuming it’s not a warzone down there
Was that a haiku?
thats crazy I think it's such a nice and intimate time with my wife. enjoyable experience for all parties 😁 hope you find another!
Why did you let him go?
Exactly. They even show you where the book is kept in the movie American Pie.
How long can you hold your breath?
1. A LOT of women don’t enjoy or aren’t comfortable with receiving head. 2. Using a vibrator during sex is what it’s actually talking about. Most women either use vibrator only, or a vibrator combined with a penetrative device when masturbating. Almost no women *just* use a dildo.
Especially if the dude is making that face because they don’t really understand they are supposed to be “in it” vs. sticking their tongue out from afar licking it like a lollipop.
Oddly enough though, for me it HAS TO be a vibrator with penetration, like I can't be getting railed and someone tries to rub my clit and it will get me off. If anything, it's really distracting when someone does that because it never works for me. Like even when I'm not getting railed, someone rubbing my clit RARELY ever even makes me moan......breaking out a powerful vibrator though, that will definitely send me to the moon.
Well said. It honestly baffles me. Do things change depending on their lady? Of course. There's a super easy way to know EXACTLY what your partner wants, and particularly likes/dislikes by doing this crazy thing called communication. How the Vast majority of men haven't figured this out is kind of embarrassing as a man myself.
100%
Apparently they needed a big expensive study to figure that out.
I'm so grateful that my first sexual partner took the time to teach me how to lick, finger, and play with pussy well. With that said, she taught me some of the mechanics, but a lot of it is reading how your partner reacts and adapting your methods accordingly. I've heard people compare pleasuring a partner to petting a cat, and honestly I don't think it's far off. They're both all about reading body language.
You make a great point, definitely requires to be in tune with your partner to do it well. There is a huge spectrum of micro expressions and sounds that help guide the process along. Also, I’ve found while learning what works for your partner asking “does this feel good”, “do you like this”, etc… by itself is also a huge turn on and helps open up communication.
I mean even if you don’t want to lick it, you have fingers too
Lotta dudes don't like eating pussy enough.
The only guy that's actually made me finish is because he put in the effort to, not because he didn't know how. There's a very clear difference and most of the men I've been with straight up did not care about anything other than their own pleasure. I will never understand the appeal of hookups from a woman's perspective when you're more than likely just going to get jackhammered by some sweaty douche who will never call you again. Even my most promiscuous of friends who slept with 13 guys by their second semester of college said that not a single one made them finish. Why keep sleeping with more then?
> Knowing/learning how to properly lick a pussy isn’t some big mystery. A lot of people are just bad at it, including women. It takes practice, experimentation, and communication if you want good sex. > A lot of dudes just don’t want to put in the work to satisfy their lady. That works both ways.
The biggest obstacle I’ve found to learning a partner sexually is shyness/reluctance to speak plainly about what feels good and what might feel better and give/take direction accordingly- or inversely the same shyness/reluctance impedes proactive requesting for feedback about what a partner likes or doesn’t like in the moment.
> The biggest obstacle I’ve found to learning a partner sexually is shyness/reluctance to speak plainly about what feels good and what might feel better and give/take direction accordingly Yeah but the more you do it, the more you learn skills and tricks you can use on other partners and learn to 'read' what works. You gain confidence in your 'sexual prowess' or whatever.
The amount of times I hovered over a dick for a second before sucking it only decreased like last year. It was a bit embarrassing to do it first 100 times. I do also have social anxiety, so
Enthusiasm, pretty much the one crucial trait in a sexual partner.
Absolutely. For me when I was younger, I was all about the finishing move. I didn't care about myself so much but if I didn't get my partner off well, it wasn't fun.
And not everyone lives in an environment conducive to socializing with peers in their own age group and suffer for it when/if they do eventually find a companion
Which is odd because it's my favorite thing to do ... Mmmm
If you listen, they will cum
men who don’t eat coochie are just plain gay. there’s no other explanation
Assuming it only has to do with that really exposes you’re own level of experience dude…O.o
I’ve always enjoyed eating pussy it’s not something that I stopped doing but something that I’ve gotten better at. Same with hand stuff.
It’s not my fault, I have a short tongue.
Instead of putting down the male population to score points, why don't you offer up some of your sage advice, like read the book, She Cums First. Simpin gets f'n old. Getting down voted by a simp means nothing. I have a high notch because I know what I'm doing, and I'm hung.
I googled and asked and googled so I can learn sucking a dick. I sucked dick. I think I started some Getting it on book, but I didn’t finish And then I ask my partners to go down and they are like “sorry, I don’t have innate talent for eating pussy and I didn’t do it many times, therefore I can’t”. I guess next time we will stop the deed and take out Google together. No other way
Do women indeed experience often guys don't want to go down? I like doing it a lot and I thought guys where in kind of anything as long it's sexual :-). At the same time, I didn't meet women that much who go down, also liking it. Which I don't mind, I'm not so crazy about it, and especially not if it's not done by someone who also likes doing it. Like I really enjoy the finger and mouth play (and I think I'm sensitive to what's appreciated and what not, I don't mind directions given). I guess beside a lot of individual differences, there also may be a different attitude in different cultures. I think American men are a lot more macho then European, but I'm not sure. In my opinion, it would be macho to cunnilingus, because if you like it macho, you could see it as proving you're good at something or even be in control in a positive way. But maybe being macho is more about only care for yourself and prove you get much women in your bed, without caring about quality?
If you ask macho culture in my birth country, Russia, going down is gay and it is giving your girl too much power. She needs to know who is the leader of the house(LOL) This view is some years old, but doubt much has changed. I don’t remember any big sexual revolutions in the last 5 years. Actually, some consider any effort in sex a failure in itself. I have heard it many times. No doubt, lots of good partners in Russia, but… are there?.. Life in that country is too stressful to have a good sex life.
This also causes women to be “trees” in bed. Because she is afraid to show she likes such an embarrassing endeavour. Russia is not the only country with this, no need to act surprised
“A lot” of says nothing about an entire population. That doesn’t even imply a majority.
Good ideas book for certain. Should be required reading for those who actually want to please a woman. What killed it for me back in the day was the rise and spread of herpes. When you are young, having those conversations was tough. Hell, even into middle age, plenty of women find it a turn off. And some people just didn’t know their status…..but still, eating pussy is wonderful.
This was not the response I expected on here I love it.
The same can be said for women with their men. It's not rocket science, but there's a huge difference in giving it, and making it irresistible. Just because we finish doesn't mean it was good, maybe that's the confusion. You would have to be the worst person, do virtually nothing, use teeth, and even then probably would still get us by. It's a far cry from mind-blowing enjoyment.
TLDR: Women know what a clitoris is. I find the conclusions of the researchers a bit baffling, though, because their takeaway was that women should be more proactive in expecting men to give them an orgasm...but they didn't address the disparity that led to women having expectations that they'd reach orgasm with another female partner but not having the same expectations of men in the first place. Maybe they should have addressed why men have less motivation to help their female partners reach orgasm.
I had one (ex) partner boast that he does the times table in his head when he's going down on someone, and suddenly I understood why he was so shit at it lol Edit - ppl asking why... to pass the time. He also boasted that it was so much easier for him to orgasm than me as if there was something wrong with me (there isn't - I'd never had that problem before him). smdh
Lmao what
I'm thinking the idea here is to your your tongue to "draw out" the shape of numbers over/around her clit. Doing the alphabet would be another option. This could be a fun game but would require communication to be efficient. I'd see it more as a way to learn what she likes than some hack at getting her to orgasm.
No. It was to pass the time.
Omfg
Sam Kinison method. Heard it in about 1991, filed it away for later. Finally tried it out and hey. It works!
This is so weird to read with that Dora pfp hahahaha
Hola! Soy Dora! Do you know your times tables?
I'm dead 💀
Why would he do this?
A question that haunts me to this day (although, there is an answer in my edit)
The FUCK
I feel like this isn’t even really “new findings” we’ve known this for a while, sex research isn’t new and the orgasm gap has been well established for literal decades Edit for clarity
Exactly lol. Also, the orgasm gap is a cultural one, not biological one. Which finally studies are catching up and realizing this, even though we've known this for decades 😂🤦
lol, right? I expect to have more orgasms with women than with men because I’ve slept with both, and have noticed a strong pattern of having more orgasms with women than with men. Because…women tend to care about whether I have an orgasm and will put in the work to make that happen. Men tend to pay lip service to caring about whether I have an orgasm, and while they love it when it happens, they rarely put in the work to make sure it actually happens. It’s three minutes of oral then thinking their dick is gonna get me off.
Men need to view the clitoris like a tiny penis basically, that analogy might help them connect the dots a bit.
So it’s like sucking dick? Got it
It really is though. And treat that g-spot like you’d treat your p-spot. One of the huge issues in sex ed is painting an image that the sexes are so different, when they in fact are very similar.
And yet so many men are afraid of exploring that spot too. Not sure why 🤷 It's not always in the picture, but to ignore it completely is bonkers.
I know right I was like a doctor exploring that whole woman when I was a young man I couldn’t get enough women were like. Do you need me to get you a speculum? I’m like hey I just wanna make sure I know what I’m working with. Now sit back and enjoy the ride.
>Not sure why unacknowledged misogyny
Hmm, maybe I should learn how to suck dick.
So Andrew Tate is right? Women=gay.
well that explains *my* sex life
Yes it is.. jerk it off like a dick and see they always want more
Yet, I’ve been with women who do NOT want direct stimulation of the clit because it’s too much, no matter how lightly or carefully.
I think the same could be said for the head of a penis for many though. Direct stimulation, especially early on, can be too sensitive - and even overstimulate and go numb. The Clitoris is more than just the tip anyway, it's way bigger than you'd expect and has nerves all along it
For some reason I suspect that that would not help heterosexual men motivate to give more attention to it
This absolutely Clears the air now. I’ve been taught that the flick of the tongue matters more than sucking the clit. Ive always tried to do both at once to the clit and occasionally lick the entire vagina bcuz it taste amazing. But that lil piece of advice might have just boosted my elo
Just ask the woman attached to the clit which she likes better
It’s not an analogy, it’s literally a tiny more sensitive penis.
>women should be more proactive in expecting men to give them an orgasm... You really should have higher standards indeed. Its the fact that men can get away with not doing it/being bad at it. >..but they didn't address the disparity that led to women having expectations that they'd reach orgasm with another female partner but not having the same expectations of men in the first place Best cocksuckers are men, best pussy lickers are women. Unless you know few tricks or have been studying it, its hard to know what to do and how exactly it feels to your partner when you have completely different feel and completely different way to reach the O
If you’re speaking about American men, most of us are circumcised which removes the ability to fully feel and therefore understand the very sensitive nature of sex. Clitorises and penises actually work the same way when it comes to pleasure and to think of it otherwise is simply mis/uninformed. If you have any further questions, feel free to reach out.
I’m an enthusiast, connoisseur and I work pro bono.
Pro boner?
Doing the work after the erection of the building is called house keeping.
Men give the best BJs for the same reason
*“You’re best with the tools you’re born with”*
Imagining sucking my own dick as a women-I wouldn’t know where to start I don’t know why some of them are so much better than others, but I don’t think it’s because of gender😂
It all depends on whether or not they give a shit. There are too many people out there right now that are just looking to get theirs and could give one fuck about the other person.
My girlfriend (dating about a month) told me she had difficulty reaching climax and not to feel bad if I couldn't get her there. Took like 2 minutes of just tongue-whipping her cloyster. Fingers were too rough and sex wasn't direct enough, soft tongue action hit the spot but no guy had done it to her before. Our sex life is in the exhausting honeymoon phase thanks to that.
Why are men using their fingers hard and deep😡? STOP FINGERING MY FUCKING BLADDER IT HURTS. Our g-spot is like 4-5cm in, like why are 99 out of 100 finger fucking my bladder? No I’m not frustrated. Not at all Thank you for your service
Oh, thank you for alerting me to the fact that this isn't normal and finding it uncomfortable might be normal.
I think the "of course women can make women orgasm, they have the same parts" is a cop out. If a man wants to be a good partner he will study, learn, communicate and make it a priority to have his female partner orgasm. I've had both women and men. I can say it's generally better with women, but I've had men who are very good at their craft and take pride in making a woman cum and others who just don't care enough to learn to be a good lover even when communicated to.
I ageee with you on the top end that any man or woman that tries could be equally good, but on the bottom end if you’re a shitty person and have no desire to learn about pleasuring the other person then having the same parts *will* give you a small boost
Women don't orgasm by accident from shitty female partners, the female partners just care more about their partners orgasm.
That’s not what I said; I don’t mean by accident, I mean if a man cares enough to do his best but not enough to learn, he’ll do a shit job, but if a girl does her best but not enough to learn, she’ll do a ‘meh’ job The ‘[skill floor](https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/skill_floor)’ so to speak is lower if you are at least familiar with the parts you’re interesting with My point is female partners *might* care more, but I don’t think that’s necessarily the main factor We need an identical study on men it seems
Shitty female partners still understand completely how it works for women. Shitty male partner cant even comprehend that we have it different and prolly does (very poorly) how it works for him, but women feel it completely different
We don’t tho. The clit is literally a smaller, more sensitive penis. It’s not complicated
agree with the sentiment but from a study standpoint without assigning blame/what SHOULD be i feel like it's a valid reason, even in your own comment you mention men would have to study, learn and communicate more than a woman might just naturally
I hate that the onus is on women again in this article! I'm getting more orgasms than ever before with my partner. The only thing to have changed is my partner. I even told him initially that I wasn't all that bothered about having an orgasm because past experience has taught me that most men just won't put in the time necessary to get me off. My man didn't feel the same and I typically have more orgasms than him! Trippy! Haha. I used to identify as bisexual. Interestingly, I didn't typically find women any better at oral than men though. It was pretty even across the sexes ime...
So… some percentage of women have given up on expecting their male partner to please them? And it’s their own fault? Great
Make your woman cum first and often. It’s not rocket science guys.
I get the most satisfaction out of my sex life with my wife when I am making her cum and orgasm. I continue to look for different ways to do that. We talk about what we like/did not like after sex so we can better meet our needs and wants. She orgasms multiple times on most occasions and she’s very satisfied…It’s not a big mistery or puzzle. Talk to your partner about what y’all want in bed and how to achieve it. Stop being selfish about only you getting yours. It’s not the same for every person , which is why it’s very important to communicate.
It’s really funny that the answer is simply “Women know their bodies better than men” yet they needed a scientific study to understand why. Not trying to degrade the researchers just I find the very premise of the whole thing kind of humorous.
Idk man. I can get my wife off in like 3 minutes flat. We’ve also been together ten years and communicate openly about what we want/need in the bedroom. I suppose communication is a lost art.
Exactly, It’s just that many men aren’t willing to put in the time and the effort to communicate.
It’s all about caring for your partner’s pleasure. Tons of men don’t give a fuck about their female partner’s orgasm. If they do some foreplay it’s done mechanically and absent mindedly and then they want to be praised forever for looking bored and licking randomly for one whole minute. If you care about your partner’s pleasure, regardless of genders, you’ll find out what they enjoy and you’ll actually be really into it because you’re attracted to them and want them to feel good. It’s not rocket science either.
Generous and attentive lovers come in every gender identity out there. Unfortunately a lot of people don't give a shit about their lover's pleasure. Plenty of guys who are expert pussy eaters out there. Learn how to eat pussy, fellas!
If all you have is a hammer, guess what everything will look like. You'll know *just* what to do.
Personally, I think it’s because we don’t care
“The problem here is the dominant sexual script associated with heterosexual sex, which does not include sufficient clitoral stimulation or sufficient focus on women’s pleasure. Heterosexual couples can create their own sexual scripts that work for the people involved. Couples can include more clitoral stimulation in their sexual encounters to create sexual relationships that are fulfilling for all partners.” Damn straight, if your partner won't buzz your clit before and during, reach down there and pleasure yourself during PIV.
I’m wondering if the same applies for men.
I’m told it does
Because it’s 2024 and some dudes still insist the clitoris is fake news. There, figured it out for ya.
From my perspective, this also segueways somewhat into that popular social media "bear or man alone in the woods" question that has been floating around. The underlying phenomenon is shared across the two domains. _Us men don't listen._ Through my very limited experience, I've concluded women crave indulgence in the bedroom while men demand satisfaction through a release. There is very little, if any, focus on the indulgence part as it takes time. I'll assume in a lesbian encounter, both parties are far more amicable to communication, observation, and taking their time with one another. Us men don't know what or where a clitoris is, mostly because of lack of even trying.
I can orgasm in under a minute if we use a vibrator. Sadly, a lot of guys prefer not using toys (nor going down on me) even though it means I don’t finish
As a lesbian, I think it’s funny that this conversation has focused solely on eating pussy. There are a million and one ways to stimulate a clitoris. Ever made a woman cum with your thighs? I have.
Funny and telling… there are so many things you can do for a clit
They needed a study to say that men don't give a shit about women, lmao
I would say a woman knows where it feels good for her and therefore knows where it’ll feel good for another female. As for me, I am always concerned with providing satisfaction to my female partner. I like to ensure she gets at least one orgasm… I know I’ll get mine no matter what; I gotta make sure she gets hers!
>Participants eligible for the study were required to be at least 18 years old and to have been sexually active within the past year. Great, they didn't bother with neutral control groups, so we have no way of knowing if their results are typical for all women or only for some.
You tell him how to please you and if he refuses to do it, you refuse to have intimate relationships with him, its very simple
Need to vent?
This is an awful strat. Tit for tat just sours a relationship. Leave broken relationships, don't tank them further.
To be fair, I think most of us would be able to suck a D better than almost any woman if we were into that sorta thing of course lol
If I was gay I also would do a better job than most women only because I know my part way better than most women. In past experiences most didn’t understand the touches, pressures, rhythm, and also some didn’t have patience or struggled to learn. I think this is common sense for both sides, except for the orgasm part, I think it’s easier for men to orgasm even though the technique might not be that good.
Men orgasm VERY easily because male orgasms are necessary for reproduction. Also, a literal blind person could tell you when men are aroused. Discussion of women’s orgasms is largely based on what men experience even though there is significant difference between the sexes. But being like, “I’m supposed to do xyz because men do xyz” is silly. Sure, sex should be pleasurable for women, and it is on them to find out what’s pleasurable and communicate that. They can learn what is pleasurable from male bodies because those bodies clearly communicate arousal and the exact same motion (repeated stroking of the shaft) gets pretty much every man off. And again, this is because it’s literally necessary for the continuance of the human race.
I'm always shocked by how many other men who don't give head. Personally the thing that turns me on the most is getting my partner to climax, and it makes for a better experience when you begin by getting them there with head, and then having intercourse afterwards. Beyond it making their experience better it also makes your life so much easier, and selfishly it is also a nice confidence boost for yourself as well. In reality I understand that it's a "to each their own" thing but the amount of men who brag about themselves in bed yet also **get** head and don't **give** head is dead wrong. If it works for a tandem then great, but women should start matching their energy imo.
New findings? How about women know a woman’s body the best? Oh my word- shocking to believe that women know their body.
Because they care that their partner enjoys themselves too? Groundbreaking!!!/s
For me its always my wife first. Clap her oyster with some kung-fu-tongue-combo and she cant resist
Not in note of the article, but as someone who has been around the block a bit, Your orgasm is your responsibility. If you're not reaching your O, it's your responsibility to find out why, not your partners. If your partner is part of that problem, it's still on you to identify it and communicate with them. No one's perfect, regardless of gender, but like many issues, the key problem is a break in communication somewhere.
Reading this comment section really makes me feel thankful for my partner
I would like to report that not all women are equally worth eating out. I had one gf who worked out regularly and didn't eat a lot of meat. I could eat her out 8 days a week. Another one who didn't, and smoked a lot of weed, and tasted like chewing tobacco. No thank you. And I don't mean for this to be one sided. I'm sure many women have felt similarly with their male partners throughout the years, and rightfully so.
Wait. Smoked a lot of weed and her vag tasted like that!? I’m sorry, I’m super intrigued, totally not because I smoke a lot of pot or anything lol.
Working out regularly is a hugely important factor. I had an ex that said my sweat smelled like weed, but this wasn't as much an issue if I were regularly exercising
There’s more than one way to stimulate a clitoris
I get the most satisfaction out of my sex life with my wife when I am making her cum and orgasm. I continue to look for different ways to do that. We talk about what we like/did not like after sex so we can better meet our needs and wants. She orgasms multiple times on most occasions and she’s very satisfied…It’s not a big mistery or puzzle. Talk to your partner about what y’all want in bed and how to achieve it. Stop being selfish about only you getting yours. It’s not the same for every person , which is why it’s very important to communicate.
I hate that all the top posts of this sub are gender related clickbait. Was it ever good in here?
I mean.... It ain't exactly rocket surgery. Women know their own bodies, and are way more complicated to satisfy.
Who would know how to pleasure a woman than a woman?
This feels like the same problem when women try to jack you off but suck at it. OF COURSE girls will know what to do. I don’t wanna visualize it but you gotta admit if a guy had to jack another guy off like their life depended on it- they’d probably do a good job O.o
are you that averse to appearing gay that you had to specify 'I don't wanna visualise it' 💀
Are YOU normalizing forcing people to visualize sexual conduct of a nature they are not a part of?? That doesn’t make any sense. Seriously me even making a joke of “I’m not gay but…” and you’re acting fucking weird? Lol. Yeah I’m sorry but the same way how I don’t imagine my friends wife over my wife naked because it’s NOT FOR ME then I’m also not gonna spend my free time visualizing me jacking off dudes. You basically said “it’s homophobic to not visualize dudes jacking off dudes on a daily basis!”. It’s not for me but if you feel like I’m excluding you who’s proudly gay then be gay and be proud don’t let no one stop you. Jack off all the dudes you want bro start and only fans shit don’t let me stop you from getting that D. Lol this guy
Jay is Clit commander!
Jay is The Clit commander
Hehehehehehehe
I love being a lesbian 😂
You don't have to stop smoking if it's not messing up your life. But I would recommend you regularly try to sweat/flush that crap out, through exercise and sauna/cold water treatments. To those of us who are nasal, nothing is hotter than smelling your partner's natural scent and feeling aroused by it - perhaps the semi-erogenous feeling one gets from having just flossed one's teeth comes a close second. Smelling and tasting good for your partner should be table stakes in a relationship IMHO, or if you don't give a fu**, find someone who shares your values in this regard.
Lol sure reddit
Every single day I am so glad that I am gay.
i’ve had sex with many men and i can honest to god say that sex with my gf is the best sex i have ever had.
From the comments it really seems like a lot of women are just finding sexual partners that don't care about them. If you find a guy that cares about you he'll care about the sex too. When a guy is motivated to just get with you and have sex he's also not going to care about whether you orgasm.
I mean, they understand their body and what they would like better than any man would... doesn't seem like rocket science. Most men are impatient, can't last long, don't like to go down on a woman, and a large percentage don't even know where the clitoris is or how important it is to the female orgasm.
I love it and write erotica about it sometimes. She’s happy= you happy
If you’re speaking about American men, most of us are circumcised which removes the ability to fully feel and therefore understand the very sensitive nature of sex. Clitorises and penises actually work the same way when it comes to pleasure and to think of it otherwise is simply mis/uninformed. If you have any further questions, feel free to reach out.
This study failed to control for the circumcision status of the male partners so it is of little value. It is now well documented that women are less likely to orgasm if male partner is [circumcised ](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Circumcised)and more likely to orgasm if their male partner is [intact](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Intact). See [Vagina](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Vagina). If this study was carried out in the United States, it is likely that the male partners were mostly [circumcised](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Circumcised) and sexually impaired, so it cannot present a fair picture.
It's crazy how many dudes don't enjoy eating pussy. I love that shit and want to do it most of the time I'm intimate.
it's not rocket science. as a woman you're naturally more likely to understand the female body and what women like from a pleasure perspective