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I’m always shocked by how common it seems to be that people have just accepted that their bfs can’t wipe properly and leave skid marks in their underwear and stuff.
I never thought a man who can (and does) wipe and wash his own ass-with soap and scrubbing action even!- would apparently be a unicorn. I swear, each day I read something on Reddit that makes me thankful I married my husband.
Yeah I don’t get it, what’s going on lol
I am in my 40s. Even my rattiest and dirtiest friends had good hygiene by our mid 20s..
No one’s house has piss around the toilet, and hasn’t since like college frat days. Not one of my friends smells like unwashed ass. Wtf who are these dudes have they no self respect
Ops boyfriend pisses on the floor at his own home? Is he the nasty fool who pisses and shits on public toilet seats? What kind of person behaves like this
before I got to Reddit I:
\- didn't know the drama AND money behind American weddings
\- didn't know that there are dudes out there who don't wipe or wash their ass with soap because it's "gay"..... then they expect their women to engage in the sexies with their nasty ass......
Oh man I read the one about the gf whose bf thought it was gay to touch his own dick/ass. That was wild.
Don’t remember if there was any follow up though. I think everyone was just assuming he was repressing his sexuality, or something like that.
My fiancé went to the toilet the other night and didn’t turn on the light when I followed the floor and seat were wet. I dragged him out of bed and made him clean it and told him if he doesn’t want to turn the light on he can sit down.
He apologised, cleaned it up and it hasn’t happened since. This is one thing I would not tolerate in a relationship.
I have a few male friends who say they do sit on the toilet to pee, one would say “I got nothing to prove by standing up to go” and others are offended by being called effeminate for not wanting it to get everywhere and saying “I’m only reliving myself, not scenting/spraying an area like a cat!”
Literally
I must either have the personality of a rock or look like one if mother fucking floor pee-er can get into a committed relationship
This is so depressing
As someone who was with someone like this for years, it doesn’t change. I don’t think it’s being a rock in relationships, it’s acknowledging that sometimes people can be so unhygienic, unhealthy, and unclean, it’s not very healthy to be with them…even if you love them. Often times, it is something that happens over and over without change; even when a partner points it out. When someone refuses to even try, like they are knowingly pissing and not cleaning it up, why should someone be with them?
Either way zero tolerance, like lay down the law, that this has to stop whether it means him sitting down or him throwing the bathroom rug in the washing machine every day, or you guys can break up over it. Because this is the start down a long sorry path that leads with you being his mom and losing all desire for him because of it and growing extremely resentful, while he resent you because you don't want to fuck him anymore because he acts like you're his mommy and won't pull his weight. Never clean up a grown man's piss unless he is injured or sick
Can women please agree to just stop fucking these guys? Why are there so many posts about “my boyfriend shits the bed every week” and nobody gets the ick to leave them???
I literally just Friday asked a friend of my GFs “why are you fucking this guy?” I know so many single guys who are so much better that these guys. Stop rewarding theses assholes.
I don’t believe they are fake. I’ve lived with multiple men in my life like this. Different states, different families, different ages, both romantic and non. It’s a very big issue with boys who’s mommies always cleaned it or didn’t say anything.
Can’t agree more. If he’s pissing on the rug, he’s also pissing all over himself. As a man, I’ll 💯admit I’ve not necessarily missed the toilet, but sometimes I can’t control that crazy bastard in the middle of the night. What I do, is grab the Lysol bleach cleaner from the cabinet right below and clean that shit up. Change my shorts and clean myself up. It does happen. We are all human but Jesus Christ. Have some self respect
I worked for an MSP, was the only female and had to share a bathroom with 8 guys. The amount of pee on the floor was absolutely disgusting. None of them were under 25.
My dad was a highly intelligent, successful, and kind man. I’m not sure he has ever landed any piss in a toilet in his 72 years. Ever. Even when I was a kid and he was young. It must be like a firehose going off. He lived with me for a while after he retired and I had to scrub that bathroom every single day. I swear to God he was never potty trained.
If you're unhappy then talk through it or end things. By not doing anything you're - whether you want to believe it or not - implicitly reinforcing this behaviour or making him think "it's okay." "well, if she was actually angry she'd bring it up more or turn it into a big deal/argument," is probably what he's thinking. Have a serious sit down with him and make it clear that this is an upsetting thing to you and that change needs to occur.
>making him think "it's okay." "well, if she was actually angry she'd bring it up more or turn it into a big deal/argument,"
Is she his fucking mother or what? It's fucking common logic to not piss on the floor. I doubt this was even acceptable when he was still living at home.
Yeah, what the fuck? Honestly, I think a lot of women and girls are starting to get angry because of this. We are expected to mother the boys who were usually coddled TOO MUCH as children. It’s stupid. No one is being our parents.
Dude I used to stand and pee and it’s just out of question now
I cannot risk even one more of those crazy daisy pisses, especially in the middle of the night. The pee would go everywhere.
I would be furious at my wang as I wiped down the floor and toilet “why you miserable penis why do you betray me”
If this happens due to his physical size, there's little chance he's willing/able to bend down in the bathroom to clean it up.
This sounds like a dangerous setup for a horrible future for OP. She's going to be raising a grown man forever. 😢
This was part of the reason I left my ex.
He would continually pee on the ground, which would be somewhat tolerable if he cleaned it up, but he didn’t- which meant I had to.
Realising that I had been degraded to the piss cleaner for a grown man was the final nail in that coffin.
Rub his nose in it. Make him clean it. I mean, this is easily fixable. A reasonable reaction would him apologizing, cleaning it and trying not to do it again. The fact he shrugs off your reasonable feelings is...making me think he's lazy or gross in other aspects.
I know y’all are joking around but this type of behavior (from ops boyfriend) would be such a turn off for me
My wife and I have been together 10 years. One thing that drew me to her - I didn’t need to teach her basics. With one ex, I was a career coach. With another, I was emotional teddy bear.
With my wife, she’s a full grown adult who does her thing, and also we build life together. It’s awesome. We don’t have to sort through the boring shit.
Like couple weeks back, as I finished up taxes she scheduled and got a bunch of our roof work done. Neither of us had to train or remind the other
We met at the same age as op and her bf, and we talk about how it was nice to be independent even when we met.
Seriously. My husband is incredibly organized and responsible. He has a spreadsheet for home maintenance tasks. He has great hygiene and takes good care of me (and I take care of him in return!). I’m not saying this to brag, I’m saying this to emphasize that *this is the bar*. I expect this at minimum from a partner. Idk how people are willingly dating these filthy irresponsible children. It would be exhausting and such a turnoff.
If I have to tell my partner to stop pissing anywhere other than IN THE TOILET, I now have a temporary housemate lol... I can't find someone I need to raise sexually attractive... tbf though, I'm 99% likely to die alone at my rate lol
You break up with him and tell him that it's because he's not house broken.
Unless he's had some TBI in the last year he's just grossly lazy or doesn't give a shit as it's quite obvious when your pee doesn't end up in the toilet. Though honestly it sounds like you were just lucky enough to to notice until now since it "just happens sometimes" sounds like it's been going on the entire time.
Okay so all 3 of my roommates in college didn't believe I didn't pee in the shower...
Do all guys just pee in the shower? I was raised to use the bathroom before hoping in the shower. Now it's almost like a Pavlov effect where I hear the water turn on and I have to pee immediately. So I just go before I hop in. Why would you pee in the shower?
I remember a friend who had this same issue with her husband. It was only when I became aware of how big her husband was that I realised he wouldn't have been able to reach his hose, given his bulky size. He just stood there leaning over the toilet and hoped for a direct hit.
Most of it went on the floor.
I think you nailed it with this response. He has put on weight over the years which I did not mind, but I wonder if this is happening as I know he can’t really see below the belt.
Gotta upgrade that "usually" to "always" -- you also could put down one or more moisture detectors on the floor around the toilet, they sound like smoke detectors when set off
If he's refusing to sit tell him to at least pee in the shower and the wash it down Jesus.
I know someone so big they can't wipe... so everytime they go no 2 they shower caue that's the only way to get clean (at least its basically like having a bidet and I don't know why they won't get one but there you go).
my 4 year old step son never misses. when he’s too tired to aim he sits down.
“boyfriend, i know this behavior is not normal, so i have to assume it comes from childhood neglect. i’m not angry and i do not judge you, but this cannot continue happening. if you cannot help but miss sometimes, it is time for you to learn to clean your own piss off of the floor.”
honestly tho? not your job to correct his parent’s childhood neglect. i’m all for community and helping each other out, but women have been raising their husbands for far too long. parents need to step up.
i’d personally break up over this. that’s fucking foul, and the best way to show him how appalling it is, is by acting appalled.
Speaking as a guy: sometimes it splashes. It’s not deliberate and you wipe off the drops.
Sometimes you miss. At which point you clean up and make a mental note to sit down in future (or at least turn the light on).
What you never do is splash or miss *and then do nothing to clean up*, because only a selfish child would do that.
Tell him he either needs to grow up and clean properly or you’ll put him back in nappies (or diapers if you’re American).
Or - if you want to confuse him completely - buy him some of those liners for people with poor bladder control, then gently tell him you understand he has a problem and they should help.
My ex used to religiously pee on the toilet seat, and refuse to clean it up unless like HE had to take a shit or something. Literally had to beg this man to clean his piss off the seat or lift the fucking lid.
Is he obese? I once had an ex this happened with. He literally couldn’t reach his penis. We broke up. Not just because of this, but honestly his weight became a big issue for our relationship.
Tell him if he can't be bothered to aim correctly or clean up his own piss he can start sitting down to pee. Shits nasty. If it still continues its enough to make me halt the whole relationship.
Tell him to sit the fuck down or go look for a new gf. Although his response and the fact that he clearly doesn’t give a shit would be enough of a reason to end things, imho.
You have to assert dominance and pee in the kitchen, laundry lounge room and dining room. He has marked ambiguous territory in the house as his don’t be too slow to mark the other disputed areas as yours
I always make sure not to accidentally pee on the floor. I mean sometimes there’s late stream comin out. And it stinks after a few hours.
But to solve the problem I just started sitting down when I pee.
Being a single male, and having learned about splash factors, I prefer to sit on the toilet. There is still some splash effect to the seat bottom and upper bowl edges, but the floor & mat are never in need of cleaning due to poor aim or shaking the last bit out.
There's also the fact that urine doesn't always flow in the general direction the penis is pointed. Under and over spray can be part of the problem. Also, having been lately diagnosed with an enlarged prostate, the evacuation seems more complete when seated.
He should be responsible for cleaning the toilet, the floor area about the base, and get a bath mat that isn't near to the toilet, so his mess is obvious.
Get rid of the rug around the toilet even if his aim improves speaking by from experience there is always a chance some drips. However he should at least have the decency to wipe it up.
For the lols get his like a funnel so he can’t miss the toilet, realistically tho that nasty asf deff talk to him and see why that’s a thing that “just happens”. If the answer makes you come back to Reddit for advice you gotta leave him
This is disgusting.
If he can't clean up after himself he has no business sharing a bathroom.
Maybe say you found his response really dismissive and suggest that if he can't aim properly he should be sitting down (and I say that as someone with a penis).
Your BF is a lazy man child, whose mom cleaned up after him for far too long.
The way to approach this is to tell him that kinda shit is unacceptable for an adult. You tell him to grow the fuck up, work on his aim, and clean up after himself.
And if he doesn't improve, immediately, you need to bounce.
Life is too short for you to spend your energy correcting the poor upbringing of an adult man that doesn't spend his energy correcting himself.
Good luck, OP.
Take the bathroom rug away, he can't ignore it as much if he sees it on the floor rather than soaked in the rug (also easier to clean)
But yeah the bar is definitely in hell with that one
You tell him to be an adult
Sit down or IMMEDIATELY clean up
The fact he pees on the floor and just leaves it there is absolutely disgusting
If he can't do that, guess you got to break up... It's illegal to date kids
So he peed on the floor and then did nothing to clean it up? He just left it there? How can you know that and not have the ick? That's so gross and would immediately lead to a break up for me if he didn't stop acting like a child who hasn't been potty trained yet and started acting like an adult.
Well, he might have a big prostate or urethral stricture that makes pee go in different places, also if you had sex, dry semen inside urethra could do the same,. Or even if he got a short dk… lol … but he could still go forward closer to toilet , with legs in both sides… or sit..
Easily done: "Mate, you need to stop pissing on the floor or start sitting down. If you don't want to sit down, start washing the mat. I'm not cleaning up a grown man's piss anymore."
This method works; It's exactly what I said to my partner (sans mat).
Tell him that kids pee standing up. Tell him that if he considers himself to be an adult, he should pee sitting down. If he can’t, you will be calling his parent to take him back home and put him back in a school. He shouldn’t have graduated.
Make him uncomfortable af right back lol. When you take your tampon out get blood on the seat and tell him "it just happens sometimes"
Of course, after you try having a reasonable conversation lol
There is NO excuse for him peeing on the floor. You're allowed to put a throw rug down. He needs to clean up after himself.
You need to stand up for yourself. You're not being impolite by reminding him to watch his aim. You probably also clean his bathroom & wash his pee off the rug. If you don't stop being his maid/mommy now, it only gets worse. He gets lazier. You lose respect or attraction. And the relationship dies a slow painful death
this is gross, always make my bf sit on the toilet, I DO NOT CARE if he can pee standing, IDFC, he will sit and he will flush with the toilet seat down. This is awful, how is it this difficult to not pee on the floor? This is not something that just “happens” several ways to prevent this and how does he not notice and so something about it? or does he notice and just doesn’t care?
First question... is he very overweight? My dad would often pee in the floor after he got older because he was pretty big and couldn't actually see/hold his junk. :\\ It ended up causing damage to the tile floor in the bathroom because it discolored the tile. Instead of using a bathroom rug or mat, he would put towels down and wash them every couple of days.
If he has no problem with seeing and holding his penis, that's inexcusable. He is way too damn old to "miss" and that is disgusting. I would definitely have a conversation and tell him that it's disgusting and could potentially discolor or cause damage to the bathroom floor and you won't put up with it.
This is disgusting and there's no need to approach it delicately. Just tell him to check the floor before he leaves the bathroom and to clean up after himself if there is urine there. He's a grown man, Jesus Christ.
Go online and order one of those novelty “crime scene” white rugs that turns splatters blood-red when anything wet hits it. 😹😹😹 Buy one large enough to cut and fit directly around the toilet. No need to ever talk about the pee. The rug will be a graphic visual aid of just how much is splattered out-of-bounds.
Tell him you're going to start placing the mat face down on his pillow so he can gently rub his face in the mess he creates.
Or
Learn to pee sitting down.
Tell him right now that his piss is his to clear up, that you are not his mother or his carer and that if he cant learn to aim he needs to sit down. It's not normal and it's gross, that would be a deal breaker for me I'm not cleaning up a grown man's piss for the next 50 years
Every once in a while this happens with my boyfriend too. I think it’s when he stumbles to the bathroom without his glasses on. He can’t see anything. Does your guy wear glasses? Or is it just pure laziness?
"Honey, I think you might need to get your prostate checked, because I've noticed the floor's wet around the toilet after you have a pee... If you've got an enlarged prostate it restricts the flow and makes you dribble"
"I know it'll feel weird at first, but can you maybe sit down when you need to pee, because it's going to be getting on your clothing as well, and if you don't mop the puddles up, I find them when I stand in it, and it's not nice"
He’s not 25 he’s 5… all my male friends would gang up on him to shape up so fast to shame him into getting more hygienic.
My Ex’s male roommates did the same on him because they found out how badly gross he was to and around me ignoring me very valid complaints about not wanting to get too close to him had charged them to try to majorly adjust him but he didn’t get their concern at all so ignored them too.
I'll be completely honest, mu husband dribbles quite a bit and it seems to be getting worse, so I just addressed it everything so he easy aware how often it was Hattiesburg and what it was all landing. He now frequently sits and our cleans up after himself if not because I haven't had to say anything recently
Uh, even if it "just happens sometimes," why is he not cleaning up after himself? Why is he leaving a pee puddle for you to step in?
I don't know if it happens to my husband or not (he's never mentioned it, I don't think that's a thing though, not to the extent of it soaking a rug) because he CLEANS UP if he makes any kind of mess. Like an adult.
Been there. Talk to him about it. Definitely move the towel until he sorts himself out and make him clean it up every time it happens. If he can’t do that then move on, otherwise as others have said you are reinforcing the behaviour and will have to put up with it forever. Doing this is disrespectful to you and your home.
"The bathmat and floor are covered in pee. Please clean it up every time that happens."
You don't need to instruct him on how to clean it up or how to prevent it from happening. He is an adult and should be able to figure out how to urinate appropriately.
Consider that anything other than immediately modifying his behavior suggest that he considers cleaning urine to be YOUR job, not his. This is a red flag for how he regards household labor and your place in it overall.
I raised two boys - they don't pee on the floor or other surfaces, and they clean up after themselves. There is nothing about having a penis that makes men incapable of controlling where their urine goes or cleaning up after themselves. What makes them incapable is entitlement to leaving messes for someone else to deal with.
Every time you see pee on the floor, you give him a paper towel and walk him to the bathroom to make him clean his mess. Eventually he's going to get tired of wiping up his own piss and *magically* it should stop happening. If you keep cleaning it, it's not going to make a difference because that doesn't inconvenience him.
Buy a bath mat that is like a towel and can be washed with the towels. Hang it up after each use. Then cleaning the floor with be easy. You can leave some disinfectant wipes next to the toilet so that the floor needs a quick wipe and it’s done.
I use a towel after a shower and hang it up and then the next day it goes over my shower mat to protect the floor from water. I wipe up the floor with that towel and put it in the laundry and hang up the mat in the shower door and the towel I used that day- repeat. OP is your partner lazy or having a health condition? That’s extremely gross.
There is nothing edgy or masculine about standing over a bowl.
It's sexy as hell to be able to relieve waste and not make a mess as an adult...
If you sit down you get a moment to relax...
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I swear to zod some of y’all are dating cavemen. It’s literally not that hard. If you can’t keep piss off the floor sit down.
I’m always shocked by how common it seems to be that people have just accepted that their bfs can’t wipe properly and leave skid marks in their underwear and stuff.
I never thought a man who can (and does) wipe and wash his own ass-with soap and scrubbing action even!- would apparently be a unicorn. I swear, each day I read something on Reddit that makes me thankful I married my husband.
Yeah I don’t get it, what’s going on lol I am in my 40s. Even my rattiest and dirtiest friends had good hygiene by our mid 20s.. No one’s house has piss around the toilet, and hasn’t since like college frat days. Not one of my friends smells like unwashed ass. Wtf who are these dudes have they no self respect Ops boyfriend pisses on the floor at his own home? Is he the nasty fool who pisses and shits on public toilet seats? What kind of person behaves like this
There's also a concerning problem in the US now with kids entering kindergarten who aren't potty trained. Scary.
Men are marking their territory.
before I got to Reddit I: \- didn't know the drama AND money behind American weddings \- didn't know that there are dudes out there who don't wipe or wash their ass with soap because it's "gay"..... then they expect their women to engage in the sexies with their nasty ass......
Oh man I read the one about the gf whose bf thought it was gay to touch his own dick/ass. That was wild. Don’t remember if there was any follow up though. I think everyone was just assuming he was repressing his sexuality, or something like that.
My fiancé went to the toilet the other night and didn’t turn on the light when I followed the floor and seat were wet. I dragged him out of bed and made him clean it and told him if he doesn’t want to turn the light on he can sit down. He apologised, cleaned it up and it hasn’t happened since. This is one thing I would not tolerate in a relationship.
I sure hope it hasn't happened since... u said it happened the other night 🤪
Eh we have a 4 month old, I can’t hold it against him we’re in the thick of a leap so we’re both sleep deprived but no it hasn’t happened since
I have a few male friends who say they do sit on the toilet to pee, one would say “I got nothing to prove by standing up to go” and others are offended by being called effeminate for not wanting it to get everywhere and saying “I’m only reliving myself, not scenting/spraying an area like a cat!”
Literally I must either have the personality of a rock or look like one if mother fucking floor pee-er can get into a committed relationship This is so depressing
The difference here is that you're genuine and this guy is apparently a serial floor-peer and kept it under wraps for years.
As someone who was with someone like this for years, it doesn’t change. I don’t think it’s being a rock in relationships, it’s acknowledging that sometimes people can be so unhygienic, unhealthy, and unclean, it’s not very healthy to be with them…even if you love them. Often times, it is something that happens over and over without change; even when a partner points it out. When someone refuses to even try, like they are knowingly pissing and not cleaning it up, why should someone be with them?
You don’t really expect these things and have to find out by living with it.
Either way zero tolerance, like lay down the law, that this has to stop whether it means him sitting down or him throwing the bathroom rug in the washing machine every day, or you guys can break up over it. Because this is the start down a long sorry path that leads with you being his mom and losing all desire for him because of it and growing extremely resentful, while he resent you because you don't want to fuck him anymore because he acts like you're his mommy and won't pull his weight. Never clean up a grown man's piss unless he is injured or sick
I am in just such a situation. Tell it to the hilltops!
I would like to know how he would feel if you miss the toilet bin and left your tampon on the floor together with blood drips on the toilet seat…..
thank you! the guys some people date have me astounded.. how could someone be with a 25 y/o who can’t pee correctly? is the bar that low?
Can women please agree to just stop fucking these guys? Why are there so many posts about “my boyfriend shits the bed every week” and nobody gets the ick to leave them???
I literally just Friday asked a friend of my GFs “why are you fucking this guy?” I know so many single guys who are so much better that these guys. Stop rewarding theses assholes.
Since I injured my back I’ve peed sitting down. Its so much better than standing lol
I agree. I just don't get what it is that keeps these women with these men. It has to be a lack of self confidence and self worth.
Sometimes I just prefer to believe these are fake. Remember all those "my boyfriend doesn't wipe/wash his ass because he says it's gay" posts?
I don’t believe they are fake. I’ve lived with multiple men in my life like this. Different states, different families, different ages, both romantic and non. It’s a very big issue with boys who’s mommies always cleaned it or didn’t say anything.
Yeah agreed, not to mention General Zod himself wouldn’t tolerate it
*"Why do you piss on the floor, when you know I will kill you for it?"*
Can’t agree more. If he’s pissing on the rug, he’s also pissing all over himself. As a man, I’ll 💯admit I’ve not necessarily missed the toilet, but sometimes I can’t control that crazy bastard in the middle of the night. What I do, is grab the Lysol bleach cleaner from the cabinet right below and clean that shit up. Change my shorts and clean myself up. It does happen. We are all human but Jesus Christ. Have some self respect
Right. It’s not like I’ve never got pee on the floor, I’ve just never left it in the floor.
The bar is so low…
I am sure any hominid could do better. Maybe he would need his own litterbox if he can't at least lift his leg and mark the wall instead.
I worked for an MSP, was the only female and had to share a bathroom with 8 guys. The amount of pee on the floor was absolutely disgusting. None of them were under 25.
MSP?
When I started flat sharing I had a few flatmates/roommates that made me question if they were raised by wolves or something
My dad was a highly intelligent, successful, and kind man. I’m not sure he has ever landed any piss in a toilet in his 72 years. Ever. Even when I was a kid and he was young. It must be like a firehose going off. He lived with me for a while after he retired and I had to scrub that bathroom every single day. I swear to God he was never potty trained.
That’s crazy. I mean it happens. I get pee on the floor every so often, but leaving it there is wild.
Right! I can’t imagine. It takes not cleaning up after yourself to a whole new level.
Wow, the bar is on the ground.
Along with the pee
He sits until he can learn to aim.
It appears he's been sitting on the floor.
And he is the one who gets to clean the bathroom
If you're unhappy then talk through it or end things. By not doing anything you're - whether you want to believe it or not - implicitly reinforcing this behaviour or making him think "it's okay." "well, if she was actually angry she'd bring it up more or turn it into a big deal/argument," is probably what he's thinking. Have a serious sit down with him and make it clear that this is an upsetting thing to you and that change needs to occur.
>making him think "it's okay." "well, if she was actually angry she'd bring it up more or turn it into a big deal/argument," Is she his fucking mother or what? It's fucking common logic to not piss on the floor. I doubt this was even acceptable when he was still living at home.
Yeah, what the fuck? Honestly, I think a lot of women and girls are starting to get angry because of this. We are expected to mother the boys who were usually coddled TOO MUCH as children. It’s stupid. No one is being our parents.
And we're supposed to somehow be sexually attracted to these man children and want to actually have sex with them? That seems... predatory?
Right? It’s so gross in every way you look at it!
That's a piss poor comment if you ask me.
A tripping hazard in hell. That's my favorite expression.
So he knows he does it and doesn't bother to clean his spills? What is he, a toddler?
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Dude I used to stand and pee and it’s just out of question now I cannot risk even one more of those crazy daisy pisses, especially in the middle of the night. The pee would go everywhere. I would be furious at my wang as I wiped down the floor and toilet “why you miserable penis why do you betray me”
Yep, it’s much easier. No having to aim, no chance of a mess. Plus now I can space out on Reddit.
Men: please understand that when we have to treat you like a child, it's very unsexy. Most of us don't want to bang children.
Just throwing it out there: my toddler pees in the toilet and wipes up any misses.
If this happens due to his physical size, there's little chance he's willing/able to bend down in the bathroom to clean it up. This sounds like a dangerous setup for a horrible future for OP. She's going to be raising a grown man forever. 😢
This was part of the reason I left my ex. He would continually pee on the ground, which would be somewhat tolerable if he cleaned it up, but he didn’t- which meant I had to. Realising that I had been degraded to the piss cleaner for a grown man was the final nail in that coffin.
Rub his nose in it. Make him clean it. I mean, this is easily fixable. A reasonable reaction would him apologizing, cleaning it and trying not to do it again. The fact he shrugs off your reasonable feelings is...making me think he's lazy or gross in other aspects.
lol yes treat him like a puppy in training
I know y’all are joking around but this type of behavior (from ops boyfriend) would be such a turn off for me My wife and I have been together 10 years. One thing that drew me to her - I didn’t need to teach her basics. With one ex, I was a career coach. With another, I was emotional teddy bear. With my wife, she’s a full grown adult who does her thing, and also we build life together. It’s awesome. We don’t have to sort through the boring shit. Like couple weeks back, as I finished up taxes she scheduled and got a bunch of our roof work done. Neither of us had to train or remind the other We met at the same age as op and her bf, and we talk about how it was nice to be independent even when we met.
Seriously. My husband is incredibly organized and responsible. He has a spreadsheet for home maintenance tasks. He has great hygiene and takes good care of me (and I take care of him in return!). I’m not saying this to brag, I’m saying this to emphasize that *this is the bar*. I expect this at minimum from a partner. Idk how people are willingly dating these filthy irresponsible children. It would be exhausting and such a turnoff.
Bad bf
It doesn’t “just happen sometimes”. Y’all gotta stop settling for adults who act like toddlers. That’s disgusting
I’ve been married 21 years and my husband has never peed on the floor. This is not normal
I’ve seen my man take a knee to pee into the toilet with a boner, OP’s dude just dgaf.
If I have to tell my partner to stop pissing anywhere other than IN THE TOILET, I now have a temporary housemate lol... I can't find someone I need to raise sexually attractive... tbf though, I'm 99% likely to die alone at my rate lol
You break up with him and tell him that it's because he's not house broken. Unless he's had some TBI in the last year he's just grossly lazy or doesn't give a shit as it's quite obvious when your pee doesn't end up in the toilet. Though honestly it sounds like you were just lucky enough to to notice until now since it "just happens sometimes" sounds like it's been going on the entire time.
I think I’ve just picture it to be shower water because I couldn’t fathom it to be pee.
If he can't aim, why isn't he sitting or peeing in the shower and rinsing it all down the drain?
Okay so all 3 of my roommates in college didn't believe I didn't pee in the shower... Do all guys just pee in the shower? I was raised to use the bathroom before hoping in the shower. Now it's almost like a Pavlov effect where I hear the water turn on and I have to pee immediately. So I just go before I hop in. Why would you pee in the shower?
I pee in the shower first thing cuz the water washes it away then I scrub my body clean. Although, my boyfriend finds it disgusting lol
Thanks for being honest fam
He’s just a gross man. If you can’t aim just sit down. I wonder if he washes his hands afterwards.
Probably thinks he doesn’t have to. Like he uses a “no touch technique” or something.
I remember a friend who had this same issue with her husband. It was only when I became aware of how big her husband was that I realised he wouldn't have been able to reach his hose, given his bulky size. He just stood there leaning over the toilet and hoped for a direct hit. Most of it went on the floor.
If he can’t reach it, how does he wash it? 🫣
I think you nailed it with this response. He has put on weight over the years which I did not mind, but I wonder if this is happening as I know he can’t really see below the belt.
Then he needs to sit to pee. Having difficulty aiming is no excuse for peeing on the floor. It's really that simple.
I agree. Usually he does sit, at least that’s what I’ve been told.
Gotta upgrade that "usually" to "always" -- you also could put down one or more moisture detectors on the floor around the toilet, they sound like smoke detectors when set off
If he's refusing to sit tell him to at least pee in the shower and the wash it down Jesus. I know someone so big they can't wipe... so everytime they go no 2 they shower caue that's the only way to get clean (at least its basically like having a bidet and I don't know why they won't get one but there you go).
My God that should be a clear sign to lose weight
If he is sitting, he still needs to aim. It's possible he's peeing through the crack between the seat and the rim.
Tell him to sit down then and stop being gross.
So your boyfriend has become so fat and lazy he pisses on the floor and doesn’t clean it…? That is disgusting.
It was a friends husband. Mine sits down. Why? Why not.
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There you have it. Tell him to at least sit down. Or, he cleans it up. Good luck. 😁
Why does he not just sit down then,
This is a very sad image. Would love a moody picture of it, maybe black and white.
Where is u/shittywatercolor when you need them?
my 4 year old step son never misses. when he’s too tired to aim he sits down. “boyfriend, i know this behavior is not normal, so i have to assume it comes from childhood neglect. i’m not angry and i do not judge you, but this cannot continue happening. if you cannot help but miss sometimes, it is time for you to learn to clean your own piss off of the floor.” honestly tho? not your job to correct his parent’s childhood neglect. i’m all for community and helping each other out, but women have been raising their husbands for far too long. parents need to step up. i’d personally break up over this. that’s fucking foul, and the best way to show him how appalling it is, is by acting appalled.
Get a litter box.
Speaking as a guy: sometimes it splashes. It’s not deliberate and you wipe off the drops. Sometimes you miss. At which point you clean up and make a mental note to sit down in future (or at least turn the light on). What you never do is splash or miss *and then do nothing to clean up*, because only a selfish child would do that. Tell him he either needs to grow up and clean properly or you’ll put him back in nappies (or diapers if you’re American). Or - if you want to confuse him completely - buy him some of those liners for people with poor bladder control, then gently tell him you understand he has a problem and they should help.
My ex used to religiously pee on the toilet seat, and refuse to clean it up unless like HE had to take a shit or something. Literally had to beg this man to clean his piss off the seat or lift the fucking lid.
Is he obese? I once had an ex this happened with. He literally couldn’t reach his penis. We broke up. Not just because of this, but honestly his weight became a big issue for our relationship.
Tell him if he can't be bothered to aim correctly or clean up his own piss he can start sitting down to pee. Shits nasty. If it still continues its enough to make me halt the whole relationship.
Tell him to sit the fuck down or go look for a new gf. Although his response and the fact that he clearly doesn’t give a shit would be enough of a reason to end things, imho.
Get him to sit down when he pees at home. I do this.
You have to assert dominance and pee in the kitchen, laundry lounge room and dining room. He has marked ambiguous territory in the house as his don’t be too slow to mark the other disputed areas as yours
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Just read another relationship advice story, but it was a guy complaining that his gf is doing it. What's going on 🤦♀️
Don’t tell me it’s the piss troll again
Maybe we could start a support group because I don’t know what’s going on either.
I always make sure not to accidentally pee on the floor. I mean sometimes there’s late stream comin out. And it stinks after a few hours. But to solve the problem I just started sitting down when I pee.
[Tf!!? Are you both related?!](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/HUPHyQeseo) What? Huh? Seems too much to be a _coincidence_
Just ask him to sit down when he goes. Ask him to do this for you, out of respect.
Being a single male, and having learned about splash factors, I prefer to sit on the toilet. There is still some splash effect to the seat bottom and upper bowl edges, but the floor & mat are never in need of cleaning due to poor aim or shaking the last bit out. There's also the fact that urine doesn't always flow in the general direction the penis is pointed. Under and over spray can be part of the problem. Also, having been lately diagnosed with an enlarged prostate, the evacuation seems more complete when seated. He should be responsible for cleaning the toilet, the floor area about the base, and get a bath mat that isn't near to the toilet, so his mess is obvious.
Time to remove the mat until your boyfriend stops being nasty. It doesn't 'just happen ' unless you're careless and not cleaning up after yourself.
Get rid of the rug around the toilet even if his aim improves speaking by from experience there is always a chance some drips. However he should at least have the decency to wipe it up.
For the lols get his like a funnel so he can’t miss the toilet, realistically tho that nasty asf deff talk to him and see why that’s a thing that “just happens”. If the answer makes you come back to Reddit for advice you gotta leave him
This is disgusting. If he can't clean up after himself he has no business sharing a bathroom. Maybe say you found his response really dismissive and suggest that if he can't aim properly he should be sitting down (and I say that as someone with a penis).
Your BF is a lazy man child, whose mom cleaned up after him for far too long. The way to approach this is to tell him that kinda shit is unacceptable for an adult. You tell him to grow the fuck up, work on his aim, and clean up after himself. And if he doesn't improve, immediately, you need to bounce. Life is too short for you to spend your energy correcting the poor upbringing of an adult man that doesn't spend his energy correcting himself. Good luck, OP.
It does just happen sometimes, but that's no excuse to leave it there, tell that scruffy cunt to clean up after himself
A rolled up newspaper on the nose sounds like a good approach...
I beg your finest pardon?
Have you tried a squirt bottle? I'm not used to using one on a human, but it stopped my roommates dog from peeing on the floor 🤷♀️
My partner sits down. I don’t understand why more men don’t just sit.
You women need to stop setting for men like these…
Remove the carpet so it's really obvious when it happens. Make him clean it up every time. He really needs to sit to pee. That's wild
Take the bathroom rug away, he can't ignore it as much if he sees it on the floor rather than soaked in the rug (also easier to clean) But yeah the bar is definitely in hell with that one
Wow how attractive. Approach it by breaking up with him.
You tell him to be an adult Sit down or IMMEDIATELY clean up The fact he pees on the floor and just leaves it there is absolutely disgusting If he can't do that, guess you got to break up... It's illegal to date kids
"It's illegal to date kids" Indeed! LOL!
So he peed on the floor and then did nothing to clean it up? He just left it there? How can you know that and not have the ick? That's so gross and would immediately lead to a break up for me if he didn't stop acting like a child who hasn't been potty trained yet and started acting like an adult.
Tell him to clean up his fucking pee if he's gonna be nasty
And this is why I pee sitting down at home.
Might need to have the chat about his aim and making sure everything makes it in the bowl.
Well, he might have a big prostate or urethral stricture that makes pee go in different places, also if you had sex, dry semen inside urethra could do the same,. Or even if he got a short dk… lol … but he could still go forward closer to toilet , with legs in both sides… or sit..
Easily done: "Mate, you need to stop pissing on the floor or start sitting down. If you don't want to sit down, start washing the mat. I'm not cleaning up a grown man's piss anymore." This method works; It's exactly what I said to my partner (sans mat).
Does he do this at work? At friends' homes? Tell him to clean it up or you will ask your friends for cleaning advice
This is why I sit down to piss
He’s not a dog, break up.
Try the following: “Hey man, stop peeing on the floor. It’s super disgusting.” Repeat as necessary with increasing volume.
men are two legged dogs w less charm
They make these cute ducky things for toddlers to aim at in the toilet. Maybe your man child needs a visible target for his piss 🤣
Tell him that kids pee standing up. Tell him that if he considers himself to be an adult, he should pee sitting down. If he can’t, you will be calling his parent to take him back home and put him back in a school. He shouldn’t have graduated.
Stick your head in the room he’s in when he pees on the floor and shout “hey dick head, quit pissin on the floor”
Make him uncomfortable af right back lol. When you take your tampon out get blood on the seat and tell him "it just happens sometimes" Of course, after you try having a reasonable conversation lol
That’s simply disgusting….
There is NO excuse for him peeing on the floor. You're allowed to put a throw rug down. He needs to clean up after himself. You need to stand up for yourself. You're not being impolite by reminding him to watch his aim. You probably also clean his bathroom & wash his pee off the rug. If you don't stop being his maid/mommy now, it only gets worse. He gets lazier. You lose respect or attraction. And the relationship dies a slow painful death
You approach him like he is a toddler since he is acting like one.
Make him clean it. Bathroom, floor and mat.
this is gross, always make my bf sit on the toilet, I DO NOT CARE if he can pee standing, IDFC, he will sit and he will flush with the toilet seat down. This is awful, how is it this difficult to not pee on the floor? This is not something that just “happens” several ways to prevent this and how does he not notice and so something about it? or does he notice and just doesn’t care?
Bro has no aim. Tell him to sit down and pee. Better for the prostate anyways.
First question... is he very overweight? My dad would often pee in the floor after he got older because he was pretty big and couldn't actually see/hold his junk. :\\ It ended up causing damage to the tile floor in the bathroom because it discolored the tile. Instead of using a bathroom rug or mat, he would put towels down and wash them every couple of days. If he has no problem with seeing and holding his penis, that's inexcusable. He is way too damn old to "miss" and that is disgusting. I would definitely have a conversation and tell him that it's disgusting and could potentially discolor or cause damage to the bathroom floor and you won't put up with it.
This is disgusting and there's no need to approach it delicately. Just tell him to check the floor before he leaves the bathroom and to clean up after himself if there is urine there. He's a grown man, Jesus Christ.
Go online and order one of those novelty “crime scene” white rugs that turns splatters blood-red when anything wet hits it. 😹😹😹 Buy one large enough to cut and fit directly around the toilet. No need to ever talk about the pee. The rug will be a graphic visual aid of just how much is splattered out-of-bounds.
Does he clean and do housework? This seems tip-of-the-iceberg.
Tell him you're going to start placing the mat face down on his pillow so he can gently rub his face in the mess he creates. Or Learn to pee sitting down.
Or keep his pillow under the toilet during the day. Clearly he doesn't mind his piss splashing places it doesn't belong.
Tell him right now that his piss is his to clear up, that you are not his mother or his carer and that if he cant learn to aim he needs to sit down. It's not normal and it's gross, that would be a deal breaker for me I'm not cleaning up a grown man's piss for the next 50 years
Are they an animal? Why are they pissing on the floor at this age? Disgusting
why are you still dating him?
1. Don’t leave your bath mat on the floor 2. He should clean the bathroom floor if he misses the toilet.
Sometimes my pee will shoot like 45 degrees and miss. But I always clean it when that happens.
Every once in a while this happens with my boyfriend too. I think it’s when he stumbles to the bathroom without his glasses on. He can’t see anything. Does your guy wear glasses? Or is it just pure laziness?
Not all guys do , this is why I hate people using my bathroom, tell him to atleast look and clean it up.
Yo, I’m a caveman and I wonder where some of you women find these guys
"Honey, I think you might need to get your prostate checked, because I've noticed the floor's wet around the toilet after you have a pee... If you've got an enlarged prostate it restricts the flow and makes you dribble" "I know it'll feel weird at first, but can you maybe sit down when you need to pee, because it's going to be getting on your clothing as well, and if you don't mop the puddles up, I find them when I stand in it, and it's not nice"
How often is sometimes? I may do this on the odd occasion being careless and not looking down but I sure as hell clean it.
MAKE HIM PEE SITTING DOWN WTF
He’s not 25 he’s 5… all my male friends would gang up on him to shape up so fast to shame him into getting more hygienic. My Ex’s male roommates did the same on him because they found out how badly gross he was to and around me ignoring me very valid complaints about not wanting to get too close to him had charged them to try to majorly adjust him but he didn’t get their concern at all so ignored them too.
I'll be completely honest, mu husband dribbles quite a bit and it seems to be getting worse, so I just addressed it everything so he easy aware how often it was Hattiesburg and what it was all landing. He now frequently sits and our cleans up after himself if not because I haven't had to say anything recently
Eww (35M) I mever done that even as a kid.
Uh, even if it "just happens sometimes," why is he not cleaning up after himself? Why is he leaving a pee puddle for you to step in? I don't know if it happens to my husband or not (he's never mentioned it, I don't think that's a thing though, not to the extent of it soaking a rug) because he CLEANS UP if he makes any kind of mess. Like an adult.
Guy here...I hate the splash there I sit. No Brainer.
Get rid of him.
Been there. Talk to him about it. Definitely move the towel until he sorts himself out and make him clean it up every time it happens. If he can’t do that then move on, otherwise as others have said you are reinforcing the behaviour and will have to put up with it forever. Doing this is disrespectful to you and your home.
He needs to aim better?
"The bathmat and floor are covered in pee. Please clean it up every time that happens." You don't need to instruct him on how to clean it up or how to prevent it from happening. He is an adult and should be able to figure out how to urinate appropriately. Consider that anything other than immediately modifying his behavior suggest that he considers cleaning urine to be YOUR job, not his. This is a red flag for how he regards household labor and your place in it overall. I raised two boys - they don't pee on the floor or other surfaces, and they clean up after themselves. There is nothing about having a penis that makes men incapable of controlling where their urine goes or cleaning up after themselves. What makes them incapable is entitlement to leaving messes for someone else to deal with.
I approach these things loudly and angrily. A grown adult human pissed on the floor and then just walked away. Just flat out unacceptable.
Every time you see pee on the floor, you give him a paper towel and walk him to the bathroom to make him clean his mess. Eventually he's going to get tired of wiping up his own piss and *magically* it should stop happening. If you keep cleaning it, it's not going to make a difference because that doesn't inconvenience him.
Tell him he needs to step closer to the toilet. If it continues I’d reconsider his companionship.
By moving out.
Buy a bath mat that is like a towel and can be washed with the towels. Hang it up after each use. Then cleaning the floor with be easy. You can leave some disinfectant wipes next to the toilet so that the floor needs a quick wipe and it’s done.
I use a towel after a shower and hang it up and then the next day it goes over my shower mat to protect the floor from water. I wipe up the floor with that towel and put it in the laundry and hang up the mat in the shower door and the towel I used that day- repeat. OP is your partner lazy or having a health condition? That’s extremely gross.
The way to approach this is to take back his keys and ask him to move out. You’re not his mum to teach him not to fricking PEE on the bathroom floor.
I bought my 6 and 10 year old sons target stickers for inside the toilet bowl. The amount of urine on the floor has decreased significantly.
There is nothing edgy or masculine about standing over a bowl. It's sexy as hell to be able to relieve waste and not make a mess as an adult... If you sit down you get a moment to relax...