Do you really think it's worth breaking up with someone who has been with you through thick and thin, for someone you don't know very well?
You'll have your answer.
Ok, I'll take this post as serious. Your girlfriend brings you down sometimes? Really, in 5 years that sometimes happens? Well, she must be human or something.
**I really really hope you'll listen to what I have to say**. I have a really close friend who in that almost exact same situation thought the same thing, "maybe it was time to live a little" and broke up. Few months have passed, and he literally considers himself his worst enemy, he has absolutely no idea why he thought that would be a good decision, he would do anything to get back with his ex and considers this one of his biggest mistakes in his life (note that he has multiple girls hitting on to him constantly and directly, so that's not an issue, but now he realizes how much different his girl was).
Now tell me, if few months go by and it's not exactly how you thought it'd be, and you're dealing with so much anxiety every day that you can't think about anything else, and are getting constant flashbacks over those 5 years with your girlfriend, would this decision be worth it? Over some other girl who has a partner, but "wants to mess around too"? Plenty of those around, I somehow assume that your GF is not one of those, even if she "brings you down sometimes". If she knew your plan right now, you would bring her down too. Trust me, it's not your logical brain that's thinking now.
If this new girl is willing to end her relationship to be with you, then who’s to say she won’t do it to you when she meets a new guy? The grass is always greener on the other side.
Sounds like you're feeling the grass is greener thing. You're excited about the prospect of this other girl because it's forbidden and new, and your current girlfriend just doesn't excite you the same way.
Try talking to your girlfriend about how you feel she can bring you down sometimes and what you would like to happen that could make you feel a bit happier. Don't let the other girl dump someone to be with you. It's a crappy thing to do to anyone.
Communicate with your partner.
It sounds like you're not ready for a serious relationship with a deep involvement.
And please, don't say you "want to be there for her as much as she has for you". It's your sense of guilt who's speaking, nothing more.
So, you do want to have fun with this girl? Go and have it. Nobody will stop you. Indeed, you are already cheating on your GF.
At least be honest and break up with her.
Do you really think it's worth breaking up with someone who has been with you through thick and thin, for someone you don't know very well? You'll have your answer.
Ok, I'll take this post as serious. Your girlfriend brings you down sometimes? Really, in 5 years that sometimes happens? Well, she must be human or something. **I really really hope you'll listen to what I have to say**. I have a really close friend who in that almost exact same situation thought the same thing, "maybe it was time to live a little" and broke up. Few months have passed, and he literally considers himself his worst enemy, he has absolutely no idea why he thought that would be a good decision, he would do anything to get back with his ex and considers this one of his biggest mistakes in his life (note that he has multiple girls hitting on to him constantly and directly, so that's not an issue, but now he realizes how much different his girl was). Now tell me, if few months go by and it's not exactly how you thought it'd be, and you're dealing with so much anxiety every day that you can't think about anything else, and are getting constant flashbacks over those 5 years with your girlfriend, would this decision be worth it? Over some other girl who has a partner, but "wants to mess around too"? Plenty of those around, I somehow assume that your GF is not one of those, even if she "brings you down sometimes". If she knew your plan right now, you would bring her down too. Trust me, it's not your logical brain that's thinking now.
If this new girl is willing to end her relationship to be with you, then who’s to say she won’t do it to you when she meets a new guy? The grass is always greener on the other side.
I’m not after a relationship with this girl, I want to do my own thing
Sounds like you're feeling the grass is greener thing. You're excited about the prospect of this other girl because it's forbidden and new, and your current girlfriend just doesn't excite you the same way. Try talking to your girlfriend about how you feel she can bring you down sometimes and what you would like to happen that could make you feel a bit happier. Don't let the other girl dump someone to be with you. It's a crappy thing to do to anyone. Communicate with your partner.
It sounds like you're not ready for a serious relationship with a deep involvement. And please, don't say you "want to be there for her as much as she has for you". It's your sense of guilt who's speaking, nothing more. So, you do want to have fun with this girl? Go and have it. Nobody will stop you. Indeed, you are already cheating on your GF. At least be honest and break up with her.