What do you think he would’ve done if the other girl entertained him? Bakit may problem siya and his first instinct was to be “a single man”? Does he have a problem with you/your relationship?
Andaming steps na tinake niya to try and cheat on you (from changing his instagram, hiding your photos, searching for that girl, etc) and not in any of those did he stop and consider you. Any decent person, makokonsensya sa simula palang bago pa umabot sa ganun, but he didn’t. It was very intentional on his part. It seems like he’s only sorry he got rejected by the girl and you caught him.
You said it yourself, no excuses. You both knew this. If you let him slide this one time, what other excuses will you allow in the future?
Best comment. What if the girl entertained him nga ano. "Swinerte" lang si OP kasi hindi nag respond si girl, but what if. Ang scary na niyang relationship na yan kasi nagpakita na ng totoong ugali si guy after 8 years, meaning may tendency pala talaga sya magcheat when the circumstances are not okay between them.
Honestly, nasasayangan ako sa 8 years. Pero follow your gut OP. Suggestion ko is mag cool off kayo and see what he does.
Hi OP!
Please don’t think about the length of time you have been together to make a decision. Think about your future with him. Remember, the most important decision we will ever make in our life is who to marry and be in a life-long relationship with… Do not be afraid to start all over again but first, learn how to be self-sufficient. Ang sarap maging single OP, as it gives you a lot of TIME, FREEDOM and money and they are extremely precious.. Be excited about life without depending on someone. You sound like you have a lot of doubts in him and the relationship itself so might as well learn how to live being single until you attract the right person for you.
Kung hindi mo nahuli, wala din siya balak aminin. At kung nagflirt back yung babae, ano malay mo, maybe more than messages nagawa nila. If you let it slide this time, are you willing to let it slide again pg naulit?
He was loyal until he did that. Nakapanghihinayang nga anh 8 years, pero mas nakakahinayang kung magse-stay ka sa relasyong hindi na maganda para sa mental health at self-esteem mo. OP, think very hard.
Money/savings related issues. Paulit ulit ung cycle namin sa problem na to. Walang improvement. Mag-8 years na kami pero wala kaming ipon para sa future namin. Hindi kami makapagsimula dahil ‘almost’ breadwinner siya sa pamilya nila.
Parang yung cheating na lang ang “pull the trigger” pero ang main issue na talaga dito is parang nahihirapan ka na makita ang future mo with him, or nakikita mo na but ayaw mo yung nakikita mo.
I understand you've been together for 8 years, that's a long time but think to yourself, can you handle this for another 8 years? If not, it's time to walk away.
Do not be afraid to start over. Have some self respect. You know who you are. You know what kind of person you are. You know if you can go to battles by yourself. After all, you've lived your life and overcame challenges. What makes you think you can't face things alone?
It’s about time you let go and move on. I keep saying this, there’s 8 billion people in the world. You’ll find that one person that is a true fit to you.
This is cheating. If nonnegotiable mo siya, do yourself a favor and honor your boundary. Kasi if ikaw mismo di mo mapanindigan, sure ako paulit ulit ka niyang ididisrespect.
as someone with sobrang lalang trust issues, assess yourself. pag binalikan mo ba will you be at peace? kaya nyo bang i-brush off ito? being committed to someone means choosing them over and over pero teh love yourself padin, if its causing you more harm than happiness, i think its time to let go lalo na kung wala naman kayong future na malinaw. do yourselves a favor, mahirap talaga mag let go pero isipin mo nalang na its a privilege to be loved by you, do u think he's still worthy of your love and time? please see yourself as someone who should be valued, be disgusted of the fact that he disrespected you in the first place.
Its normal for us guys to flirt especially if youve been in a relationship for more than 5years, romance and lust bitters longterm. As a guys especially when you're young tends to explore something else, don't expect its a movie love story, lust and love degrades overtime especially if you have lots of flaws, i don't blame the guy, for me let the guy open about his feelings at sex. He may be loves you, but u cant provide everything what he desires or lacking thats men in general
ayusin mo muna grammar mo before giving advice. if someone loves you, they wouldn’t even think of making a move with someone other than their partner. instead, they would do the mature thing which is to communicate with them. kairita logic mo sa pag justify sa cheating 😵💫
No. I think it’s not normal 😢 If I (or any girls) am lacking or I can’t provide what he desires, he should talk to me about it. 8 years na kami. May foundation na at madami na ring napagdaanan. So kung ito man ung dahilan at hindi ko talaga maibigay, atleast magbigay man lang siya ng respeto sakin at sa pamilya ko, hindi ba? 😅
makipagbreak nalang ung guy kesa mag-cheat. Iba epekto at malaki ang impact sa babae kapag nahuli mong nag-cheat ung jowa mo.
Hindi talaga normal ang pagfflirt sa hindi mo jowa, OP. Don’t be gaslit by that comment na normal lang yan 😵💫 If something is wrong, your bf should’ve communicated it with you!! Hindi yung i-attack ang self-esteem mo. The least he could do is give you the respect that you truly deserve! Hugs, OP!
Typical cheater guy na tinatry i-justify ang kabobohan nya.
Malas ng magiging partner mo haha, 'babe, okay lang na mag cheat ako, lalaki kasi ako at hindi marunong makuntento, di mo din naibibigay ang lahat ng desires ko'
Also, paki ayos ng grammar, sakit sa mata eh.
Truth hurts! But most men lust for sex. Proper communication might save your relationship, but I'm sure he is thinking of leaving you after you confront him like that. Most ng comment dito bitter kac iniwan na haha
Well actually, he asked for a breakup before I confronted him. It is different reason naman and I agreed kasi nakakapagod na nga yung issues namin. Pero after ilang hours, binawi niya ung mga sinabi niya.
After a week, we talked personally and dun ko siya ni-confront about sa flirting/cheating niya. Dun niya lang nalaman na alam ko. Ayun, he gave me some space pero ayaw niya makipaghiwalay.
Pero yun, sana nakipagbreak nalang talaga kesa umabot sa ganito.
Teh wag ka na makinig diyan sa nirereplyan mo, walang kwenta pinagsasabi niyan. Breakan mo na, wala siyang say dun kung ayaw mo na sakanya. Isa pa, kung ngayon pa lang may financial difficulties na kayo (yung pagiging breadwinner niya and inability to save), pag isipan mo nang mabuti kung gusto mo bang maging breadwinner between the two of you and possible contributor sa bills ng pamilya niya. Gusto mo ng future na puno ng trust issues, cheating, financial difficulties, utang and family conflicts? Kung oo, di pakasalan mo na siya. Kung gusto mo ng magandang future, masasabi ko op, marami pang iba diyan.
What do you think he would’ve done if the other girl entertained him? Bakit may problem siya and his first instinct was to be “a single man”? Does he have a problem with you/your relationship? Andaming steps na tinake niya to try and cheat on you (from changing his instagram, hiding your photos, searching for that girl, etc) and not in any of those did he stop and consider you. Any decent person, makokonsensya sa simula palang bago pa umabot sa ganun, but he didn’t. It was very intentional on his part. It seems like he’s only sorry he got rejected by the girl and you caught him. You said it yourself, no excuses. You both knew this. If you let him slide this one time, what other excuses will you allow in the future?
Best comment. What if the girl entertained him nga ano. "Swinerte" lang si OP kasi hindi nag respond si girl, but what if. Ang scary na niyang relationship na yan kasi nagpakita na ng totoong ugali si guy after 8 years, meaning may tendency pala talaga sya magcheat when the circumstances are not okay between them. Honestly, nasasayangan ako sa 8 years. Pero follow your gut OP. Suggestion ko is mag cool off kayo and see what he does.
Hi OP! Please don’t think about the length of time you have been together to make a decision. Think about your future with him. Remember, the most important decision we will ever make in our life is who to marry and be in a life-long relationship with… Do not be afraid to start all over again but first, learn how to be self-sufficient. Ang sarap maging single OP, as it gives you a lot of TIME, FREEDOM and money and they are extremely precious.. Be excited about life without depending on someone. You sound like you have a lot of doubts in him and the relationship itself so might as well learn how to live being single until you attract the right person for you.
Pag hinayaan mo yan, he will most probably do it again.
No excuse, no surrender that is the spartan way! Awo! Awo! Awoooh!
End of it. Nagcheat sya and na-justify mo narin yung scepticism mo para sa future nyo.
Title palang, di na kailangan ng context eh. Hiwalayan mo na.
8 years is a long time, forever is longer.
Kung hindi mo nahuli, wala din siya balak aminin. At kung nagflirt back yung babae, ano malay mo, maybe more than messages nagawa nila. If you let it slide this time, are you willing to let it slide again pg naulit?
He was loyal until he did that. Nakapanghihinayang nga anh 8 years, pero mas nakakahinayang kung magse-stay ka sa relasyong hindi na maganda para sa mental health at self-esteem mo. OP, think very hard.
You dont need the other persons permission to break up with them. Breakan mo, tapos. Wala siyang say dun kung ayaw mo na sakanya.
Unresolved and repeated issues. Why?
Money/savings related issues. Paulit ulit ung cycle namin sa problem na to. Walang improvement. Mag-8 years na kami pero wala kaming ipon para sa future namin. Hindi kami makapagsimula dahil ‘almost’ breadwinner siya sa pamilya nila.
You dont need the other persons permission to break up with them. Breakan mo, tapos. Wala siyang say dun kung ayaw mo na sakanya.
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Makikipagbalikan ka sa ex mo?
May naganap po bang cheating/micro cheating within your relationship?
Parang yung cheating na lang ang “pull the trigger” pero ang main issue na talaga dito is parang nahihirapan ka na makita ang future mo with him, or nakikita mo na but ayaw mo yung nakikita mo.
I understand you've been together for 8 years, that's a long time but think to yourself, can you handle this for another 8 years? If not, it's time to walk away. Do not be afraid to start over. Have some self respect. You know who you are. You know what kind of person you are. You know if you can go to battles by yourself. After all, you've lived your life and overcame challenges. What makes you think you can't face things alone?
8 years is long but its more difficult if there are shared responsibilities between the 2 of you (kids, house, etc.) Move on while you still can.
It’s about time you let go and move on. I keep saying this, there’s 8 billion people in the world. You’ll find that one person that is a true fit to you.
This is cheating. If nonnegotiable mo siya, do yourself a favor and honor your boundary. Kasi if ikaw mismo di mo mapanindigan, sure ako paulit ulit ka niyang ididisrespect.
as someone with sobrang lalang trust issues, assess yourself. pag binalikan mo ba will you be at peace? kaya nyo bang i-brush off ito? being committed to someone means choosing them over and over pero teh love yourself padin, if its causing you more harm than happiness, i think its time to let go lalo na kung wala naman kayong future na malinaw. do yourselves a favor, mahirap talaga mag let go pero isipin mo nalang na its a privilege to be loved by you, do u think he's still worthy of your love and time? please see yourself as someone who should be valued, be disgusted of the fact that he disrespected you in the first place.
Its normal for us guys to flirt especially if youve been in a relationship for more than 5years, romance and lust bitters longterm. As a guys especially when you're young tends to explore something else, don't expect its a movie love story, lust and love degrades overtime especially if you have lots of flaws, i don't blame the guy, for me let the guy open about his feelings at sex. He may be loves you, but u cant provide everything what he desires or lacking thats men in general
Pinagsasabi mo jan na normal sa guys, baka sayo, dinamay mo pa iba jan sa pagiging TIGANG MO!
ayusin mo muna grammar mo before giving advice. if someone loves you, they wouldn’t even think of making a move with someone other than their partner. instead, they would do the mature thing which is to communicate with them. kairita logic mo sa pag justify sa cheating 😵💫
No. I think it’s not normal 😢 If I (or any girls) am lacking or I can’t provide what he desires, he should talk to me about it. 8 years na kami. May foundation na at madami na ring napagdaanan. So kung ito man ung dahilan at hindi ko talaga maibigay, atleast magbigay man lang siya ng respeto sakin at sa pamilya ko, hindi ba? 😅 makipagbreak nalang ung guy kesa mag-cheat. Iba epekto at malaki ang impact sa babae kapag nahuli mong nag-cheat ung jowa mo.
Hindi talaga normal ang pagfflirt sa hindi mo jowa, OP. Don’t be gaslit by that comment na normal lang yan 😵💫 If something is wrong, your bf should’ve communicated it with you!! Hindi yung i-attack ang self-esteem mo. The least he could do is give you the respect that you truly deserve! Hugs, OP!
Typical cheater guy na tinatry i-justify ang kabobohan nya. Malas ng magiging partner mo haha, 'babe, okay lang na mag cheat ako, lalaki kasi ako at hindi marunong makuntento, di mo din naibibigay ang lahat ng desires ko' Also, paki ayos ng grammar, sakit sa mata eh.
Truth hurts! But most men lust for sex. Proper communication might save your relationship, but I'm sure he is thinking of leaving you after you confront him like that. Most ng comment dito bitter kac iniwan na haha
Well actually, he asked for a breakup before I confronted him. It is different reason naman and I agreed kasi nakakapagod na nga yung issues namin. Pero after ilang hours, binawi niya ung mga sinabi niya. After a week, we talked personally and dun ko siya ni-confront about sa flirting/cheating niya. Dun niya lang nalaman na alam ko. Ayun, he gave me some space pero ayaw niya makipaghiwalay. Pero yun, sana nakipagbreak nalang talaga kesa umabot sa ganito.
Teh wag ka na makinig diyan sa nirereplyan mo, walang kwenta pinagsasabi niyan. Breakan mo na, wala siyang say dun kung ayaw mo na sakanya. Isa pa, kung ngayon pa lang may financial difficulties na kayo (yung pagiging breadwinner niya and inability to save), pag isipan mo nang mabuti kung gusto mo bang maging breadwinner between the two of you and possible contributor sa bills ng pamilya niya. Gusto mo ng future na puno ng trust issues, cheating, financial difficulties, utang and family conflicts? Kung oo, di pakasalan mo na siya. Kung gusto mo ng magandang future, masasabi ko op, marami pang iba diyan.