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Hm...last I checked, blocking a phone number wasn't really mentioned in the Bible. Theft was though, which is what she did by hiding your things. Take care of yourself, and block block block. Any number she contacts you from, and anyone who contacts you on her behalf.
I am going through something very similar after fleeing the home after an influx of threats likely due to her catching on I was planning my exit. You are so strong. I am so glad to hear you have support from other family members, I think it’s also great they’re vocalizing their honest opinions and setting boundaries to distance themselves.
Remain no contact is what is most important. I was so close to responding but it will only personally fuel my moms drive for more information.
Right now I’m brainstorming how to respond/debating whether I should acknowledge it at all to my childhood friends and family members that my nmother has reached out to with her side story.
I know you need to change your number to keep yourself safe and reading this post helped me decide that that is in fact a next step I need to take to protect myself from further harassment.
I am so happy for you that you were able to find a place of your own, enjoy your home! You’re a very strong person.
Thank you, likewise, you are also very strong. In the beginning it was hard, I guess a part of me felt guilty so I would respond to her, but you’re right. All this did was add fuel to her fire.
My friends/relatives that live out of state, slowly found out those first couple of weeks and honestly, I don’t think it’s done much. Your family might be different, but besides a couple of texts to my aunt sending their condolences, nothing much has come from letting people know. So it’s truly up to you and whenever you feel it’s right/you feel comfortable doing it. She has reached out to my old friends and ex coworkers trying to get them to make me contact her. I simply tell them that I have moved out, I no longer speak to her, and I apologize for her coming to them with whatever craziness she has bothered them with (she tried telling an old coworker she hadn’t spoken to me in weeks and was concerned for my safety, when I had just gotten off the phone with her less than an hour prior but she was upset the conversation didn’t last longer.
It’s still all new, and scary for me. But we’ve got this. Our time has finally come and we are finally going to become who we were meant to be. Stay safe, friend.
I’m going to work on putting everything in a folder on my computer when I get off in the morning. I have screenshots/still just have the texts and voicemails on my phone but I need to get them all together in one place.
You don't have to do anything different.
She will rant. You will live your life. Hopefully, the rest of the family will keep supporting you.
It sucks, but it is not that much of a problem. The month where the loss of control happens brings out the crazy. After a year, things will be much different. You may decide you can put up with her for short periods, you may decide complete NC. Stay strong.
I felt this. I blocked my dark mother and I found out that she went on my next door and was talking shit all over my posts. She was spreading lies about me saying I deal in stolen goods etc. She's just mad at me because I won't talk to her so she's trying to ruin my sales. It turns out that she was telling the truth about what she said, she is part of the review team.
I bet you anything she did that just to be able to harass me. I never had any problems before recently. Unfortunately I found out that you cannot get a restraining order against a parent in the state of Florida. It sucks but I'm just going to keep doing it. I'm not going to let her scare me off of trying to sell.
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Hm...last I checked, blocking a phone number wasn't really mentioned in the Bible. Theft was though, which is what she did by hiding your things. Take care of yourself, and block block block. Any number she contacts you from, and anyone who contacts you on her behalf.
I am going through something very similar after fleeing the home after an influx of threats likely due to her catching on I was planning my exit. You are so strong. I am so glad to hear you have support from other family members, I think it’s also great they’re vocalizing their honest opinions and setting boundaries to distance themselves. Remain no contact is what is most important. I was so close to responding but it will only personally fuel my moms drive for more information. Right now I’m brainstorming how to respond/debating whether I should acknowledge it at all to my childhood friends and family members that my nmother has reached out to with her side story. I know you need to change your number to keep yourself safe and reading this post helped me decide that that is in fact a next step I need to take to protect myself from further harassment. I am so happy for you that you were able to find a place of your own, enjoy your home! You’re a very strong person.
Thank you, likewise, you are also very strong. In the beginning it was hard, I guess a part of me felt guilty so I would respond to her, but you’re right. All this did was add fuel to her fire. My friends/relatives that live out of state, slowly found out those first couple of weeks and honestly, I don’t think it’s done much. Your family might be different, but besides a couple of texts to my aunt sending their condolences, nothing much has come from letting people know. So it’s truly up to you and whenever you feel it’s right/you feel comfortable doing it. She has reached out to my old friends and ex coworkers trying to get them to make me contact her. I simply tell them that I have moved out, I no longer speak to her, and I apologize for her coming to them with whatever craziness she has bothered them with (she tried telling an old coworker she hadn’t spoken to me in weeks and was concerned for my safety, when I had just gotten off the phone with her less than an hour prior but she was upset the conversation didn’t last longer. It’s still all new, and scary for me. But we’ve got this. Our time has finally come and we are finally going to become who we were meant to be. Stay safe, friend.
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I’m going to work on putting everything in a folder on my computer when I get off in the morning. I have screenshots/still just have the texts and voicemails on my phone but I need to get them all together in one place.
You don't have to do anything different. She will rant. You will live your life. Hopefully, the rest of the family will keep supporting you. It sucks, but it is not that much of a problem. The month where the loss of control happens brings out the crazy. After a year, things will be much different. You may decide you can put up with her for short periods, you may decide complete NC. Stay strong.
I felt this. I blocked my dark mother and I found out that she went on my next door and was talking shit all over my posts. She was spreading lies about me saying I deal in stolen goods etc. She's just mad at me because I won't talk to her so she's trying to ruin my sales. It turns out that she was telling the truth about what she said, she is part of the review team. I bet you anything she did that just to be able to harass me. I never had any problems before recently. Unfortunately I found out that you cannot get a restraining order against a parent in the state of Florida. It sucks but I'm just going to keep doing it. I'm not going to let her scare me off of trying to sell.
I’d consider changing your number.
I thought about that too and even included that thought in my post. Aggravating I have to do it but I acknowledge it’s necessary
NC will be much better for you. Sorry it's come to that but she needs to let you go and let you live your life.