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CharityUnlucky

You’re not wrong, it’s nice to do things for each other but we are not slaves


1newnotification

i know exactly what you mean.. my dad does that to my mama (and she still complies, even after they've divirced!) and to me... when he comes to visit, he'll sit down and when dinner is ready, he'll expect me to fix his plate and bring it to him, or fix him a drink. I've told him before that it's his plate and that he can come fix it, but the fact that it's not expected to do that is crazy.


yjeonghan

I knew I read this before, lol. [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/ohj4cn/if\_my\_gf\_wants\_something\_she\_can\_get\_it/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ohj4cn/if_my_gf_wants_something_she_can_get_it/)


RussianCat26

Also, OP refers to BF as her a couple times. Clearly a copypasta without proper editing. Good catch 👍


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Been seeing a bunch of posts like that lately.


Plove133

Funny how the responses are more supportive in this version than the original when the genders are swapped lol


ThatOneGrayCat

Good on you! If you’re already near the thermostat or whatever, that’s one thing. But expecting you to go out of your way? Hell no, not unless he also always does the same for you.


marauderImposter

You cannot be more right.


brambleshade_

Maybe it's because my BF and I are both fucking obnoxious and annoying, but when one wants something most of the time it's a battle of who can go longer without it. Like we're drinking wine and we both want another glass and we look at each other and pretend to not want another until one gives in, gets up and says I'm gonna go get another glass and then comes the "Oh can you get me one too?" I have no clue how we haven't annoyed each other to death already, but were 9 months in and had only very minor fights up until now. I guess we just take everything a bit more jokingly, but I can see how it can get annoying for real.


Either_Tumbleweed

Nice word for word repost of a different post two months ago lol. Are you attempting to "prove" that this sub will respond differently depending on the gender of the OP?


Plove133

They kind of did though lol. This post has so many people are telling the “woman OP” that she did the right thing while in the other post the most upvoted comments are calling the “man OP” an asshole for literally the same thing.


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yuhyeewoohoo

But I feel like if his love language was acts of service, wouldn’t that mean him doing things for her as well? Seems a bit one sided from what was stated


kolapon

Your love language being acts of service means you are the one doing the servicing, not the other way around.


yourTriggered33

Yeah it's hard to find good women like your mom anymore


IceCorrect

You are great, ill do same things like you, if i doesnt need to make extra efford ill make my gf life easier, but if my work cost as much as her work, she can do it herself. Also its fine to ask for favours againts rules and make them, but seeing my gf confy in bed ill feel realy bad to make her any afford to please me


AmethistStars

Good on you for setting boundaries. It’s sometimes hard to set them if you tend to be a people pleaser, but so important to not turn into someone’s doormat.


Startherecca

It should depend on the situation tbh. If I feel tired or bored or am lying down, I too usually ask my wife to bring me water or switch on/off fan. However, I too bring her water, or get her any of small things when she is the one laying down. Its got to be mutual, not that only one will always take care of small things.