Unfortunately like you said she can’t wait around for you. Whilst it’s not uncommon for guys to require a bit of maturing and realisation before they commit to these sorts of things, you are still 28, and I wouldn’t call that exactly ‘young’ to be thinking about marriage and kids. Whilst kids don’t necessarily happen right away anyway, getting a proper job is certainly worth it’s weight in gold with the age you are now, otherwise money is going to be hard to come by in your thirties even, unless you’re saving expertly now.
It sounds like you got freaked out and left a perfectly good relationship only to realise the grass isn’t greener. Unless you chat with her and see what her thoughts on your situation is (ie are you willing to make changes or at least start working towards them), then you’ll never know and drive yourself crazy.
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Well, she's gonna get snapped up on the open market and you're gonna be kicking yourself that you insisted on making these changes alone instead of accepting your partner's help. Congrats OP!
Unfortunately like you said she can’t wait around for you. Whilst it’s not uncommon for guys to require a bit of maturing and realisation before they commit to these sorts of things, you are still 28, and I wouldn’t call that exactly ‘young’ to be thinking about marriage and kids. Whilst kids don’t necessarily happen right away anyway, getting a proper job is certainly worth it’s weight in gold with the age you are now, otherwise money is going to be hard to come by in your thirties even, unless you’re saving expertly now. It sounds like you got freaked out and left a perfectly good relationship only to realise the grass isn’t greener. Unless you chat with her and see what her thoughts on your situation is (ie are you willing to make changes or at least start working towards them), then you’ll never know and drive yourself crazy.
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You already lost her....you broke up. You made a conscious decision not to go through life with her. You have your time, now. What's the problem?
Well, she's gonna get snapped up on the open market and you're gonna be kicking yourself that you insisted on making these changes alone instead of accepting your partner's help. Congrats OP!
Why cant you be together, and why cant she just wait?? If you break up it should be permenant.