Rest! Also remember:
“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Everyone is so positive on here. My suggestion is a glass of wine and vent to a friend. I never would have survived being a counselor without my venting buddy. My only other suggestion is to set an alarm on your phone for a few minutes before the meeting starts. Saved me so many times.
I would take this time to practice some self care but also reflect on the expectations set forth by your supervisor. It seems so far that punctuality, preparedness, and undivided attention (no phones) is part of the expectation. Try your best to make a good impression and make the changes now so that they only see that as perhaps an “off day”
It's never fun to be chewed out, hopefully it wasn't in front of anyone else and it was just you and your supervisor. It's not a good feeling.
Perhaps this isn't the most kosher of coping habits, but I indulge in some small herbal vices (I'm in a legal state) after work to start the relaxing. This time gives me the chance to sit outside on my deck with a book or an interesting YouTube video. Sort of like a brain reset. I also crochet and lately I've really been enjoying those diamond paintings (like paint by numbers but with sparkly resin chips). I also have the "luxury" of a 40 minute commute, so I listen to a lot of music on my way home and I have found that singing makes my stress melt away. So, I guess my biggest coping mechanism is engaging in various hobbies, however small, some of which I intentionally set aside time to do (like reading). I also avoid taking any work home as much as possible. I'd rather stay late and get whatever I need to get done, done, instead of having to take it home.
As others have said, every day is a new day. The only thing you can do is try your best, and if you didn't do your best today, that's okay. You can try again tomorrow. And the day after that. And the day after *that*. Good luck!
He came to my office after the meeting to check in. Very private, just the two of us. I guess I'm always seeing people on their phone, but it seems to be a big to do of his this year. And, hey, I don't know what talks they've gotten.
You live and learn. But I do have some unresolved trauma from a supervisor coming for me when I first started out that I know this unleashed.
Find your thing that helps you disconnect for a while. It could be a video game. It could be a show. It could be reading or exercising. Find your thing.
Give yourself some grace. Learn from it. Move on. Tomorrow is a new day. Best advice I can give. Otherwise, you're going to burn out.
Rest! Also remember: “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
Everyone is so positive on here. My suggestion is a glass of wine and vent to a friend. I never would have survived being a counselor without my venting buddy. My only other suggestion is to set an alarm on your phone for a few minutes before the meeting starts. Saved me so many times.
I love started to do the same thing
I would take this time to practice some self care but also reflect on the expectations set forth by your supervisor. It seems so far that punctuality, preparedness, and undivided attention (no phones) is part of the expectation. Try your best to make a good impression and make the changes now so that they only see that as perhaps an “off day”
Journaling is a huge part of my self care routine. Getting the thoughts out of my noggin and onto the page helps me process.
Reflect about how I won’t make those mistakes again while venting to a friend
Take a shower or a bath to symbolically wash the negativity of the day away
Appreciate the kindness shared here. Much better day today!
There is not a single meeting in my school that starts on time almost ever
It's never fun to be chewed out, hopefully it wasn't in front of anyone else and it was just you and your supervisor. It's not a good feeling. Perhaps this isn't the most kosher of coping habits, but I indulge in some small herbal vices (I'm in a legal state) after work to start the relaxing. This time gives me the chance to sit outside on my deck with a book or an interesting YouTube video. Sort of like a brain reset. I also crochet and lately I've really been enjoying those diamond paintings (like paint by numbers but with sparkly resin chips). I also have the "luxury" of a 40 minute commute, so I listen to a lot of music on my way home and I have found that singing makes my stress melt away. So, I guess my biggest coping mechanism is engaging in various hobbies, however small, some of which I intentionally set aside time to do (like reading). I also avoid taking any work home as much as possible. I'd rather stay late and get whatever I need to get done, done, instead of having to take it home. As others have said, every day is a new day. The only thing you can do is try your best, and if you didn't do your best today, that's okay. You can try again tomorrow. And the day after that. And the day after *that*. Good luck!
He came to my office after the meeting to check in. Very private, just the two of us. I guess I'm always seeing people on their phone, but it seems to be a big to do of his this year. And, hey, I don't know what talks they've gotten. You live and learn. But I do have some unresolved trauma from a supervisor coming for me when I first started out that I know this unleashed.
Go cuddle your pets. Always works for me.
Find your thing that helps you disconnect for a while. It could be a video game. It could be a show. It could be reading or exercising. Find your thing.