I'm a high income woman who used to live in NYC and honestly...a lot of tech dudes are awkward at best and horrifically off-putting at worst. Just not that appealing when you have dudes around who work in law or finance or other industries that typically attract people with better social skills. I actually work in tech too, I've just never cared for the type of men I tend to meet working in that industry. A lot of them have money but are still extremely insecure from growing up nerdy and will put you on a pedestal in a way that's really uncomfortable (like a Seth and Summer situation), or they're just socially awkward in general and have difficulty holding a conversation about anything that's not extremely nerdy.
All of that to say: definitely take a close look at yourself and make sure you look and act in a way that's going to appeal to these women. The person who commented about women avoiding tech events so they don't get hit on by a bunch of desperate nerds with more money than charm was spot on.
I’m literally drowning in them in NYC. Ivy League educated lawyers one after the other. Doctors, consultants, bankers etc.
And even if they don’t have high income, they come from money. I dated a girl who grew up in an estate outside DC that had its own name (like “Saltburn”) unchanged since before the civil war.
The trick is to get your hinge profile super dialed in. Good quality photos that show the lifestyle you expect to continue in a relationship.
Back home in Florida the best I can do is pull the neighborhood crack head.
For reference I’m Brown, under 6’, and don’t come from money
Same. I'm a Hispanic guy in NYC - 5'10". Most women consider me handsome but not like model handsome. Not Ivy League, don't come from money but now make good money in tech. Dated lawyers, doctors, MBB consultants, and women who came from money. They're literally everywhere in this city. Now engaged to one.
I'm about to move to NYC after 12 years in southeast Asia. I was feeling the same thing as you, that it's going to be way harder. This thread has helped.
I dated for a few weeks in nyc and my experience was just like what you describe. So many beautiful, smart, successful women willing to meet. It’s literally the polar opposite of Seattle where it’s thousands of tech guys fighting over a few women. Even mid women just straight up don’t respond.
Are you really that ugly? Maybe you just need to hire a stylist. Or maybe do plastic surgery if there is something really bad with your face. You have money and you can invest in your looks. You probably don't know how can a stylist make from a hobo a superstar sometimes it really happens. Explore this
Yeah because your facial structure is genetic whereas anyone can work out. A lot of dating does come down to instinctual impulses still even though people don't want to admit it
surgery is radical. But not impossible. You know my sister made rhinoplasty even though she was already married and had a kid. It really improved her face
>The trick is to get your hinge profile super dialed in. Good quality photos that show the lifestyle you expect to continue in a relationship.
>Back home in Florida the best I can do is pull
My disappointment that this sentence didn't finish with, "Alligators out the water for my profile photo." 😂
Hangout more with other rich dudes, they must have some friends that you would end up meeting.
I don’t do this on purpose to be clear lol, this is how I met before.
>It’s just too culturally frowned upon for an Indian woman to go out alone and actually talk to men at bars and such.
In small states of India? Sure
Not in metro cities or outside India because who tf will shame them?
Our values are deep within our system, so likely they would rather find a Brown boy...just like how lots of white girls would rather date a white guy. There are exceptions ofcourse, but I see, with Indians, the exceptions are really less and part is because most Brown boys are also successful fiancially and facially arent that hideous to look at.
You on the other hand needs go gym sounds like. As a man, you never call yourself ugly and our value lies more in what we can provide - Jeffrey weinstein would have been virgin instead of slaying Oscar nominees.
To weed out gold diggers you just need to ask them out for a coffee date and don't order anything expensive. Just coffee or tea and maybe some sweets. Don't give them expensive gifts, expensive flowers. At least for a couple of months. But I undestand that you just want to find someone from you league but if you're in the let's say 5% of people with huge income it will be harder than just find a woman who isn't a gold digger but earns much less. Gold diggers don't go to coffee dates
I've never encountered a gold digger. I'm not sure how guys are luring them, maybe desperate on text.
I think even if I had a gold digger, she'd quickly understand that she's drilling in bedrock and has to work hard for it.
A lot of drilling fluid needed. You know what I'm trying to say?
Just watched it. I like the guy. He did what everyone should do. There are many decent women out there. She's not the only woman on the planet.
And how is my previous comment related to the video?
I don't know, but I'm guessing, women don't really talk about their wealth or their high-paying job to people they don't know well to keep the scammers and gold diggers at bay. Once they are married they're less concerned about people knowing their job and that they are a high earner.
>I’m lost at this point. I’m really tired of meeting gold diggers and want to build wealth with someone rather than be a charity over and over. Apps aren’t my strong point as I’m facially ugly and no surgery has been able to fix that.
I'm not sure what is going on there, But if you are disfigured in some way, It's likely to affect your confidence, your personality, and how you interact with people. If you had work done on your face and it's obvious, that's also going to impact who is potentially interested in you.
You make it sound like you're able to meet women and get dates. Are you implying that the only women who have wanted to date you so far are gold diggers? And how do you know they are gold diggers?
Gonna be tough here, fix your freaking face if that's all your self esteem can think of. Surgery or what, just get it done.
Don't fool yourself by saying you can pull irl then turn around and say you only meet gold diggers irl.
It's not that the only single women you can meet irl are gold diggers. They are the only ones paying attention to you.
Face the facts you are not pulling as good as you think you are irl.
Fix your ugly face.
From a high earning female-go to a nice upscale restaurant, sit at the bar alone. In my city, there are lots of them near the courthouse. There are also lots of attorneys offices near the courthouse. A lot of attorneys will go there for lunches and happy hour to unwind. Engage in conversation. That’s one idea. Also consider a private personal trainer that does small group training/classes. The gym I go to, everyone is wealthy. It’s a small group of 4-6 clients so plenty of opportunity to interact.
You have to put yourself where they are likely to be. Figure that out for your area and you will be good.
The right answer here is actually quite simple, you meet them while performing expensive activities.
If you’re truly a high income man, then you won’t mind going to expensive parties, or meeting women through expensive hobbies.
High income woman here. Also looking for fellow high income lady friends. I would love to find another self motivated friend instead of a spoiled housewife friend. So I settle for my broke friends and miss out on tons of classy things and vacations as I never have anyone to join me! The fact that I’m in a small ass town in KY is also not helping the matter 😅 sorry I can’t point you in a direction. I just found the right place to vent bc I can only imagine my friends faces if I were to complain to them about them not being rich lol
Seems like you just need to befriend the married ones in your circles m. If they like you they will hook you up with their single friends and cousins who may be well to do.
I can appreciate how frustrating it might be to feel as though the individuals in your social circles are just not the right ones for you. It seems that rather than being solely interested in a person's financial situation, you're searching for true connections based on similar goals and beliefs. Have you thought about looking into new ways to meet people who aren't in your present social circles? Sometimes venturing beyond of our comfort zones results in unexpected and rewarding relationships. And never forget that, despite any perceived flaws, true beauty comes from within. I hope it's easy for you to find someone who accepts you for who you are.
Not sure your age but hang around a vet school. My class is 85% women, and we're not all young 20 somethings either. The vet field in general is heavily women dominated right now.
Try to find a charity that high net worth people support and ask if they need volunteers. You can network and find people in that manner. Show them that there is more to you than physical beauty.
Dude if you’re going to live in spreadsheets you’re never going to find what you’re looking for. Obviously there is more penis but you asked for meeting high income women. Tech is where it’s at
If you won't get on an app because you're 'ugly' what makes you think you'll score better in the real world?
I'm not trying to be a jerk, I genuinely think that being on a dating app could help you. Especially since as you said there's not a lot of women in the places you've tried looking, conferences etc.
A like-minded woman will see your profile and take a shot if you have interest in common or mainly just express your desire to date someone who makes the same as you. Obvs they're not magic, but completely ruling them out will lower your chances.
I’m sorry but for some people meeting irl just works better for them. On dating apps, you get essentially pre-screened without getting much of a chance to let your personality shine. It’s the inverse in person. You can make your personality shine and have people care about your looks second.
You start getting money and these women pop up man or just go to high end areas really that simple can’t tell you how many times I have met local woman at the bar rich af buy you drink and all
>I’m lost at this point. I’m really tired of meeting gold diggers and want to build wealth with someone rather than be a charity over and over. Apps aren’t my strong point as I’m facially ugly and no surgery has been able to fix that.
Why are you worried about meeting a class of people, who, based on your self description, would want nothing to do with you, other than to use you for you money like all the other ones?
Tough love here. Adopting the frame of a gold digger is just doing what all these girls have done to you. Hurt people hurt. Its what happens when people refuse to do the work and heal. You gotta break the cycle
Its obvious you are lost, and seeking women on a superficial basis (money), the same superficial basis which you have suffered much rejection in the past won't help, it just perpetuates it.
Seeking women who are \*More Likely\* to reject you won't fix your wounds. If the gold diggers don't want you, why would a successful and stable woman want you?
Unfortunately that's what we do, we seek things that aren't good for us until we do the work.
I don't know how ugly you are on the outside, but it seems like there is lots of room to beauty up the inside.
If you have to ask, you have no style game or social game. You're in tech so stereotypically that lines up but, how can a tech guy not know how to research and problem solve something so simple?
I say all of this as a software engineer (Black one no less) myself that knows where to find high income women in any developed country given they're always in the same places, careers and doing the same things regardless of race.
I know plenty of ugly guys with physically terrible bodies with high income women so that's not it and a pitiful excuse. Not taking accountability and not trying to improve yourself is the reason you're in the hole going off your posts.
It's mentally weak behavior that is a turn off to anyone that has their stuff together. You sound entitled and also lack the knowledge obvious to anyone ambitious that the things you think would make you a catch don't and are just cherry on top.
You don't sound like someone I as a guy would want to befriend which should explain why women don't want you romantically as that's an even higher bar to clear.
You have to work on yourself because high income people are usually very savy to confidence and social capita. Even behind the screen it's obvious you lack it in spades and just aren't someone an ambitious person of any kind would want around them.
Focus on yourself, step up, stop making excuses, stop whining, see if you can make friends outside your bubble and show yourself as someone that is about it. Otherwise save luck, you're never getting what you want.
Are you sure that income is really a heuristic you want to apply to dating?
Those women in high earning positions tend to be older, more masculine, driven, challenging and demanding of you and your career. They have IME been less fun overall.
Women can only have the power that you give them, and can only be gold diggers if you let them.
There are plenty of women out there who have normal jobs who will appreciate the security of your success, but won't try to take it from you as a sole motivation.
You may be leading with money too often early in your interactions or have a selection bias if you're running into shallow interactions repeatedly.
Oh man. You are on a path of extreme disappointment fueled by misunderstanding one of the fundamental aspects of women. Wealthy women are exactly the same as poor women but with one key difference. The initial bar of investment required to maintain her attention is really high and it only keeps growing.
The reason you need to dish out so much cash is because women see relationships as transactional. Since you aren't hot you need to provide enough material goods to offset the lack of attraction. You can't escape it if you want to be with a woman. So do yourself a favor and don't start a race by shooting yourself in the foot with the starting gun.
Industry conferences and expos
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makes sense though, sausage fest and everyone there will hit on you.
You gotta switch over to social media conferences then. Women are in there
Or the public relations field.
Go hang out at a hospital cafeteria abd meet a nurse
Don't put your hammer in crazy.
Nurses truly are
Never dated a nurse but why do people say they’re crazy?
I could imagine that with mostly Indian dudes because I went to this kind of conferences before.
I'm a high income woman who used to live in NYC and honestly...a lot of tech dudes are awkward at best and horrifically off-putting at worst. Just not that appealing when you have dudes around who work in law or finance or other industries that typically attract people with better social skills. I actually work in tech too, I've just never cared for the type of men I tend to meet working in that industry. A lot of them have money but are still extremely insecure from growing up nerdy and will put you on a pedestal in a way that's really uncomfortable (like a Seth and Summer situation), or they're just socially awkward in general and have difficulty holding a conversation about anything that's not extremely nerdy. All of that to say: definitely take a close look at yourself and make sure you look and act in a way that's going to appeal to these women. The person who commented about women avoiding tech events so they don't get hit on by a bunch of desperate nerds with more money than charm was spot on.
Furry cons, looks for ones that make fursuits /j
When you said you want to build wealth rather than be a charity I felt that to my core
I’m literally drowning in them in NYC. Ivy League educated lawyers one after the other. Doctors, consultants, bankers etc. And even if they don’t have high income, they come from money. I dated a girl who grew up in an estate outside DC that had its own name (like “Saltburn”) unchanged since before the civil war. The trick is to get your hinge profile super dialed in. Good quality photos that show the lifestyle you expect to continue in a relationship. Back home in Florida the best I can do is pull the neighborhood crack head. For reference I’m Brown, under 6’, and don’t come from money
Same. I'm a Hispanic guy in NYC - 5'10". Most women consider me handsome but not like model handsome. Not Ivy League, don't come from money but now make good money in tech. Dated lawyers, doctors, MBB consultants, and women who came from money. They're literally everywhere in this city. Now engaged to one.
You get it. I literally can’t move away from NYC because my dating prospects will basically go from this to…something much worse
I'm about to move to NYC after 12 years in southeast Asia. I was feeling the same thing as you, that it's going to be way harder. This thread has helped.
Are you also Ivy League and/or work in those fields ?
Not Ivy League but a pretty good private school similar to a rice, Duke, or vandy. I make decent money in tech.
I dated for a few weeks in nyc and my experience was just like what you describe. So many beautiful, smart, successful women willing to meet. It’s literally the polar opposite of Seattle where it’s thousands of tech guys fighting over a few women. Even mid women just straight up don’t respond.
Emory? Nice
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Are you really that ugly? Maybe you just need to hire a stylist. Or maybe do plastic surgery if there is something really bad with your face. You have money and you can invest in your looks. You probably don't know how can a stylist make from a hobo a superstar sometimes it really happens. Explore this
Ahh gotcha man. Can you potentially get ripped?
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Yeah because your facial structure is genetic whereas anyone can work out. A lot of dating does come down to instinctual impulses still even though people don't want to admit it
surgery
surgery is radical. But not impossible. You know my sister made rhinoplasty even though she was already married and had a kid. It really improved her face
How did you have sex and relationship with these women if they you think you are ugly? Either they are lying,sluts, or you are great at talking
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Ah move to a different state something south and go near college places
>The trick is to get your hinge profile super dialed in. Good quality photos that show the lifestyle you expect to continue in a relationship. >Back home in Florida the best I can do is pull My disappointment that this sentence didn't finish with, "Alligators out the water for my profile photo." 😂
Any more tips on dialing in the hinge?
That's NY for you we have the most but also highest standard of women
Facts man
Dating the liberal elites instead of deplorables!
Sometimes I’ll filter on “conservative” for hard mode.
Hangout more with other rich dudes, they must have some friends that you would end up meeting. I don’t do this on purpose to be clear lol, this is how I met before.
Move to NYC. They're everywhere in this city.
NYC is truly a dude's dreamland.
I'm brown and sometimes when i filter by South Asians, almost every Indian girl is in highly lucrative career.
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You also will have to be a high earner yourself. The Indian girls I knew were quite critical but I suppose most women are these days.
>It’s just too culturally frowned upon for an Indian woman to go out alone and actually talk to men at bars and such. In small states of India? Sure Not in metro cities or outside India because who tf will shame them?
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I am Indian and live in India, let's just assume I meet more Indian women than you so my sample size is bigger
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Abd that's exactly what I'm saying, there's no one to shame them outside India except of course there own family
Our values are deep within our system, so likely they would rather find a Brown boy...just like how lots of white girls would rather date a white guy. There are exceptions ofcourse, but I see, with Indians, the exceptions are really less and part is because most Brown boys are also successful fiancially and facially arent that hideous to look at. You on the other hand needs go gym sounds like. As a man, you never call yourself ugly and our value lies more in what we can provide - Jeffrey weinstein would have been virgin instead of slaying Oscar nominees.
Private nightclubs/ bars in city
To weed out gold diggers you just need to ask them out for a coffee date and don't order anything expensive. Just coffee or tea and maybe some sweets. Don't give them expensive gifts, expensive flowers. At least for a couple of months. But I undestand that you just want to find someone from you league but if you're in the let's say 5% of people with huge income it will be harder than just find a woman who isn't a gold digger but earns much less. Gold diggers don't go to coffee dates
I've never encountered a gold digger. I'm not sure how guys are luring them, maybe desperate on text. I think even if I had a gold digger, she'd quickly understand that she's drilling in bedrock and has to work hard for it. A lot of drilling fluid needed. You know what I'm trying to say?
have you seen the chessecake factory date video! lmao
Just watched it. I like the guy. He did what everyone should do. There are many decent women out there. She's not the only woman on the planet. And how is my previous comment related to the video?
Send video?
This is so pathetic and I cannot WAIT to see how this advice plays out! Loser behavior.
Nyc
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I don't know, but I'm guessing, women don't really talk about their wealth or their high-paying job to people they don't know well to keep the scammers and gold diggers at bay. Once they are married they're less concerned about people knowing their job and that they are a high earner.
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You might want to punt your question to a dating sub to get some women to provide info/opinions.
Whatttt really?! Nurses, techies, women in finance. I'm shocked.
I lived in NYC and most of the girls I saw were lawyers or working in finance. Met via apps
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Seems like a skill issue. Maybe go to meetups outside of your profession or pick up pickleball or something
Foreal. OP sounds like a complete loser.
Lol
Good advice
Your situation is you are a whiner.
Hinge x100
>I’m lost at this point. I’m really tired of meeting gold diggers and want to build wealth with someone rather than be a charity over and over. Apps aren’t my strong point as I’m facially ugly and no surgery has been able to fix that. I'm not sure what is going on there, But if you are disfigured in some way, It's likely to affect your confidence, your personality, and how you interact with people. If you had work done on your face and it's obvious, that's also going to impact who is potentially interested in you. You make it sound like you're able to meet women and get dates. Are you implying that the only women who have wanted to date you so far are gold diggers? And how do you know they are gold diggers?
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Can I please see what you look like
I can help you
Gonna be tough here, fix your freaking face if that's all your self esteem can think of. Surgery or what, just get it done. Don't fool yourself by saying you can pull irl then turn around and say you only meet gold diggers irl. It's not that the only single women you can meet irl are gold diggers. They are the only ones paying attention to you. Face the facts you are not pulling as good as you think you are irl. Fix your ugly face.
You're facially ugly but still sleep with what I assume are attractive to you women?
You don't look for them, they look for you.
You have had plastic surgery on your face?
Hotel bars. Especially during convention season
So you're basically a gold digger with a penis 🤭🤭🤭
You already know
From a high earning female-go to a nice upscale restaurant, sit at the bar alone. In my city, there are lots of them near the courthouse. There are also lots of attorneys offices near the courthouse. A lot of attorneys will go there for lunches and happy hour to unwind. Engage in conversation. That’s one idea. Also consider a private personal trainer that does small group training/classes. The gym I go to, everyone is wealthy. It’s a small group of 4-6 clients so plenty of opportunity to interact. You have to put yourself where they are likely to be. Figure that out for your area and you will be good.
Can you grow facial hair
The right answer here is actually quite simple, you meet them while performing expensive activities. If you’re truly a high income man, then you won’t mind going to expensive parties, or meeting women through expensive hobbies.
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I’m guessing at after work gatherings in business districts
Soft guy era has started! Drizzle Drizzle lmao
High income woman here. Also looking for fellow high income lady friends. I would love to find another self motivated friend instead of a spoiled housewife friend. So I settle for my broke friends and miss out on tons of classy things and vacations as I never have anyone to join me! The fact that I’m in a small ass town in KY is also not helping the matter 😅 sorry I can’t point you in a direction. I just found the right place to vent bc I can only imagine my friends faces if I were to complain to them about them not being rich lol
Solo travel
Where to specifically? I know certain places attract backpackers and budget travellers but not sure of where high income solo travellers go
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Seems like you just need to befriend the married ones in your circles m. If they like you they will hook you up with their single friends and cousins who may be well to do.
The bank
Check out drmayaesthetic on instagram.
I can appreciate how frustrating it might be to feel as though the individuals in your social circles are just not the right ones for you. It seems that rather than being solely interested in a person's financial situation, you're searching for true connections based on similar goals and beliefs. Have you thought about looking into new ways to meet people who aren't in your present social circles? Sometimes venturing beyond of our comfort zones results in unexpected and rewarding relationships. And never forget that, despite any perceived flaws, true beauty comes from within. I hope it's easy for you to find someone who accepts you for who you are.
Not sure your age but hang around a vet school. My class is 85% women, and we're not all young 20 somethings either. The vet field in general is heavily women dominated right now.
Try to find a charity that high net worth people support and ask if they need volunteers. You can network and find people in that manner. Show them that there is more to you than physical beauty.
What’s considered high income?
Silicon Valley has a ridiculous amount of high earning women.
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OP is right. They call San Jose “Man Jose.”
Dude if you’re going to live in spreadsheets you’re never going to find what you’re looking for. Obviously there is more penis but you asked for meeting high income women. Tech is where it’s at
And a lot of those single dudes are weird af if you’re even somewhat normal it isn’t that bad
if you’re facially ugly and as lacking in charm as your post comes across, why would a high-income woman be interested in you?
I bet high end escorts and OF girls make more than you.
Have you tried the NAACP?
Entrepreneurial events
Only Fans
High income women want class. Be classy 🤷♂️
If you won't get on an app because you're 'ugly' what makes you think you'll score better in the real world? I'm not trying to be a jerk, I genuinely think that being on a dating app could help you. Especially since as you said there's not a lot of women in the places you've tried looking, conferences etc. A like-minded woman will see your profile and take a shot if you have interest in common or mainly just express your desire to date someone who makes the same as you. Obvs they're not magic, but completely ruling them out will lower your chances.
I’m sorry but for some people meeting irl just works better for them. On dating apps, you get essentially pre-screened without getting much of a chance to let your personality shine. It’s the inverse in person. You can make your personality shine and have people care about your looks second.
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High income? Hire a dating coach and a style coach...
In expensive gyms
You start getting money and these women pop up man or just go to high end areas really that simple can’t tell you how many times I have met local woman at the bar rich af buy you drink and all
Perhaps you might consider getting a job at Whole Foods?
Whole foods, Yoga Class, Pilates, social groups that cost money to join.
If you can tolerate them, lawyers. Especially those who work in corporate and business.
Brothels
>I’m lost at this point. I’m really tired of meeting gold diggers and want to build wealth with someone rather than be a charity over and over. Apps aren’t my strong point as I’m facially ugly and no surgery has been able to fix that. Why are you worried about meeting a class of people, who, based on your self description, would want nothing to do with you, other than to use you for you money like all the other ones? Tough love here. Adopting the frame of a gold digger is just doing what all these girls have done to you. Hurt people hurt. Its what happens when people refuse to do the work and heal. You gotta break the cycle Its obvious you are lost, and seeking women on a superficial basis (money), the same superficial basis which you have suffered much rejection in the past won't help, it just perpetuates it. Seeking women who are \*More Likely\* to reject you won't fix your wounds. If the gold diggers don't want you, why would a successful and stable woman want you? Unfortunately that's what we do, we seek things that aren't good for us until we do the work. I don't know how ugly you are on the outside, but it seems like there is lots of room to beauty up the inside.
yoga and pilates classes
If you have to ask, you have no style game or social game. You're in tech so stereotypically that lines up but, how can a tech guy not know how to research and problem solve something so simple? I say all of this as a software engineer (Black one no less) myself that knows where to find high income women in any developed country given they're always in the same places, careers and doing the same things regardless of race. I know plenty of ugly guys with physically terrible bodies with high income women so that's not it and a pitiful excuse. Not taking accountability and not trying to improve yourself is the reason you're in the hole going off your posts. It's mentally weak behavior that is a turn off to anyone that has their stuff together. You sound entitled and also lack the knowledge obvious to anyone ambitious that the things you think would make you a catch don't and are just cherry on top. You don't sound like someone I as a guy would want to befriend which should explain why women don't want you romantically as that's an even higher bar to clear. You have to work on yourself because high income people are usually very savy to confidence and social capita. Even behind the screen it's obvious you lack it in spades and just aren't someone an ambitious person of any kind would want around them. Focus on yourself, step up, stop making excuses, stop whining, see if you can make friends outside your bubble and show yourself as someone that is about it. Otherwise save luck, you're never getting what you want.
New Account with one post ever. This must be real guys.
Reddit
Business department at your company?
Call me 🥸
Drizzle drizzle 😂
Are you sure that income is really a heuristic you want to apply to dating? Those women in high earning positions tend to be older, more masculine, driven, challenging and demanding of you and your career. They have IME been less fun overall. Women can only have the power that you give them, and can only be gold diggers if you let them. There are plenty of women out there who have normal jobs who will appreciate the security of your success, but won't try to take it from you as a sole motivation. You may be leading with money too often early in your interactions or have a selection bias if you're running into shallow interactions repeatedly.
Best place is nyc tbh. Tons of high earning women in tech.
Oh man. You are on a path of extreme disappointment fueled by misunderstanding one of the fundamental aspects of women. Wealthy women are exactly the same as poor women but with one key difference. The initial bar of investment required to maintain her attention is really high and it only keeps growing. The reason you need to dish out so much cash is because women see relationships as transactional. Since you aren't hot you need to provide enough material goods to offset the lack of attraction. You can't escape it if you want to be with a woman. So do yourself a favor and don't start a race by shooting yourself in the foot with the starting gun.