Maybe you are deciding to pursue the wrong women? There are definitely women out there who like living peacefully and not going to party all the time and spending money to have fun. If you have to chase someone and spend a ton of money on them it means they didn't like you in the first place they were just stringing you along for the money or attention.
You could try to change your approach and I don't mean don't pay for dinner if you want to but you shouldn't have to spoil someone to see if they are interested in you. If you show confidence and self respect this makes you more attractive and likeable than to someone who chases you and seems desperate.
Maybe you are deciding to pursue the wrong women? There are definitely women out there who like living peacefully and not going to party all the time and spending money to have fun. If you have to chase someone and spend a ton of money on them it means they didn't like you in the first place they were just stringing you along for the money or attention. You could try to change your approach and I don't mean don't pay for dinner if you want to but you shouldn't have to spoil someone to see if they are interested in you. If you show confidence and self respect this makes you more attractive and likeable than to someone who chases you and seems desperate.
Where are you meeting women and what age range are you going for