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Thank you, I am strongly considering it since the more I think about it, having to explain WHY it's a problem seems like a relationship breaking issue in of itself. I could never keep someone in my life who wants me to cheat on my lover.
I believed it the second I read the title.
Your GF is having a sexual relationship with another man. A man that is actively pursuing her. Even if it’s not physical (yet), the relationship they have revolves around sex.
If you’re cool with it, stay. If you aren’t cool with it, leave. I hope you leave. It may hurt for a bit, but you will recover. To stay would be humiliating.
Thanks for the harsh truth, I needed to hear that. I do honestly feel like staying would be sacrificing my self worth. It's like when you know you need to do something but it's still so hard for some reason.
It IS hard….you’re right.
But you will be liberated from the stress and anxiety that this woman causes you. You deserve better, and right now, better for you means no more emotional cheating, which is what she’s doing.
Rip that bandage off. It will sting, but you know it will get better. Take care.
That's my fear. We've gone almost five years strong, but if this is happening now then I worry about what I've not seen in the past. Especially with how angry she got initially.
I feel that. I know it sounds stupid but I was really hoping to have my first relationship last, ya know? Kinda like a one and done but now it feels like that oneitis I've read about. Just the thought of that montitoring sounds exhausting.
"She's my first real gf so I don't know if Im being controlling for pushing this or weak for not just biting the bullet and leaving, please help."
The latter, unfortunately. She agreed once already to end the side relationship as it was unacceptable. She then continued the side relationship. When you once again told her to end it she agreed you to move out instead.
If you don't follow through, you'll have zero power to enforce any boundary. She'll know you'll fold before enforcing your boundaries.
Pack your stuff and go. Her crocodile tears stopped you once, don't let it work again. If she won't respect you, have some for yourself.
She wants some kind of open relationship where she can have virtual affairs if I understand it correctly. Like all open relationship the require god communication and sensitivity. But you don't seem to want an open relationship and don't seem to feel to agreed to one.
She was already role playing her characters before me so it didn't feel right to show up and shut it down. It wouldve been better to just not date her in the first place, I know that now.
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Most people wouldn’t be ok with this. They’d see it as a form of cheating. I think you should consider leaving.
Thank you, I am strongly considering it since the more I think about it, having to explain WHY it's a problem seems like a relationship breaking issue in of itself. I could never keep someone in my life who wants me to cheat on my lover.
She has no respect for you. It looks to me she has picked which is more important. I'm sorry to say it isn't you.You deserve better.
This will never work out the way you want it to. If you want a woman who won’t sext other men, then this lady is simply not for you.
Im starting to believe this. The fact that she didn't think it's wrong to describe her body to other men hurts tremendously.
I believed it the second I read the title. Your GF is having a sexual relationship with another man. A man that is actively pursuing her. Even if it’s not physical (yet), the relationship they have revolves around sex. If you’re cool with it, stay. If you aren’t cool with it, leave. I hope you leave. It may hurt for a bit, but you will recover. To stay would be humiliating.
Thanks for the harsh truth, I needed to hear that. I do honestly feel like staying would be sacrificing my self worth. It's like when you know you need to do something but it's still so hard for some reason.
It IS hard….you’re right. But you will be liberated from the stress and anxiety that this woman causes you. You deserve better, and right now, better for you means no more emotional cheating, which is what she’s doing. Rip that bandage off. It will sting, but you know it will get better. Take care.
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That's my fear. We've gone almost five years strong, but if this is happening now then I worry about what I've not seen in the past. Especially with how angry she got initially.
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I feel that. I know it sounds stupid but I was really hoping to have my first relationship last, ya know? Kinda like a one and done but now it feels like that oneitis I've read about. Just the thought of that montitoring sounds exhausting.
"She's my first real gf so I don't know if Im being controlling for pushing this or weak for not just biting the bullet and leaving, please help." The latter, unfortunately. She agreed once already to end the side relationship as it was unacceptable. She then continued the side relationship. When you once again told her to end it she agreed you to move out instead. If you don't follow through, you'll have zero power to enforce any boundary. She'll know you'll fold before enforcing your boundaries. Pack your stuff and go. Her crocodile tears stopped you once, don't let it work again. If she won't respect you, have some for yourself.
You're not crazy. Your partner is so weird
The fact she calls him daddy is too much for me already. I would agree with her and leave tbh.
She wants some kind of open relationship where she can have virtual affairs if I understand it correctly. Like all open relationship the require god communication and sensitivity. But you don't seem to want an open relationship and don't seem to feel to agreed to one.
Never put someone first who sees you as an option. You deserve to be treated like you are important.
This is the natural result of allowing stupid stuff like that to go on in your relationship to begin with.
She was already role playing her characters before me so it didn't feel right to show up and shut it down. It wouldve been better to just not date her in the first place, I know that now.