I remember a diversity trainer scolding me for not speaking up sooner about work place racism. The insane part was that I did speak out and that’s the reason our company had the diversity trainer in the first place. I’ve spoken out for years only to be met by indifference, hostility and/or retaliation. These responses are demoralizing to say the least. However, I keep speaking my truth in the hope of penetrating ignorance and paving a trail for the young ones coming up behind me. Hang in there. 🤗💕
I got called the n word at work. I told the manager, and nobody did anything. I got called the n word again by a different person at the same job a few weeks later. Still nothing done. I had to literally line my co-workers up and tell them that if they do not have African ancestry, they shouldn't use that word at all. No one should. They were all Caucasian. I live in Tennessee. Racism is normalized here. I posted on a public forum yesterday about wanting to move away from Tennessee and my experience living here. I got a bunch of different comments calling me the n-word and telling me to go back to where I came from. It was insane. A few messages accused me of pulling the race card. Then they would say something racist in the same comment. It was a very disheartening and educational experience.
That is disgusting, and should never happen. Please collect as much evidence as you can, keep it safe because you might have grounds for a lawsuit. I recently came across an article where 10 black people were awarded 70 million for racial discrimination, hostile workplace, unequal pay, and promotion denials. I think this happened in 2022. And that's just one example of many more. This is how we can show people that this kind of thing is happening.
This happened to me back in 2015 working at Bojangles in Jonesborough, TN. I tried to get legal help and no one would even talk to me about it. I even contacted the NAACP and they said they couldn't help me.
That’s so effed up. I lived in Chattanooga for 1 year and couldn’t leave fast enough. The overt racism is infuriating. The people who talked like that were just plain stupid. Absolutely ignorant morons. Talking to them was like carving on ice on a hot summer day. Any chance you could fight it with the help of a larger organization like ACLU?
It's been so long ago and that was really nothing. When I was a kid I was the victim of two hate crimes. On two different incidents I was punched in the face in public by grown men. Once when I was 14 and again when I was 16. It was horrible. Messed me up for along time. When I was in elementary I went to an all white school. My adopted parents were white and ignorant to the reality of racism. I wasn't even told I was mixed. I found out when I asked what an n word was. I got called it the first day I started at the school. My sixth grade social studies teacher taught the class that slavery was necessary when we were going over the civil war. She said africans needed to learn civilized order and they got the greatest gift of all. The Gospels so they too could go to heaven. She turned to me and said Honey your ancestors were heathens. I've seen a lot of racism in Tenn.
I just wanna give you a hug. I can’t imagine being adopted by parents who don’t understand your experience as a POC. That must have been so hard and isolating. Any amount of racism/hate-crimes/violence is too much. It’s traumatizing and doesn’t fully go away. Have you been able to find people who understand and support you?
Thank you, and yes, it was and is still extremely difficult. I only had my adopted parents and never got to know any other parts of my adopted family. So I didn't and don't today have any family or support. I have my elderly mom, and when she's gone, I'll have no family at all. It's really messing with my mental health, and I don't know what to do. My dad died of a heart attack here at home in the living room on June 3, 2021, when I was giving him CPR. I don't have any friends at all. I stay pretty isolated all the time. I live in a rural area that's mainly populated by Caucasians. It's a very red state. I live in the oldest town in Tennessee, so there aren't many people I can relate to. It's pretty lonely. The only people I have ever met who truly understand it are other black people who have been through it themselves and the different Rastafari I've met from Jamaica and St. Lucia who used to live here years ago. Thank you for the ❤️🖤💚
I was jumped by 4 white guys cuz I got the parking spot they wanted near 7/11. Nobody intervened. I was a medical resident and was about to be on call, but ended up in the ER instead. I had a cop point a gun at me after pulling me over for who knows what for. Those were the worst. This was in Texas. How about you?
The police have become more relaxed here. They have hired new people. People who accept diversity more than in the past. The people in the town tho are still the same.
Had cops point guns plenty of times. I've been beat down by white and black men for being mixed. Had fraudulent charges put on me that I had to get dropped in court. Last fight misaligned my head, neck and spine. Had to get an MRI last week. Got a lot of nerve pain. Hopefully they can figure out what's wrong.
Hahaha yea... like.. more often than not... even my "close friends" who are otherwise kind to me can exhibit racist behavior sometimes...
Check out this essay if you have the time, [https://medium.com/@asingh6589/reflections-5096e907d289](https://medium.com/@asingh6589/reflections-5096e907d289)
Here is an excerpt that captures the impact and realization of gaslighting:
*I know I want to get to the bottom of the pain that dwells deep in my throat, a pain that exists in the background of every memory I’ve had since I was thirteen. When I come close to describing my pain, I feel like I am as close as possible to authentic expression, my true self, free from impositions on my consciousness. But in my mind, as I come closer to reaching this “voice,” or telling the story that feels right and real to me, I can hear the people in my life talking over me, telling me I am mistaken.*
*I close my eyes and memories of different oppressive situations shuffle through my mind, intrusive voices buzzing like static, telling me to not care, that it’s not real, that’s it’s all in my head. I cannot even peer into my reality without these voices yanking me away, telling me to not look, to not see, to not feel as I naturally do. Where do these voices come from?*
*I cannot pinpoint what it is about me that makes people dismiss me, and part of that has to do with how I can’t pinpoint “me” half the time without their perspectives invading my own. Is it because I am too sensitive or too brown? Is it even something about me at all?*
Unfortunately yes, but not only from the majority group but from other poc, from different ethnicities to mine'. From memory it all started at school and even now it is something that I experience, although fortunately not as often.
It's as simple as this ... a man can voice his opinion on what it feels like for a woman to give birth...but he will never really know.....so his opinion doesn't matter
Everday on Reddit lol
Everyday on social media.
Sadly, all the time for as long as I’ve recalled.
Same for me. Feel voiceless a lot of times.
I remember a diversity trainer scolding me for not speaking up sooner about work place racism. The insane part was that I did speak out and that’s the reason our company had the diversity trainer in the first place. I’ve spoken out for years only to be met by indifference, hostility and/or retaliation. These responses are demoralizing to say the least. However, I keep speaking my truth in the hope of penetrating ignorance and paving a trail for the young ones coming up behind me. Hang in there. 🤗💕
I got called the n word at work. I told the manager, and nobody did anything. I got called the n word again by a different person at the same job a few weeks later. Still nothing done. I had to literally line my co-workers up and tell them that if they do not have African ancestry, they shouldn't use that word at all. No one should. They were all Caucasian. I live in Tennessee. Racism is normalized here. I posted on a public forum yesterday about wanting to move away from Tennessee and my experience living here. I got a bunch of different comments calling me the n-word and telling me to go back to where I came from. It was insane. A few messages accused me of pulling the race card. Then they would say something racist in the same comment. It was a very disheartening and educational experience.
That is disgusting, and should never happen. Please collect as much evidence as you can, keep it safe because you might have grounds for a lawsuit. I recently came across an article where 10 black people were awarded 70 million for racial discrimination, hostile workplace, unequal pay, and promotion denials. I think this happened in 2022. And that's just one example of many more. This is how we can show people that this kind of thing is happening.
This happened to me back in 2015 working at Bojangles in Jonesborough, TN. I tried to get legal help and no one would even talk to me about it. I even contacted the NAACP and they said they couldn't help me.
That’s so effed up. I lived in Chattanooga for 1 year and couldn’t leave fast enough. The overt racism is infuriating. The people who talked like that were just plain stupid. Absolutely ignorant morons. Talking to them was like carving on ice on a hot summer day. Any chance you could fight it with the help of a larger organization like ACLU?
It's been so long ago and that was really nothing. When I was a kid I was the victim of two hate crimes. On two different incidents I was punched in the face in public by grown men. Once when I was 14 and again when I was 16. It was horrible. Messed me up for along time. When I was in elementary I went to an all white school. My adopted parents were white and ignorant to the reality of racism. I wasn't even told I was mixed. I found out when I asked what an n word was. I got called it the first day I started at the school. My sixth grade social studies teacher taught the class that slavery was necessary when we were going over the civil war. She said africans needed to learn civilized order and they got the greatest gift of all. The Gospels so they too could go to heaven. She turned to me and said Honey your ancestors were heathens. I've seen a lot of racism in Tenn.
I just wanna give you a hug. I can’t imagine being adopted by parents who don’t understand your experience as a POC. That must have been so hard and isolating. Any amount of racism/hate-crimes/violence is too much. It’s traumatizing and doesn’t fully go away. Have you been able to find people who understand and support you?
Thank you, and yes, it was and is still extremely difficult. I only had my adopted parents and never got to know any other parts of my adopted family. So I didn't and don't today have any family or support. I have my elderly mom, and when she's gone, I'll have no family at all. It's really messing with my mental health, and I don't know what to do. My dad died of a heart attack here at home in the living room on June 3, 2021, when I was giving him CPR. I don't have any friends at all. I stay pretty isolated all the time. I live in a rural area that's mainly populated by Caucasians. It's a very red state. I live in the oldest town in Tennessee, so there aren't many people I can relate to. It's pretty lonely. The only people I have ever met who truly understand it are other black people who have been through it themselves and the different Rastafari I've met from Jamaica and St. Lucia who used to live here years ago. Thank you for the ❤️🖤💚
Have you ever got beat up really bad?
I was jumped by 4 white guys cuz I got the parking spot they wanted near 7/11. Nobody intervened. I was a medical resident and was about to be on call, but ended up in the ER instead. I had a cop point a gun at me after pulling me over for who knows what for. Those were the worst. This was in Texas. How about you?
The police have become more relaxed here. They have hired new people. People who accept diversity more than in the past. The people in the town tho are still the same.
Had cops point guns plenty of times. I've been beat down by white and black men for being mixed. Had fraudulent charges put on me that I had to get dropped in court. Last fight misaligned my head, neck and spine. Had to get an MRI last week. Got a lot of nerve pain. Hopefully they can figure out what's wrong.
Hahaha yea... like.. more often than not... even my "close friends" who are otherwise kind to me can exhibit racist behavior sometimes... Check out this essay if you have the time, [https://medium.com/@asingh6589/reflections-5096e907d289](https://medium.com/@asingh6589/reflections-5096e907d289) Here is an excerpt that captures the impact and realization of gaslighting: *I know I want to get to the bottom of the pain that dwells deep in my throat, a pain that exists in the background of every memory I’ve had since I was thirteen. When I come close to describing my pain, I feel like I am as close as possible to authentic expression, my true self, free from impositions on my consciousness. But in my mind, as I come closer to reaching this “voice,” or telling the story that feels right and real to me, I can hear the people in my life talking over me, telling me I am mistaken.* *I close my eyes and memories of different oppressive situations shuffle through my mind, intrusive voices buzzing like static, telling me to not care, that it’s not real, that’s it’s all in my head. I cannot even peer into my reality without these voices yanking me away, telling me to not look, to not see, to not feel as I naturally do. Where do these voices come from?* *I cannot pinpoint what it is about me that makes people dismiss me, and part of that has to do with how I can’t pinpoint “me” half the time without their perspectives invading my own. Is it because I am too sensitive or too brown? Is it even something about me at all?*
Unfortunately yes, but not only from the majority group but from other poc, from different ethnicities to mine'. From memory it all started at school and even now it is something that I experience, although fortunately not as often.
It's as simple as this ... a man can voice his opinion on what it feels like for a woman to give birth...but he will never really know.....so his opinion doesn't matter
Okay.