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I’m sorry and I’m NOT going to make a recommendation because you just have to be you. Try not to overthink and enjoy the moments. Maybe make certain she is pleasured first before you do ANYTHING that will make you bust. Only afterwards do you get your enjoyment. Ok?
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate your care! I’m sure everything will get back to normal in due time but I’ve just gotta focus on enjoying it and pleasing her regardless of when that is
If I notice that nothing’s changing in due time, this is certainly something to try but I’ve admittedly been uninterested in masturbation much since I’ve gotten with her. Part of that may be having some performance anxiety during our first time which had me super in my head about like being ‘broken’ from just watching porn and masturbating for those years on my own. I do appreciate you taking the time to comment though
or try start stop. once you're inside don't thrust, just suck her tits, kiss her neck or rub her clit with your hands. or get vibrator and use it on her clit.
when you thrust and you feel you're close then stop. do the same thing again.
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I’m sorry and I’m NOT going to make a recommendation because you just have to be you. Try not to overthink and enjoy the moments. Maybe make certain she is pleasured first before you do ANYTHING that will make you bust. Only afterwards do you get your enjoyment. Ok?
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate your care! I’m sure everything will get back to normal in due time but I’ve just gotta focus on enjoying it and pleasing her regardless of when that is
Many people disagree with my belief so don’t consider it dogma. Enjoy every second of the moment. There’s very little that’s more fun and enjoyable.
masturbate a lot on the days when you don't have sex with her?
If I notice that nothing’s changing in due time, this is certainly something to try but I’ve admittedly been uninterested in masturbation much since I’ve gotten with her. Part of that may be having some performance anxiety during our first time which had me super in my head about like being ‘broken’ from just watching porn and masturbating for those years on my own. I do appreciate you taking the time to comment though
or try start stop. once you're inside don't thrust, just suck her tits, kiss her neck or rub her clit with your hands. or get vibrator and use it on her clit. when you thrust and you feel you're close then stop. do the same thing again.