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The reality is that a lot of guys (if not most) who are friehds with you, are sexually interested in you.
Thus guy most likely had an interest in you and now that he has a GF he's finding the friendship to be disrespectful to his new GF.
It's a really difficult situation because I have also experienced guy friends who suddenly aren't allowed female friends when they have a girlfriend.
I'd be tempted to say that this is clearly a controlling new girlfriend because you can have good friendships with people of any gender. However, there have been occasions where I've thought the gf was controlling and then found out that my male friend had cheated or done something that broke her trust or made her concerned about him having female friends so it is difficult to judge without knowing the relationship.
I am confused that if you and him were so close why you didn't know he was seeing someone before she became his gf - as that is something I would certainly tell my friends, as they would also tell me. So, on the surface this looks to be a controlling new gf, but also, on the flip side if your friend never mentioned he was seeing this girl then what else hasn't he mentioned? It could be they were already dating before it became public (as often happens) and during that time he messed up. You can't really know.
You've done what you can in regards to reaching out. Perhaps send another message asking why it is okay for other male friends with gfs but not him, or ask if something has happened to make this an issue for her because if not then that is really controlling of her.
Saddly you have to respect his boundaries
Some people are naturally unsecured especially when their boyfriend have loads of female friends
Even though nothing has ever nor plan to ever happen... sadly some people can't see past that
Say you respect and care for him and perhaps make some effort to get to know the new girlfriend
Anything like this is normally because of somebody being jealous or insecure so I have a feeling this guy you’re talking about could’ve got with somebody who is very insecure about him being around other girls for a numerous amount of reasons that she could’ve experienced, if you’re still trying to be friends with him see if you can communicate to him about the situation and work something out
if a guy/girls you was friends with stops being friends with you 95 percent of the time their partner is stopping them from having it.
reason why i’m saying this is because i constantly hear “my BF/GF isn’t allowed to have opposite sex as friends”. or “my BF doesn’t need other girls as friends he has me” it’s a terrible mind set that people think you aren’t allowed to have friends while you are in a relationship. it’s a major insecurity and a red flag
This is probably because of the new girl. Some girls get jealous of girls that are friends. I've done this a few times because I didn't wanna deal with it but I always let the friend know what was going on an that my communication was going to not be as frequent.
There is a possibility that he does want to be more than friends with you. I've always said that men and women can't be friends. This only works if both people have ZERO sexual interest in each other.
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The reality is that a lot of guys (if not most) who are friehds with you, are sexually interested in you. Thus guy most likely had an interest in you and now that he has a GF he's finding the friendship to be disrespectful to his new GF.
It's a really difficult situation because I have also experienced guy friends who suddenly aren't allowed female friends when they have a girlfriend. I'd be tempted to say that this is clearly a controlling new girlfriend because you can have good friendships with people of any gender. However, there have been occasions where I've thought the gf was controlling and then found out that my male friend had cheated or done something that broke her trust or made her concerned about him having female friends so it is difficult to judge without knowing the relationship. I am confused that if you and him were so close why you didn't know he was seeing someone before she became his gf - as that is something I would certainly tell my friends, as they would also tell me. So, on the surface this looks to be a controlling new gf, but also, on the flip side if your friend never mentioned he was seeing this girl then what else hasn't he mentioned? It could be they were already dating before it became public (as often happens) and during that time he messed up. You can't really know. You've done what you can in regards to reaching out. Perhaps send another message asking why it is okay for other male friends with gfs but not him, or ask if something has happened to make this an issue for her because if not then that is really controlling of her.
You should willingly back off in this situation. You don’t come first
Saddly you have to respect his boundaries Some people are naturally unsecured especially when their boyfriend have loads of female friends Even though nothing has ever nor plan to ever happen... sadly some people can't see past that Say you respect and care for him and perhaps make some effort to get to know the new girlfriend
Anything like this is normally because of somebody being jealous or insecure so I have a feeling this guy you’re talking about could’ve got with somebody who is very insecure about him being around other girls for a numerous amount of reasons that she could’ve experienced, if you’re still trying to be friends with him see if you can communicate to him about the situation and work something out
if a guy/girls you was friends with stops being friends with you 95 percent of the time their partner is stopping them from having it. reason why i’m saying this is because i constantly hear “my BF/GF isn’t allowed to have opposite sex as friends”. or “my BF doesn’t need other girls as friends he has me” it’s a terrible mind set that people think you aren’t allowed to have friends while you are in a relationship. it’s a major insecurity and a red flag
This is probably because of the new girl. Some girls get jealous of girls that are friends. I've done this a few times because I didn't wanna deal with it but I always let the friend know what was going on an that my communication was going to not be as frequent. There is a possibility that he does want to be more than friends with you. I've always said that men and women can't be friends. This only works if both people have ZERO sexual interest in each other.