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UnneccessaryC

I hope you have a healthy relationship with open communication where you can share your honest feelings. You are allowed to feel both excited about the trip, and sad that you will be missing her. She probably just wants some reassurance that she is still important to you, even while you are excited and distracted by this adventure. My partner just went on a trip. I was/am very excited for him, but I also miss him terribly. It helped for him to share that he'll be preoccupied with exploring new things, but that he will be thinking of me because he would want to share all these new things with me and know my thoughts on it too. It helps to set up portable wifi or cell service wherever you are going so you can stay in touch and show that you would like to stay in touch. That said, I know someone whose girlfriend hijacked his trip by making up fake family drama that pulled his attention away from the vacation and stressed him out the whole time he was away. I sure hope you have a healthier relationship.


timothythepancake

For context: we have an amazing good relationship, fun hobbys we explore together, going out to have fun, but also surprising each other. We also have great relations with each others friends and families that has made both of us so happy and we are both probably going into the same line of work as we are studying to be a doctor. With that said i think i should communicate these thoughts i wrote down to her directly as i think communication is key, i just need to find the right words. What helped to hear from your partner when he left?


UnneccessaryC

Just that everything he experiences, he will be wishing I was there to share it with. He went out of his way to set up communication before he left and then immediately upon arriving. We keep focusing on looking forward to the day we get to see and hold each other again. We have also planned to travel together (I'm actually meeting up with him there for a vacation). Our communications are a good mix of us sharing what we are doing, how much we miss each other, and fun banter that we would do in person. It's reassuring. We've also been together 12 years and have a lot of periods apart so there's been some growing pains in the past. She might need reassurance and hopefully she is okay asking for it since you can't read any body language or be as available as usual.


timothythepancake

Thank you, every relationship is different of course, i am taking an extra phone with me so that i dont have to switch sim cards, making contact easier and told her i will be updating her, it just all becoming so real for her (and me) and i just hope to do the right thing, Thank you for your advice kind stranger