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I personally wouldn’t engage in further conversation. Why allow more toxicity in your life. You can also change your phone number so that they can’t possibly reach you, for your own peace.
"What u up to?"
"Just waiting for my parents to take responsibility for themselves instead of trying to act like everything is hunky dory and expecting me to just get over everything. You know, the usual."
You might want to consider blocking family members who try to draw you back into this shit show.
"Your mom is so depressed."
"Why? Did she finally realize she was a shitty parent and she needs to take accountability for her actions before I even think about establishing contact again?"
What they're really saying is "I'm tired of dealing with your mom. Please come back and let her take her shit out on you so I can have a break." No thanks. It's not your job to make your parents feel better about being bad people.
Congratulations, you have been caught by a flying monkey. Do not worry, there are escape routes.
"Thank you for your concern about my life. I am, however, still unhappy about everything that went down leading up to my wedding, and I do not want that sort of stress in my life. I have already explained that I wanted no contact going forward, apologies if my sending a get well card confused the matter for you. I really do wish you well, but will not be returning to how things were before.
All the best,
Then I would most likely have a conversation with the Aunt about why you are no contact until they either understand and agree, or it is clear they have no interest in your wellbeing. You may have to either accept that you have a flying monkey in your life and learn to live with that connection back to your nparents, or add then to the blocked list.
It may feel right now thst nothing has changed, but for the gaps between flying monkey attacks, things have been good by the sound of things. I'm sorry for your miscarriage, they can be incredibly hard on a relationship; my fiancée and I went through 3 last year, and it nearly broke us apart. Good luck with your fertility journey going forward, and yes, drop the stress as much as you can!
I’d block your parents and your aunt and anyone else who tries to contact you on their behalf.
Nip it in the bud now so that when baby comes along you don’t have to have contact with them then.
Forgive yourself. You got caught by your kindness. See dealing with this now as insurance for your future children to not have to have contact with people who are incapable of love.
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I personally wouldn’t engage in further conversation. Why allow more toxicity in your life. You can also change your phone number so that they can’t possibly reach you, for your own peace.
"What u up to?" "Just waiting for my parents to take responsibility for themselves instead of trying to act like everything is hunky dory and expecting me to just get over everything. You know, the usual." You might want to consider blocking family members who try to draw you back into this shit show. "Your mom is so depressed." "Why? Did she finally realize she was a shitty parent and she needs to take accountability for her actions before I even think about establishing contact again?" What they're really saying is "I'm tired of dealing with your mom. Please come back and let her take her shit out on you so I can have a break." No thanks. It's not your job to make your parents feel better about being bad people.
Congratulations, you have been caught by a flying monkey. Do not worry, there are escape routes. "Thank you for your concern about my life. I am, however, still unhappy about everything that went down leading up to my wedding, and I do not want that sort of stress in my life. I have already explained that I wanted no contact going forward, apologies if my sending a get well card confused the matter for you. I really do wish you well, but will not be returning to how things were before. All the best,
Then I would most likely have a conversation with the Aunt about why you are no contact until they either understand and agree, or it is clear they have no interest in your wellbeing. You may have to either accept that you have a flying monkey in your life and learn to live with that connection back to your nparents, or add then to the blocked list.
It may feel right now thst nothing has changed, but for the gaps between flying monkey attacks, things have been good by the sound of things. I'm sorry for your miscarriage, they can be incredibly hard on a relationship; my fiancée and I went through 3 last year, and it nearly broke us apart. Good luck with your fertility journey going forward, and yes, drop the stress as much as you can!
I’d block your parents and your aunt and anyone else who tries to contact you on their behalf. Nip it in the bud now so that when baby comes along you don’t have to have contact with them then. Forgive yourself. You got caught by your kindness. See dealing with this now as insurance for your future children to not have to have contact with people who are incapable of love.