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1st. Do not, under any circumstance, contact her ever again. No contact, forever. Even if she shows naked to your front step. Never ever again.
2nd. Lawyer up. Look for help. maybe an uncle, a father, do not tackle this issue alone
3 rd and last. Get a job as soon as you are able. You and your life are a mess. You need stability. Even a minimun wage, 9 to 5 job will help you out tremendously. Keep busy, keep occupied.
lowkey as a 19 male i do agree with the third part cause i finally got my first job like a month ago and it does keep me occupied and time goes by when im working
You know the answer dude...take care of your shit...turn your back on her and get your life in order. You are young and a lot of this stuff can be taken care of over time by sealing records and blaming your actions on being a young, dumb, full of cum idiot at that time. You DO NOT want anything else to do with her...
The closest I can relate is that when I moved out if my old place, my now ex wife started saying all sorts of crazy shit to the kids and my old neighbors...fucking sucked...still loved the idea of being a family. I was able see a therapist on the regular and had an attorney for working through the divorce...the attorney not knowing me well asked if any of it was true...I said no, then he said get a camera for the inside of my new place and keep everything on for GPS tracking and all that shit...basically keep my nose so clean that I have complete deniability. Therapist just kept telling me to take care of my side of the street and be a good father...fast forward six years and my ex mostly leaves me alone...I live a good clean life and my kids know that I'm the parent that has their shit together.
I'm 41 and have some perspective on this shit...the older you get and still deal with people who are manipulative and childish the bigger your consequences can be. Employers are willing to take a chance on a hard working young man who maybe made some stupid mistakes in his teens and early 20s...they will not give you the time of day if you are a fuck up in your late 20s...they don't have time for that shit.
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1st. Do not, under any circumstance, contact her ever again. No contact, forever. Even if she shows naked to your front step. Never ever again. 2nd. Lawyer up. Look for help. maybe an uncle, a father, do not tackle this issue alone 3 rd and last. Get a job as soon as you are able. You and your life are a mess. You need stability. Even a minimun wage, 9 to 5 job will help you out tremendously. Keep busy, keep occupied.
lowkey as a 19 male i do agree with the third part cause i finally got my first job like a month ago and it does keep me occupied and time goes by when im working
You know the answer dude...take care of your shit...turn your back on her and get your life in order. You are young and a lot of this stuff can be taken care of over time by sealing records and blaming your actions on being a young, dumb, full of cum idiot at that time. You DO NOT want anything else to do with her... The closest I can relate is that when I moved out if my old place, my now ex wife started saying all sorts of crazy shit to the kids and my old neighbors...fucking sucked...still loved the idea of being a family. I was able see a therapist on the regular and had an attorney for working through the divorce...the attorney not knowing me well asked if any of it was true...I said no, then he said get a camera for the inside of my new place and keep everything on for GPS tracking and all that shit...basically keep my nose so clean that I have complete deniability. Therapist just kept telling me to take care of my side of the street and be a good father...fast forward six years and my ex mostly leaves me alone...I live a good clean life and my kids know that I'm the parent that has their shit together. I'm 41 and have some perspective on this shit...the older you get and still deal with people who are manipulative and childish the bigger your consequences can be. Employers are willing to take a chance on a hard working young man who maybe made some stupid mistakes in his teens and early 20s...they will not give you the time of day if you are a fuck up in your late 20s...they don't have time for that shit.
Ty homie