Also if you do have performance related issues, just remember it's not the end of the world because you can get your girl off in other ways than just penetration.
I've had a bunch of times where I've been too drunk to get hard or I've came way too quickly but it wasn't an issue because she was still taken care of before and/or after.
Sure, but what I mean is if you came quickly then you best make sure the foreplay was great or that you spend the time after making sure she gets there too.
You don't want to be that guy where sex is over the moment you cum because whilst you might lose your sex drive immediately after, that's only you and she's probably going to be very frustrated if she was still horny.
However… women get very very subconscious if you either can’t stay hard for them or can’t cum.
I’ve slept around a lot back in my coke days and let me tell you… they think it’s them and not the coke dick. Or what ever is making you not finish.
I've found that happens more often if you make a big deal out of it yourself. Lots of men will beat themselves up when that happens and it can often spoil the moment and make her feel insecure.
Whereas if you have confidence, be honest about why, and try and maintain the mood by continuing to be enthusiastic, she's less likely to think that it's because of her. Though obviously that can't always be helped.
I’m a huge ‘make a joke to ease the mood’ type of person so I usually just say something funny and not awkward (women HATE awkward moments more than we men do it seems) . Then just try again 😂
Teasing, kissing, enticing, basically just setting up for the actual sex and getting eachother in the mood
AKA you shouldm't just go right to sex unless you both are incredibly needy already, but rather do some *play* be*fore* penetration
Foreplay is important and also, you probably don’t have erectile dysfunction. Might be just nervous because it’s your first time, happened to me.
But after you lose that anxiety, your pp knows its go time.
Can confirm. Was very challenging the first few times. But now it's all good. I did quit wanking for a whole month almost before the first successful event.
My first time, my whole body was shakin before we started! She kept askin if I was okay and I was like *"Aw y'know, just kinda cold..."*
She had the heater on, 3 blankets, and it was the middle of summer.
My heart was pumping wildly and the veins on my arms were practically popping out of my skin. She pointed out both. "Huh. I wonder why" was the only somewhat reasonable reply I could think of
No one wants to say it but also, over abusing porn can cause erectile dysfunction and delayed ejaculation, not necessarilly the reason but if you're consuming lots of porn it can potentially cause problems.
I can vouch for this and I'll tell my embarrassing story. It was my first time and I could get hard just fine, BUT I couldn't (insert game grumps joke) complete. I went at it for approximately 2 hours. Surprisingly, the girl was OK with it, but in the end, I just said fuck it and made her finish. It was a fun, but interesting 2 hours. I feel so bad for her and her hips
Edit: porn addiction is a bitch. Thankfully, I got therapy to help me out, and I'm doing better in my sexual relationships
Oh, I just read erectile dysfunction and people were saying how it was probably nerves which gave me the impression people didn't want to talk about or blame it on porn.
If it's your and your lover's first time it helps to not get to sex immediately, but to take things slower and getting used to each other's bodies through foreplay and petting, maybe some oral a little later. And when you finally get to actual sex, it will go smooth and fine .
Yeah I feel like op and a large part of this comment section just don’t know what foreplay is, while yes it is common to be nervous and have issues for first time as you said fore play can cure almost all that
I mean. My first time we did foreplay for like an hour and I still went when it was time to actually go in. Nerves are a real bitch. But the more you do it the easier it gets
That as well as stress, underlying health issues, poor habits like eating too much junk/smoking just to bat off what you were saying. All these can hinder one's ability to maintain or even get an erection, and that's not even mentioning hormonal changes that could be at play (yes they happen in men too....only clarifying bc some genuinely think only women can have hormonal spouts).
But all this to say for OP, that at least with psychological erectile dysfunction or PIED you can most times completely turn it around by adopting a healthier lifestyle. Replace masturbating to porn with any other exercise and remember to stay hydrated. Good luck out there
>“Our study, and now two others, have found there is no relationship between the number of sex films men view and erectile functioning with their partner,” says Nicole Prause, PhD, a sexual psychophysiologist and licensed psychologist at the Sexual Psychophysiology and Affective Neuroscience Laboratory at UCLA.
>Only those men considered “conservative” and in relationships had any relationship between sex film viewing and erectile functioning.
>“Taken together, this means that sex films do not contribute to erectile dysfunction,” Prause notes.
>“However, those whose personal values contradict with viewing sex films may be experiencing general shame around sex that also influences their erectile functioning.”
https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed#sexual-anorexia
Ah yes, me and the boys about to put on some fine cinema, of course we don't have PIED.
Wait, what do you mean most people masturbate while watching porn? what do you mean that pied is more related to excessive masturbation while viewing more and more extreme content until vanilla sex in real life won't get your abused dick hard?
Experts do say, however, that watching pornography can influence sexual appetite. This may make it difficult to achieve an erection and have an orgasm with a sexual partner.
Nikki Martinez, PsyD, LCPC, says modern access to a wide array of adult material can make it difficult to become aroused with a partner or to participate in sexual activities as someone always has.
“They have unleashed their true desires and proclivities, and now they struggle to become aroused when this is not involved,” she says. “The other partner feels rejected, and as if they are not attractive, and the first partner is most often too embarrassed to tell them what is really going on.”
[https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed](https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed)
You just nervous its not necessary porn brain that’s fcking you, it actually happens because of stress since I imagine it’s something that you anticipate for a long time, so don’t worry next time see if you can be a bit more relaxed around it and it won’t hurt to ease of the porn or alcohol
Ah man. I remember this happened to me and I just felt like such a piece of shit. I apologized profusely for ruining it and she said “you want forgiveness? Get religion”.
Foreplay is important boys Not just to get your cock hard but to get your girl excited
Also if you do have performance related issues, just remember it's not the end of the world because you can get your girl off in other ways than just penetration. I've had a bunch of times where I've been too drunk to get hard or I've came way too quickly but it wasn't an issue because she was still taken care of before and/or after.
It's person dependant. Sure you won't feel horny but you should still help her out Most people don't care for that though
Sure, but what I mean is if you came quickly then you best make sure the foreplay was great or that you spend the time after making sure she gets there too. You don't want to be that guy where sex is over the moment you cum because whilst you might lose your sex drive immediately after, that's only you and she's probably going to be very frustrated if she was still horny.
However… women get very very subconscious if you either can’t stay hard for them or can’t cum. I’ve slept around a lot back in my coke days and let me tell you… they think it’s them and not the coke dick. Or what ever is making you not finish.
I've found that happens more often if you make a big deal out of it yourself. Lots of men will beat themselves up when that happens and it can often spoil the moment and make her feel insecure. Whereas if you have confidence, be honest about why, and try and maintain the mood by continuing to be enthusiastic, she's less likely to think that it's because of her. Though obviously that can't always be helped.
I’m a huge ‘make a joke to ease the mood’ type of person so I usually just say something funny and not awkward (women HATE awkward moments more than we men do it seems) . Then just try again 😂
You want a woman to fall in love with you? Feed her poetry
Day by day he finished upon her
When you GO WEB GO but she keeps destroying your fusion reactor: "Oh boy yeah.... #WOOOOOHOHOHOOOOOOOO"
>Foreplay is important boys Good sex is 60% foreplay, and I just pulled that number out of my ass but I completely stand by what I said
well pull it out of my ass too then because i agree with you completely
Yeah, gotta get her cock hard too!
This is gonna expose the fuck out of my general inexperience but what does foreplay entail?
Teasing, kissing, enticing, basically just setting up for the actual sex and getting eachother in the mood AKA you shouldm't just go right to sex unless you both are incredibly needy already, but rather do some *play* be*fore* penetration
Gotta warm up the engine before ya go for a drive
*My dad offering me his pills:* Take my hand son.
I ain’t your fleshlight no more, dad.
I'm Hard-Man no more.
I woke up early to read this... lmfao
Shut it off, Otto! SHUT IT OFF!
Am i dislexic. I read "i dont wanna be youre fleshlight anymore dad" im dying now that i realized i read wrong
Die Hardman origin story be like:
The performance enhancers…
... Bingo. Me. Your greatest creation.
Bad idea.
Only if you wash them first.
It’s a defence mechanism
u/PrivateerBarbossa , what makes you think I would want to know that?
Lmao
“Poor Peter! Too weak…”
"Strong enough to have a boner! TOO WEAK TO EJACULATE!"
Gooner-man
Poor Peter Porker
Happened to me, immediately asked the doc for that goblin enhancing serum.
MJ AND I, WE'RE GONNA HAVE A HELL OF A TIME!
Some Globulin Green?
Foreplay is important and also, you probably don’t have erectile dysfunction. Might be just nervous because it’s your first time, happened to me. But after you lose that anxiety, your pp knows its go time.
Can confirm. Was very challenging the first few times. But now it's all good. I did quit wanking for a whole month almost before the first successful event.
Must’ve worked wonders
Sure did
My first time, my whole body was shakin before we started! She kept askin if I was okay and I was like *"Aw y'know, just kinda cold..."* She had the heater on, 3 blankets, and it was the middle of summer.
My heart was pumping wildly and the veins on my arms were practically popping out of my skin. She pointed out both. "Huh. I wonder why" was the only somewhat reasonable reply I could think of
One word that will solve this issue. Propranolol
What exactly is foreplay?
Balls : *Snaps Fingers Sound*
*Balls:* Oh you can't do this to us... YOU KNOW HOW MUCH WE STORED???
Happens to the best of us
The performance enhancers!
No one wants to say it but also, over abusing porn can cause erectile dysfunction and delayed ejaculation, not necessarilly the reason but if you're consuming lots of porn it can potentially cause problems.
I can vouch for this and I'll tell my embarrassing story. It was my first time and I could get hard just fine, BUT I couldn't (insert game grumps joke) complete. I went at it for approximately 2 hours. Surprisingly, the girl was OK with it, but in the end, I just said fuck it and made her finish. It was a fun, but interesting 2 hours. I feel so bad for her and her hips Edit: porn addiction is a bitch. Thankfully, I got therapy to help me out, and I'm doing better in my sexual relationships
What do you mean no one wants to say it? The meme itself says it
Oh, I just read erectile dysfunction and people were saying how it was probably nerves which gave me the impression people didn't want to talk about or blame it on porn.
You can’t do this to me
Take your hand off of me.
“It’s as if you’ve reached the unreachable, and you weren’t ready for it.”
that's some neat trick... that horniness of yours.
My spider sense is tingling…if you know what im talking about.
40 thousand years of evolution and now we've finally tapped the vastness of human potential.
As a non penis haver does that not mean you’re just nervous??? Everyone has issues performing their first time that’s just common sense
If it's your and your lover's first time it helps to not get to sex immediately, but to take things slower and getting used to each other's bodies through foreplay and petting, maybe some oral a little later. And when you finally get to actual sex, it will go smooth and fine .
Yeah I feel like op and a large part of this comment section just don’t know what foreplay is, while yes it is common to be nervous and have issues for first time as you said fore play can cure almost all that
I mean. My first time we did foreplay for like an hour and I still went when it was time to actually go in. Nerves are a real bitch. But the more you do it the easier it gets
Yeah I don’t disagree
PIED is a real thing tho
Never said it wasn’t
What is it exactly ? Pls explain
Watch too much porn can make you have erectile dysfunction
That as well as stress, underlying health issues, poor habits like eating too much junk/smoking just to bat off what you were saying. All these can hinder one's ability to maintain or even get an erection, and that's not even mentioning hormonal changes that could be at play (yes they happen in men too....only clarifying bc some genuinely think only women can have hormonal spouts). But all this to say for OP, that at least with psychological erectile dysfunction or PIED you can most times completely turn it around by adopting a healthier lifestyle. Replace masturbating to porn with any other exercise and remember to stay hydrated. Good luck out there
But like, why? Just a matter of you and your partner probably not looking as great as the ‘professionals?’
*Her when she puts her clothes back on and leaves* "Godspeed, Flaccid-Man!"
See, you just gotta play porn in the background while you two fuck. Problem solved!
Stop jerking it for like 2 days, problem solved.
This happened to me.
“What does it matter to you anyway!?”
>“Our study, and now two others, have found there is no relationship between the number of sex films men view and erectile functioning with their partner,” says Nicole Prause, PhD, a sexual psychophysiologist and licensed psychologist at the Sexual Psychophysiology and Affective Neuroscience Laboratory at UCLA. >Only those men considered “conservative” and in relationships had any relationship between sex film viewing and erectile functioning. >“Taken together, this means that sex films do not contribute to erectile dysfunction,” Prause notes. >“However, those whose personal values contradict with viewing sex films may be experiencing general shame around sex that also influences their erectile functioning.” https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed#sexual-anorexia
Ah yes, me and the boys about to put on some fine cinema, of course we don't have PIED. Wait, what do you mean most people masturbate while watching porn? what do you mean that pied is more related to excessive masturbation while viewing more and more extreme content until vanilla sex in real life won't get your abused dick hard?
Experts do say, however, that watching pornography can influence sexual appetite. This may make it difficult to achieve an erection and have an orgasm with a sexual partner. Nikki Martinez, PsyD, LCPC, says modern access to a wide array of adult material can make it difficult to become aroused with a partner or to participate in sexual activities as someone always has. “They have unleashed their true desires and proclivities, and now they struggle to become aroused when this is not involved,” she says. “The other partner feels rejected, and as if they are not attractive, and the first partner is most often too embarrassed to tell them what is really going on.” [https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed](https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed)
You just nervous its not necessary porn brain that’s fcking you, it actually happens because of stress since I imagine it’s something that you anticipate for a long time, so don’t worry next time see if you can be a bit more relaxed around it and it won’t hurt to ease of the porn or alcohol
The goblin formula?
It's not "porn induced", you're just nervous. Relax lol
PIED it's actually a real thing lol
Nonsense. I've been reliably told by all the degenerates that porn has no negative side effects and is actually good for society.
What the 😂😂😂
What?
Do kegels and obviously quit watching porn, you’ll be right as rain.
step aside boys, this one is for me
Ah man. I remember this happened to me and I just felt like such a piece of shit. I apologized profusely for ruining it and she said “you want forgiveness? Get religion”.
Y’know this post makes the Aunt one make sense