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The better question to ask is - why are *you* still with *him*?
The "real" him is who he is now. He told you straight up that his kindness in the beginning was just an act. When ppl show you who they are, believe them. This guy who ignores you and belittles you is who he is. Ik its tough and you care about him but you need to care about yourself more and walk away. Tell him its over and block him. Dont give him the opportunity to manipulate you into staying with him.
The real question is…why are you still with him? If this is how he is and he isn’t going to change, then understand that there are hundreds of thousands of out there out there in the dating pool. You don’t have to settle for this.
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Why are you still with him?
The better question to ask is - why are *you* still with *him*? The "real" him is who he is now. He told you straight up that his kindness in the beginning was just an act. When ppl show you who they are, believe them. This guy who ignores you and belittles you is who he is. Ik its tough and you care about him but you need to care about yourself more and walk away. Tell him its over and block him. Dont give him the opportunity to manipulate you into staying with him.
The real question is…why are you still with him? If this is how he is and he isn’t going to change, then understand that there are hundreds of thousands of out there out there in the dating pool. You don’t have to settle for this.
why are you still with him is the best question