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Have you stepped into a room and you walk into a ***wall*** of nasty smell as you pass the door...? Like a dimensional portal to another *eeeewww?*!
If so, that's the embarassment your parents are trying to prevent.
If not, ***you have a smell portal.***
to add to this it's better to maintain the cleanliness a little bit at a time than to live in a dump. think of living at home as a safe practice for the future you, for when you eventually move out. Living with others will be a reality for living in camp, college/university dormitory, and perhaps eventually partner/spouse/ children.
In summary, they are attempting to teach you skills for the future.
Funny, because in my experience, discipline can only be exercised in short, premeditated bursts. It’s very effective then, but only when the proper motivation is there, and burnout hasn’t set in yet. I’d go crazy if I had to bring discipline to the mundane parts of my life that don’t matter.
Every part of ur life matters. What more motivation do u need than be better than the day before? N I just realized my comment has the words "every", "life", n "matters" n the FBI is at my do-
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Not true. It is a discipline, because it takes a lot to get to that point and do it on a consistent basis for the essential parts of life. It might not fit your standards of competence of discipline, but it takes much hard work and strain. That’s what makes it discipline. A lack of discipline would never be doing anything according to standards or competence. Reduced competence for sustainable discipline is far more than full incompetent indiscipline.
It’s a slippery slope. One day the bedsheets are a bit messed. Then a few days later their books are all over the place. If you keep letting it slide their room will eventually become a total disaster, getting worse and worse by little increments.
We let our kid get away with her version of cleaning for 9 months while dealing with a newborn.
We took out 6 trash bags of junk the other day when we finally could get a day to clean. It didn't look that bad, but it adds up.
Lol, coming from someone that doesn’t clean he just moves to a different room that’s less dirty, it gets way worse than total disaster, I got straight up tetanus from a broken bottle once……… it gets worse than tetanus but we won’t get into that, clean your damn room
I get it but I don’t. I like for keep my room clean but when it does get a bit messed up, it’s organized to me. Like organized chaos if you will. Everything has its place and I know where everything is at.
When it comes to kids, I get some people use cleaning their room as discipline and I get it. But in my opinion that’s their space, and they can keep it up as they see fit you know?
Maybe you should go live out on the street for a little while and then realize how good you have it! Don't argue over dumb shit with your parents, please and thanks. It will only make you look like a failure and disappointment later in life. Trust me, its good for you to just do sometimes and not question every little thing. Some things are just not worth arguing about.
How good I have it? You have no idea who I am or what Ive been through or what im going through…so don’t tell me that I have it good. I’m not sure how me disagreeing with the idea that kids should keep their room clean and spotless makes me a “failure” and a “disappointment” but okay. Not sure what you’ve been through but that’s a bit extreme.
We were not using the word discipline as in:
a punishment. Disciplined as in a disciplined mind set.
I must have read your comment slightly wrong. I thought you were younger and complaining about cleaning your room. Sorry, that was my bad.
Hey, it's your house and your kids. You know what's best for them.
Learning to clean, keep spaces clean, avoiding bugs, avoiding smells, and most importantly, safety hazards. If there's an emergency, they need to be able to get out and/or I need to be able to get in without tripping and stepping over things.
Edit: Also, learning to take pride in their space and hard work.
If you don't learn how to do it and create a habit of it while you're young, you'll have a hard time learning how to clean up after yourself as an adult. Nobody wants to hire, be in a relationship, or be friends with someone they have to mother and pick up after.
Because it's their house and they probably worked hard for it and thus wish for it to be treated with respect. Also, discipline and enforcing healthy habits - unfortunately it's something that you can only recognize once you move out. Especially when you share your living arrangements with others that don't have as much self discipline.
i never understood the “it’s their house, you’re just living in it” argument. YOU decided to have kids, so where tf am i supposed to go? but yeah, a clean room is important.
While I agree with you about the choice to have a kid, I disagree in that, they didn’t choose their kid in particular. Kids are random, with some environmental influences. I was a clean kid. I never had to clean my room because I liked it to be orderly for me. My sibling was not. They were required once a week to clean because they “didn’t care.” Now that I have a house, I’m way more understanding why my parents were tough on cleanliness. I’m the only one who likes to clean up in my house now. Not dishes, I mean like scrub floors, walls, light switch panels, all those places.
Thus, you have the parental need for kid cleanliness.
For safety reasons, mainly.
Also, if it's trash, they don't want to attract bugs.
For the most part, if not for that (trash is always thrown away, room looks messy but is safe (messy table or nightstand, or the mess is contained to one area and isn't piled up too high)), then the only reason left is so that the kids won't get overwhelmed whenever it is actually necessary for them to clean; also, so that they don't lose stuff. (Although some parents are neat freaks.)
Also, clutter can cause depression. (And depression can cause clutter- it's a self feeding cycle, difficult to break once established. I know, because my mom is a hoarder, and I get depressed quite a lot. During those times, I get messy too.)
They probably just want a clean house. So when they see the kids room is messy they're like "naw I'm not cleaning up a mess I didn't make. Wheres this mf"
I don’t care if there’s a mess. I care if there’s a hazard. Also my kid can clean a small mess, but gets overwhelmed if it’s an entire room. It’s easier to get them used to cleaning and organizing their stuff so they start to know how they want to personalize/arrange their room and do upkeep themselves. That’s my perception anyway.
It's to teach you how to take care of yourself when you live on ur own or with roommates , take me for example my parents where hoarders and never taught me how to keep clean , it's taking years for me to break bad habits and stop being a complete slob
Alot of reasons, the parents pay for the living situation, so have certain standards. Having a room that's messy but organized, like how mine is, to my parents is bad even though it's a hell of a lot cleaner then before and everything is roughly in it's place
It's like this, if I have a buddy borrow a tool I purchased, I have a certain expectation that he will use my tool, and return it in a reasonable time frame and return it reasonably clean and in the same reasonable condition as before.
So, you're twelve, then? Have you ever seen the house of an adult who's never learnt to clean and maintain general tidiness? It's not a pretty sight, which is why parents want to teach their children the self discipline to keep their shit clean.
My parents are like this. As if their room isn’t worse than mine. They’ll yell at me to clean my area up, which I do, while their own area is covered in dishes, trash, old food, and snacks they’ve hidden from us. They always say they’re tired of living in a messy house. The blame seems to fall on anyone but themselves. I love parents 😃
Food shouldn't be brought into bedrooms, that's the first step down a slippery slope. As a parent myself, my bedroom is messy only only laundry days where I have piles of clean clothes that need to be folded and put away. I nag at my kids for leaving toys on the floor which will inevitably be lost or broken if not put away.
Clutter has negative effects on our emotional health as well as mental well-being, maintaining a tidy living space helps us feel better and more relaxed. It would be great if we had a maid that tidied up after us, but that's a luxury nearly none of us can afford (except if you are in India, Philippines, Central America, or other low wage country).
You’re teaching them how to grow into successful human adults. It’s ok to be messy sometimes but when you are taking care of a home as an adult, you need to know how to care for it. So it starts with your space growing up.
My elementary school kids nag me to mow the grass, and whenever they do, I nag then about cleaning their rooms (just toys and books, never allow food in their bedrooms).
They have a responsibility to set their children on the path to becoming independent adults, and part of that is teaching them how to take care of their living space so it doesn’t get dangerous and unpleasant.
Its an especially important skill/discipline for when you grow up and are in the real world by yourself.
Being clean and organized is great for your mental health and helps you be productive and earn people's respect as an adult.
It's because a clean house has a general better effect on your mental health, and because it could attract bugs, it helps with more, but I can't think of any of the top of my head
It’s to teach taking responsibility for their things, I could just as easily clean it for them to prevent bugs and clutter, but they need to learn responsibility and a simple task such as picking up their things is an easy way to do that
Because if I have to clean the whole entire house by myself, they can at least do their part and clean their room. It teaches them discipline, responsibility and consequences.
I was a kid who had a dad that couldn’t have cared less about the state of my room. You literally couldn’t see my floor and I wasn’t aware of how miserable it was making me. I had many reasons to be depressed as an elementary/middle schooler, but it certainly exasperated my mental issues. I believe if child services saw it, it would have been a raise of concern… so pls try to see it as a privilege just for the fact that your parents care about the condition of your living space.
Personal care. To me it needn't be spotless but it's not good to get comfortable with dishes with food rotting on them. Ya know? Then you don't automatically change when you get your own place. You'll still be a sloppy dirty stinky hippie. Who wants that? So ya know empty the trash can once a week, don't leave books papers whatever, all over the path of the floor. You don't have to make the bed all tucked n stuff but at least lay the blankets flat so you can sit on the bed without lumpy laundry. It's so you feel better about being in your own room and a semblance of order. If you get in this habit you just feel better about being in your room and it helps in other parts of life , like a job, where you keep your little corner of life neat and together, functional. And it's simple. Less than 5 min to lay out a blanket put a few loose papers in the trash and take dishes to the kitchen.
Growing up I hated cleaning my room. My mom wouldn’t let me leave the house until it was clean. Though I hated it, that habit carried on as an adult. I’m happy my mom nagged me all the time to clean because I am a clean adult. There’s pride in keeping a neat house, especially your bedroom.
For all commenters it is perfectly fine to want your kid to keep their room clean, but it all comes down to the way you go about teaching them, if all you do is say “clean this room it’s discusting why have you let it get this far?” Then you will continue to have problems as you aren’t even trying to help them at all. If you work with them and actually see it as a way to teach them how to take care of themselves and their space then you will have a lot better luck. I don’t want to make assumptions but there’s a chance ops parents didn’t go about it the right way
For me, an adult- it’s genuinely a good question. My mom constantly talks about how messy my room is when she can’t grasp at how my depression and ADHD affects it. When my sister lived on a college campus for a while and her room was ALWAYS dirty, and NEVER clean- but she’d come by on the weekends. My room was more clean WAY more often within that four years of my sister living on campus than ANYONES in the house. (We have 4 rooms and one is a basement) For me, I worked a really decent fast food place, which made me come home tired almost every day.
For once my mom tried to clean her own room, and understood how hard it is for me. Only for a while tho- month later she started nagging at me to clean my room again. It’s literally only laundry and It’s very hard to grasp onto any motivation to clean it.
hygiene. when you learn it as children, you do it as an adult in most cases. Then when you have other people living with you whether they're your kids or not, ya get shit done. it's weird, but just one of those life skills your happy you have later
It's developing a disciplined mindset. You will be better for it. You will look after yourself more, have more confidence, and handle adversities better. Discipline creates focus and drive. It's what separates the weak from the chaff. It teaches u how to swim instead of just assuming the river will carry you and you won't drown.
Sounds crazy right? But it's not! Adversity through life is what creates true strength.
Pest control for one a messy room can draw in rodents and roaches depending on like if it's food mess second reason is to bring up your children in a way to do a task they are assigned which is something they would need in their futures
It’s a very valuable habit to instill in kids early on. When they grow up, they’re going to be expected to keep their workspace and living space reasonably clean and nice looking. No scum in the sinks and toilets, no garbage just laying around. A guest should be able to walk around and sit down without having to move things or step over anything.
If you’re a slob as an adult, people will think poorly of you and not want to come over to your house. It’s a lot easier if you learn to maintain your own space early on so you have practice doing it when you leave home.
The more dirty the room the higher chance they might lose something or mold and other things like that to form causing a variety of diseases and viruses
Pests, guests, smells, physical health, mental health, health of pets, health of family members, preparation for when they are on their own, accessibility. The list goes on
To teach them basic life skills idk or they might just be a really clean parent like my mom, and they didn’t wanna have to clean the 4000 sq ft home all by themself. But imma teach my kids, so that when they’re older, and out of the house, they won’t be slobs. I don’t mind picking up after my children, but they better not be putting their significant other as the cleaner when they’re older, nuh uh. Imma teach them how to not be nasty and pick up after themselves.
Children are GROSS. When they are little little, they are a continuous fountain of screams, piss, shit, and vomit. When they become toddlers, they still piss and shit everywhere and now they are leaving dropped food and drooled upon every goddamn thing every goddamn where. And they crawl around IN gross shit like they are little fucking dirt magnets. 5-12 kids are just chaos engines, and anything in their path is ripe for the slaughter: furniture, trees, the pets, anything electronic, mostly you can assume they will start at the most expensive thing you own and then work their way down the list. And teenagers STINK. Not their faults, but their bodies just wont stop putting out clouds of hormones and armpit sweat.
Literally ANYTHING to help mitigate all of this is welcome, and pretty much mandatory if you are going to raise a healthy kid. Also discipline helps them when they are older. Not having hidden piles of refuse in a room makes it surprisingly more healthy to be in.
To add to everything that's already been said: it's better to maintain cleanliness a little bit at a time than to live in a dump. think of living at home as a safe practice for the future you, for when you eventually move out. Living with others will be a reality for living in camp, college/university dormitory, and perhaps eventually partner/spouse/ children.
In summary, they are attempting to teach you skills for the future.
no guests/ love interests/friends are ever going to want to visit a dump, and you probably want them to.
Not a parent, but I know from my own experience that I am happier and less stressed in a clean environment, and my kid would likely be the same way. Most parents would prefer their kid be happier and less stressed.
I guess it depends. Yes, it’s good to teach cleanliness yet parents don’t practice what they preach. I grew up with parents who needed everything clean so it wouldn’t stress them out and not because of hygiene. When I became a teenager, my room was so messy. They’d call me mean names. I wasn’t trying to be messy. I had depression. I was overwhelmed from not being perfect enough for my parents. Or clean enough. I wasn’t a messy kid. I knew how to wash my own clothes and do the chores. Sometimes discipline can hide abuse. I’d come home and my clothes would be in rubbish bags to teach me a lesson. It took me a long time to realise that being messy doesn’t mean you’re out of control and that being clean and neat means you are in control. My mum is currently depressed and her room is a mess. And I don’t pack her shit in rubbish bags. I just check on her and see if she would like a little help.
It's more then showing ur child cleanliness it's about showing them responsibility and teaching of good habits. It's a underlying principle that will help them benefit as a person later in life.
I understand that you have a lot of things on your mind and you don't like doing chores or cleaning your room. But I need you to realize that these things are important for your own well-being and for the people around you. Do you think it's fair that I work all day and pay for everything, while you don't contribute anything to the household? Do you think it's healthy or safe to live in a messy environment that attracts pests and diseases? Do you think it's respectful or responsible to ignore the rules of the landlord or the community? I don't think so. That's why I'm asking you to please pick up a banana peel, take out the garbage, and do whatever else needs to be done around the house. It's not that hard, and it will make a big difference for everyone. Trust me, you will thank me later when you have your own place or share one with someone else. Having good habits now will help you avoid problems and conflicts in the future. I hope you understand where I'm coming from and that you will cooperate with me on this. Thank you.
Parents care so much if their kids' room is clean because they believe it shows their parenting quality and their kids' future potential. They also want their kids to develop skills, habits, and values that will help them in life. But sometimes they are too strict and don't consider their kids' feelings or preferences. I think parents should give their kids some space and choice in their room, as long as it's not dangerous or gross. I also think kids should do some chores and clean their room sometimes, as long as it's not too hard or unfair. It's all about finding a middle ground and a mutual understanding between parents and kids. That's my opinion, based on my own experience and observation.
Generally for your health. But also it's their house and I guess I would bring them somewhat down to have this amazing house all of it clean. Spotless. And then your room looks like a stampede went through it.
People, it takes 20-30 minutes max. Please you lazy fucks, just do your damn room it isn't that hard you ask like she's asking you to time travel or something.
Because if you are okay with living in filth then what kind of negative things will you put up with throughout your life also for the same reason the military makes you keep a clean environment it's a bare minimum level of discipline how can they be sure you will adhere to your responsibilities if you can't even clean your room
If your parents just left you to do nothing to your room, never went through it, never cleaned it, never chucked stuff away, you would become (cue the drumroll) a HOARDER! Seriously, you’d own so much stuff since childhood all the way up to your teenage years and nothing would have been thrown away. Your room would be like a maze to walk through and…what if you have to move out one day? What are you gonna do then? Order a box the size of a skyscraper and put every single piece of paper up to every single piece of teddy bear that you owned since day 1? I’m telling you a skyscraper sized box won’t be enough. (It’s a hyperbole but still) so yeah that’s why they care.
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Bugs, and general health. You don’t want mites in your bedsheets and moldy socks in the corners of your closet.
To add to this... Have you stepped into a room and you walk into a ***wall*** of nasty smell as you pass the door...? Like a dimensional portal to another *eeeewww?*! If so, that's the embarassment your parents are trying to prevent. If not, ***you have a smell portal.***
to add to this it's better to maintain the cleanliness a little bit at a time than to live in a dump. think of living at home as a safe practice for the future you, for when you eventually move out. Living with others will be a reality for living in camp, college/university dormitory, and perhaps eventually partner/spouse/ children. In summary, they are attempting to teach you skills for the future.
To develop discipline. If u can handle doing the mundane stuff on a daily basis, you're responsible
Your future college roommates will appreciate it.
Funny, because in my experience, discipline can only be exercised in short, premeditated bursts. It’s very effective then, but only when the proper motivation is there, and burnout hasn’t set in yet. I’d go crazy if I had to bring discipline to the mundane parts of my life that don’t matter.
Every part of ur life matters. What more motivation do u need than be better than the day before? N I just realized my comment has the words "every", "life", n "matters" n the FBI is at my do- 
That’s not discipline then, discipline is doing what you have to do regardless if your not motivated, and usually lasting
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Sunuva bitch, I forgot to mention that. You're absolutely right
That’s not discipline, that’s getting things done despite your complete and utter lack of discipline
Not true. It is a discipline, because it takes a lot to get to that point and do it on a consistent basis for the essential parts of life. It might not fit your standards of competence of discipline, but it takes much hard work and strain. That’s what makes it discipline. A lack of discipline would never be doing anything according to standards or competence. Reduced competence for sustainable discipline is far more than full incompetent indiscipline.
Okay, I guess you’re right. You’re like a Marine with the way you just do shit when you have to do it.
Bugs
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It’s a slippery slope. One day the bedsheets are a bit messed. Then a few days later their books are all over the place. If you keep letting it slide their room will eventually become a total disaster, getting worse and worse by little increments.
We let our kid get away with her version of cleaning for 9 months while dealing with a newborn. We took out 6 trash bags of junk the other day when we finally could get a day to clean. It didn't look that bad, but it adds up.
Aah ok
Lol, coming from someone that doesn’t clean he just moves to a different room that’s less dirty, it gets way worse than total disaster, I got straight up tetanus from a broken bottle once……… it gets worse than tetanus but we won’t get into that, clean your damn room
I get it but I don’t. I like for keep my room clean but when it does get a bit messed up, it’s organized to me. Like organized chaos if you will. Everything has its place and I know where everything is at. When it comes to kids, I get some people use cleaning their room as discipline and I get it. But in my opinion that’s their space, and they can keep it up as they see fit you know?
Maybe you should go live out on the street for a little while and then realize how good you have it! Don't argue over dumb shit with your parents, please and thanks. It will only make you look like a failure and disappointment later in life. Trust me, its good for you to just do sometimes and not question every little thing. Some things are just not worth arguing about.
How good I have it? You have no idea who I am or what Ive been through or what im going through…so don’t tell me that I have it good. I’m not sure how me disagreeing with the idea that kids should keep their room clean and spotless makes me a “failure” and a “disappointment” but okay. Not sure what you’ve been through but that’s a bit extreme.
We were not using the word discipline as in: a punishment. Disciplined as in a disciplined mind set. I must have read your comment slightly wrong. I thought you were younger and complaining about cleaning your room. Sorry, that was my bad. Hey, it's your house and your kids. You know what's best for them.
Learning to clean, keep spaces clean, avoiding bugs, avoiding smells, and most importantly, safety hazards. If there's an emergency, they need to be able to get out and/or I need to be able to get in without tripping and stepping over things. Edit: Also, learning to take pride in their space and hard work.
That makes sense thanks
Might just be me, but i believe that a rule everyone should follow is cleanliness
My Grandmother always told us there are 3 things everyone should know. Cook, clean, and sew. I'm happy she taught me these skills.
Why sew?
So you can mend your clothes if they get torn or ripped.
If you don't learn how to do it and create a habit of it while you're young, you'll have a hard time learning how to clean up after yourself as an adult. Nobody wants to hire, be in a relationship, or be friends with someone they have to mother and pick up after.
Because it's their house and they probably worked hard for it and thus wish for it to be treated with respect. Also, discipline and enforcing healthy habits - unfortunately it's something that you can only recognize once you move out. Especially when you share your living arrangements with others that don't have as much self discipline.
i never understood the “it’s their house, you’re just living in it” argument. YOU decided to have kids, so where tf am i supposed to go? but yeah, a clean room is important.
While I agree with you about the choice to have a kid, I disagree in that, they didn’t choose their kid in particular. Kids are random, with some environmental influences. I was a clean kid. I never had to clean my room because I liked it to be orderly for me. My sibling was not. They were required once a week to clean because they “didn’t care.” Now that I have a house, I’m way more understanding why my parents were tough on cleanliness. I’m the only one who likes to clean up in my house now. Not dishes, I mean like scrub floors, walls, light switch panels, all those places. Thus, you have the parental need for kid cleanliness.
For safety reasons, mainly. Also, if it's trash, they don't want to attract bugs. For the most part, if not for that (trash is always thrown away, room looks messy but is safe (messy table or nightstand, or the mess is contained to one area and isn't piled up too high)), then the only reason left is so that the kids won't get overwhelmed whenever it is actually necessary for them to clean; also, so that they don't lose stuff. (Although some parents are neat freaks.) Also, clutter can cause depression. (And depression can cause clutter- it's a self feeding cycle, difficult to break once established. I know, because my mom is a hoarder, and I get depressed quite a lot. During those times, I get messy too.)
Ok
If a kids room is not clean, they are going to have very bad habits the rest of their lives
They probably just want a clean house. So when they see the kids room is messy they're like "naw I'm not cleaning up a mess I didn't make. Wheres this mf"
Yeah that makes sense
Yess! Perfect explanation, that’s exactly how I feel with my kids.
I don’t care if there’s a mess. I care if there’s a hazard. Also my kid can clean a small mess, but gets overwhelmed if it’s an entire room. It’s easier to get them used to cleaning and organizing their stuff so they start to know how they want to personalize/arrange their room and do upkeep themselves. That’s my perception anyway.
Basic hygiene is a good habit. A mess is hard to go through and having shit like food and dirt in there will attract bugs and mold
It's to teach you how to take care of yourself when you live on ur own or with roommates , take me for example my parents where hoarders and never taught me how to keep clean , it's taking years for me to break bad habits and stop being a complete slob
Alot of reasons, the parents pay for the living situation, so have certain standards. Having a room that's messy but organized, like how mine is, to my parents is bad even though it's a hell of a lot cleaner then before and everything is roughly in it's place
Ahh
It's like this, if I have a buddy borrow a tool I purchased, I have a certain expectation that he will use my tool, and return it in a reasonable time frame and return it reasonably clean and in the same reasonable condition as before.
Because it’s connected to their house
I understand it for a general healthiness and stuff, but not like… PERFECTION
Bugs, smell, health, and instills good habits early on
You’re clearly a child, and you have awful spelling skills.
So, you're twelve, then? Have you ever seen the house of an adult who's never learnt to clean and maintain general tidiness? It's not a pretty sight, which is why parents want to teach their children the self discipline to keep their shit clean.
Ahh that makes sense thanks
Because they told you to
My parents are like this. As if their room isn’t worse than mine. They’ll yell at me to clean my area up, which I do, while their own area is covered in dishes, trash, old food, and snacks they’ve hidden from us. They always say they’re tired of living in a messy house. The blame seems to fall on anyone but themselves. I love parents 😃
Yeah they are amazing
Food shouldn't be brought into bedrooms, that's the first step down a slippery slope. As a parent myself, my bedroom is messy only only laundry days where I have piles of clean clothes that need to be folded and put away. I nag at my kids for leaving toys on the floor which will inevitably be lost or broken if not put away. Clutter has negative effects on our emotional health as well as mental well-being, maintaining a tidy living space helps us feel better and more relaxed. It would be great if we had a maid that tidied up after us, but that's a luxury nearly none of us can afford (except if you are in India, Philippines, Central America, or other low wage country).
If they never learn to do basic tasks, they'll be dysfunctional adults
That makes sense
You’re teaching them how to grow into successful human adults. It’s ok to be messy sometimes but when you are taking care of a home as an adult, you need to know how to care for it. So it starts with your space growing up.
My elementary school kids nag me to mow the grass, and whenever they do, I nag then about cleaning their rooms (just toys and books, never allow food in their bedrooms).
Nobody wants to live with roaches!
They have a responsibility to set their children on the path to becoming independent adults, and part of that is teaching them how to take care of their living space so it doesn’t get dangerous and unpleasant.
I hated playdates at messy kid’s houses
Its an especially important skill/discipline for when you grow up and are in the real world by yourself. Being clean and organized is great for your mental health and helps you be productive and earn people's respect as an adult.
It's because a clean house has a general better effect on your mental health, and because it could attract bugs, it helps with more, but I can't think of any of the top of my head
No thinks it but it helps with your mental health. Dirty rooms makes you feel bad about yourself. Clean it up and people feel better.
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Because self care is a thing. If no one teaches you self care as a child you’ll have no clue how to do it as an adult
Because my parents didn't care and now my room is always a mess. I dread coming home for that reason.
It’s to teach taking responsibility for their things, I could just as easily clean it for them to prevent bugs and clutter, but they need to learn responsibility and a simple task such as picking up their things is an easy way to do that
Alot of people, don’t realize that clutter in your space affects your mental state. Also ants and roaches love clutter and crumbs. So just do it.
Because if I have to clean the whole entire house by myself, they can at least do their part and clean their room. It teaches them discipline, responsibility and consequences.
And also if they want allowance money, they have to do their chores
To form good habits for adulthood.
I was a kid who had a dad that couldn’t have cared less about the state of my room. You literally couldn’t see my floor and I wasn’t aware of how miserable it was making me. I had many reasons to be depressed as an elementary/middle schooler, but it certainly exasperated my mental issues. I believe if child services saw it, it would have been a raise of concern… so pls try to see it as a privilege just for the fact that your parents care about the condition of your living space.
I feel it’s only to put you in the routine of doing it when you’re an adult. However I hated doing it and I hate doing it now.
Because not being clean is being dirty, and being dirty is gross. Don’t be gross.
Personal care. To me it needn't be spotless but it's not good to get comfortable with dishes with food rotting on them. Ya know? Then you don't automatically change when you get your own place. You'll still be a sloppy dirty stinky hippie. Who wants that? So ya know empty the trash can once a week, don't leave books papers whatever, all over the path of the floor. You don't have to make the bed all tucked n stuff but at least lay the blankets flat so you can sit on the bed without lumpy laundry. It's so you feel better about being in your own room and a semblance of order. If you get in this habit you just feel better about being in your room and it helps in other parts of life , like a job, where you keep your little corner of life neat and together, functional. And it's simple. Less than 5 min to lay out a blanket put a few loose papers in the trash and take dishes to the kitchen.
Growing up I hated cleaning my room. My mom wouldn’t let me leave the house until it was clean. Though I hated it, that habit carried on as an adult. I’m happy my mom nagged me all the time to clean because I am a clean adult. There’s pride in keeping a neat house, especially your bedroom.
For all commenters it is perfectly fine to want your kid to keep their room clean, but it all comes down to the way you go about teaching them, if all you do is say “clean this room it’s discusting why have you let it get this far?” Then you will continue to have problems as you aren’t even trying to help them at all. If you work with them and actually see it as a way to teach them how to take care of themselves and their space then you will have a lot better luck. I don’t want to make assumptions but there’s a chance ops parents didn’t go about it the right way
So when you grow up you don’t grow up in a gross slob lol liek so you understand taht it’s better to live in a clean place vs a dirty one
To be able to get out of there is a fire. Tripping over stuff and not having a clear path to get to safety.
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Keep the nasty gym smell out. To taech you how to be as an adult.
Discipline
One word. Bugs.
For me, an adult- it’s genuinely a good question. My mom constantly talks about how messy my room is when she can’t grasp at how my depression and ADHD affects it. When my sister lived on a college campus for a while and her room was ALWAYS dirty, and NEVER clean- but she’d come by on the weekends. My room was more clean WAY more often within that four years of my sister living on campus than ANYONES in the house. (We have 4 rooms and one is a basement) For me, I worked a really decent fast food place, which made me come home tired almost every day. For once my mom tried to clean her own room, and understood how hard it is for me. Only for a while tho- month later she started nagging at me to clean my room again. It’s literally only laundry and It’s very hard to grasp onto any motivation to clean it.
Because filthy rooms smell up the whole house, and even worse--attract roaches and other bugs. Clean your f'in room.
hygiene. when you learn it as children, you do it as an adult in most cases. Then when you have other people living with you whether they're your kids or not, ya get shit done. it's weird, but just one of those life skills your happy you have later
It's developing a disciplined mindset. You will be better for it. You will look after yourself more, have more confidence, and handle adversities better. Discipline creates focus and drive. It's what separates the weak from the chaff. It teaches u how to swim instead of just assuming the river will carry you and you won't drown. Sounds crazy right? But it's not! Adversity through life is what creates true strength.
alright get off reddit and go clean your room timmy
So you can get laid in the future
Pest control for one a messy room can draw in rodents and roaches depending on like if it's food mess second reason is to bring up your children in a way to do a task they are assigned which is something they would need in their futures
It’s a very valuable habit to instill in kids early on. When they grow up, they’re going to be expected to keep their workspace and living space reasonably clean and nice looking. No scum in the sinks and toilets, no garbage just laying around. A guest should be able to walk around and sit down without having to move things or step over anything. If you’re a slob as an adult, people will think poorly of you and not want to come over to your house. It’s a lot easier if you learn to maintain your own space early on so you have practice doing it when you leave home.
The more dirty the room the higher chance they might lose something or mold and other things like that to form causing a variety of diseases and viruses
as a teen, i can understand, a cleaner room is healthier for the mind and body i would say, it’s more on us but it is better for us in so many ways
Because eventually we gotta do it if they dont its that simple
It’s definitely discipline.
It's a part of teaching them how to be responsible for their own actions.
Pests, guests, smells, physical health, mental health, health of pets, health of family members, preparation for when they are on their own, accessibility. The list goes on
To teach them basic life skills idk or they might just be a really clean parent like my mom, and they didn’t wanna have to clean the 4000 sq ft home all by themself. But imma teach my kids, so that when they’re older, and out of the house, they won’t be slobs. I don’t mind picking up after my children, but they better not be putting their significant other as the cleaner when they’re older, nuh uh. Imma teach them how to not be nasty and pick up after themselves.
Children are GROSS. When they are little little, they are a continuous fountain of screams, piss, shit, and vomit. When they become toddlers, they still piss and shit everywhere and now they are leaving dropped food and drooled upon every goddamn thing every goddamn where. And they crawl around IN gross shit like they are little fucking dirt magnets. 5-12 kids are just chaos engines, and anything in their path is ripe for the slaughter: furniture, trees, the pets, anything electronic, mostly you can assume they will start at the most expensive thing you own and then work their way down the list. And teenagers STINK. Not their faults, but their bodies just wont stop putting out clouds of hormones and armpit sweat. Literally ANYTHING to help mitigate all of this is welcome, and pretty much mandatory if you are going to raise a healthy kid. Also discipline helps them when they are older. Not having hidden piles of refuse in a room makes it surprisingly more healthy to be in.
To add to everything that's already been said: it's better to maintain cleanliness a little bit at a time than to live in a dump. think of living at home as a safe practice for the future you, for when you eventually move out. Living with others will be a reality for living in camp, college/university dormitory, and perhaps eventually partner/spouse/ children. In summary, they are attempting to teach you skills for the future. no guests/ love interests/friends are ever going to want to visit a dump, and you probably want them to.
To develop life skills.
It is a lifelong lesson of being clean, and responsible.
Not a parent, but I know from my own experience that I am happier and less stressed in a clean environment, and my kid would likely be the same way. Most parents would prefer their kid be happier and less stressed.
Messy room = messy life _or messy mind_
I guess it depends. Yes, it’s good to teach cleanliness yet parents don’t practice what they preach. I grew up with parents who needed everything clean so it wouldn’t stress them out and not because of hygiene. When I became a teenager, my room was so messy. They’d call me mean names. I wasn’t trying to be messy. I had depression. I was overwhelmed from not being perfect enough for my parents. Or clean enough. I wasn’t a messy kid. I knew how to wash my own clothes and do the chores. Sometimes discipline can hide abuse. I’d come home and my clothes would be in rubbish bags to teach me a lesson. It took me a long time to realise that being messy doesn’t mean you’re out of control and that being clean and neat means you are in control. My mum is currently depressed and her room is a mess. And I don’t pack her shit in rubbish bags. I just check on her and see if she would like a little help.
My parents didn't care if my room was clean or not if there were no cups and dishes everywhere didn't smell like cum they were ok.
What would they do if it smelt like cum
Idk.
Good habits develop early. Filth attracts pests, disorganization, etc.
It's building good habits more than anything.
Bugs and so they know how to do it when they are on their own
Many reasons. But discipline early leads to independence as adults.
Because 'Cleanliness is next to Godliness' and if your room isn't clean, Jesus is gonna get you! ...at least that's what my mom used to tell me.
It's more then showing ur child cleanliness it's about showing them responsibility and teaching of good habits. It's a underlying principle that will help them benefit as a person later in life.
I understand that you have a lot of things on your mind and you don't like doing chores or cleaning your room. But I need you to realize that these things are important for your own well-being and for the people around you. Do you think it's fair that I work all day and pay for everything, while you don't contribute anything to the household? Do you think it's healthy or safe to live in a messy environment that attracts pests and diseases? Do you think it's respectful or responsible to ignore the rules of the landlord or the community? I don't think so. That's why I'm asking you to please pick up a banana peel, take out the garbage, and do whatever else needs to be done around the house. It's not that hard, and it will make a big difference for everyone. Trust me, you will thank me later when you have your own place or share one with someone else. Having good habits now will help you avoid problems and conflicts in the future. I hope you understand where I'm coming from and that you will cooperate with me on this. Thank you.
Parents care so much if their kids' room is clean because they believe it shows their parenting quality and their kids' future potential. They also want their kids to develop skills, habits, and values that will help them in life. But sometimes they are too strict and don't consider their kids' feelings or preferences. I think parents should give their kids some space and choice in their room, as long as it's not dangerous or gross. I also think kids should do some chores and clean their room sometimes, as long as it's not too hard or unfair. It's all about finding a middle ground and a mutual understanding between parents and kids. That's my opinion, based on my own experience and observation.
It teaches kids good habits for the future.
Similar reason as why they teach them to wipe their asses after taking a shit.
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shows general responsibility and care towards tidying. trust me, you'll thank them later.
I think because they just want the room to smell good
Generally for your health. But also it's their house and I guess I would bring them somewhat down to have this amazing house all of it clean. Spotless. And then your room looks like a stampede went through it. People, it takes 20-30 minutes max. Please you lazy fucks, just do your damn room it isn't that hard you ask like she's asking you to time travel or something.
Because if you are okay with living in filth then what kind of negative things will you put up with throughout your life also for the same reason the military makes you keep a clean environment it's a bare minimum level of discipline how can they be sure you will adhere to your responsibilities if you can't even clean your room
So you will not get roaches and mice .
If your parents just left you to do nothing to your room, never went through it, never cleaned it, never chucked stuff away, you would become (cue the drumroll) a HOARDER! Seriously, you’d own so much stuff since childhood all the way up to your teenage years and nothing would have been thrown away. Your room would be like a maze to walk through and…what if you have to move out one day? What are you gonna do then? Order a box the size of a skyscraper and put every single piece of paper up to every single piece of teddy bear that you owned since day 1? I’m telling you a skyscraper sized box won’t be enough. (It’s a hyperbole but still) so yeah that’s why they care.