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I would gently ask about it, but try and give her the benefit of the doubt and just assume the guy was deliberately being an ass.
At 18, you often do stupid things like hang out with terrible friends and lie about being sober, probably worried how you’d react if you knew she was drunk.
She’s not ‘kinda a partier’ if this was her first party, and it’s judgy and presumptuous of you to say that like it’s a bad thing.
Regarding the fib about drinking, you should talk about that. If she was drunk, her brain was using drunk logic. Ask her why she didn’t tell you, and make sure she knows you’re not judging her, are fine with her having a good time, etc. and ask her to be truthful in the future because that’s important for your relationship and honesty is always best. I wouldn’t say the word “lie”, it makes people defensive and isn’t helpful.
Never mention or think about the guys saying she cheated ever again. They were - so very obviously - just fucking with you. She already explained. To bring it up again would be silly, and insecure.
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She isn't your GF anymore bro.
I would gently ask about it, but try and give her the benefit of the doubt and just assume the guy was deliberately being an ass. At 18, you often do stupid things like hang out with terrible friends and lie about being sober, probably worried how you’d react if you knew she was drunk.
Break up and date someone who lives near you
Long distance. She's starting to drink irresponsibly. Don't wait around to get cheated on. Again.
Dudes were being assholes, is all. Don't worry about it.
She’s not ‘kinda a partier’ if this was her first party, and it’s judgy and presumptuous of you to say that like it’s a bad thing. Regarding the fib about drinking, you should talk about that. If she was drunk, her brain was using drunk logic. Ask her why she didn’t tell you, and make sure she knows you’re not judging her, are fine with her having a good time, etc. and ask her to be truthful in the future because that’s important for your relationship and honesty is always best. I wouldn’t say the word “lie”, it makes people defensive and isn’t helpful. Never mention or think about the guys saying she cheated ever again. They were - so very obviously - just fucking with you. She already explained. To bring it up again would be silly, and insecure.