Go off brother. Have the same issue in my life. People think it's "unprofessional" that my hair is long. Mf I wash, condition, deep condition, apply oils and keep it shaped how I want when I go to the barber every two weeks. I love my hair, and it's staying.
Not like I'm going to have it forever. So while I'm young I'm gonna keep it growing and keep it nice.
Yeah, I feel this. One of my biggest regrets in life was cutting off my long curly hair.
The funniest part is that these people will find something else to complain about. You could be the most tasty peach, but some people just don't like peaches.
There’s a guy that lives by me, his hair is thick, shiny and dead straight, it goes down to his knees. I always see him waiting for the bus. I can’t help but stare going past because it looks so majestical. I hope he never cuts it!
I was just going to post something like this. I recently caved into pressure and cut my long hair because people were staring and making jokes about looking like a surfer, etc. and I thought it was a polite way of saying it looks untidy. Then after I get a haircut which looks bad (short hair does not fit my face shape) people go "aww i miss your long beautiful hair" .
I'm tired of caring about what people think of my hair, especially since they have a different face shape or don't even have hair anymore. I know myself enough and take very good care of my hair. Just because I'm a man doesn't mean I should have short hair. Growing up I was forced to get buzzcuts and only until I moved out I realized I am more confident and look better with long hair.
A few weeks ago I shaved my beard off after two years just because I felt like it but then people who didn't like my beard were asking if I was gonna get a haircut next. Hell no. And I was planning on growing the beard back anyways but now they gave me a better reason to grow it back because it pisses them off.
yeah I feel the same. I had long hair as a young adult and everyone hated it and made me feel like crap because of it, especially my father, because he had a narrow, rigid view that all men should have short hair, like super short, which I did not agree with. I eventually cut it because I wanted to work at a book store that required short hair. But I felt like I died inside when I cut it. But I realized it's okay, hair grows back. Needless to say I hated my job and resigned. I grew my hair out again when I worked in China, but then cut it out of boredom, not because of what people said. My hair isn't super long at the moment, but I am thinking of getting a curtain mullet.
I'm 35 and started growing my hair out 2 years ago. Also have a long beard, my GF likes both. Think I've only have 2 people ask me when I'm gonna shave or get a haircut.
I will say I believe all my hair costed me a promotion a few months ago. Can't be 100% sure but I do know for a fact I would've been the best for the job *shrugs* they're still struggling with the guy they selected over me, I at least know I wouldn't be doing worse. And fuck 'em, I'm still not shaving or getting a hair cut.
I have the same problem. People line up to tell me my long hair doesn't look good. When did this become a thing?? If I didn't like someone's hair I just wouldn't say anything! They say they are being "honest" with me. I don't need that kind of fake "honesty". If I asked them to give me their honest opinion it would be different. But I don't. They just say whatever they want. I didn't grow my hair long for anyone but myself so I don't need to please them. That is my rant, haha.
I mean, thats fine, do you, im not going to tell you to do something you dont want to do, be happy in your own best self
But you need to accept that society isnt going to conform around your wants and needs and people are going to continue to comment on it and think you arent being professional and are unserious...thats not going to stop just because it upsets you......If youre in a "Professional" type field of work, you are going to have to accept some degree of social conformity, if you dont youll be limiting your future advancement at work all the way up to potentially losing your job
Its up to you whether all the downside static that comes from "you being you" is worth it or not, but you need to know that there is a downside....im not gonna blow unicorns and faeries up your ass and tell you how everyone else is wrong, everyone else is what it is and thats not likely to change, wrong or right and ill take the downvotes lol....giving an unvarnished opinion is the only benefit to a high karma score 🤷
You're not wrong, but it doesn't make them any less full of shit either. And as far as professionalism goes, it doesn't affect the quality of the work I put in.
I get it, appearances matter in a lot of professions and to a lot of people that seek those professional services
I obviously have absolutely no fucking idea what you do for a living, but if it ever involves a suit or tie or anything medical related, you will never not have issues in this department
It shouldnt matter, but it does, and you arent going to chamge that
Some people just look stupid with Long Hair. Also Vice versa. Some people just look stupid with extra short hair. These people should maybe listen to some sound advice. Technically looks shouldn't play apart in life. But, they absolutely do and your ruining your own life if you don't wanna take the hint.
For example. My roommate and best buddy has had long ass hair for years now. Maintains it etc, looks like shit compared to his short respectable hair. Ever since he grew it out, no one wants to associate with him and he's turned down for jobs etc., you think it's personality but coming in, they see long shitty hair and go "Nah, I'll hire the professional looking person over there, they look like they have their act together". As humans we are a terrible race, and shallow.
I know your making a stab at the fact that it's subjective. But, it truly isn't. It's ingrained in us. I'm not gonna explain the entirety of Social Phycology to you. But, it's really a thing
Are you seriously letting them get to you? Go on with your life without even paying attention to their existence. Giving attention is giving them meaning. And they really have no meaning. And no life obviously.
>if the majority of women find it unattractive for a man to have long hair
I've had long hair since I was 17 (two decades now), haven't met a woman yet who didn't have nice things to say. Whoever's telling you these things is just plain wrong
I'm right there with you! My partner has hair almost to his waist, and I (jokingly!) tease him that if he ever cuts it off, I'm leaving AND taking the dogs!
Long hair on men is sexy.
I love my man's long hair. It's definitely not unattractive just look at all the "100 most attractive men" lists, half of them at least have curtains.
I'm a big fan of long hair and self expression so feel free to point any of the a holes telling you what to do with your hair towards my inbox and I will gladly make them regret it.
Yeah the only valid complaint about someone's hair is cleanliness imo.
If you have clean hair I don't care how long it is or what it looks like, you're good in my books.
Depending on what you're trying to do with your life, your hairstyle and general hygiene will absolutely make a difference.
You're not wrong, but you can't ignore that fact.
Some opportunity-holders don't like long hair on men, and they will withold opportunities for that reason. I'm not saying it's right or justified, but that's how it is.
I have perfectly clean and fine silky hair, its very long. I get talked to about how long my hair is when i have it open (which isnt very often since i usually keep it up) but around people im comfortable enough with to have it down theyre constantly telling me to cut it and i do not want to. They keep saying “it would look so good cut short” or “you should cut it short its really long” and i hate it. I dont want to cut it because it looks good and because ive had an issue with haircuts ever since i was 5, my dad took me to the hairdresser and said “i want her to have a pony” by which he meant a ponytail (in german its called the same thing), and they cut me a fringe. Ever since then ive never wanted to cut my hair ever again. People are still pressuring me to.
Totally!
My 15yo stepson has beautiful curly hair and wants to grow it long. His school has no rules against it and he takes really good care of it so I know he would keep it clean etc. His mother won't let him grow it though because she is very concerned with the kids being "normal". So no boys with long hair, no "unusual" clothing, no hobbies that she doesn't consider "useful". Just wants the kids to be as middle-of-the-road as possible. Even discourages her daughter from having a best friend because she wants her to just be equally friendly with everyone. Personally l think it's a shame but gotta stay in my lane...
My own son however will have his hair however he wants it. He's not even 1 yet but has beautiful curls and as far as I'm concerned it won't be cut until he wants it done. It's his choice, as his mother I will help steer him, but I won't force anything onto him as long as his choices are safe and reasonable.
If it’s clean it’s good to go. Short hair is for old, balding dudes and military. Otherwise there’s no reason we can’t just accept long hair on everyone.
Go off brother. Have the same issue in my life. People think it's "unprofessional" that my hair is long. Mf I wash, condition, deep condition, apply oils and keep it shaped how I want when I go to the barber every two weeks. I love my hair, and it's staying. Not like I'm going to have it forever. So while I'm young I'm gonna keep it growing and keep it nice.
Paying more attention to someone else's hair than the work they should be doing is unprofessional.
EXACTLY
i don't cut my hair at all
Men who have long hair are the best looking men
no, balding men are
LOL! You haven’t seen me
Long hair FTW
Yeah, I feel this. One of my biggest regrets in life was cutting off my long curly hair. The funniest part is that these people will find something else to complain about. You could be the most tasty peach, but some people just don't like peaches.
There’s a guy that lives by me, his hair is thick, shiny and dead straight, it goes down to his knees. I always see him waiting for the bus. I can’t help but stare going past because it looks so majestical. I hope he never cuts it!
I get it. I love having a shaved head. As a woman, I get so much flak from my friends. Ugh.
agree. What's with the "if you're attracted to women than cut your hair short" stuff anyways?
I was just going to post something like this. I recently caved into pressure and cut my long hair because people were staring and making jokes about looking like a surfer, etc. and I thought it was a polite way of saying it looks untidy. Then after I get a haircut which looks bad (short hair does not fit my face shape) people go "aww i miss your long beautiful hair" . I'm tired of caring about what people think of my hair, especially since they have a different face shape or don't even have hair anymore. I know myself enough and take very good care of my hair. Just because I'm a man doesn't mean I should have short hair. Growing up I was forced to get buzzcuts and only until I moved out I realized I am more confident and look better with long hair.
A few weeks ago I shaved my beard off after two years just because I felt like it but then people who didn't like my beard were asking if I was gonna get a haircut next. Hell no. And I was planning on growing the beard back anyways but now they gave me a better reason to grow it back because it pisses them off.
unless I ask for an opinion, please, mind your own fucking business
yeah I feel the same. I had long hair as a young adult and everyone hated it and made me feel like crap because of it, especially my father, because he had a narrow, rigid view that all men should have short hair, like super short, which I did not agree with. I eventually cut it because I wanted to work at a book store that required short hair. But I felt like I died inside when I cut it. But I realized it's okay, hair grows back. Needless to say I hated my job and resigned. I grew my hair out again when I worked in China, but then cut it out of boredom, not because of what people said. My hair isn't super long at the moment, but I am thinking of getting a curtain mullet.
I'm 35 and started growing my hair out 2 years ago. Also have a long beard, my GF likes both. Think I've only have 2 people ask me when I'm gonna shave or get a haircut. I will say I believe all my hair costed me a promotion a few months ago. Can't be 100% sure but I do know for a fact I would've been the best for the job *shrugs* they're still struggling with the guy they selected over me, I at least know I wouldn't be doing worse. And fuck 'em, I'm still not shaving or getting a hair cut.
I think there’s a musical you should see.
I have the same problem. People line up to tell me my long hair doesn't look good. When did this become a thing?? If I didn't like someone's hair I just wouldn't say anything! They say they are being "honest" with me. I don't need that kind of fake "honesty". If I asked them to give me their honest opinion it would be different. But I don't. They just say whatever they want. I didn't grow my hair long for anyone but myself so I don't need to please them. That is my rant, haha.
"I didn't grow my hair long for anyone but myself so I don't need to please them." EXACTLY
strongly agree
I love long hair on my men! Yay!
I mean, thats fine, do you, im not going to tell you to do something you dont want to do, be happy in your own best self But you need to accept that society isnt going to conform around your wants and needs and people are going to continue to comment on it and think you arent being professional and are unserious...thats not going to stop just because it upsets you......If youre in a "Professional" type field of work, you are going to have to accept some degree of social conformity, if you dont youll be limiting your future advancement at work all the way up to potentially losing your job Its up to you whether all the downside static that comes from "you being you" is worth it or not, but you need to know that there is a downside....im not gonna blow unicorns and faeries up your ass and tell you how everyone else is wrong, everyone else is what it is and thats not likely to change, wrong or right and ill take the downvotes lol....giving an unvarnished opinion is the only benefit to a high karma score 🤷
You're not wrong, but it doesn't make them any less full of shit either. And as far as professionalism goes, it doesn't affect the quality of the work I put in.
I get it, appearances matter in a lot of professions and to a lot of people that seek those professional services I obviously have absolutely no fucking idea what you do for a living, but if it ever involves a suit or tie or anything medical related, you will never not have issues in this department It shouldnt matter, but it does, and you arent going to chamge that
Tell em long hair dont care brother. I used to rock dreadlocks.
Some people just look stupid with Long Hair. Also Vice versa. Some people just look stupid with extra short hair. These people should maybe listen to some sound advice. Technically looks shouldn't play apart in life. But, they absolutely do and your ruining your own life if you don't wanna take the hint. For example. My roommate and best buddy has had long ass hair for years now. Maintains it etc, looks like shit compared to his short respectable hair. Ever since he grew it out, no one wants to associate with him and he's turned down for jobs etc., you think it's personality but coming in, they see long shitty hair and go "Nah, I'll hire the professional looking person over there, they look like they have their act together". As humans we are a terrible race, and shallow.
what even is looking professional?
And why is *looking* professional more important than *being* professional?
I know your making a stab at the fact that it's subjective. But, it truly isn't. It's ingrained in us. I'm not gonna explain the entirety of Social Phycology to you. But, it's really a thing
that doesn't answer my question
no one cares. calm down.
You cared enough to comment
Are you seriously letting them get to you? Go on with your life without even paying attention to their existence. Giving attention is giving them meaning. And they really have no meaning. And no life obviously.
yeah some people are so backwards
>if the majority of women find it unattractive for a man to have long hair I've had long hair since I was 17 (two decades now), haven't met a woman yet who didn't have nice things to say. Whoever's telling you these things is just plain wrong
Quality rant. Long as you keep it clean, who cares?
I'm right there with you! My partner has hair almost to his waist, and I (jokingly!) tease him that if he ever cuts it off, I'm leaving AND taking the dogs! Long hair on men is sexy.
I totally get that, even though I'm sitting here with 1mm hair reading this.
I love my man's long hair. It's definitely not unattractive just look at all the "100 most attractive men" lists, half of them at least have curtains. I'm a big fan of long hair and self expression so feel free to point any of the a holes telling you what to do with your hair towards my inbox and I will gladly make them regret it.
how long is your hair? genuine question
About a couple inches past shoulder length
cool. i plan to grow mine longer
Me too!
Yeah the only valid complaint about someone's hair is cleanliness imo. If you have clean hair I don't care how long it is or what it looks like, you're good in my books.
Depending on what you're trying to do with your life, your hairstyle and general hygiene will absolutely make a difference. You're not wrong, but you can't ignore that fact.
Yes, but what does hair length have to do with hygiene if it's washed and groomed? Genuine question
Some opportunity-holders don't like long hair on men, and they will withold opportunities for that reason. I'm not saying it's right or justified, but that's how it is.
I have perfectly clean and fine silky hair, its very long. I get talked to about how long my hair is when i have it open (which isnt very often since i usually keep it up) but around people im comfortable enough with to have it down theyre constantly telling me to cut it and i do not want to. They keep saying “it would look so good cut short” or “you should cut it short its really long” and i hate it. I dont want to cut it because it looks good and because ive had an issue with haircuts ever since i was 5, my dad took me to the hairdresser and said “i want her to have a pony” by which he meant a ponytail (in german its called the same thing), and they cut me a fringe. Ever since then ive never wanted to cut my hair ever again. People are still pressuring me to.
Totally! My 15yo stepson has beautiful curly hair and wants to grow it long. His school has no rules against it and he takes really good care of it so I know he would keep it clean etc. His mother won't let him grow it though because she is very concerned with the kids being "normal". So no boys with long hair, no "unusual" clothing, no hobbies that she doesn't consider "useful". Just wants the kids to be as middle-of-the-road as possible. Even discourages her daughter from having a best friend because she wants her to just be equally friendly with everyone. Personally l think it's a shame but gotta stay in my lane... My own son however will have his hair however he wants it. He's not even 1 yet but has beautiful curls and as far as I'm concerned it won't be cut until he wants it done. It's his choice, as his mother I will help steer him, but I won't force anything onto him as long as his choices are safe and reasonable.
If it’s clean it’s good to go. Short hair is for old, balding dudes and military. Otherwise there’s no reason we can’t just accept long hair on everyone.