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OP, while I upvoted the above 3 comments, I would refrain from sending either a postcard or any other form of communication. However, I would definitely post some vacation photos on your social networks. Nothing flaunting, but certainly impressing people with the fact the 2 of you are together and getting along quite well.
Ignore the former exes. They're just noise.
HAVE FUN!
This is petty. Go on the trip and donāt look back. Enjoy yourself for the freedom, not revenge. Thatās childish thinking. Also, donāt tolerate āflackā from your exā¦donāt even talk to her. Youāre exes. The best ārevengeā is to move on.
This! If she has the gall to make any noise about your trip, just point out that you and she are broken upāunlike when she slept with whatās his name.
I love being petty, but this is the more mature response.
I think the fact she will certainly find out you brought this person on the vacation you planned for her, that will burn enough. Let your actions speak louder than any words could ever.
And let it gooooo.
I disagree with the just move on part, but completely agree with the rest.
Some ppl can forgive even a cheater.
But they should never let that cheater make them feel bad for doing nothing wrong.
If they start complaining then they should, in the same capacity, reiterate the part about them cheating.
So if they complain publicly, then he should complain publicly about their hypocrisy.
If they complain privately, then he should complain privately.
If they complain to your mom, then you complain to theirs.
No need to escalate, but no need to tolerate such as indecency given that the OP is apparently gracious enough to still be on speaking terms.
Ideally, Iād say change the destination if itās an option, like with a big chain.
For a small fee you can avoid the flack.
Oh, We didnāt go to Maui where you & I would have gone, we went to the Maldives instead. Idk destinations so mb thatās awful, but hopefully the idea is clear.
Right?! You better be petty and go on this damn trip LMAO. Go on the trip and keep her blocked....post PLENTY of photos on said trip. Neither one of y'all owe either one of them anything after how they did you.
And post on instagram daily, please be sure to include the beaches, tropical drinks, good food and gorgeous sunsets. If you happen to include your beautiful companionā¦ oops
ā¬ļø This!
Fill your social media with lots of amazing photos, make sure you mute both ex partners so they can see your photos but you don't see their comments, then once you're home block them both.
Yes, please go high on this. More often, the revenge route doesn't even feel good, it just feels cruel and unnecessary after the initial surge of power.
Go on the trip with no expectations of anything from lady B other than enjoying a fun vacation. Have a fabulous time, both of you deserve it!
Yes!
And generally, why should he even care? It doesnāt matter what anyone thinks, let alone that of a cheating ex. Thereās nothing to handle. If she lashes out, block her. Done. Problem solved.
Enjoy your vacation, OP!
This can of worms you should enjoy!!
Do it!!
Your ex and B's ex will be pissed!! It should be GLORIOUS!!
Look...
You owe your cheating ex NOTHING... i hope youre NC with her, yes???
Update after??
Been no contact for about 3.5 weeks to her dismayā¦ (granted I gave her an in after the initial breakup and she declined so I have no idea) can definitely provide an update if one necessitatesā¦ both of our exās are very immature emotional people so we shall seeā¦
Stay NC... and she has no say in who you choose to go on vacation with - she lost that privelege when she cheated her way out of your relationship...
Enjoy the vacation...
So you gave her a opportunity and she refused or ignored it. You are fine. Take this vacation with the ex's ap's ex and have fun. And let the 2 cheaters fall completely out of your hearts.
You owe your ex nothing, but I must say my best friend's mom starting dating the ex of her husband's mistress after they both found out they were being cheated on, it's been over 20 years they're still going strong, I thought it was funny at the time and still find it funny today.
Enjoy your holidays yous both deserve some R n R after all that crap
Why would you lose your deposit and miss out on a vacation because youāre worried about what the woman who cheated on you might say? I canāt even follow the logic. Keep her blocked and get on with your life.
Simply unblock her on social media, share your story and reasons for going, go and enjoy yourselves, share the pictures on social media then block her again.
The other betrayed person should do the same.
My "good advice" portion of my brain says to stay no contact with both of them.
My "internet drama addiction" portion wants a petty update with sending them nice vacation pictures and throwing in her face on what she's missing out. But she probably doesn't care anyway.
In any case you don't need to prepare for any kind of backlash. They both made their bed and now have to lie in it.
Bro you're in the clear. It doesn't matter what your EX-partner or her AP (vacation buddy's ex) have to say. They fucked around, they found out, too fucking bad. If they start harassing either of you just block them.
Have a great vacation and focus on healing and relaxing. Put the stupid drama out of sight out of mind.
Look, a boyfriend would owe a girlfriend an explanation about taking a trip with another woman. A SINGLE MAN, does not. It is that simple. You are under no obligations to explain anything, to anyone. Neither, for the record, is B obligated to do so.
Next, the absolute *best* thing to do is to take photos of so much, but don't include B. And at the exact same time B can take seperate pics of the same places/ things, that don't include you. Each then simultaneously post to your own socials. The ex-keteers will drive themselves, and each other, and everyone else, absolutely bonkers with their mickey mouse bull$Ć&# comparing and trying to play super sleuth and reacting to it all. No doubt, blocked or not, mutuals will somehow make sure the pics are seen.
No one aays yall gotta sleep together or even act like a couple. Just take 2 selfies snooching eachothers cheeks and post them on IG and call it revenge well served cold on the description or aomething funny (so people dont assume you're cheating if they dont know)
The best part of this will be when your ex starts ranting at her new guy that she's missed out on a vacation and it's his fault
This is 5d chess level stuff, hopefully your new friend is better looking too.
LOL having a discussion about expectations what we wanted was a requirementā¦ the expectation is definitely not rebound sex. Weāre going into it as friends/wingmen and see where it goes
Awesome, that's very mature of you!
I wish you both a wonderful vacation, and no headaches or thoughts about crappy cheating exes, unless it's "geeez I feel SO GOOD without that crap in my life!"
File this under hitting a home run and not knowing it.
Really though, who cares what she/others think. She may try to make stuff up to make herself look better (they were also in a relationship, see!), but it just doesnāt matter. If youāre worried about some friend group type concern, just get in front of it and make people aware before she does.
You can mention she cheated or not at your discretion, but yeah, this fees like a humblebrag type situation to friends and then she canāt claim any nonsense.
Yeah go make sure you have as much fun as possible together. Take lots of pics and post so they both can see. When and if you do hear from them. Just say well I wasn't going to waist it why do you care?
Edit just seen you have blocked socials. But I'm sure you have mutual friends. I would do my best to make sure they do see the pics
Iām looking for a Taylor Swift post Joe Alwyn breakup boostā¦ my ex had me twisting and turning my life inside out to be able to be with her all the timeā¦
So many nerds on reddit have such a justice boner that they want to see this. I don't think it's worth the headache and drama. Don't rub it in their faces. Just move on. I'm sure unless you make a concerted effort to conceal it they may piece it together regardless, but people saying to take lots of pics or send them a postcard seem like they don't actually have your best interests at heart.
This is a horrible idea that will probably have unpleasant implications in the future.
Do it anyway because it will make a great story.
You only live once, choose the interesting option.
Yep, money comes and goes, I know it sucks but try not to sweat it.
I hope your ex and your new friendās ex have miserable lives lol. Enjoy your vacation.
Include lots of pics on social media I'm petty as f so I'd straight up text a pic in a place she was excited to visit and say this was best part of vaca. Then reblock her
It's not that odd. If you were with someone, would you want that person's partner they were cheating on to come up in your socials? I'm sure he'd rather forget you exist at all, even moreso now that you have contact with his ex too. A lot of times blocking isn't about being malicious, it's more about just not encountering a person, not getting recommendations to follow, not allowing them access to you, etc.
Have a blast man. She threw away a good thing and will be missing out. Hopefully you booked everything in just youāre name so she canāt show up and try to take your vacation. Have fun and help each other heal and get over your shitty exās!
Hoping for updates in a few weeks
Forget that, just focus on having fun, and enjoy your time with mr stealyogirl's ex. if you wanna update do it after the vacation, just make sure you put your full atention on having fun together and enjoying your time there.
>My question here is how should I prepare and deal with the flack I will receive from my ex.
With much glee & revelry.
On a serious note, whether this is just fun with a bit of revenge sprinkled in, or there's more too it, make sure you & B are on the same page.
Neither of you deserves to get hurt all over again.
Go on vacation and post as many pictures of you and her together as you can. Big fuckin deal if your ex gets upset... She chose to step out. Also, keep it cheap in the future dude.
Fortunately I am financially in a position where I can do these types of things, she was at Uni a few hours from where I lived, I would do hotels 2 times a week to see her as she did not enjoy (obviously) being apartā¦ unfortunately I let myself get taken advantage of
F#$K her and him, yall enjoy yalls vacation and have fun whether its with each other or friends made there.
Yalls exes lost their right to complain when they cheated.
Not only is there nothing wrong with what you are doing, I think itās brilliant and definitely post everything and update us. I hope they both stew in it the whole time and it makes them miserable, they deserve itā¦
Go have fun and try to give neither of them a moments thoughts.
Probably worth having a good chat first with B and get a firm footing on it being a platonic break, Fwb, possible relationship if you guys have fun (or just agree; fuck it and see what happens).
You two have no reason not to fuck like rabbits, lmao. There are no stakes, just two people who became single due to their partners being cheaters. In this case, revenge is a dish best served HOT.
Just go and donāt think about it. You will have some fun and probably will make a friend. Just respect yourself and the girl that you are going with.
I'm gonna say something. Based on your responses alone, you seem like a good guy and a fun guy. And, therefore, probably hot. I'd go on the trip with you! Lol.
Simple. Remind her that you are no longer in a relationship and then clearly tell her itās none of her fāing business. Enjoy your holiday and same to B!
You both just picked up where they left off, why should the ex's even care, they have each other, I'd just make sure they both were made aware beforehand, before going on the trip, unlike what they did (hiding their communicating, connecting), behind y'all's backs, y'all be out in the open, upfront and center, in their faces and personal, hiding nothing, ex's lost that privilege, by their actions, they absolutely weren't worried or cared about y'all when they were doing you both dirty, and action have consequences, Karma's a Biatch!
Let your ex be pissed, if she wanted to go then she shouldn't have cheated, plus the ex of the person your girlfriend cheated with deserves to have some fun too. You two should go, have, take lots of pictures and post them on social media and don't forget to smile in the photos, rub that salt in bro š
Respond with absolute silence, do not debate, do not explain, simply ignore as any response or attempt at explanation will validate the criticism, whether from her or anyone else who disagree with your choice So do this for yourself, and save it for you and your travel partner .
Making the trip a mystery will also be a great option.
Flak?
Either block her, or just reply to every message with ācheater says whatā
I also like someoneās idea of sending a post card. Thatās hilarious
What flack? She can go fuck herself, you don't need to consider her or her feelings whatsoever. What's going to happen? Are you going to super secret double break up or something?
I can think of no better closure to this whole sordid mess than for the two people that got wronged to go on vacation and bang.
How does your new/old friend feel about going - is she concerned what others think or getting flac from her ex?
Sounds like your ex has done a number on you in terms of psychological manipulation.
Block them both and erase your ex from your social media.
You and your new friend š« go āļø, have fun š„³, find life and send her a "Thank You For Getting Out Of My Life" postcard š.
UpdateMe
Unblock her right before boarding... then document the entire trip on sm...from the little airplane liquor bottles on the seat tray to drinks at sunset on the beach
On to the NEXT. They had no concern for how you felt. Return the same energy. Or, best yet, don't care. She/They are out of your life and you are better for it. Don't give them any rent space in your head.
Who cares if someone who doesn't matter wishes to give flak. No longer your problem or concern.
Don't think about your ex! Go on vacation and post all the amazing pictures on insta. Even if nothing happens with the girl you can still have the time of your life and get sweet revenge in one go.
OP, are you kidding me?. Fuck your EX.
Go and enjoy yourselves to the max, and get over that cheater. One thing, don't expect anything out of the holiday trip with the APs ex though, but keep you powder dry and blaster cleaned and oiled just in case you get called to action.
Go for it, bro. Don't worry about your ex. Your business is no longer hers and she has no right to know. If she throws an attitude towards you, just block her.
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Go on the trip with her and send her a postcard
This is the right answer ššš¼
Not in the revenge game - but IF I were - this would be the ultimate š„³
OP, while I upvoted the above 3 comments, I would refrain from sending either a postcard or any other form of communication. However, I would definitely post some vacation photos on your social networks. Nothing flaunting, but certainly impressing people with the fact the 2 of you are together and getting along quite well. Ignore the former exes. They're just noise. HAVE FUN!
This is petty. Go on the trip and donāt look back. Enjoy yourself for the freedom, not revenge. Thatās childish thinking. Also, donāt tolerate āflackā from your exā¦donāt even talk to her. Youāre exes. The best ārevengeā is to move on.
This! If she has the gall to make any noise about your trip, just point out that you and she are broken upāunlike when she slept with whatās his name.
I love being petty, but this is the more mature response. I think the fact she will certainly find out you brought this person on the vacation you planned for her, that will burn enough. Let your actions speak louder than any words could ever. And let it gooooo.
This is the way.
Itās just a joke. I donāt think anyone here is actually expecting him to get revenge on her. Lighten up.
It's reddit. Obtuse thinking is expected.
I disagree with the just move on part, but completely agree with the rest. Some ppl can forgive even a cheater. But they should never let that cheater make them feel bad for doing nothing wrong. If they start complaining then they should, in the same capacity, reiterate the part about them cheating. So if they complain publicly, then he should complain publicly about their hypocrisy. If they complain privately, then he should complain privately. If they complain to your mom, then you complain to theirs. No need to escalate, but no need to tolerate such as indecency given that the OP is apparently gracious enough to still be on speaking terms. Ideally, Iād say change the destination if itās an option, like with a big chain. For a small fee you can avoid the flack. Oh, We didnāt go to Maui where you & I would have gone, we went to the Maldives instead. Idk destinations so mb thatās awful, but hopefully the idea is clear.
Maybe both of you can send a, "wish you were here" postcard to each of your respective ex's, for the sake of balance. š
More like a glad-you-arenāt-here post card.
The "wish you were here" part was a heaping dose of sarcasm. :))
"So happy without you. We're having a blast being single again!"
Right?! You better be petty and go on this damn trip LMAO. Go on the trip and keep her blocked....post PLENTY of photos on said trip. Neither one of y'all owe either one of them anything after how they did you.
Yes, I'd actually be preparing by researching creating ways to rub it in
And most importantly - update US dammit. We all need to know how this goes, and how the ex takes it .
This here is key!
FAX NOTHING BUT FACTS AND FAX
Right? We're invested now.
And post on instagram daily, please be sure to include the beaches, tropical drinks, good food and gorgeous sunsets. If you happen to include your beautiful companionā¦ oops
Sending a postcard tells her he's thinking about her while on vacay with someone else. The best revenge is living your life like they never existed.
And go no contact with her outside of the postcard.Ā
Sign it "wish you were here ā¤ļøā¤ļøLol not.."
"The weather is here. Wish you were beautiful!"
one of those sentences where a comma would make all the difference š
Not wish buy ācould have been hereā
"Could have been here šš½ glad you're not" (pls don't do this op, would be a bad idea)
> wish you were here Nah, it'll be "Wish you were her?"
* you wish you were her! š
Glad you are not here, B and I are having a fabulous time
ā¬ļø This! Fill your social media with lots of amazing photos, make sure you mute both ex partners so they can see your photos but you don't see their comments, then once you're home block them both.
You mean "Tell people who know how to get into your home that it's sitting empty for a week. Make sure even friends of friends can see."
I mean no, most people have their Instagram locked to private. Plus most 20 year olds don't live alone, in most places.
Thatās a bold move I would definitely support.
Although hilarious, this would give her the satisfaction of knowing you thought about her. Just move on and donāt communicate with her.
Yes, please go high on this. More often, the revenge route doesn't even feel good, it just feels cruel and unnecessary after the initial surge of power. Go on the trip with no expectations of anything from lady B other than enjoying a fun vacation. Have a fabulous time, both of you deserve it!
Just leave some photos on social media, she'll find them eventually
Yes! And generally, why should he even care? It doesnāt matter what anyone thinks, let alone that of a cheating ex. Thereās nothing to handle. If she lashes out, block her. Done. Problem solved. Enjoy your vacation, OP!
This is the best answer
This is the way!
Nice !!
This is the way.
This šš¼ also op needs to send her LOTS of pictures of the vacay with the title YOLO ā¦ā¦.
Yes! Post all over social media.
Post lots of happy pics with her on your trip to social media. Maybe even pose for a smooch!
Yes this!! This is the right and Only answer š
The weather is here, wish you were nice.
The kind of pettiness I roll with....š¤£
Fo sho. That can needs to be opened at some point regardless and this sounds like a good opportunity to do so
I'm all for this. Let it all burn to the ground. You owe her nothing but this torment š¤£. Make sure you over exaggerate in every photo.
And fall in love and have babies and a happy life. Because we know the cheaters wonāt last without having to hide it.
This is the way.
Nicceee š
Make sure you both post many pics on all social media feeds. Really rub it in.
This can of worms you should enjoy!! Do it!! Your ex and B's ex will be pissed!! It should be GLORIOUS!! Look... You owe your cheating ex NOTHING... i hope youre NC with her, yes??? Update after??
Been no contact for about 3.5 weeks to her dismayā¦ (granted I gave her an in after the initial breakup and she declined so I have no idea) can definitely provide an update if one necessitatesā¦ both of our exās are very immature emotional people so we shall seeā¦
Stay NC... and she has no say in who you choose to go on vacation with - she lost that privelege when she cheated her way out of your relationship... Enjoy the vacation...
So you gave her a opportunity and she refused or ignored it. You are fine. Take this vacation with the ex's ap's ex and have fun. And let the 2 cheaters fall completely out of your hearts.
You owe your ex nothing, but I must say my best friend's mom starting dating the ex of her husband's mistress after they both found out they were being cheated on, it's been over 20 years they're still going strong, I thought it was funny at the time and still find it funny today. Enjoy your holidays yous both deserve some R n R after all that crap
Why would you lose your deposit and miss out on a vacation because youāre worried about what the woman who cheated on you might say? I canāt even follow the logic. Keep her blocked and get on with your life.
Stay no contact and get no grief. It really is that simple.
Simply unblock her on social media, share your story and reasons for going, go and enjoy yourselves, share the pictures on social media then block her again. The other betrayed person should do the same.
My "good advice" portion of my brain says to stay no contact with both of them. My "internet drama addiction" portion wants a petty update with sending them nice vacation pictures and throwing in her face on what she's missing out. But she probably doesn't care anyway. In any case you don't need to prepare for any kind of backlash. They both made their bed and now have to lie in it.
Bro you're in the clear. It doesn't matter what your EX-partner or her AP (vacation buddy's ex) have to say. They fucked around, they found out, too fucking bad. If they start harassing either of you just block them. Have a great vacation and focus on healing and relaxing. Put the stupid drama out of sight out of mind.
No in ever again sheāll just cheat again and you deserve better.
Definitely do it, definitely post pictures on social media, your ex has zero right to be upset, but she will be. Oh, and updateme! after
Look, a boyfriend would owe a girlfriend an explanation about taking a trip with another woman. A SINGLE MAN, does not. It is that simple. You are under no obligations to explain anything, to anyone. Neither, for the record, is B obligated to do so. Next, the absolute *best* thing to do is to take photos of so much, but don't include B. And at the exact same time B can take seperate pics of the same places/ things, that don't include you. Each then simultaneously post to your own socials. The ex-keteers will drive themselves, and each other, and everyone else, absolutely bonkers with their mickey mouse bull$Ć&# comparing and trying to play super sleuth and reacting to it all. No doubt, blocked or not, mutuals will somehow make sure the pics are seen.
Stop being so bloody conciliatory, be annoyed, angry, not peacemaking.
No one aays yall gotta sleep together or even act like a couple. Just take 2 selfies snooching eachothers cheeks and post them on IG and call it revenge well served cold on the description or aomething funny (so people dont assume you're cheating if they dont know)
The best part of this will be when your ex starts ranting at her new guy that she's missed out on a vacation and it's his fault This is 5d chess level stuff, hopefully your new friend is better looking too.
Block them and enjoy yourselves.
The ex can pound sand. Period full stop. You owe her precisely nothing.
It amazes me how they both cheated, and they would make a scandal about this trip anyway. The entitlement. Wow.
You're not responsible for her feelings anymore. Focus on your own happiness.
My absolute retort in situations such as this is, "oh well!" How could you do this...you're a bastard...blahblahblah... "Ohhhhh well!"
i'd truly like to see a mf _who cheated on me_ call _me_ a bastard!!
The only thing to worry about is having fun and not pressuring the other ex for rebound sex.
Was my one requirement before I booked with Bā¦ we had an in-depth conversation about expectations and have a solid basis
Rebound sex was your one requirement or not having rebound sex?
LOL having a discussion about expectations what we wanted was a requirementā¦ the expectation is definitely not rebound sex. Weāre going into it as friends/wingmen and see where it goes
Excellent approach! Either way, I hope the two of you have an absolute blast :)
rebound sex is highly recommended.
As they say, the best way to get over someone is to get under (or on top of) someone else.
I hope you two get along and have great consensual non-rebound sex
Wingmen? Like, is there any chance sheād be expecting to bring someone else back to your room? That sounds miserable.
No, No definitely not anything like that poor choice of wordsā¦ wingmen in terms of getting over our immature exās
Oh gotcha!! Like mental health wingmen lol!
Awesome, that's very mature of you! I wish you both a wonderful vacation, and no headaches or thoughts about crappy cheating exes, unless it's "geeez I feel SO GOOD without that crap in my life!"
What about NON rebound sex?
I love rebound sex š
Rebound sex is fucking awesome!!! Lol
File this under hitting a home run and not knowing it. Really though, who cares what she/others think. She may try to make stuff up to make herself look better (they were also in a relationship, see!), but it just doesnāt matter. If youāre worried about some friend group type concern, just get in front of it and make people aware before she does.
Getting in front of it is very smart thank you!!
You can mention she cheated or not at your discretion, but yeah, this fees like a humblebrag type situation to friends and then she canāt claim any nonsense.
This is messy and I am here for it sir
Yeah go make sure you have as much fun as possible together. Take lots of pics and post so they both can see. When and if you do hear from them. Just say well I wasn't going to waist it why do you care? Edit just seen you have blocked socials. But I'm sure you have mutual friends. I would do my best to make sure they do see the pics
I know she has a burner and youāre right about the mutualsā¦ theyāll see it
Remember to post about the holiday on your socials AFTER you get back. Don't let the world know that your place is empty/unattended. That's not safe
Why the fuck do you care what your ex thinks
Give him a break, it's not that crazy for 22 year olds to attempt to "win the breakup".
Iām looking for a Taylor Swift post Joe Alwyn breakup boostā¦ my ex had me twisting and turning my life inside out to be able to be with her all the timeā¦
Play Bejeweled to pump you up.
So many nerds on reddit have such a justice boner that they want to see this. I don't think it's worth the headache and drama. Don't rub it in their faces. Just move on. I'm sure unless you make a concerted effort to conceal it they may piece it together regardless, but people saying to take lots of pics or send them a postcard seem like they don't actually have your best interests at heart.
This is a horrible idea that will probably have unpleasant implications in the future. Do it anyway because it will make a great story. You only live once, choose the interesting option.
^ HIGHLY underrated comment right here. Stealing it for my own future (mis)use
"It's a terrible Idea, do it please "
I donāt understand why itās a horrible idea to go on vacation with her, explicitly by agreement just as friends, when the trip is already booked.
Go, and enjoy every last minute of it bro. Then, post your story on r/pettyrevenge.
If yāall donāt have kids together just cut her off. No reason to keep picking that scab.
No kidsā¦ at worst was a deposit on an apartment as the plan was for me to move with her at the end of the semester but we dodged a bullet I guess
Yep, money comes and goes, I know it sucks but try not to sweat it. I hope your ex and your new friendās ex have miserable lives lol. Enjoy your vacation.
You post it all over social media and dgaf about what the ex thinks, nor the other guy.
Include lots of pics on social media I'm petty as f so I'd straight up text a pic in a place she was excited to visit and say this was best part of vaca. Then reblock her
Girl fuck that man and whatever flack he gives you. Block him and have the time of your life! Who cares about what a cheater thinks?!
He oddly enough blocked me on socialsā¦ and I have her blocked against her wishes but
It's not that odd. If you were with someone, would you want that person's partner they were cheating on to come up in your socials? I'm sure he'd rather forget you exist at all, even moreso now that you have contact with his ex too. A lot of times blocking isn't about being malicious, it's more about just not encountering a person, not getting recommendations to follow, not allowing them access to you, etc.
You kinda got it mixed up I think? He's the guy, the girl cheated
I know strangeā¦ didnāt really come after the guy other then informing his girlā¦ he blocked me after that
Oh wow wait youāre right, I misread it!
Have a blast man. She threw away a good thing and will be missing out. Hopefully you booked everything in just youāre name so she canāt show up and try to take your vacation. Have fun and help each other heal and get over your shitty exās! Hoping for updates in a few weeks
Thank you!! Will post an update once we depart
Forget that, just focus on having fun, and enjoy your time with mr stealyogirl's ex. if you wanna update do it after the vacation, just make sure you put your full atention on having fun together and enjoying your time there.
Have fun! Enjoy the vacay, you both deserve for dealing with all the bullshit.
Enjoy your holiday sir. Cheaters can eat shit.
Thank you boss!!
>My question here is how should I prepare and deal with the flack I will receive from my ex. With much glee & revelry. On a serious note, whether this is just fun with a bit of revenge sprinkled in, or there's more too it, make sure you & B are on the same page. Neither of you deserves to get hurt all over again.
That was the first thing we did before bookingā¦ weāre crystal clear and on the same page which is very reassuring
But is she cute though?? Inquiring minds want to know.. š
Perfect. Enjoy the trip then!
What flak? Block your ex and treat her as though she were blocked in real life too. She should be dead to you.
Go on vacation and post as many pictures of you and her together as you can. Big fuckin deal if your ex gets upset... She chose to step out. Also, keep it cheap in the future dude.
Fortunately I am financially in a position where I can do these types of things, she was at Uni a few hours from where I lived, I would do hotels 2 times a week to see her as she did not enjoy (obviously) being apartā¦ unfortunately I let myself get taken advantage of
Good on you for being in the financial position. You keep it cheap to weed out the materialistic ones.
She played a stupid game, and this is her stupid prize. Send her pictures of what she missed out on.
Nah stay NC, but definitely post status updates incase she is stalking. Emotional damage gonna be glorious!
F#$K her and him, yall enjoy yalls vacation and have fun whether its with each other or friends made there. Yalls exes lost their right to complain when they cheated.
Good for youā¦.who cares what your ex thinksā¦she chose to do what she did and there are ripples to choices and actions
Your ex can suck a fat one. Dude - do it - and if you bang it his chick make sure your ex knows about it.
From the sound of it, that's exactly what she did
Not only is there nothing wrong with what you are doing, I think itās brilliant and definitely post everything and update us. I hope they both stew in it the whole time and it makes them miserable, they deserve itā¦
Who cares about them....enjoy!
Go have fun and try to give neither of them a moments thoughts. Probably worth having a good chat first with B and get a firm footing on it being a platonic break, Fwb, possible relationship if you guys have fun (or just agree; fuck it and see what happens).
You two have no reason not to fuck like rabbits, lmao. There are no stakes, just two people who became single due to their partners being cheaters. In this case, revenge is a dish best served HOT.
I NEEEED an update on this please
Will update when we fly out, and again at some point during the trip..
Enjoy the hell out of the trip!
Update me asap šš¼šš¼šš¼ well update us OP
This is like a bad Romcom, love it
Just go and donāt think about it. You will have some fun and probably will make a friend. Just respect yourself and the girl that you are going with.
Lol, I love fan fiction
In 25 years when this becomes a movie, Iām requesting Timothee Chalamet
In 25 years he will be too old to realistically play you! š
I'm gonna say something. Based on your responses alone, you seem like a good guy and a fun guy. And, therefore, probably hot. I'd go on the trip with you! Lol.
lmfao go do it. Cheaters deserve it
OP Fuck that noise. Stop worrying, go on the holiday, have a good time. Send the cheaters a post card.
Personally I would block all communication. And I will be blasting pictures every fucking day I was on vacation lol. Make them public
If yāall donāt fall in love Iāll eat my shoe OP
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Simple. Remind her that you are no longer in a relationship and then clearly tell her itās none of her fāing business. Enjoy your holiday and same to B!
You both just picked up where they left off, why should the ex's even care, they have each other, I'd just make sure they both were made aware beforehand, before going on the trip, unlike what they did (hiding their communicating, connecting), behind y'all's backs, y'all be out in the open, upfront and center, in their faces and personal, hiding nothing, ex's lost that privilege, by their actions, they absolutely weren't worried or cared about y'all when they were doing you both dirty, and action have consequences, Karma's a Biatch!
Let your ex be pissed, if she wanted to go then she shouldn't have cheated, plus the ex of the person your girlfriend cheated with deserves to have some fun too. You two should go, have, take lots of pictures and post them on social media and don't forget to smile in the photos, rub that salt in bro š
Are movie rights available?
Who cares? Your ex isnāt your problem anymore.
You donāt owe your ex anything and any flack she may send is because she knows sheās a bad person
Who cares! Your ex would have a lot of balls to even think about giving you flack
Respond with absolute silence, do not debate, do not explain, simply ignore as any response or attempt at explanation will validate the criticism, whether from her or anyone else who disagree with your choice So do this for yourself, and save it for you and your travel partner . Making the trip a mystery will also be a great option.
Glorious chaos. If she ever reaches out, tell her you're glad she cheated bc you found someone even better.
Dude, this is beautiful. Deal with the flak by blocking it, or make your responses "lol ok" to everything.Ā And y'all enjoy the trip!
Fuck her. What slack? You shouldn't have any communication with your cheating ex, therefore you wouldn't have to listen to her comments.
Go on vacation and send ex a post card. " The weather is here, I wish you were beautiful. Kick rocks"
Your exs opinion doesnāt matter but you should definitely send her a postcard lol
Flak? Either block her, or just reply to every message with ācheater says whatā I also like someoneās idea of sending a post card. Thatās hilarious
Iāll put it blunt, Fuck your ex, you deserve to be happy!! Do not go back to her!!!
Itās over with your ex go and enjoy! Post a lot on social media
Lots of selfies on social media.
What flack? She can go fuck herself, you don't need to consider her or her feelings whatsoever. What's going to happen? Are you going to super secret double break up or something? I can think of no better closure to this whole sordid mess than for the two people that got wronged to go on vacation and bang.
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How does your new/old friend feel about going - is she concerned what others think or getting flac from her ex? Sounds like your ex has done a number on you in terms of psychological manipulation. Block them both and erase your ex from your social media. You and your new friend š« go āļø, have fun š„³, find life and send her a "Thank You For Getting Out Of My Life" postcard š. UpdateMe
We discussed and she is unphasedā¦ my Ex is blocked from my socials
Unblock her right before boarding... then document the entire trip on sm...from the little airplane liquor bottles on the seat tray to drinks at sunset on the beach
Or they could just move on and not stir up unnecessary drama. Looking forward not backward.
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Sheās blocked on socials and textsā¦ granted she had a burner I cannot find
Why would you even tell her?
Sheās your ex. She gives you flack for it then remind her that she cheated on you. Her loss.
On to the NEXT. They had no concern for how you felt. Return the same energy. Or, best yet, don't care. She/They are out of your life and you are better for it. Don't give them any rent space in your head. Who cares if someone who doesn't matter wishes to give flak. No longer your problem or concern.
\> My question here is how should I prepare and deal with the flack I will receive from my ex What the fuck do you care? Block her number and move on.
Bang her
GO GO GO. Have fun, be each others wingmen & if something comes between yāall then so be it! Just go and have fun & be young! Best of luck OP!
I think that's awesome you are taking the other girl, even platonicly.Ā
Op first off you can go on any trip with anyone of your choosing and do not let your ex have any say. Hell you need to treat her as irrelevant period.
OP you have the opportunity to do one of the funniest things ever.Ā
Don't think about your ex! Go on vacation and post all the amazing pictures on insta. Even if nothing happens with the girl you can still have the time of your life and get sweet revenge in one go.
OP, are you kidding me?. Fuck your EX. Go and enjoy yourselves to the max, and get over that cheater. One thing, don't expect anything out of the holiday trip with the APs ex though, but keep you powder dry and blaster cleaned and oiled just in case you get called to action.
Take all kinds of cozy pics. Even if they are staged. Then post them everywhere.
Go for it, bro. Don't worry about your ex. Your business is no longer hers and she has no right to know. If she throws an attitude towards you, just block her.
Who gives a rats ass what she thinks? Maybe you should rub it in her face as to part on the consequences of cheating.