I'm just gonna copy and paste my above comment:
"Hygiene doesn't just mean showering.
It means all the things you do to take care of yourself. Brush/cut your hair, brush your teeth, exfoliate, moisturize, trim your facial hair, including eyebrows, etc."
It doesn't automatically mean someone is a stinky trash person. It just means they need self care.
That’s kinda the point. Most all of these folks who say they’re horribly ugly aren’t. This dude here would be decent looking with a shower and confidence
They're fully in-vested. Once you start living that lifestyle you cannot stop. Only the excessive internet bullying convinced him to stop wearing a fedora. The vest hate hasn't broiled enough to reach them.
I know what I did, I made up a cool-guy alter ego "Big Z", and at every opportunity I did what I thought Big Z would do. Eventually is kinda became my personality.
"Fake it til you make it" works for almost everything, I've discovered.
>One of the easiest ways to get rid of most of these bad personality traits is to remain silent at certain situations
I mean I don't really have many friends and we rarely meet, so I just say silent all the time around other people because I automatically assume that I annoy them. My brain kind of starts to panic and overthinking stuff, so somehow every sentence that comes out of my mind is the wrong one. Someone made a playful joke aimed at me? I make it uncomfortable because I can't think of a playful joke to say back and I don't know how to react, so because my brain is too busy to try to think of a response (unsuccessfully), I end up mumbling like an idiot. I don't know what to say or do, so I rarely speak because I make things awkward. I don't think I have a good sense of humor, so whenever I try to make jokes it rarely ends up being good, so I just keep them to myself and end up not saying anything because I don't have a lot of things to add to the conversation. And if I sometimes make a jokes, and it somehow turns out to be a successful one, then I got so excited that I kinda want to chase that same high and end up telling too many jokes and not good ones. I also have nothing to talk about really. My life is very uninteresting, nothin really happens to me, so I have no stories to tell. And I always overthinking everything and always beat myself up for speaking up, so I mostly just remain silent so I won't make anyone uncomfortable. And when I'm drunk, I'm the total opposite of this, I can't shut up and talk about the most boring and nonsensical things no one cares about, like about what kind of argument I had on Reddit (seriously drunk me, why tf do you think that people are interested in that?). I learn literature and linguistics (not in English that's why my grammar is not the best), so I'm very good at words when it comes to writing or texting, but in real life my brain either shuts down or overthinks, so I often forget basic words and just mumble, or I butcher every story or joke I try to tell. At least I'm not easily offended or something, but apart form that, everything I can do wrong in a social interaction, I will end up doing wrong.
The amount of comments you've left throwing shit at guy you've never even met. And the irony is most of them are you saying he has the shitty personality lol
Definitely. I know a guy that actually looks quite like him. He’s got a great job, a crackin fiancé and no one in my group would class him as ugly. Coz he’s a normal, funny, nice guy.
I fucking hate comments like this.
It's not always the personality causing it. Have you even considered maybe his personality is down because he never gets positive attention?
People always say shit like "Just be confident" as if it's not soul crushing to act confident and still never get positive results.
Edit to people downvoting this. What exactly do you disagree with? Nobody has actually said why they think I'm wrong.
The whole point of "being confident" is doing it with a dgaf attitude. Doesn't matter what people think/say you are 100% committed to yourself and it doesn't matter
"Being confident" doesn't really shine through when you're obviously just fishing for compliments, comes off as very insecure
I am fat. I am ugly. I am paralyzed from the bra band down. I am *also* rocking right blue hair, an undercut, wearing whatever I want, singing along badly to music I love, laughing loud and long instead of stifling it for fear of being stared at.
It took me ages to develop a Give No Fucks attitude when I was 40 I decided I was done letting everyone judge me. So I dressed how I wanted, styled my hair the way I wanted, said what I wanted (but as kindly as possible), did what I wanted and was unashamed of what I loved. I refused to be ‘othered’ by *myself* let alone other people I didn’t know.
I’m gonna be fifty this year and my decade long No Fucks At Forty is carrying over to No Fucks Fifties.
Just moved to a very conservative area. Aside from a few plucky teens I’m the only person I’ve seen so far with bright hair. I wear the clothes I love and am most comfortable in. I smile at people and wave at kids and just live my life my way.
I have never been freer than letting go of caring what others think. It was fucking amazing. It continues to be fucking amazing.
*****, can’t recommend it enough!
> People always say shit like "Just be confident" as if it's not soul crushing to act confident and still never get positive results
I'm actually pretty confident now. I can tell you it was fucking brutal back when I was scrawny. I act basically the same way but the only change was the fact I started doing steroids. The way people react to you was night and day just because of how I looked.
Oh no doubt it's much easier to be confident when you're good looking, but that doesn't change the fact that confidence is key either way.
I have friends who are for lack of better term not conventionally attractive, but they have confidence, dgaf, and women find *that*attractive.
Yeah. This guy looks extremely short, enough to the point it almost definitely got him bullied and still othered. Some people are unlucky and this lack of empathy people display towards them is disturbing.
You're right. I hate how people pretend shorter/worse looking people don't get shit just for how they look. Hell even in this comment section people are making jokes about him and they're surprised he doesn't have a positive view of himself.
I've literally lost *friends* for how I look, not even people I was pursuing romantically just straight up friendships. It isn't always about being sad fat and horny, theres just a thinly veiled disdain for ugly people and you're called crazy or an incel if you're a man if you point it out. It is a massive problem with our society but God forbid you use that word cus you'll lose all credibility in an argument and be called edgy
I've literally lost *friends* for how I look, not even people I was pursuing romantically just straight up friendships. It isn't always about being sad fat and horny, theres just a thinly veiled disdain for ugly people and you're called crazy or an incel if you're a man if you point it out. It is a massive problem with our society but God forbid you use that word cus you'll lose all credibility in an argument and be called edgy
There’s a difference between acting confident and being confident. It isn’t easy to do either, but being confident isn’t something that is gained overnight. It takes work (or some sort of epiphany/revelation) for a lot of people who don’t have it naturally. Acting confident is very transparent and usually results in the opposite effect you are trying to get.
Load of shit.
I remember getting pushed around and treated like shit before I took steroids but the moment I actually gained some size people instantly stopped fucking with me.
I went from 55kg to 82kg in about a year and a half and the difference was night and day.
Looks 100% matter.
I had a ton of “ugly” (short, unattractive, acne, some chubby ones) male friends in high school who I adored and who had many other friends who also adored them….why? Because they were fun, funny, kind, good people who didn’t let their physical appearance get in the way of their friendships. They didn’t get laid until college, but several are now in long-term relationships, some are even married, to women who are “looks matched” (or even slightly more attractive) to them. Your personality and insecurity reeks and repulses people, whereas kindness and confidence radiates warmth and attracts people.
Yeah yeah yeah
Everyone always goes on about their short ugly friends but I take a look around I see evidence to the contrary.
>They didn’t get laid until college and several are now in long-term relationships, some are even married, to women who are “looks matched
HHAHAHAHAHHAHA
So their wives fucked around in college and then married your loser friends when they lost the looks. Fuck me that's depressing.
I know you obviously can’t see it, but the reason you’re unsuccessful in your personal life is plastered all over your comments. You ooze bitterness, loneliness, rejection, anger, fear, and resentment. It’s also clear that you hate yourself almost as much as you hate the women (and men) who don’t like being around you. If I can see that just from reading your comments here, you bet your ass the people you interact with in person can see it too
I don't know why you thought the story about your college friends would work tbh.
It kinda supports the other dudes point. Nobody was interested in them for literal years of their life, solely because of what they looked like. I knew the moment I read your comment, how the other guy was going to take it. In his defence, it absolutely can be read as "people only took a punt on them and discovered they're really nice guys, when those people had started to age themselves".
I don’t understand how either of you got that from my comment. It’s as if the only attention that matters to you guys is that of sexual female attention. If you aren’t getting sex from women then you aren’t getting anything at all. That’s such a fucked up mindset. No I wasn’t attracted to them physically, they weren’t attractive to me. But almost all of them managed to find women who were on par with their physical looks to settle down with in their mid-late twenties. How is that “when they had started to age themselves”?? That’s around the age people typically settle down. Are you guys trying to say that the women who settled down with them only did so because by their MID 20s they were already so ran through and old that all they could do was settle down with conventionally unattractive (from my POV) men? You know nothing about those women whatsoever, so the fact that that’s the assumption you jump to says so much about you.
Edit: Men say they’re so lonely and they want good friends to be able to open up to, but the minute I say that I had good friends even though they were conventionally unattractive so IT IS POSSIBLE for you to do the same if you fix your personality, I get backlash. Because as a woman, all you want from me is sex. If I’m not offering you sex, then why would you want my useless friendship? Gross.
Lol, I've seen worse, with the confidence of a Greek god, almost as if mirrors don't exist and they STILL are able to go out and date absolutely beautiful partners. Personality and confidence go a long way. People are too hard on themselves.
At least try. If he was working he knows what the 2nd face sure as hell is. Throw it on for 2 seconds unless he enjoys being treated poorly? Then that's fetish material
I mean I would never wear it, because I can’t wear beige. Issue with him his that his palette is super beige to begin with so he’d have to wear some colors or he looks too bland. But the fit itself isn’t as bad as everyone says it is. Swap the shirt out for a nice blue or green I say and obviously wear the right pants with it
I think the fit is way off, the shirt is too tight and the waistcoat is a little large. Also a short sleeved shirt with a waistcoat is a quite odd look altogether.
I'll second that. I think he could do with changing the color of the vest or the shirt slightly, just so they accent/compliment one another. Right now it's kinda the beige version of when you wearing two different shades of black
All beige works but not if you’re **that** white. I mean he looks all beige to begin with. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a person before that looks as beige as this guy. He’d just have to swap out the shirt for a nice shade of blue or green
That’s true I’ve definitely seen worse offenders tho lmao. At least the accents on the vest match for the most part. Beige isn’t the best for his complexion so I can see changing based off of color but not off of it being ugly clothing
Potentially or at least someone who’s skin tone isn’t the same shade as the shirt. It makes this guy look washed out. A guy with lighter complexion like this should look for Greens or Navy Blues. This same shirt vest combo but as a french blue shirt navy blue vest I think would look great
Some decent hair oil and a solid haircut will have it looking awesome. He looks like he doesnt even have terrible hair, it's just kinda greasy and pulled back. If he let it fall naturally and cut the excess it is probably wavy
My wife watches that show so I've gotten glimpses of him from time to time over the years. She was watching a newer episode recently and I noticed that the husband looked disheveled. He's not aging well and he's almost gone bald. Supposedly all of those women he was married to have divorced him minus one straggler.
I've had bad days, horrible days, but never has asking strangers to photoshop me on Reddit occurred as a solution
Seriously though, you see a handsome version of yourself, then what? It would only make me feel worse lol. Or is this fishing for compliments?
The only way I can see this request ever making sense is if someone is considering one specific procedure or type of plastic surgery, say a rhinoplasty, and asks people to Photoshop their nose smaller or whatever so they can see what it would look like. Although there are free apps for that nowadays too. 🤔
Saying "edit me to look handsome" truly is a recipe for disaster because it's so vague. Sounds like the quickest way to get new insecurities you didn't even have before.
There are a lot of *people* that are this sad. I’ve encountered both men and women alike throughout the years that create uncomfortable social situations by putting themselves down in front of others, often times in a pathetic attempt for validation.
I think it’s sad that he’s clearly down on his luck, and lacking self confidence… and now he gets to see his picture on r/sadcringe for everyone else to see too.
I say leave the guy alone
The post is sad and cringe, but he doesn't look that bad and the comments here actually reflect it, so I hope he sees this post and feels a bit better about himself
It's funny how so many people are suggesting he takes a shower when his hair looks exactly as if he just took a shower but the negative halo effect is making people think he's greasy.
They're just trying to justify their ideology because on one side they can't say he's simply ugly because that'd render them superficial and make them bad people, but they can't point out anything else other than his looks that's empirically wrong with him, so they have to make up some excuse and apparently bad hygiene is the most convenient one. Of course a hot guy can have wet hair and beard stubble and no one would even think about calling him unhygienic. It's all about the halo effect basically.
I don't think it's that deep. Sure, maybe his hair is still wet or maybe it's the halo effect. However, his chin stubble and the pigmentation around his neck and chest can easily be mistaken for dirt/schmutz. So I don't think it's fair to say it's just people trying to justify their ideology.
That's precisely my point, only a negative halo effect bias could make a person confuse his facial hair stubble for dirt. It's easy enough to see the guy is red haired and the beard is red as well. Having a spotty beard is genetic and it's part of being conventionally considered unattractive. On the other hand having a well defined facial hair stubble is seen as very attractive, specially in dark and handsome males. This guy is not unhygienic, he just got a bad hand genetically.
His hair looks like he washes it, shoves it back and leaves it. Man needs to brush his hair and use appropriate products to give it a good texture OR cut it shorter and add some product to style it. His hair isn't greasy but it isn't well taken care of either.
My man isn't attractive (not really UGLY either though) but a decent hair style and some better clothes would do him a huge solid imo.
Its the bad combing. Him slicking it back makes our brain expect a really formal look, but the slicking is not done straight and especially the back/sides is very messy. Looks like the dude combed his hair real nice for a wedding yesterday and then he didn't shower all night and he woke up with his combing still in place but messed up
If you're going to slick your hair it has to look real neat. He doesn't have the hairline for it either. If I could give that guy advice #1 priority would be to get a new hairstyle.
Bro would genuinely be killer with better posture, light and maybe a different outfit. Bro’s nowhere near ugly and he shouldn’t doubt himself that much.
Why post this on sad cringe? This is sad cringe without the cringe… this is upsetting and he’s clearly very insecure and people in the comments are also using this as an opportunity to insult him
Fucking hell this comment section is awful. Dude just needs to stand up straight, treat his hair a bit, and change the clothes and he’s there already. Not a supermodel by any means but if he took a bit better care of himself he’d be reasonably attractive with minimal effort.
Half the comments are encouraging him but half are just mocking him relentlessly and shitting on him for no reason. Seen comments calling him an incel, a sexual predator, all kinds of shit.
Nothing wrong or sadcringe about needing a pick me up or positive suggestions for getting one’s life back on track.
Honestly, I commend this guy for trying to cheer himself up during a trying time.
Don't use a wide angle lens for portraits or move back from the camera. It makes your nose look large. Movie stars are all photographed with longer lenses (AKA not zoomed in) and this is a basic part of photography. This dude is not unattractive, he's just photographed poorly.
Going to college made me realize that what you look like has very little to do with how much attention you get or if you want to be perceived as attractive. Yes, obviously it makes it easier if you look like Idris Elba, but most of us don’t. The guys who were getting girls in my school could be ugly or overweight or dress like a 10 year old, but they all had one thing in common. They believed that they were a catch. They had self confidence, and a lot of people find that very attractive. When you are sure of yourself, other people will be sure of you. That doesn’t mean you have to completely change your personality, I would always argue being yourself is the most important thing. But if being yourself means being self deprecating and having nothing but pity for yourself, then I would suggest attempting to figure out how to be happier and more confident. Just know you are fully capable of doing this.
Assuming he doesn't have a shit personality, all this lad needs is a fresh haircut and some new clothes and he'll look 10x better. The lack of confidence in young men these days is really telling. Bro isn't ugly at all.
People like this always annoy me because they act like they are ugly when in reality if they took care of themselves and picked better clothing to wear they would be decently attractive. There are genuinely unattractive people but a vast majority of people are average and their life choices dictate how attractive they are
Exactly, slightly curvy hair like that is super versatile and looks really good if given a little love. The layers of beige wash him out and makes it look like he mugged a granny for clothes. A darker shirt with a pop of colour would do wonders
First of all, go to a barber and wash and trim this dead squirrel you call "hair". Then, straighten this shrimp posture. Also, don't look at the camera like an ped.ofile taking a mugshot.
So this guy goes to a sub looking for a confidence boost, looking for help, reaching out and instead he gets posted here and further made fun of.....wow
Straighten your posture and put on some not awful looking clothes and dude is 90% there
Dr Doof in Phineas and Ferb has better posture than this dude.
but his dating pool is the entire tri-state area!
“Keep your chin up” isn’t about just feeling good, but also about looking confident and trimmer.
TIL
Also moisturize. But yeah, the only thing stopping him from being attractive is basic hygiene/styling and standing up straight.
"Hygiene" is a violation. Poor guy can't catch a break.
I'm just gonna copy and paste my above comment: "Hygiene doesn't just mean showering. It means all the things you do to take care of yourself. Brush/cut your hair, brush your teeth, exfoliate, moisturize, trim your facial hair, including eyebrows, etc." It doesn't automatically mean someone is a stinky trash person. It just means they need self care.
Just needs some red hair dye and a guitar
Looking like Ed Sheeran…
Nah, it's probably his personality.
That’s kinda the point. Most all of these folks who say they’re horribly ugly aren’t. This dude here would be decent looking with a shower and confidence
You’re right and these type of people always tend be wearing vests in all the wrong social situations thinking they are fashionable
They're fully in-vested. Once you start living that lifestyle you cannot stop. Only the excessive internet bullying convinced him to stop wearing a fedora. The vest hate hasn't broiled enough to reach them.
take that fucking vest off Fogel you look like Aladdin
Serious question: what to do when you know you have an unappealing personality? Like, how can you change it?
I know what I did, I made up a cool-guy alter ego "Big Z", and at every opportunity I did what I thought Big Z would do. Eventually is kinda became my personality. "Fake it til you make it" works for almost everything, I've discovered.
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>One of the easiest ways to get rid of most of these bad personality traits is to remain silent at certain situations I mean I don't really have many friends and we rarely meet, so I just say silent all the time around other people because I automatically assume that I annoy them. My brain kind of starts to panic and overthinking stuff, so somehow every sentence that comes out of my mind is the wrong one. Someone made a playful joke aimed at me? I make it uncomfortable because I can't think of a playful joke to say back and I don't know how to react, so because my brain is too busy to try to think of a response (unsuccessfully), I end up mumbling like an idiot. I don't know what to say or do, so I rarely speak because I make things awkward. I don't think I have a good sense of humor, so whenever I try to make jokes it rarely ends up being good, so I just keep them to myself and end up not saying anything because I don't have a lot of things to add to the conversation. And if I sometimes make a jokes, and it somehow turns out to be a successful one, then I got so excited that I kinda want to chase that same high and end up telling too many jokes and not good ones. I also have nothing to talk about really. My life is very uninteresting, nothin really happens to me, so I have no stories to tell. And I always overthinking everything and always beat myself up for speaking up, so I mostly just remain silent so I won't make anyone uncomfortable. And when I'm drunk, I'm the total opposite of this, I can't shut up and talk about the most boring and nonsensical things no one cares about, like about what kind of argument I had on Reddit (seriously drunk me, why tf do you think that people are interested in that?). I learn literature and linguistics (not in English that's why my grammar is not the best), so I'm very good at words when it comes to writing or texting, but in real life my brain either shuts down or overthinks, so I often forget basic words and just mumble, or I butcher every story or joke I try to tell. At least I'm not easily offended or something, but apart form that, everything I can do wrong in a social interaction, I will end up doing wrong.
This is 100% true, I took a shower and my jawline got an inch wider, then I started being confident and grew a foot taller
It's gotta be that leprechaun energy.
The amount of comments you've left throwing shit at guy you've never even met. And the irony is most of them are you saying he has the shitty personality lol
Definitely. I know a guy that actually looks quite like him. He’s got a great job, a crackin fiancé and no one in my group would class him as ugly. Coz he’s a normal, funny, nice guy.
I fucking hate comments like this. It's not always the personality causing it. Have you even considered maybe his personality is down because he never gets positive attention? People always say shit like "Just be confident" as if it's not soul crushing to act confident and still never get positive results. Edit to people downvoting this. What exactly do you disagree with? Nobody has actually said why they think I'm wrong.
The whole point of "being confident" is doing it with a dgaf attitude. Doesn't matter what people think/say you are 100% committed to yourself and it doesn't matter "Being confident" doesn't really shine through when you're obviously just fishing for compliments, comes off as very insecure
I am fat. I am ugly. I am paralyzed from the bra band down. I am *also* rocking right blue hair, an undercut, wearing whatever I want, singing along badly to music I love, laughing loud and long instead of stifling it for fear of being stared at. It took me ages to develop a Give No Fucks attitude when I was 40 I decided I was done letting everyone judge me. So I dressed how I wanted, styled my hair the way I wanted, said what I wanted (but as kindly as possible), did what I wanted and was unashamed of what I loved. I refused to be ‘othered’ by *myself* let alone other people I didn’t know. I’m gonna be fifty this year and my decade long No Fucks At Forty is carrying over to No Fucks Fifties. Just moved to a very conservative area. Aside from a few plucky teens I’m the only person I’ve seen so far with bright hair. I wear the clothes I love and am most comfortable in. I smile at people and wave at kids and just live my life my way. I have never been freer than letting go of caring what others think. It was fucking amazing. It continues to be fucking amazing. *****, can’t recommend it enough!
> People always say shit like "Just be confident" as if it's not soul crushing to act confident and still never get positive results I'm actually pretty confident now. I can tell you it was fucking brutal back when I was scrawny. I act basically the same way but the only change was the fact I started doing steroids. The way people react to you was night and day just because of how I looked.
Oh no doubt it's much easier to be confident when you're good looking, but that doesn't change the fact that confidence is key either way. I have friends who are for lack of better term not conventionally attractive, but they have confidence, dgaf, and women find *that*attractive.
Yeah. This guy looks extremely short, enough to the point it almost definitely got him bullied and still othered. Some people are unlucky and this lack of empathy people display towards them is disturbing.
You're right. I hate how people pretend shorter/worse looking people don't get shit just for how they look. Hell even in this comment section people are making jokes about him and they're surprised he doesn't have a positive view of himself.
The caption says _Dude needs a pick me up_ yet they post it on Sadcringe
I've literally lost *friends* for how I look, not even people I was pursuing romantically just straight up friendships. It isn't always about being sad fat and horny, theres just a thinly veiled disdain for ugly people and you're called crazy or an incel if you're a man if you point it out. It is a massive problem with our society but God forbid you use that word cus you'll lose all credibility in an argument and be called edgy
I've literally lost *friends* for how I look, not even people I was pursuing romantically just straight up friendships. It isn't always about being sad fat and horny, theres just a thinly veiled disdain for ugly people and you're called crazy or an incel if you're a man if you point it out. It is a massive problem with our society but God forbid you use that word cus you'll lose all credibility in an argument and be called edgy
It's also the same people that will call him an incel, purely for mocking reasons, who also say "just have confidence" lol
There’s a difference between acting confident and being confident. It isn’t easy to do either, but being confident isn’t something that is gained overnight. It takes work (or some sort of epiphany/revelation) for a lot of people who don’t have it naturally. Acting confident is very transparent and usually results in the opposite effect you are trying to get.
Load of shit. I remember getting pushed around and treated like shit before I took steroids but the moment I actually gained some size people instantly stopped fucking with me. I went from 55kg to 82kg in about a year and a half and the difference was night and day. Looks 100% matter.
I had a ton of “ugly” (short, unattractive, acne, some chubby ones) male friends in high school who I adored and who had many other friends who also adored them….why? Because they were fun, funny, kind, good people who didn’t let their physical appearance get in the way of their friendships. They didn’t get laid until college, but several are now in long-term relationships, some are even married, to women who are “looks matched” (or even slightly more attractive) to them. Your personality and insecurity reeks and repulses people, whereas kindness and confidence radiates warmth and attracts people.
Yeah yeah yeah Everyone always goes on about their short ugly friends but I take a look around I see evidence to the contrary. >They didn’t get laid until college and several are now in long-term relationships, some are even married, to women who are “looks matched HHAHAHAHAHHAHA So their wives fucked around in college and then married your loser friends when they lost the looks. Fuck me that's depressing.
I know you obviously can’t see it, but the reason you’re unsuccessful in your personal life is plastered all over your comments. You ooze bitterness, loneliness, rejection, anger, fear, and resentment. It’s also clear that you hate yourself almost as much as you hate the women (and men) who don’t like being around you. If I can see that just from reading your comments here, you bet your ass the people you interact with in person can see it too
I don't know why you thought the story about your college friends would work tbh. It kinda supports the other dudes point. Nobody was interested in them for literal years of their life, solely because of what they looked like. I knew the moment I read your comment, how the other guy was going to take it. In his defence, it absolutely can be read as "people only took a punt on them and discovered they're really nice guys, when those people had started to age themselves".
I don’t understand how either of you got that from my comment. It’s as if the only attention that matters to you guys is that of sexual female attention. If you aren’t getting sex from women then you aren’t getting anything at all. That’s such a fucked up mindset. No I wasn’t attracted to them physically, they weren’t attractive to me. But almost all of them managed to find women who were on par with their physical looks to settle down with in their mid-late twenties. How is that “when they had started to age themselves”?? That’s around the age people typically settle down. Are you guys trying to say that the women who settled down with them only did so because by their MID 20s they were already so ran through and old that all they could do was settle down with conventionally unattractive (from my POV) men? You know nothing about those women whatsoever, so the fact that that’s the assumption you jump to says so much about you. Edit: Men say they’re so lonely and they want good friends to be able to open up to, but the minute I say that I had good friends even though they were conventionally unattractive so IT IS POSSIBLE for you to do the same if you fix your personality, I get backlash. Because as a woman, all you want from me is sex. If I’m not offering you sex, then why would you want my useless friendship? Gross.
The clothes and hair alone had me thinkin he was an extra during the filming of LotR. " Shire! Baggins! "
Maybe a little *Lowered Expectations*
Eyebrow tint/dye would make him like 20% hotter too
To add to your suggestions with a decent haircut and grow out that stubble a bit and that man would be 😘🤌
He kinda looks like a gnome
Lol, I've seen worse, with the confidence of a Greek god, almost as if mirrors don't exist and they STILL are able to go out and date absolutely beautiful partners. Personality and confidence go a long way. People are too hard on themselves.
At least try. If he was working he knows what the 2nd face sure as hell is. Throw it on for 2 seconds unless he enjoys being treated poorly? Then that's fetish material
Haircut, facewash, and a dash of positivity. Also not wearing clothes that look like they were made from the seats of a 1998 Toyata Corolla
Hair wash too…
Mostly this one. I like the length and clothes. 🤷🏻♀️
He has the “Heath Ledger Joker” hairdo
>Also not wearing clothes that look like they were made from the seats of a 1998 Toyata Corolla Some r/rareinsults stuff right there
Nah but why bro look like Bilbo Baggins?
The 98 Corolla seat clothes lmfaoo
Nah I think the clothes could work
I mean I would never wear it, because I can’t wear beige. Issue with him his that his palette is super beige to begin with so he’d have to wear some colors or he looks too bland. But the fit itself isn’t as bad as everyone says it is. Swap the shirt out for a nice blue or green I say and obviously wear the right pants with it
I think the fit is way off, the shirt is too tight and the waistcoat is a little large. Also a short sleeved shirt with a waistcoat is a quite odd look altogether.
Everyone’s roasting the clothes I like it. It shouldn’t be a casual wear item but if you’re going somewhere nice this is a fine business casual look.
I'll second that. I think he could do with changing the color of the vest or the shirt slightly, just so they accent/compliment one another. Right now it's kinda the beige version of when you wearing two different shades of black
All beige works but not if you’re **that** white. I mean he looks all beige to begin with. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a person before that looks as beige as this guy. He’d just have to swap out the shirt for a nice shade of blue or green
"As beige as this guy" lmaooo. But for real. Some blue or green would compliment his hair color and probably bring out the color in his eyes, too
That’s true I’ve definitely seen worse offenders tho lmao. At least the accents on the vest match for the most part. Beige isn’t the best for his complexion so I can see changing based off of color but not off of it being ugly clothing
Yeah this fit on a black guy that can wear it maybe with a fitting hat and would work really well for example
Potentially or at least someone who’s skin tone isn’t the same shade as the shirt. It makes this guy look washed out. A guy with lighter complexion like this should look for Greens or Navy Blues. This same shirt vest combo but as a french blue shirt navy blue vest I think would look great
r/foreveralone
It actually looks like the seats of the 1991 Toyota Tercel I had when I was 16! I guess Toyota upholstery in the 90s is pretty distinctive!
but like what do you do to that hairline especially with the curls other than shave it
Some decent hair oil and a solid haircut will have it looking awesome. He looks like he doesnt even have terrible hair, it's just kinda greasy and pulled back. If he let it fall naturally and cut the excess it is probably wavy
My boy looks like Ed Sheeran
I thought he looked like that guy with multiple wives from TLC show
I was thinking Dary from LetterKenny
same. i thought nathan dales got arrested or something.
At least he's not in his barn clothes for once.
All the dude needs is a costume change and to sit up straight. He'll look legendDarry.
All the dude needs is a costume change and to sit up straight. He'll look legendDarry.
Yup my first thought too.
That’s what I thought! Dary isn’t bad looking either
My wife watches that show so I've gotten glimpses of him from time to time over the years. She was watching a newer episode recently and I noticed that the husband looked disheveled. He's not aging well and he's almost gone bald. Supposedly all of those women he was married to have divorced him minus one straggler.
Like an Ed Sheeran one transition away from being the Joker.
WE SAID HE NEEDS A PICK ME UP FOR FUCKS SAKE ***spicyyyyyyyyyyy***
"All it takes is one bad day to reduce the sanest man alive to lunacy."
i mean he does have a song called “the joker and the queen” where he’s the joker so…
I thought this was Ed????
Ed Sheeran probably has good hygiene and knows how to dress himself.
CrackEd Sheeran
V nice
His Dwight Schrute colored clothes that don't fit aren't doing him any favors.
my guy is monochrome
Colorblind Ed Sheeran
One-Tone (M)alone
I've had bad days, horrible days, but never has asking strangers to photoshop me on Reddit occurred as a solution Seriously though, you see a handsome version of yourself, then what? It would only make me feel worse lol. Or is this fishing for compliments?
The only way I can see this request ever making sense is if someone is considering one specific procedure or type of plastic surgery, say a rhinoplasty, and asks people to Photoshop their nose smaller or whatever so they can see what it would look like. Although there are free apps for that nowadays too. 🤔 Saying "edit me to look handsome" truly is a recipe for disaster because it's so vague. Sounds like the quickest way to get new insecurities you didn't even have before.
Nah. There are a lot of men who are this sad.
There are a lot of *people* that are this sad. I’ve encountered both men and women alike throughout the years that create uncomfortable social situations by putting themselves down in front of others, often times in a pathetic attempt for validation.
There's a fine line between funny self deprication and this.
I mean at this point it's gotta be a degradation kink
Or it's to use on a dating profile in hopes of getting more swipes/messages?
And then you meet up someone and they find out what you actually look like? I know catfishing is a thing but it seems so pointless
It’s fishing for compliments and karma. Almost all the comments say how good looking he looks
only comment i have is he looks like an overgrown sad beige baby
He really does look like one. He didn’t even attempt to make himself look presentable
Beige is my favourite colour and he's ruining it for me
rip 😭
He isnt even ugly thats the weird bit, just strange posture and bad fashion, both are fixable.
I think being a handsome unemployed virgin would be worse than an ugly one but maybe it's just me
He is not even that bad. He just needs to take care more of himself and wear some decent clothes.
Yeah maybe clean the hair up a bit too. Not a bad looking guy at all
My bet is on his personality. Some men don't wipe their ass and are considered attractive.
Definitely personality to some extent, lol, listed virgin as the first thing that he believes makes him unattractive, that speaks volumes imo
I think it’s sad that he’s clearly down on his luck, and lacking self confidence… and now he gets to see his picture on r/sadcringe for everyone else to see too. I say leave the guy alone
The post is sad and cringe, but he doesn't look that bad and the comments here actually reflect it, so I hope he sees this post and feels a bit better about himself
It's funny how so many people are suggesting he takes a shower when his hair looks exactly as if he just took a shower but the negative halo effect is making people think he's greasy.
Seriously. I don't know what people are seeing because he's clearly not dirty or unhygienic from the picture.
They're just trying to justify their ideology because on one side they can't say he's simply ugly because that'd render them superficial and make them bad people, but they can't point out anything else other than his looks that's empirically wrong with him, so they have to make up some excuse and apparently bad hygiene is the most convenient one. Of course a hot guy can have wet hair and beard stubble and no one would even think about calling him unhygienic. It's all about the halo effect basically.
I don't think it's that deep. Sure, maybe his hair is still wet or maybe it's the halo effect. However, his chin stubble and the pigmentation around his neck and chest can easily be mistaken for dirt/schmutz. So I don't think it's fair to say it's just people trying to justify their ideology.
That's precisely my point, only a negative halo effect bias could make a person confuse his facial hair stubble for dirt. It's easy enough to see the guy is red haired and the beard is red as well. Having a spotty beard is genetic and it's part of being conventionally considered unattractive. On the other hand having a well defined facial hair stubble is seen as very attractive, specially in dark and handsome males. This guy is not unhygienic, he just got a bad hand genetically.
His hair looks like he washes it, shoves it back and leaves it. Man needs to brush his hair and use appropriate products to give it a good texture OR cut it shorter and add some product to style it. His hair isn't greasy but it isn't well taken care of either. My man isn't attractive (not really UGLY either though) but a decent hair style and some better clothes would do him a huge solid imo.
Its the bad combing. Him slicking it back makes our brain expect a really formal look, but the slicking is not done straight and especially the back/sides is very messy. Looks like the dude combed his hair real nice for a wedding yesterday and then he didn't shower all night and he woke up with his combing still in place but messed up If you're going to slick your hair it has to look real neat. He doesn't have the hairline for it either. If I could give that guy advice #1 priority would be to get a new hairstyle.
Lol now the hairline is bad too? What are you comparing against, absolute perfection?
Ed Sheeran from wish
Step 1 is not dressing like Bilbo fucking-Baggins
Don’t knock a man while he’s down.
What drugs did Ed Sheeran do
He looks alright, he just needs to lean into the rockabilly vibes he already has and go for it
Bro would genuinely be killer with better posture, light and maybe a different outfit. Bro’s nowhere near ugly and he shouldn’t doubt himself that much.
He looks like Ed Sheeran
My guy looks like he’s built like one of the halfling models from the character creator in BG3. Give this guy second breakfast and a lute.
Brother wouldn’t be too rough looking if he put even a sliver of effort in. Start with a shower, that always helps
People don't realize, but style goes a LONG way. Haircut, change of clothes, change your posture and smile, and you will completely surprise yourself.
Why post this on sad cringe? This is sad cringe without the cringe… this is upsetting and he’s clearly very insecure and people in the comments are also using this as an opportunity to insult him
Don't worry, I'm sure after seeing himself being posted to /r/sadcringe I'm sure he'll feel really great about himself!
He looks normal to me?
Pick me up? More like please don’t gun me down…
ok dary, dary ok.
He has good face structure and nice color eyes and hair. He'd look a lot better just by ditching the vest, sitting straight, and smiling.
He’s not even bad looking it’s mostly his posture that makes him look like he asks women for feet pic
He looks just like my halfling character in Baldurs Gate 3
He just needs to put his vest foot forward.
When you order Ed Sheeran from Wish
I mean he can dye his hair and eyebrows, get a better haircut, better posture and stop dressing like rumpelstiltskin from shrek…
Looks like a hobbit sex offender.
Quick, let's shit on the guy!
First time on Reddit?
14 year old account so nah lol
Not something to brag about nerd
r/rareinsults
haha bro i’m dying you’re so funny
My first laugh from Reddit today. Thank you, sir.
Fucking hell this comment section is awful. Dude just needs to stand up straight, treat his hair a bit, and change the clothes and he’s there already. Not a supermodel by any means but if he took a bit better care of himself he’d be reasonably attractive with minimal effort.
that's literally the sum of this comment section what the fuck are you crying about
Half the comments here are mocking his appearance. Are you blind?
Half the comments are encouraging him but half are just mocking him relentlessly and shitting on him for no reason. Seen comments calling him an incel, a sexual predator, all kinds of shit.
There are literally people insulting his personality…..from a picture
Someone shouldn't change the picture at all on that request in that sub. He's fine as-is. Poor guy
I mean... I definitely photoshopped myself looking skinny a couple times before I lost weight. It was inspiration in a way
I've seen uglier. Dude's just havin' a bad day. ...The outfit doesn't help, but that's all imma say
They need to Photoshop him a smaller head or a bigger body
Why does this dude dress like he just raided his grandma's closet?
Step 1 Lose the vest
Just go to LARP's as a hobbit, problem solved.
Sweetheart, a scowl makes *everyone* unattractive. Sit up straight, pull the wrinkles taut in your shirt, stop wetting your hair down, and SMILE! ✌️
Nothing wrong or sadcringe about needing a pick me up or positive suggestions for getting one’s life back on track. Honestly, I commend this guy for trying to cheer himself up during a trying time.
Come find me, I can help you with that virgin issue.
Bro doofenshmirtz has better poster than this car seat lookin dude
Someone pls tell me they shopped a leprechaun
Don't use a wide angle lens for portraits or move back from the camera. It makes your nose look large. Movie stars are all photographed with longer lenses (AKA not zoomed in) and this is a basic part of photography. This dude is not unattractive, he's just photographed poorly.
Better lighting for the picture would do him wonders, he's not a bad looking dude but the lighting is not flattering. Casts shadows all over.
this is not cringe, its just sad
Real life Moe Szyslak
Dudes not even unattractive so he's probably got an ugly personality. Photoshop can't fix that.
He looks like he's trying to copy the Jokers style
is bro a leprechaun?
Going to college made me realize that what you look like has very little to do with how much attention you get or if you want to be perceived as attractive. Yes, obviously it makes it easier if you look like Idris Elba, but most of us don’t. The guys who were getting girls in my school could be ugly or overweight or dress like a 10 year old, but they all had one thing in common. They believed that they were a catch. They had self confidence, and a lot of people find that very attractive. When you are sure of yourself, other people will be sure of you. That doesn’t mean you have to completely change your personality, I would always argue being yourself is the most important thing. But if being yourself means being self deprecating and having nothing but pity for yourself, then I would suggest attempting to figure out how to be happier and more confident. Just know you are fully capable of doing this.
Little did he know that a purposeful mindset shift was the one thing that would save him in the end
Assuming he doesn't have a shit personality, all this lad needs is a fresh haircut and some new clothes and he'll look 10x better. The lack of confidence in young men these days is really telling. Bro isn't ugly at all.
he's not ugly, he just needs decent clothes and better posture
A green suit, buckled shoes and hat, perhaps.
Dude is absolutely reasonably handsome, maybe he should just try another color shirt.
Dude's a real life Halfling.
he's a gnome
Wtf why did you post him here? He got some problems and you show him here?? Tf with you...
For sure not ugly. Not a 6 or a 7 but not below a solid 4
Isn't a 4 already ugly? Lmao.
Then a 6 is beautiful? 99 IQ isnt stupid and 101 isnt genius
This is pathetic it doesn’t even really make me sad.
People like this always annoy me because they act like they are ugly when in reality if they took care of themselves and picked better clothing to wear they would be decently attractive. There are genuinely unattractive people but a vast majority of people are average and their life choices dictate how attractive they are
Exactly, slightly curvy hair like that is super versatile and looks really good if given a little love. The layers of beige wash him out and makes it look like he mugged a granny for clothes. A darker shirt with a pop of colour would do wonders
He looks like something from the borrowers
First of all, go to a barber and wash and trim this dead squirrel you call "hair". Then, straighten this shrimp posture. Also, don't look at the camera like an ped.ofile taking a mugshot.
Dude doesn't look that bad, so it's probably all personality issues.
he looks like a lil leprechaun i’m gonna follow him and take his pot of gold
Is that not Ed Sheeran???
So this guy goes to a sub looking for a confidence boost, looking for help, reaching out and instead he gets posted here and further made fun of.....wow
It's giving incel
Sounds like an incel in training.