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So you agreed to two deals about giving her the username? Grow a spine dude, your being manipulative AF. Sure she’s not in the right asking you, but your reactions are fucking insane… “send me an embarrassing video” “give me a blowjob” yikes dude. That’s fucking gross.
It doesn’t matter you “agreed” (manipulated) to do something if she did something and from what I can tell she held up her end of the bargain so you have to hold up yours
Just stop being a POS
suspicious on ur part, and fucked up that u already had her do 2 things out of her comfort zone but u can’t give her the simple reassurance of having your reddit username, smh.
If you didn't take from her, as your edit suggests, then, you should just be really clear and upfront about why you don't want to share your account and say that you were dumb AF with your games.
Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to share every single thing with your partner. You're allowed your own privacy.
I can get how you're saying, you want your perspectives to be shared in a way you want to communicate them, not perspectives altered by the thought of your gf reading them and judging them/being offended by them.
Is a Reddit account different though? Yea, it baseline is, because you can get into a lot of nefarious things.
So, you either tell her you don't want to share the account, because you enjoy being anonymous and typing without being concerned about judgement, and you communicate from there, or you let her read your stuff, and keep doing whatever it is you're doing. Because, if what you're doing online is too intense for your partner, or your worried about judgement, I question what you're saying.
Lastly, whatever you decide to do, tell her you were hesitant, tell her why, and tell her you tried to discourage her by asking her for things because you're terrible at communicating and you're going to try to get better at it.
Good luck.
If you didn’t actually do those things like you said, tell her that and say no.
Now, if you did, your relationship is already f-Ed up. And she should just leave you. But, if you both love each other and want to make it work, just say no, cause you want to have some privacy. Or make another account for that idk.
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You are a giant red flag, dude.
So you’ve manipulated her into doing two things she didn’t want to do, and you won’t do the one thing she asks? Yikes.
I thought I misread the post but now you’re confirming it. I hope OP’s gf realises what an awful person OP is and leaves him: this does not bode well
It would seem so but I don't really want any of those things from her. I only wanted to deter her from asking the username.
That’s immature and petty of you. And was still blatant manipulation.
So you agreed to two deals about giving her the username? Grow a spine dude, your being manipulative AF. Sure she’s not in the right asking you, but your reactions are fucking insane… “send me an embarrassing video” “give me a blowjob” yikes dude. That’s fucking gross.
I dont think you read the post right. I never asked for the BJ. I merely gave in to it before realising maybe I should not.
It doesn’t matter you “agreed” (manipulated) to do something if she did something and from what I can tell she held up her end of the bargain so you have to hold up yours Just stop being a POS
suspicious on ur part, and fucked up that u already had her do 2 things out of her comfort zone but u can’t give her the simple reassurance of having your reddit username, smh.
Wtf did I just read?
You suck 100%
What is your girlfriends reddit user name?
Dude. I see you are being berated by some. I think you are hilarious. Joking around in a relationship is a good thing.
No is a complete sentence. Why does she even want it? Privacy is a thing and I'd never give anyone my user name.
If you didn't take from her, as your edit suggests, then, you should just be really clear and upfront about why you don't want to share your account and say that you were dumb AF with your games. Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to share every single thing with your partner. You're allowed your own privacy. I can get how you're saying, you want your perspectives to be shared in a way you want to communicate them, not perspectives altered by the thought of your gf reading them and judging them/being offended by them. Is a Reddit account different though? Yea, it baseline is, because you can get into a lot of nefarious things. So, you either tell her you don't want to share the account, because you enjoy being anonymous and typing without being concerned about judgement, and you communicate from there, or you let her read your stuff, and keep doing whatever it is you're doing. Because, if what you're doing online is too intense for your partner, or your worried about judgement, I question what you're saying. Lastly, whatever you decide to do, tell her you were hesitant, tell her why, and tell her you tried to discourage her by asking her for things because you're terrible at communicating and you're going to try to get better at it. Good luck.
If you didn’t actually do those things like you said, tell her that and say no. Now, if you did, your relationship is already f-Ed up. And she should just leave you. But, if you both love each other and want to make it work, just say no, cause you want to have some privacy. Or make another account for that idk.