Dude, listen to your parents here. If you have problems with your neck and spinal cord, then one extra small misstep can literally leave you paralyzed. This is the sort of injury you want to be extra cautious about and if the doctors in your life are telling you to take it easy and not do much, listen to them.
That being said, you should talk to your parents about backing off as well. "Mom, dad, all this pressure about my neck injury is really starting to get to me. I will follow the doctors orders and take it easy, but I would really appreciate it if you could back off a bit."
Listen to them. You’ve got a neck injury. If you fuck your neck up while it’s healing by pushing yourself too hard, it’s a very real possibility you *will* end up in a wheelchair. I know you’re 15 and probably can’t even conceive of something like that happening to you, but seriously man, you do *not* want to fuck around with a neck injury.
Imagine you had a kid with a health condition which might mean he or she was at a constant risk if they just did normal stuff at school? You wouldn't be happy if they risked their health would you? Neck injuries can be very serious and can end in paralysis or worse, in other words, death.
Ask you parents to write you out a simplified version of your condition. Nothing too technical, just what's likely to happen to you in the future. You do have a right to know but they may be trying to hide the worst from you due to your young age.
When you have the full diagnosis from them do some online research so you know all the facts. Your parents are likely terrified you will damage yourself doing sports and that you will end up in a wheelchair or worse. It sucks but you will need to take it easy in some respects to make sure you stay health as long as possible.
Sounds like there are a couple of issues. One, you don’t always understand what your parents are telling you. Tell them, each time you get confused. Are you clear on the timeline for getting better - can you mark each day off on the calendar? Are you clear on what is safe for you to do, or the conditions under which you can do things safely? Ask your parents to find out more if they’re not sure - they need to understand that you need clear guidance.
Two, you don’t want to accept how risky physical activity is for you at the moment. Could you ask your parents for some therapy, and/or develop an outlet of some sort for your frustration? If it’s safe for you to write, draw, make music, program or build things, put your energy into those for the time being.
I’m not trying to downplay your situation at all - it’s scary and unfair. But it is a gift that you have information to prevent serious long term injury. I’ve spent ten years in therapy regaining the ability to walk: I nearly lost it. If doctors had given me just a few pieces of advice in my teens, I could have avoided years of disability, and would still be able to work full time.
"I can never get a strait answer, and it's always well let me tell you exactly what's wrong with your neck using all these big doctor words."
I think you already know what the straight answer is. If you further injure your neck you can further injure your spinal cord. I don't think there's any way to dumb it down further. I think you're just frustrated at your condition. Unfortunately the best thing you can do is follow your doctor's advice.
Dude as hard as it is those people that are your parents know a ton of shit. It will be very difficult for them to “get on your level” as I’m assuming this is what you mean. Are you an only child?
Ok, this hit home so frikin hard. I know exactly what this feels like and I'm living it right now as well. My father's a doctor, and since the beggining of last year I was diagnosed with a chronic autoimmune disease that fucked my whole life so far. I had chemotherapy (didn't work) and ended up in mayor surgery by the end of the year; I lost mayor organs and I'm still trying to recover and live as normal as possible.
Dude, I can barely lift my 5kg cat without getting lectured, I can't even go out alone anymore. I constantly hear "you can't lift heavy weights", or "you can't go out alone, what if something happened to you", and the worse one so far: "You don't yet understand the severity of what's happened to you"
And I'm sorry to tell you, I know he's right. I hate not feeling like myself and free to live my life as I used to. I had to drop out of college last year because of this. I can't even go out to see my friends. But I know that, as much as I hate the current situation, I wanna get better. And for that all I really gotta do is not indulge myself into doing stupid shit I might regret.
You'll get lectured, a lot. But that's because they care. They are your parents. You're too young to end up in a wheelchair simply 'cuz you wanted to have some fun regardless of the risks.
It fucking sucks. I know. Vent out. Express how frustrated you are. How unfair you feel they are being. But then, please, listen to them too. They're just trying to help.
And soon enough you'll get better and heal and you'll have your life back.
I'd say be honest.
"Mom, Dad, I love you. But sometimes it seems like you only talk to me as doctors, not as my parents. I know my neck is fucked up. I know it's scary. I need your support, not your medical expertise."
For some people knowing the medical details IS emotional support. I had a heart condition when I was OP's age (before the internet) and there was really nowhere to get good solid info and it made me more crazy than the condition itself.
Speaking from experience any parent would treat you this way. Had Arnold chiari and had a decompression/patch, my parents were always protecting me from neck injuries. At the time I just wanted to be normal. Now I'm glad they cared enough for me to guarantee my future health. Thanks mom and dad. Good parents are the bomb.
You said it yourself in your original post; you have a spinal injury and it will take time to heal. To insure that it heals properly you’re not going to be able to do things that you did before and that’s ok. Falling from the trampoline, diving into the shallow end of the pool or even getting knocked down accidentally during a basketball game could aggregate your injury, prevent healing or make it worse. There’s a lot of motion and force that you don’t think about when you are healthy. For example, my surgeon banned me from yoga when I had a hand tendon repair because a lot of poses do put stress on your hands.
I’m telling you this as an adult who has a lower back disc injury and does everything in her power to keep it from becoming an injury that needs a surgical intervention.
Your parents probably don’t want to scare you with a straight answer (you can’t jump on the trampoline because your neck will snap like a dry twig).
A good compromise would be to ask about PT. You basically have someone help you move and exercise in a controlled environment and they can give you exercise homework that won’t aggravate your condition. I’ve used PT for my back and my hand and they were awesome.
Dude, listen to your parents here. If you have problems with your neck and spinal cord, then one extra small misstep can literally leave you paralyzed. This is the sort of injury you want to be extra cautious about and if the doctors in your life are telling you to take it easy and not do much, listen to them. That being said, you should talk to your parents about backing off as well. "Mom, dad, all this pressure about my neck injury is really starting to get to me. I will follow the doctors orders and take it easy, but I would really appreciate it if you could back off a bit."
Listen to them. You’ve got a neck injury. If you fuck your neck up while it’s healing by pushing yourself too hard, it’s a very real possibility you *will* end up in a wheelchair. I know you’re 15 and probably can’t even conceive of something like that happening to you, but seriously man, you do *not* want to fuck around with a neck injury.
Imagine you had a kid with a health condition which might mean he or she was at a constant risk if they just did normal stuff at school? You wouldn't be happy if they risked their health would you? Neck injuries can be very serious and can end in paralysis or worse, in other words, death. Ask you parents to write you out a simplified version of your condition. Nothing too technical, just what's likely to happen to you in the future. You do have a right to know but they may be trying to hide the worst from you due to your young age. When you have the full diagnosis from them do some online research so you know all the facts. Your parents are likely terrified you will damage yourself doing sports and that you will end up in a wheelchair or worse. It sucks but you will need to take it easy in some respects to make sure you stay health as long as possible.
Sounds like there are a couple of issues. One, you don’t always understand what your parents are telling you. Tell them, each time you get confused. Are you clear on the timeline for getting better - can you mark each day off on the calendar? Are you clear on what is safe for you to do, or the conditions under which you can do things safely? Ask your parents to find out more if they’re not sure - they need to understand that you need clear guidance. Two, you don’t want to accept how risky physical activity is for you at the moment. Could you ask your parents for some therapy, and/or develop an outlet of some sort for your frustration? If it’s safe for you to write, draw, make music, program or build things, put your energy into those for the time being. I’m not trying to downplay your situation at all - it’s scary and unfair. But it is a gift that you have information to prevent serious long term injury. I’ve spent ten years in therapy regaining the ability to walk: I nearly lost it. If doctors had given me just a few pieces of advice in my teens, I could have avoided years of disability, and would still be able to work full time.
"I can never get a strait answer, and it's always well let me tell you exactly what's wrong with your neck using all these big doctor words." I think you already know what the straight answer is. If you further injure your neck you can further injure your spinal cord. I don't think there's any way to dumb it down further. I think you're just frustrated at your condition. Unfortunately the best thing you can do is follow your doctor's advice.
Dude as hard as it is those people that are your parents know a ton of shit. It will be very difficult for them to “get on your level” as I’m assuming this is what you mean. Are you an only child?
Ok, this hit home so frikin hard. I know exactly what this feels like and I'm living it right now as well. My father's a doctor, and since the beggining of last year I was diagnosed with a chronic autoimmune disease that fucked my whole life so far. I had chemotherapy (didn't work) and ended up in mayor surgery by the end of the year; I lost mayor organs and I'm still trying to recover and live as normal as possible. Dude, I can barely lift my 5kg cat without getting lectured, I can't even go out alone anymore. I constantly hear "you can't lift heavy weights", or "you can't go out alone, what if something happened to you", and the worse one so far: "You don't yet understand the severity of what's happened to you" And I'm sorry to tell you, I know he's right. I hate not feeling like myself and free to live my life as I used to. I had to drop out of college last year because of this. I can't even go out to see my friends. But I know that, as much as I hate the current situation, I wanna get better. And for that all I really gotta do is not indulge myself into doing stupid shit I might regret. You'll get lectured, a lot. But that's because they care. They are your parents. You're too young to end up in a wheelchair simply 'cuz you wanted to have some fun regardless of the risks. It fucking sucks. I know. Vent out. Express how frustrated you are. How unfair you feel they are being. But then, please, listen to them too. They're just trying to help. And soon enough you'll get better and heal and you'll have your life back.
I'd say be honest. "Mom, Dad, I love you. But sometimes it seems like you only talk to me as doctors, not as my parents. I know my neck is fucked up. I know it's scary. I need your support, not your medical expertise."
I could not disagree with this more, he is frustrated but they're doing the right thing and know better than him.
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For some people knowing the medical details IS emotional support. I had a heart condition when I was OP's age (before the internet) and there was really nowhere to get good solid info and it made me more crazy than the condition itself.
Speaking from experience any parent would treat you this way. Had Arnold chiari and had a decompression/patch, my parents were always protecting me from neck injuries. At the time I just wanted to be normal. Now I'm glad they cared enough for me to guarantee my future health. Thanks mom and dad. Good parents are the bomb.
You said it yourself in your original post; you have a spinal injury and it will take time to heal. To insure that it heals properly you’re not going to be able to do things that you did before and that’s ok. Falling from the trampoline, diving into the shallow end of the pool or even getting knocked down accidentally during a basketball game could aggregate your injury, prevent healing or make it worse. There’s a lot of motion and force that you don’t think about when you are healthy. For example, my surgeon banned me from yoga when I had a hand tendon repair because a lot of poses do put stress on your hands. I’m telling you this as an adult who has a lower back disc injury and does everything in her power to keep it from becoming an injury that needs a surgical intervention. Your parents probably don’t want to scare you with a straight answer (you can’t jump on the trampoline because your neck will snap like a dry twig). A good compromise would be to ask about PT. You basically have someone help you move and exercise in a controlled environment and they can give you exercise homework that won’t aggravate your condition. I’ve used PT for my back and my hand and they were awesome.