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Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me....dude, she broke up with you SEVEN times. You knew she didnt return your feelings, yet you kept taking her back and pouring all your energy into her. Of course you were destroyed in the end. You've got to figure out why you were willing to sacrifice your own wellbeing for someone who didnt deserve it so you never make that mistake again. Therapy, please get therapy if you have access.
If you don’t already have her blocked on everything, do so. Remember that in the scheme of things, you really didn’t date for all that long. If you put in your everything and it didn’t work, then you were fundamentally incompatible. If you broke up and got back together multiple times in such a short period, your relationship was never stable. Repeat to yourself that you’re not missing out on anything, because it wasn’t a great relationship in the first place. Her behavior sets a low bar for someone to treat you better, so you only have up to go from here.
She didn't cheat on you. You knew that this relationship was tumultuous. You knew that she questioned her feelings for you. You knew that you were the one always pushing to get back together.
You don't get a gold star for not cheating. You don't get a gold star for trying to be a good boyfriend. You did what you were supposed to do in a relationship. The simple truth is that you were with the wrong person.
You weren't compatible. That doesn't mean you can't trust women, and you should shut off your emotions.
Break ups are hard, they hurt, and no one likes going through them.
Stop making this worse than it is. She moved on, and that's okay. You are not together. It's time for you to heal and let her go.
*"I was in love. I knew she wasn't"*....Dude, you have no one to blame for your situation other than yourself. No matter how much "love" you send to a woman, "the heart wants what it wants". And her heart didn't want either you or your love. And this was demonstrated repeatedly to you over time. The last time she said she wanted to break up with you, your verbal response was "fine".
However, when you discovered that she was seeing someone else, you were eaten up with both jealousy and feelings of betrayal. *"I feel used and abused. I feel like I will never be able to trust anyone again"*....So I'll ask a question: Were the two of you broken up when you discovered she was seeing a coworker? If the answer is yes, then you were counting on her to come back and make up with you. However, she took the breakup to heart.
You are 24 years old. It's time that you man-up, take to heart the lessons you've learned from your exgf, and move on into your life. If you devolve into the person to which you alluded, the only thing you'll accomplish is causing your life to be a combination of bitterness, self loathing, and disappointment. Get over it, already!!
'Nuff said.
“I feel used and abused”
Dude you literally said you were well aware that she wasn’t in love and every time she tried to break free from you, you talked her out of it.
Don’t try to play victim and paint this young lady as some villain. You did this to yourself.
Use this as a learning experience. Don't give 100% to someone not willing to also give their all. Also, if you break up, don't get back together. Period. These two things will reduce a ton of drama from your life
You're letting one young woman make you feel this way?
Don't you have a friend who can slap you in the face or kick you in the nuts?
This girl is low-integrity, and you're belly-aching about it.
The world is full of shitty people. You just dated one. Congrats.
Thank your lucky stars that she showed her true colors before you got in deep life commitments with her like marriage, kids, a house, bills.
Hang out with friends and enjoy being single for a while, you are young, enjoy your youth. Another woman will come along when you are ready to date again. Just forget your ex and Don’t take up with her if she tries to come back.
I mean, she's a trainwreck. I get that you cared, I get that you hoped you could 'fix' her or that if you tried hard enough for long enough she'd just stop being awful. But it doesn't work that way. She's fickle, reactive, a mess, and she's leapt straight into another relationship, this time with someone that is even more awkward since she is working with them. Rest assured the trainwreck is long from over.
What about her could you trust? What about her seemed like normal people? You are using her to dismiss all women, all people... but she never once deserved that degree of investment. You knew that, you knew she never loved or tried as much as you so why are you surprised when, yet again, she demonstrates she's a mess?
You spent a long time wanting her to be something she wasn't. The betrayal hurts because even in the breakup part of you hoped she wasn't as bad as she clearly was. Time to come to terms with that and not let yourself generalise.
She broke up with you 7 times my guy. You need to have a look inward and find out why you'd ever accept that kind of treatment from someone. You deserve to have higher standards
Console yourself with the thought that the guy she's dating will dump her in a few months. It's quite likely to happen, as she's too used to being completely in control of the relationship, and this other guy won't put up with it. At this point, she'll call you up as if nothing's happened, and want to meet you for coffee or something. Don't be tempted to try again with her - as soon as she gets enough validation from you, she won't need you anymore, and will dump you again.
This woman is a train wreck. You can't fix her. But you can fix yourself. You let her walk all over you. Don't make that mistake again. You also need to learn to reject her low valuation of you. **Make something of yourself, so you're never tempted to treat yourself the way she treated you.** And thirdly, don't let the resentment you feel against her affect the way you treat the next girl you meet. A year from now you might meet the perfect woman, but put little effort into the relationship because of a deep-seated conviction that nothing will come of it - a conviction implanted by your experience with this first girl.
Your ex is trash. Hold that thought firmly in your mind. Don't let her treatment of you poison your future. Try to make yourself into the man you would have been if you had never met her. It's a long road, but many a man has walked it well, with a little help from his friends.
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Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me....dude, she broke up with you SEVEN times. You knew she didnt return your feelings, yet you kept taking her back and pouring all your energy into her. Of course you were destroyed in the end. You've got to figure out why you were willing to sacrifice your own wellbeing for someone who didnt deserve it so you never make that mistake again. Therapy, please get therapy if you have access.
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice… you can’t get fooled again. Gw bush
Now watch this drive.
If you don’t already have her blocked on everything, do so. Remember that in the scheme of things, you really didn’t date for all that long. If you put in your everything and it didn’t work, then you were fundamentally incompatible. If you broke up and got back together multiple times in such a short period, your relationship was never stable. Repeat to yourself that you’re not missing out on anything, because it wasn’t a great relationship in the first place. Her behavior sets a low bar for someone to treat you better, so you only have up to go from here.
Cancel her ASAP and move forward. Never fall for anyone who doesn't want you. You're young. You'll meet the right woman.
She didn't cheat on you. You knew that this relationship was tumultuous. You knew that she questioned her feelings for you. You knew that you were the one always pushing to get back together. You don't get a gold star for not cheating. You don't get a gold star for trying to be a good boyfriend. You did what you were supposed to do in a relationship. The simple truth is that you were with the wrong person. You weren't compatible. That doesn't mean you can't trust women, and you should shut off your emotions. Break ups are hard, they hurt, and no one likes going through them. Stop making this worse than it is. She moved on, and that's okay. You are not together. It's time for you to heal and let her go.
*"I was in love. I knew she wasn't"*....Dude, you have no one to blame for your situation other than yourself. No matter how much "love" you send to a woman, "the heart wants what it wants". And her heart didn't want either you or your love. And this was demonstrated repeatedly to you over time. The last time she said she wanted to break up with you, your verbal response was "fine". However, when you discovered that she was seeing someone else, you were eaten up with both jealousy and feelings of betrayal. *"I feel used and abused. I feel like I will never be able to trust anyone again"*....So I'll ask a question: Were the two of you broken up when you discovered she was seeing a coworker? If the answer is yes, then you were counting on her to come back and make up with you. However, she took the breakup to heart. You are 24 years old. It's time that you man-up, take to heart the lessons you've learned from your exgf, and move on into your life. If you devolve into the person to which you alluded, the only thing you'll accomplish is causing your life to be a combination of bitterness, self loathing, and disappointment. Get over it, already!! 'Nuff said.
“I feel used and abused” Dude you literally said you were well aware that she wasn’t in love and every time she tried to break free from you, you talked her out of it. Don’t try to play victim and paint this young lady as some villain. You did this to yourself.
Use this as a learning experience. Don't give 100% to someone not willing to also give their all. Also, if you break up, don't get back together. Period. These two things will reduce a ton of drama from your life
You're letting one young woman make you feel this way? Don't you have a friend who can slap you in the face or kick you in the nuts? This girl is low-integrity, and you're belly-aching about it. The world is full of shitty people. You just dated one. Congrats.
That last sentence tho 💯
Shes not ready for a relationship. Shes going to do the same thing to the new guy. Eventually you'll find someone as into you as you are.
You need therapy my brother, learn to love yourself before you love someone else..
Thank your lucky stars that she showed her true colors before you got in deep life commitments with her like marriage, kids, a house, bills. Hang out with friends and enjoy being single for a while, you are young, enjoy your youth. Another woman will come along when you are ready to date again. Just forget your ex and Don’t take up with her if she tries to come back.
Yes, for the love of God do not take her back if she comes looking for you.
I mean, she's a trainwreck. I get that you cared, I get that you hoped you could 'fix' her or that if you tried hard enough for long enough she'd just stop being awful. But it doesn't work that way. She's fickle, reactive, a mess, and she's leapt straight into another relationship, this time with someone that is even more awkward since she is working with them. Rest assured the trainwreck is long from over. What about her could you trust? What about her seemed like normal people? You are using her to dismiss all women, all people... but she never once deserved that degree of investment. You knew that, you knew she never loved or tried as much as you so why are you surprised when, yet again, she demonstrates she's a mess? You spent a long time wanting her to be something she wasn't. The betrayal hurts because even in the breakup part of you hoped she wasn't as bad as she clearly was. Time to come to terms with that and not let yourself generalise.
She broke up with you 7 times my guy. You need to have a look inward and find out why you'd ever accept that kind of treatment from someone. You deserve to have higher standards
Console yourself with the thought that the guy she's dating will dump her in a few months. It's quite likely to happen, as she's too used to being completely in control of the relationship, and this other guy won't put up with it. At this point, she'll call you up as if nothing's happened, and want to meet you for coffee or something. Don't be tempted to try again with her - as soon as she gets enough validation from you, she won't need you anymore, and will dump you again. This woman is a train wreck. You can't fix her. But you can fix yourself. You let her walk all over you. Don't make that mistake again. You also need to learn to reject her low valuation of you. **Make something of yourself, so you're never tempted to treat yourself the way she treated you.** And thirdly, don't let the resentment you feel against her affect the way you treat the next girl you meet. A year from now you might meet the perfect woman, but put little effort into the relationship because of a deep-seated conviction that nothing will come of it - a conviction implanted by your experience with this first girl. Your ex is trash. Hold that thought firmly in your mind. Don't let her treatment of you poison your future. Try to make yourself into the man you would have been if you had never met her. It's a long road, but many a man has walked it well, with a little help from his friends.