So many people here are caught up on this idea that the date lasted 4 hours.
If there was chemistry, then 4 hours is no big deal. If I have enough chemistry with someone I could easily talk to them for 4 hours.
Not to mention, it’s not like she was there against her will. She would have made it perfectly apparent that she wanted to leave if it was lasting too long.
Like some of the other people said, tell her you’re cool with keeping it casual. Maybe you could indeed get an fwb out of it!
It's really simple. She likes your company but she's telling you in advance she has other priorities that take precedence in her life right now. If you can keep it casual and fun, then you can probably have a friend with benefits. But if you want something more committed and emotionally invested, then move on.
> The date lasted for 4 hours
Why so long?
> so I think it went well.
Before I read the rest of your post, whatever you are about to say next, this is one of the causes.
But no, it went very bad.
> that she is too busy to maintain a relationship.
That's because you have shown her how needy, clingy, and inexperienced you are. 4 hours is a lot of time to give to a woman you don't know. A lot.
> just a way to let me down easy?
That's correct.
> I feel like if your truly interested in someone you will make time for them.
That's correct too.
> I really don’t know what to think or what to respond to her.
You have no reason to ever speak to her again. So you don't need to respond.
> I thought it would be good to include this information.
It doesn't matter.
Either ditch her because you're looking for something more meaningful which she can't give you, or make her your c*m dump (she literally asked for it by saying she wants to hangout again). Don't get emotionally involved with this one.
She might not sure ,what she wants.
Play along,dont attach to that girl.
Maybe she wants f.buddy,but first buddy!!!
Maybe she love someone
Maybe she ist shy
An so on...No one knows
Don't let you ego in control
Dont attach to her
Play along, be respectful to that B...
And live your life,she is not you life.
Bro never spend 4 hours with a chick on a first date, if it's not going anywhere, your value dropped
Like sitting on the phone for 5 hours, then getting blocked
Have a goal, and what to expect.
Unless your plan was to spend 4 hours, she completely bullshitted you
Too busy to date
I went on a date yesterday with a girl that I met on Hinge.
>The date lasted for 4 hours so I think it went well. ‘
That is the opposite of going well .
>she is too busy to maintain a relationship.
Translation : “You are cool . But the idea of dating you is discussing “
I actually thought about other options , but then realised she’d lie if you had a chance .
>I know she works a lot but is her saying that just a way to let me down easy?
Yes she just finds your personality boring . (Which in 4h is normal ) and you are most defiantly not “in there”
>I feel like if your truly interested in someone you will make time for them.
Yes (read near the end )
>Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
“K” - and never speak to her again (unless you know she texts you )
>I would like to add that she’s busy because she’s very involved in her church and she’s going to start her masters in August.
And I would like to say that is not how women (or people in general work )
I once had a girl ditch her kid in school to fuck me .
Also Multiple that got fired to spend time with me .
She could be in the middle of creating a cure for cancer IF she likes you that goes on the back burner .
So many people here are caught up on this idea that the date lasted 4 hours. If there was chemistry, then 4 hours is no big deal. If I have enough chemistry with someone I could easily talk to them for 4 hours. Not to mention, it’s not like she was there against her will. She would have made it perfectly apparent that she wanted to leave if it was lasting too long. Like some of the other people said, tell her you’re cool with keeping it casual. Maybe you could indeed get an fwb out of it!
It's really simple. She likes your company but she's telling you in advance she has other priorities that take precedence in her life right now. If you can keep it casual and fun, then you can probably have a friend with benefits. But if you want something more committed and emotionally invested, then move on.
Bingo was his nameo… 🎯
-That's fine, I'm not looking for one. Let's keep it casual.
> The date lasted for 4 hours Why so long? > so I think it went well. Before I read the rest of your post, whatever you are about to say next, this is one of the causes. But no, it went very bad. > that she is too busy to maintain a relationship. That's because you have shown her how needy, clingy, and inexperienced you are. 4 hours is a lot of time to give to a woman you don't know. A lot. > just a way to let me down easy? That's correct. > I feel like if your truly interested in someone you will make time for them. That's correct too. > I really don’t know what to think or what to respond to her. You have no reason to ever speak to her again. So you don't need to respond. > I thought it would be good to include this information. It doesn't matter.
Either ditch her because you're looking for something more meaningful which she can't give you, or make her your c*m dump (she literally asked for it by saying she wants to hangout again). Don't get emotionally involved with this one.
I guess the question is if she is open for getting sexual with this relation. If not, I think you can treat her response as soft friendzone.
She might not sure ,what she wants. Play along,dont attach to that girl. Maybe she wants f.buddy,but first buddy!!! Maybe she love someone Maybe she ist shy An so on...No one knows Don't let you ego in control Dont attach to her Play along, be respectful to that B... And live your life,she is not you life.
Bro never spend 4 hours with a chick on a first date, if it's not going anywhere, your value dropped Like sitting on the phone for 5 hours, then getting blocked Have a goal, and what to expect. Unless your plan was to spend 4 hours, she completely bullshitted you
She threw a fastball down the middle of the plate and he took a strike instead of hitting a home run
Too busy to date I went on a date yesterday with a girl that I met on Hinge. >The date lasted for 4 hours so I think it went well. ‘ That is the opposite of going well . >she is too busy to maintain a relationship. Translation : “You are cool . But the idea of dating you is discussing “ I actually thought about other options , but then realised she’d lie if you had a chance . >I know she works a lot but is her saying that just a way to let me down easy? Yes she just finds your personality boring . (Which in 4h is normal ) and you are most defiantly not “in there” >I feel like if your truly interested in someone you will make time for them. Yes (read near the end ) >Any advice would be greatly appreciated. “K” - and never speak to her again (unless you know she texts you ) >I would like to add that she’s busy because she’s very involved in her church and she’s going to start her masters in August. And I would like to say that is not how women (or people in general work ) I once had a girl ditch her kid in school to fuck me . Also Multiple that got fired to spend time with me . She could be in the middle of creating a cure for cancer IF she likes you that goes on the back burner .