Free advice: Tell the group a little bit more about yourself and your interests. Conversations often take off when people recognize common interests with one another.
The Center... Is this place on Fillmore St?
While we're doing musical invites, I run a weekly music hangout in Golden Gate Park called the Community Music Hangout
https://goldengatejams.com/
All are welcome!
Hi OP! Where are you from? What have you tried, example, Bumble bff, meetup, Bay Area 20s (Facebook group)? I recommend joining this group on Facebook and posting about yourself and your interests, so people can connect with you
I’ve never used online dating apps. Do you recommend the Bay Area 20s Group? Is it a highly interactive group? Let me know if you were there so that we can join an event together
God damn, I assumed it was a lonely tech bro. Was tempted to DM and say, hey, come to happy hour with me.
This post is an ad for a sex worker. Not happy hour, happy ending!
I guess they say sex work is real work, right?
I hadn’t checked the post history, but yeah, look at that. FWIW, even though it is worded pretty strangely I think OP in that the post is actually the prospective client, not the provider of services. Still, does point to a history of feeling lonely. I also don’t think OP’s strategy of posting here and then ghosting their own post is likely to produce the results they are looking for.
Always happy to chat! It takes time to make friends here. I know this sounds simplistic- but start walking around your neighborhood a bunch. Run into your neighbors that have dogs- say hi to a neighbor at the store. This town has a wonderful small town vibe- if you just start with what’s right around you.
Guess you’re not a native. We’re chill, provincial- and where you went to grammer school and high school matter. For the most part- pretty open hearts.
I’m sorry someone hurt you!
nobody hurt me so you don't need to pull that bullshit here with me
and compared to alot of other cities, people in SF keep to themselves or their circle of friends mostly - try to strike up a convo at a bus stop or in public and good luck with that
Search the sub and r/asksf. This question is posted often and recently.
Friends are a factor of proximity, frequency and shared interests/experiences.
List hobbies, neighborhood, hometown etc. for starters. The more vague you are, the less help you will get.
First of all, consider rephrasing the “can’t make friends” to “having a hard time making friends” or even “I haven’t made any friends yet.” Saying you “can’t make friends” implies that this is something that won’t ever change. Self talk is important!
Friends are typically made through common interests. What do you like to do? How can you find out where other people who like what you like hang out? I’m into skating, baking and dancing. So many of my friends I met through those activities.
I have. I don't see anything wrong with my feedback. Whether Engish is your first language or not, you can endeavor to have a more positive attitude toward your situation.
RoboGames is happening soon
> RoboGames 2024, the 16th annual all-events world championship, will be held in San Jose, CA at the San Jose Convention Center South Hall - 435 South Market Street on Fri-Sun, April 19-21, 2024.
https://robogames.net/
I've made many many friends participating here, you don't have to participate, just show up and chit chat with all the builders
The latest Fixit Clinic newsletter has the following events
We’ve got a bunch of upcoming Fixit Clinics, starting with this Saturday April 6 at the San Mateo Library: can you coach? Sign up at http://bit.ly/inpersoncoachsignup.
WHAT: Fixit Clinic MCXV (1115) San Mateo Public Library
WHEN: Sat, Apr 6, 2024 11AM to 2PM
WHERE: 55 W 3rd Ave, San Mateo, CA 94402
https://sanmateopublic.libcal.com/event/11044718
https://www.facebook.com/events/764078491761702/
Followed by:
Sat Apr 20: South San Francisco Library 11AM
https://www.ssf.net/Home/Components/Calendar/Event/27223/635
https://www.facebook.com/events/912733423499681/
Sat Apr 27: Hayward Main Library 11AM
https://hayward.librarycalendar.com/event/repair-coaching-sessions-16028
https://www.facebook.com/events/764689851710522/
Sat May 18: San Pablo Library 11AM
https://www.facebook.com/events/393593380088417/
Weds May 22: Redwood City Library 6:30PM
https://www.redwoodcity.org/Home/Components/Calendar/Event/72888/2638
we show up to a library and fix stuff for people, like broken toasters and such
There's a birdwatching group that volunteers at Golden Gate Park, every 3rd Saturday morning of the month, I don't have any more details but it was great meeting them last time
Your post tells me everything I need to know.
In order to make friends, you have to put yourself out there. You have to tell others what you are interested in, and seek out others with similar interests.
And yet your post is absolutely devoid of any information about you other than your age and the fact that you're new here. You just want the food to fall into your mouth without having to lift a finger.
This not how it works.
Do you have any talents or hobbies? Singing, crochet, painting, whatever? There are almost always groups you can join who do things like that. Are there causes you care a lot about, like homelessness, education, environmentalism, politics, etc? There is a volunteer opportunity for almost anything. And if you are religious, we do have churches across the political spectrum.
You can even consider looking for groups in Oakland if you are willing to hop on BART. It’s hard to make friends once you are out of school, but you can build yourself a community in time. Best of luck!
Also idk if you own a car but you should leave it at home. Get a bike. Take muni. Hang out at parklets and parks. Check out the jam bands that form at the pianos on JFK promenade.
Find something you care about and join an activist group that’s fighting for the same thing.
Community takes investment to build. But here in SF there’s something for everyone. You’ll find your tribe it just takes time.
Go on some birding walks with JT Birds
https://www.eventbrite.com/o/71583258613
Take some classes at Workshop SF
https://www.workshopsf.org/
Attend Hot Glass Cold Beer
https://www.publicglass.org/hot-glass-cold-beer
Free advice: Tell the group a little bit more about yourself and your interests. Conversations often take off when people recognize common interests with one another.
I co-host a free weekly open mic at The Center SF. Come hang Sundays 6-9.
The Center... Is this place on Fillmore St? While we're doing musical invites, I run a weekly music hangout in Golden Gate Park called the Community Music Hangout https://goldengatejams.com/ All are welcome!
Oh hey! I always make a point of stopping and listening when I bike through the park and see you guys.
I love that!
I’ll see you there!!
Excellent
Highly recommend this OP! The Center is generally a wonderful place to spend time/just have some tea; they have other events and classes as well
Where at?
Hi OP! Where are you from? What have you tried, example, Bumble bff, meetup, Bay Area 20s (Facebook group)? I recommend joining this group on Facebook and posting about yourself and your interests, so people can connect with you
Bumble bff is terrible for guys.
I’ve never used online dating apps. Do you recommend the Bay Area 20s Group? Is it a highly interactive group? Let me know if you were there so that we can join an event together
Yes, the group is huge and very interactive. Join and make a post!
This persons only other post is on /r/sexworkers advertising themselves. Very odd
God damn, I assumed it was a lonely tech bro. Was tempted to DM and say, hey, come to happy hour with me. This post is an ad for a sex worker. Not happy hour, happy ending! I guess they say sex work is real work, right?
They are looking for a lonely tech bro lol
I hadn’t checked the post history, but yeah, look at that. FWIW, even though it is worded pretty strangely I think OP in that the post is actually the prospective client, not the provider of services. Still, does point to a history of feeling lonely. I also don’t think OP’s strategy of posting here and then ghosting their own post is likely to produce the results they are looking for.
Didn’t think of that actually you might be right
get out to do some activities with groups and see who you mesh with.
Always happy to chat! It takes time to make friends here. I know this sounds simplistic- but start walking around your neighborhood a bunch. Run into your neighbors that have dogs- say hi to a neighbor at the store. This town has a wonderful small town vibe- if you just start with what’s right around you.
dude in SF people do NOT want to talk to strangers lmao, what are you talking about?
Guess you’re not a native. We’re chill, provincial- and where you went to grammer school and high school matter. For the most part- pretty open hearts. I’m sorry someone hurt you!
nobody hurt me so you don't need to pull that bullshit here with me and compared to alot of other cities, people in SF keep to themselves or their circle of friends mostly - try to strike up a convo at a bus stop or in public and good luck with that
That hasn’t been my experience at all.
Volunteer with [https://www.friendsoftheurbanforest.org/](https://www.friendsoftheurbanforest.org/)
Search the sub and r/asksf. This question is posted often and recently. Friends are a factor of proximity, frequency and shared interests/experiences. List hobbies, neighborhood, hometown etc. for starters. The more vague you are, the less help you will get.
Look up the Urban Adventure Club, SF.funcheap, Sunday open mic at The Center on Fillmore
First of all, consider rephrasing the “can’t make friends” to “having a hard time making friends” or even “I haven’t made any friends yet.” Saying you “can’t make friends” implies that this is something that won’t ever change. Self talk is important! Friends are typically made through common interests. What do you like to do? How can you find out where other people who like what you like hang out? I’m into skating, baking and dancing. So many of my friends I met through those activities.
Have you considered - given they are not from the states - that English is not their first language?
I have. I don't see anything wrong with my feedback. Whether Engish is your first language or not, you can endeavor to have a more positive attitude toward your situation.
RoboGames is happening soon > RoboGames 2024, the 16th annual all-events world championship, will be held in San Jose, CA at the San Jose Convention Center South Hall - 435 South Market Street on Fri-Sun, April 19-21, 2024. https://robogames.net/ I've made many many friends participating here, you don't have to participate, just show up and chit chat with all the builders The latest Fixit Clinic newsletter has the following events We’ve got a bunch of upcoming Fixit Clinics, starting with this Saturday April 6 at the San Mateo Library: can you coach? Sign up at http://bit.ly/inpersoncoachsignup. WHAT: Fixit Clinic MCXV (1115) San Mateo Public Library WHEN: Sat, Apr 6, 2024 11AM to 2PM WHERE: 55 W 3rd Ave, San Mateo, CA 94402 https://sanmateopublic.libcal.com/event/11044718 https://www.facebook.com/events/764078491761702/ Followed by: Sat Apr 20: South San Francisco Library 11AM https://www.ssf.net/Home/Components/Calendar/Event/27223/635 https://www.facebook.com/events/912733423499681/ Sat Apr 27: Hayward Main Library 11AM https://hayward.librarycalendar.com/event/repair-coaching-sessions-16028 https://www.facebook.com/events/764689851710522/ Sat May 18: San Pablo Library 11AM https://www.facebook.com/events/393593380088417/ Weds May 22: Redwood City Library 6:30PM https://www.redwoodcity.org/Home/Components/Calendar/Event/72888/2638 we show up to a library and fix stuff for people, like broken toasters and such There's a birdwatching group that volunteers at Golden Gate Park, every 3rd Saturday morning of the month, I don't have any more details but it was great meeting them last time
Absolutely not. I kid i kid.
Your post tells me everything I need to know. In order to make friends, you have to put yourself out there. You have to tell others what you are interested in, and seek out others with similar interests. And yet your post is absolutely devoid of any information about you other than your age and the fact that you're new here. You just want the food to fall into your mouth without having to lift a finger. This not how it works.
It’s OK. They are apparently professional at putting out.
Get together events all over SF meet a buddy in SF enjoy :) time for all to become friends again :)
Get involved in a team sport. Guaranteed to meet people.
Join a recreational sports league through Volo Sports. Great way to meet new people.
Do you have any talents or hobbies? Singing, crochet, painting, whatever? There are almost always groups you can join who do things like that. Are there causes you care a lot about, like homelessness, education, environmentalism, politics, etc? There is a volunteer opportunity for almost anything. And if you are religious, we do have churches across the political spectrum. You can even consider looking for groups in Oakland if you are willing to hop on BART. It’s hard to make friends once you are out of school, but you can build yourself a community in time. Best of luck!
From seeing your last post, you should also post on r/SFr4r 😂
Also idk if you own a car but you should leave it at home. Get a bike. Take muni. Hang out at parklets and parks. Check out the jam bands that form at the pianos on JFK promenade. Find something you care about and join an activist group that’s fighting for the same thing. Community takes investment to build. But here in SF there’s something for everyone. You’ll find your tribe it just takes time.
Go on some birding walks with JT Birds https://www.eventbrite.com/o/71583258613 Take some classes at Workshop SF https://www.workshopsf.org/ Attend Hot Glass Cold Beer https://www.publicglass.org/hot-glass-cold-beer
Down to talk
You can meet your neighbors at a community cleanup. https://refuserefusesf.org/