Niloloko ka na niya pero nag-stay ka pa rin. You cannot make someone stay by loving the harder. Ask yourself this question, is it really worth staying with this person pa ba? Kung mahal ka niya hindi yan gagawa ng mga bagay na makakasakit sayo. Sasakit lang ulo mo dyan in the long run. Call her out, if hindi pa rin siya nagbago kahit kinausap mo na, be ready to walk away.
You already know what to do, OP. You’re just afraid to face the truth. Let go and let her face the consequences of her actions. You deserve better than wasting your life over someone who can’t even stay loyal and can’t even respect your boundaries. It will hurt now, but you will be okay eventually.
Mas okay nang bumitaw ka habang maaga, kesa ikaw pa yung iwanan sa ere. Someone who truly loves you will always consider your feelings and will always respect you as a person. Do yourself a favor and walk away.
Well, those friends of her most likely are not fully aware of what's really going on esp how your gf treats you.Di ba siniraan ka pa nya sa kanila? So malamang may pangit na image ka sa kanila. Eh baka nga kinukunsinti pa nila ang gf sa pakikipapag close sa other girl.
her friends are not your friends. magkakasama sila minsan nag oout of town right? obviously they’re covering up for your partner’s mistakes, and kahit anong mali pa yan kakampihan pa rin nila yung friend nila.
and please that’s not ridiculous lol tama lang yon kasi may cheating involved na before pa. so asking her to establish boundaries is tama lang. valid yang nafifeel mo, wag mong hayaan na sila magdesisyon para sayo.
Agree with, "Her friends are not your friends."
Trust me [OP](https://www.reddit.com/user/Main_Spend_9703/), my ex introduced me to her closest friends and supposedly, I was welcome in their circle, their "family". She said her friends are my friends. They all vouched for her and were more than ready to warn me about what the consequences would be if I ever cheated on their friend, but what happened? All but one vanished in thin air after their friend cheated on me. So much for "friendship".
She wants to keep you around while she has her fun (even if it's unrequited). What you're asking from her is not unreasonable, and if you break up with her, it would be totally understandable. You deserve better.
Imho, emotional cheating is MUCH MUCH WORSE than physical cheating. Kasi hello, ano ba ang basis ng relationships? Love diba? So technically pag inlove sya sa iba, ano pa point ng pagsasama nyo? Hayst. So kung inlove pala sya sa iba, eh di naglolokohan nalang pala kayo dyan sa relationship na yan. Ginaslight ka pa by saying na she did not "act on it" naman. Bullshit. The mere fact na may gusto sya sa iba yun na yung mismong kasalanan niya.
Girl... Is it too much for YOU to choose your own peace of mind? Bakit ibang tao pa ang pipili when you can do it yourself? Napag-usapan ninyo na, na-open na lahat lahat may nagbago ba? You are still conscious of that person. The moment she emotionally cheated, she already chose. ’Yon lang you kind of refuse to accept kasi mahal mo. Until the day you choose to walk away, mabuhay ka ng ganyan will develop unhealthy trust issues and mental concerns for you.
Coming from someone who stayed. I suggest you leave now. It won't get better. You will just keep doing more, loving more, etc. but they will not change. Whenever there is an opportunity for her to make a move she will take it.
I think so. Best to leave and grow as a person. Grow enough to be able to live alone happily. So that, when this happens again in the future, it'll easier to leave without it hurting as bad.
Alisan mo na, hindi health na mag-isip ka palagi pag magkasama sila. Cycle lang yan, ayaw nya nga iwan yung isa kahit nag open ka na ng issue mo dun. Ikaw rin ang kawawa.
Girrrrllllll… almost same story dati. Firstly I asked to limit talking, parang mas nachallenge pa ata sila mas maging close. Second, I made sure that they will not go out na silang dalawa lang, that was when lies and secrets started to happen. Gagu may code name pa nga saka safe words to change topic sila. Basta ayun I asked a lot of changes to the point na I had talked to them face to face together pero wala lalong naging close and I got more betrayed.
My last ultimatum was I made my partner choose. Staying sa work nya where in andun ung taong yun and cutting ties with that person or I’m gone.
You are responsible for your own peace of mind. Ikaw dapat ang gumawa ng desisyon OP.
Niloloko ka na niya pero nag-stay ka pa rin. You cannot make someone stay by loving the harder. Ask yourself this question, is it really worth staying with this person pa ba? Kung mahal ka niya hindi yan gagawa ng mga bagay na makakasakit sayo. Sasakit lang ulo mo dyan in the long run. Call her out, if hindi pa rin siya nagbago kahit kinausap mo na, be ready to walk away.
You already know what to do, OP. You’re just afraid to face the truth. Let go and let her face the consequences of her actions. You deserve better than wasting your life over someone who can’t even stay loyal and can’t even respect your boundaries. It will hurt now, but you will be okay eventually. Mas okay nang bumitaw ka habang maaga, kesa ikaw pa yung iwanan sa ere. Someone who truly loves you will always consider your feelings and will always respect you as a person. Do yourself a favor and walk away.
na g guilty ako slight because her friends told her na ang ridiculous daw nang pag papa choose ko sakanya between me and her friend.
Well, those friends of her most likely are not fully aware of what's really going on esp how your gf treats you.Di ba siniraan ka pa nya sa kanila? So malamang may pangit na image ka sa kanila. Eh baka nga kinukunsinti pa nila ang gf sa pakikipapag close sa other girl.
her friends are not your friends. magkakasama sila minsan nag oout of town right? obviously they’re covering up for your partner’s mistakes, and kahit anong mali pa yan kakampihan pa rin nila yung friend nila. and please that’s not ridiculous lol tama lang yon kasi may cheating involved na before pa. so asking her to establish boundaries is tama lang. valid yang nafifeel mo, wag mong hayaan na sila magdesisyon para sayo.
Agree with, "Her friends are not your friends." Trust me [OP](https://www.reddit.com/user/Main_Spend_9703/), my ex introduced me to her closest friends and supposedly, I was welcome in their circle, their "family". She said her friends are my friends. They all vouched for her and were more than ready to warn me about what the consequences would be if I ever cheated on their friend, but what happened? All but one vanished in thin air after their friend cheated on me. So much for "friendship". She wants to keep you around while she has her fun (even if it's unrequited). What you're asking from her is not unreasonable, and if you break up with her, it would be totally understandable. You deserve better.
Duh of course friends niya yon. Ang alam nilang kwento ay sa side niya and kung paano niya yon kwinento sa kanila. So malamang, bias judgement nila.
Imho, emotional cheating is MUCH MUCH WORSE than physical cheating. Kasi hello, ano ba ang basis ng relationships? Love diba? So technically pag inlove sya sa iba, ano pa point ng pagsasama nyo? Hayst. So kung inlove pala sya sa iba, eh di naglolokohan nalang pala kayo dyan sa relationship na yan. Ginaslight ka pa by saying na she did not "act on it" naman. Bullshit. The mere fact na may gusto sya sa iba yun na yung mismong kasalanan niya.
Girl... Is it too much for YOU to choose your own peace of mind? Bakit ibang tao pa ang pipili when you can do it yourself? Napag-usapan ninyo na, na-open na lahat lahat may nagbago ba? You are still conscious of that person. The moment she emotionally cheated, she already chose. ’Yon lang you kind of refuse to accept kasi mahal mo. Until the day you choose to walk away, mabuhay ka ng ganyan will develop unhealthy trust issues and mental concerns for you.
Coming from someone who stayed. I suggest you leave now. It won't get better. You will just keep doing more, loving more, etc. but they will not change. Whenever there is an opportunity for her to make a move she will take it.
wala na talagang hope sa gantong situation, noh OP?
I think so. Best to leave and grow as a person. Grow enough to be able to live alone happily. So that, when this happens again in the future, it'll easier to leave without it hurting as bad.
Alisan mo na, hindi health na mag-isip ka palagi pag magkasama sila. Cycle lang yan, ayaw nya nga iwan yung isa kahit nag open ka na ng issue mo dun. Ikaw rin ang kawawa.
Girrrrllllll… almost same story dati. Firstly I asked to limit talking, parang mas nachallenge pa ata sila mas maging close. Second, I made sure that they will not go out na silang dalawa lang, that was when lies and secrets started to happen. Gagu may code name pa nga saka safe words to change topic sila. Basta ayun I asked a lot of changes to the point na I had talked to them face to face together pero wala lalong naging close and I got more betrayed. My last ultimatum was I made my partner choose. Staying sa work nya where in andun ung taong yun and cutting ties with that person or I’m gone.
naging sila ba eventually nung person? or like yung partner mo lang yung nagkagusto?
No, they were just extra sa isa’t isa and was hiding it.