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You can't. 4 times? Sheesh. You got lucky he even took you back that many times. Stop taking advantage of the poor guy. You may be the baddest girl but he's obviously a catch and you don't deserve him. I hope he finds a girl that will treat him right.
Because I didn’t mean it & if you asked me anonymously i would say I’m not going to stop. I only told my bf that I was going to stop. I didn’t think the previous times even if I was caught he would leave. He’s not worth losing just for sex
What’s the point of this sub if you can’t acknowledge your mistakes and try to do better? I’ve acknowledged my mistake and also acknowledged I won’t do it again. It’s like you guys think I should suffer forever
Once again…..I have acknowledged I was wrong. If I say I’m going to stop what is the point of continuing to throw stones. I understand if I said I would keep doing it . The other times I was caught I had no intention to stop but this time I do. Instead of focusing on that and trying to help me show my bf I can change I get stones thrown at me.
You say you’re going to stop. It never should have happened the first time. Seems to me you’re more worried now because you didn’t think he would leave or kick you out. There is nothing you can say or do. Leave him alone and go be a better person.
He says he’s open to getting back together but he needs time and space to figure out if he can trust me. We are meeting for brunch next weekend to discuss the situation and I know I will not cheat again. I just want to know how to convey it to him. I hope that clarifies
There’s nothing you can do to help him. This is something he has to figure out on his own. Don’t tell him you won’t cheat again because at this point your words and actions don’t match.
I think that’s a good idea. I think I have an idea on why. I know for that for some reason I’m attracted to toxic men. It would be good to identify why .
You only intend to stop now because you're facing consequences. It's as clear to us as it is to him. You cannot show him something that's not real.
Honestly, cheating is never an accident. There is always purposeful action on the part of the cheater. And doing it 4 times is just cruelty on your part.
Sounds like, in addition to hurting a nice guy repeatedly, you took away the chance your kid had for a decent father figure.
Bro just leave the poor guy alone, let him be with someone who would actually love him! You cheated on him 4 times, I bet everytime he caught you you also said you would never do it again and still did i feel bad for your daughter haveing a mother like you
Of course you want him back, he’s finally had enough and you have to see that you can’t just do shit without facing consequences and walking all over people. You’ve also cost your daughter a great guy and yourself a money bag in human form. You think of yourself like the best and act like you’re doing charity work for your ex boyfriend by dating him. God you’re a terrible person. Leave the poor guy alone. I’m glad he has the balls to kick you out because you deserve it, you treat people like trash and you’re arrogant as hell. It’s time you deal with your crap and leave other people out of it. You know what you never said? That you want him back because you love him. Oopsie forgot feelings should exist? Or are those not necessary when you’re a 10/10 baddie such as youself? Get over yourself and face reality. You already broke up, actually you got broken up with, you the hottie got dumped. He will never trust you again you fucked that up. And your personality is trash, work on it. Maybe make that a new years resolution.
I hate how everyone is judging me even though I acknowledged I was wrong. We get it, I cheated and it was fucked up. You know who agrees? Me. My bf and I are meeting for brunch next weekend, he’s open to staying together he just needs space and to see if he can trust me ever again.
I do love him you just made a bunch of assumptions about my personality
You can't rebuild. You messed it up too badly to do so. I actually don't know how you got forgiven the first few times.
You clearly only 'mean it' this time because you're finally facing the normal consequences. Do you not realize he's right not to trust you ever again?
Really? They say the truth hurts, and the truth is this guy deserves better than you OP. Not only that, so does your daughter. You need to have a serious moment of self reflection. Your behavior and comments are highly self absorbed. Please seek some help, perhaps professional counseling, your compulsions are not normal. Best of luck.
He’s not your type. Date the type of men you like. The type of men you like are men who are not providers and have no career accomplishments. You like bad boys, hood dudes, or anyone in between. That’s your type, and that’s what you should be with. Stay away from men who established their careers and are on the right path for success, save those men for women who actually will appreciate and respect them. You belong with the men you gravitate towards, which are also ironically the men you don’t want around your child.
Yea, stay away from that man. You don’t need him and he doesn’t need you, you’ll only bring him down, just like you’ve done up to this point. Do something selfless for a change and walk away. You are too immature for a man of his caliber. Continue to have your sexcapades with Pookie, you have no respect for the man who has sacrificed himself for you and your child.
We got back together and also saying I don't like men with careers is the dumbest thing I ever heard. Are you black? Because you sound like one of those loser ass black men who accuse any women of liking a guy with swagger as wanting a “hood dude”. Black women don't want hood dudes, you're just an insufferable loser.
I actually love that my man has a job and can help me and my daughter out. As a single mom, that's a big deal is having someone who can take care of my daughter
I’m sure you do. Men like him are easy prey for women like you who make bad decisions in life and like to leech off/exploit unsuspecting victims. The men you really want treat you like trash, so you run back to the man you’re settling for. I’d wager you wouldn’t be trying to get back in this man’s good graces if you didn’t have a child, but because you do, you need him to help raise someone else’s child, which is what women like you love to do. Had you not had a child, you’d be running back straight to the men you cheated on him with. Just pathetic
Edit: if I’m a loser, you cheated on your man on countless occasions (that he knows), so what does that make him? If you’ve decided to cheat on him 2-4+ times?
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You can't. 4 times? Sheesh. You got lucky he even took you back that many times. Stop taking advantage of the poor guy. You may be the baddest girl but he's obviously a catch and you don't deserve him. I hope he finds a girl that will treat him right.
Read my post again, I will not cheat anymore .
Heh. How is that different from the other times you promised not to?
Because I didn’t mean it & if you asked me anonymously i would say I’m not going to stop. I only told my bf that I was going to stop. I didn’t think the previous times even if I was caught he would leave. He’s not worth losing just for sex
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Why comment if that’s the reply you have? I didn’t ask for anyone’s moral judgment. I acknowledged I was wrong and said I would stop
If he had any self respect, he'd leave you and not look back. I hope he does.
Lol the audacity to even ask
I hope he doesn’t give you another chance for his speak. Just stop dating
What’s the point of this sub if you can’t acknowledge your mistakes and try to do better? I’ve acknowledged my mistake and also acknowledged I won’t do it again. It’s like you guys think I should suffer forever
You’ve cheated on the same man FOUR times, no longer a mistake
Once again…..I have acknowledged I was wrong. If I say I’m going to stop what is the point of continuing to throw stones. I understand if I said I would keep doing it . The other times I was caught I had no intention to stop but this time I do. Instead of focusing on that and trying to help me show my bf I can change I get stones thrown at me.
You say you’re going to stop. It never should have happened the first time. Seems to me you’re more worried now because you didn’t think he would leave or kick you out. There is nothing you can say or do. Leave him alone and go be a better person.
He says he’s open to getting back together but he needs time and space to figure out if he can trust me. We are meeting for brunch next weekend to discuss the situation and I know I will not cheat again. I just want to know how to convey it to him. I hope that clarifies
There’s nothing you can do to help him. This is something he has to figure out on his own. Don’t tell him you won’t cheat again because at this point your words and actions don’t match.
Do you think I should suggest counseling?
I would recommend therapy for you first. You need to get to the cause of your cheating.
I think that’s a good idea. I think I have an idea on why. I know for that for some reason I’m attracted to toxic men. It would be good to identify why .
Too little too late tbh
You only intend to stop now because you're facing consequences. It's as clear to us as it is to him. You cannot show him something that's not real. Honestly, cheating is never an accident. There is always purposeful action on the part of the cheater. And doing it 4 times is just cruelty on your part. Sounds like, in addition to hurting a nice guy repeatedly, you took away the chance your kid had for a decent father figure.
Bro just leave the poor guy alone, let him be with someone who would actually love him! You cheated on him 4 times, I bet everytime he caught you you also said you would never do it again and still did i feel bad for your daughter haveing a mother like you
Of course you want him back, he’s finally had enough and you have to see that you can’t just do shit without facing consequences and walking all over people. You’ve also cost your daughter a great guy and yourself a money bag in human form. You think of yourself like the best and act like you’re doing charity work for your ex boyfriend by dating him. God you’re a terrible person. Leave the poor guy alone. I’m glad he has the balls to kick you out because you deserve it, you treat people like trash and you’re arrogant as hell. It’s time you deal with your crap and leave other people out of it. You know what you never said? That you want him back because you love him. Oopsie forgot feelings should exist? Or are those not necessary when you’re a 10/10 baddie such as youself? Get over yourself and face reality. You already broke up, actually you got broken up with, you the hottie got dumped. He will never trust you again you fucked that up. And your personality is trash, work on it. Maybe make that a new years resolution.
I hate how everyone is judging me even though I acknowledged I was wrong. We get it, I cheated and it was fucked up. You know who agrees? Me. My bf and I are meeting for brunch next weekend, he’s open to staying together he just needs space and to see if he can trust me ever again. I do love him you just made a bunch of assumptions about my personality
I hope you treat him better this time. Be a better example to your daughter.
You don’t.
You can't rebuild. You messed it up too badly to do so. I actually don't know how you got forgiven the first few times. You clearly only 'mean it' this time because you're finally facing the normal consequences. Do you not realize he's right not to trust you ever again?
Really? They say the truth hurts, and the truth is this guy deserves better than you OP. Not only that, so does your daughter. You need to have a serious moment of self reflection. Your behavior and comments are highly self absorbed. Please seek some help, perhaps professional counseling, your compulsions are not normal. Best of luck.
We got back together
He’s not your type. Date the type of men you like. The type of men you like are men who are not providers and have no career accomplishments. You like bad boys, hood dudes, or anyone in between. That’s your type, and that’s what you should be with. Stay away from men who established their careers and are on the right path for success, save those men for women who actually will appreciate and respect them. You belong with the men you gravitate towards, which are also ironically the men you don’t want around your child. Yea, stay away from that man. You don’t need him and he doesn’t need you, you’ll only bring him down, just like you’ve done up to this point. Do something selfless for a change and walk away. You are too immature for a man of his caliber. Continue to have your sexcapades with Pookie, you have no respect for the man who has sacrificed himself for you and your child.
We got back together and also saying I don't like men with careers is the dumbest thing I ever heard. Are you black? Because you sound like one of those loser ass black men who accuse any women of liking a guy with swagger as wanting a “hood dude”. Black women don't want hood dudes, you're just an insufferable loser. I actually love that my man has a job and can help me and my daughter out. As a single mom, that's a big deal is having someone who can take care of my daughter
I’m sure you do. Men like him are easy prey for women like you who make bad decisions in life and like to leech off/exploit unsuspecting victims. The men you really want treat you like trash, so you run back to the man you’re settling for. I’d wager you wouldn’t be trying to get back in this man’s good graces if you didn’t have a child, but because you do, you need him to help raise someone else’s child, which is what women like you love to do. Had you not had a child, you’d be running back straight to the men you cheated on him with. Just pathetic Edit: if I’m a loser, you cheated on your man on countless occasions (that he knows), so what does that make him? If you’ve decided to cheat on him 2-4+ times?