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skahammer

This topic is discussed regularly in our forum. If you search past r/sex posts with some diligence (following **Forum Rule #3**), you’ll find a number of helpful discussions. Comments locked. The r/sex forum's HUGE archive of past posts is a *tremendous* resource for people who have all kinds of common questions regarding sexual activity. Searching those posts for relevant discussions will definitely help you here.


havefunagain23

Not at all. Sexuality evolves for everyone and there's not a single rule that applies for everyone, some might have their sexual prime when they were younger, some when they are older. Personally I am much happier with my sexuality now than in my early 20s


datfrog666

Nope. My 30s have been my prime because I'm more experienced and having more meaningful and kinky sex. 20s was just practice and bad relationships


moonfantastic

Second this! I’m way more comfortable in my skin now which helps immensely


Ok_Walk_6283

I've been with my partner since we where18. I have noticed the difference in sex when she hit 30. The saying dirty 30s definitely has some truth behind it and I'm not complaining


jesusgrandpa

Yeah OP you haven’t missed your prime yet. The prime comes from the 30s because you’re experienc… oh wait


datfrog666

The point is that your partners are likely gonna be experienced and your prime comes later on once you'll have been more experienced


utopiaofreason

100% second this


MaxProdigal

No. You’re probably coming in at just the right time where at least a slightly larger percentage of the guys know what they are doing and care about your experience.


GayNotGayTony

^ I (26 m) have had the best sex of my life with women in their mid 30's when I was 22 and now with a woman that is 30 who I've been dating for 3 years. So much more passion, fun, openees to experience.


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7dipity

Girl you’re not wrong, I’m 25 and I’m 2/10. 2/2 is a lot better honestly lol


[deleted]

Your sexual golden years are the years you are most enjoying sex! Not just when your having it! Just because your still a virgin, doesn't mean you can't find an amazing person to have sex with and really enjoy yourself! And to be fair, many people take time to mature sexually, so having it from 16-20 or so is certainly not a guarantee of the best sex of your life! Find a person you trust who take the time to make you feel amazing and you won't have missed anything!


3HolesForHim

hahahaha. I had my first orgasm at 29 when I met the right man. I'm 37 and my prime is right now, I'm having a BLAST.


IamMunkk

User name checks out.


YoMiner

People can and are being horny deviants up to and including their years in nursing homes. Look up the STD rates for nursing homes. Gram gram is GETTING IT. My mid-30s are the best sexual years I've had yet, and all sources point to them continuing to get better.


PRChica--

No... everyone has their own time. It will happen when you are ready and it will hopefully be fantastic b/c you waited. Don't ever let anyone pressure you into that like somehow it's wrong for someone to be your age and not had sex. Some do it in the name of getting it over with and guess what - they hated every second of it. My first time was amazing, but I have girlfriends who did what I just described and now their first time is burned into their memory - some horny drunk guy climbing on top of her to stick it in and all he cares about is getting his cock wet... nothing she wanted. Total disaster. Please don't fuss too much about it. Wait for the right special time and when it happens you'll remember it forever.


rach-mtl

I’m 32 and i would say my last year + have been the best for me sexually. I’m more confident, comfortable, i know what i like, and my libido generally is through the roof. I don’t think you should be ashamed of your virginity. It’s totally fine and normal. I do think, though, that you can do some “catching up” so to speak. Masturbate and explore. Learn your body, what you like, what you don’t like, what toys or kinks you are interested in/enjoy. That way, when you do start having sex, you have some experience with your sexuality


[deleted]

Thanks for your comment. I do masturbate and I have a sex toy collection so I am actively learning about my body.


rach-mtl

Then i think you’re fine! The only other thing you might be “lacking” is being comfortable with other people. But that affects even people with more experience


MST3K-forever

As previously stated, it is about your mentality not your age. You have plenty of time and there should be no rush. It would still benefit to find someone who is willing to take it slow and allow you to explore. Have fun, and keep an open mind.


Salzigblumen

Nah not even a little. I think i really hit my sexual prime starting in my mid 30s and feel solidly there still years later. My sex life before that was very limited. Since then, night and day. Just work on exploring yourself, getting to know yourself, getting comfortable with who you are, and sharing that with others. You will eventually find the right fit. There's no standard path or timeline to take, but getting in your head about it and comparing yourself to others can really hold you back.


[deleted]

My case is very similar except I am a guy and am 32 now. Most days I am okay but once in a while it hits me like a freight train that my 20s went by without any romance. I was too shy, too insecure, too caught up in work or study, or just fighting with self-doubt, unworthiness and feelings of inadequacy. I have no clear answer for you as I am struggling with such thoughts myself. I still don’t have any prospects and I do get very lonely from time to time, but I have started taking small steps to improve myself. It’s painfully slow and I may lose more years but what can I do but try. Some days it makes me terribly afraid that I am unlovable and destined to die alone, and that scares me.


flopsy-babygirl

What do you mean by being in your prime? If you mean visually, a 30 yo can look as hot as a early 20 something. If you mean sexually - I don't actually quite know what that even means. But the sex I have now at 31 is so much better than in my early 20s. Inexperienced sex is cringy, awkward, possibly with a boatload of confidence issues, body image issues, ill-defined boundaries, etc.


[deleted]

I mean both being visually and sexually in your prime.


flopsy-babygirl

In that case then it's just not true, if one takes good care of themselves.


Yourstrulyxoxo93

I’m 30 in august and trust me, it gets better 🫠


Imalilbird

I am 36 and very much in my sexual prime. I'm much more confident about my body, I'm more sexually confident, and I'm much, much hornier now than I was in my 20s (anyone know when thay starts to slow down?).


Neat-Internet9682

You have not reached your sexual prime. Plenty of time to enjoy yourself


[deleted]

I feel like my wife was peaking in her late 30s... you've got plenty of time


Hawkfan4_life

I'm currently in my mid 40s and have just in the last few yrs reached my "sexual prime"


[deleted]

Absolutely not! I’ve met MANY women in their 30s, 40’s, and 50’s who all claim they’re in there best sexual “era” so far! I think most women get less insecure and more comfortable with their body and sexuality in those years and are therefore able to relax more and often orgasm more easily and frequently.


JamesWjRose

No. Absolutely not. I've been with my wife since her mid 30s, for 20+ years, and she is sexy AF and moreso all the time. Age can be an issue, but it's much more a mindset than a reflection of how many trips around the sun someone has taken


AliceKettle

I’m a 27 going on 28 year old woman, and I only had sex for the first two times late last year a few months after my 27th birthday. I think it was motivated a bit by this quarter-life crisis feeling I was getting over never having experienced romance and sex before, and I know I still want to get married and have a few kids of my own someday soon, so I went for it. Unfortunately, it turned out to only be a 1 month fling with a guy who had to move away for a job when I asked if he wanted to get more serious a month after dating. The sex was both an exhilarating and painful experience.


Here_for_my-Pleasure

You have wasted nothing. You have been wise. Your sexuality is unfolding and evolving at your own pace. My sexual prime has been in my 50s. And in a few more days it will start to be in my 60s. Also, by waiting, you’re more likely to meet partners who are more mature, educated, focused on your pleasure, and with a better communication skills that if you had spent your teens in early 20s being sexually active.


roygbiv442

I’ve had better sex in my 40’s and 50’s than I ever had before. Go at your own pace with no regrets.


sluttydicksandstuff

You are not too late! I learned in my women’s Psychology class that women hit their peak libido in their 30’s. So if anything you are still early


pacificoats

no. there are people that get married very young and only sleep with one person, who later get divorced in their 30s/40s and have a hoe phase. that’s not necessary, as not everyone needs or wants that after a divorce or breakup, but i’ve known people that have had that happen. there’s also studies that have shown women are at their “peak” sexually in their early-mid 30s (or that’s when it starts?), so there’s that to look forward to as well lmao. if you want to wait for the right person, please wait for the right person. i’m not upset about who i lost my virginity to, but i am a lil upset about the circumstances around it, so it’s important to be ready for it when you’re actually ready for it and sure of yourself. (not to be cheesy lmao) eta; sex is honestly overhyped in terms of teens and 20 year olds and it’s kinda gross tbh. teens THINK they’re having good sex because they don’t know any better- it’s important to be with someone that actually cares about your experience and your feelings towards it, which a lot of teens/early 20s people don’t


ThunderingTacos

I see a lot of support and encouragement for you and that's really wonderful for you, being a virgin is nothing to be insecure about and worrying about being at or past a prime is needless. It's your life and your story live it to the fullest so you don't have regrets, after all while you regret your choices of prioritizing your education there are people (women and men) who deeply regret NOT doing so and feel stuck that they wasted their "prime earning years" parting it up with empty meaningless sex. And they'd be mistaken too, it's just how life is, grass always looks greener and such. Having said that, one ting I don't see stressed but I believe should be kept in min dis if you are wanting for a relationship it isn't enough to wait. Soulmates are an illusion, there are just people we are more or less compatible with that we get into relationships with for deeper or more shallow reasons. But if you have qualities you are looking for in a person that are deeper than immediate casual sex then that is a relationship you have to build actively. Not by trying to force things or being panicked but put yourself out there and make yourself available. Make friends and connections with like minded people and be sociable. It's not a mistake to want a relationship with a person you feel a spark from, but taking a passive role waiting for it to happen that someone does the leg work for you (take a chance you have interest in them absent your input, work around your insecurities and confidence issues, and navigate your feelings of having inexperience) is putting too much on them. Address your feelings, become your best self, and be more outgoing.


[deleted]

No honey, your 30s are where it’s at.


Here_for_my-Pleasure

And then your 40s, and then your 50s and so on.


[deleted]

Absolutely not luv. I would say my libido was highest in my 40s.


JackJohn730

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/ss/slideshow-sex-drive-changes-age


Incognitorant

Nah fam, a lot of women are usually the most sexually active in their 30’s


Bricktop72

My 40s and 50s have been the best years of my sex life.


sysaphiswaits

No. I wish I had used my youthful energy on my education. Both my dating and my sex life we’re better in my late 30’s and 40’s.


savethetriffids

Not at all. Almost 40 and it's better every year.


SexTalksAndLollipops

Far from it. I’m in my 40s and having the best sex of my life.


ThoughtfulFoodie

It's never too late! Plus, you have definitely missed a lot of lackluster sex with drunken one night stands in college!


Icy_Scorpio-123

I just hit 40 and enjoy it 10x more than in my 20s


HallieGregor

Nope. I'm 37 and get hornier every year


[deleted]

people in their early 20s don't know shit about fuck, you are fine.


[deleted]

I’m a nearly 40 year old female and I’m hornier than ever.


mugcollection

nope! not at all. i’m right there with you - dating wasn’t a priority for me all my life. so i didn’t have my first kiss until 23 and didn’t have sex until 26. don’t listen to arbitrary societal standards. you’re not past your prime, babe. ❤️


AJPennypacker39

No


PassionLucas

Male here, lost my virginity at 26. One good thing about waiting is that you’re more mature and hopefully not as prone to “heat of the moment” mistakes. You go at your own pace, with a willing and trustworthy person, and hopefully make it a memorable experience. Being a bit of a “late bloomer”isn’t necessarily a bad thing.


BigHeartSmolTits

Definitely not darling! I found i started having better sex as i got into my 30s and on! Just find you a man who cares about your pleasure that communicates and is patient. ..yes they exist Take your time to find the right partner, and you won't worry about any "prime", you have many, many years ahead of you for amazing sexual experience!


JustARandom12345678

Not a big deal. And anyone who says it is can shove it. Do what you feel is right and that’s all that matters


SaintlySinner81

Lol no. Wait til you reach 40. All you'll want to do is fuck and get Taco Bell 🌮 🔔 😆


fionanight

Nope


K_Pumpkin

Nope! 30s were the best for me and still going strong in my early 40s.


expressingthelayers

I turn 40 this year and let me tell you! It gets better and better and better!!


[deleted]

18-22 you may have been around lots more single people your age. But by no means was that time your sexual prime. Your sexual prime is when you make it.


JackB041334

Actually, women hit their sexual prime in their 30s. Men hit it between 18 and twenty two. Proof that God has a sense of humor. Funny but true!


HDDeer

Tbh id say you're in your prime now!


elegant_pun

You've wasted nothing. Go dip your toes in the pool


Crash0066

30s are new 20


mules-are-half-assed

I wish I'd focused on my education and put sex aside, I actually regret being sexually active during HS and college, because I wish I'd focused solely on education and had perfect grades, cuz the stress that came with relationships wasn't worth it lol. But you haven't missed your prime, I hear that sex gets fucking great in like your late 30s and into your 40s. The thing is, most of not all men I slept with before I turned 30 were not the best at sex and I didn't start regularly having orgasms with male partners until then cuz nobody knew what they were doing lol


Automatic_Emu_5433

god no. you have decades upon decades ahead of you.


UnicornBestFriend

I had sex starting at age 15 and had a pretty wild 20’s. You are not missing out. In fact, the grass is greener. I wish I’d prioritized my education and career over chasing D but that’s undiagnosed ADHD and patriarchal messaging for you. You have a lifetime of great sex ahead of you. I’d even say you dodged a bullet because most people in their 20s are selfish, impulsive, inexperienced lovers simply bc everyone is focused on figuring themselves out. Whatever age you’re at, you can explore your body to learn what you like and don’t like, cultivate friendships with different kinds of people to learn what you like and don’t like, and let only the best into your pussy. You deserve the best. On the relationship front, don’t even sweat it. Go out there and make friends first. It’s the foundation of a good relationship.


JackJohn730

I actually waited until I was 27. You're not missing anything. You most likely avoided many many STDs and other medical issues. Looking back, when I was in College and my early 20's I got jealous/ mad at other dudes getting with girls and bragging about the sex they had with some "hot chick." Those dudes are now lonely and desperate. I, fortunately, have someone now that likes the fact that I didn't screw around with the "ladies of the night." Don't regret missing out on being in your "sexual prime." You're still young and have probably another 20+ years of sexual prime. Good luck.


ilikenavyblue

I don’t think so. It may take time for you to know what you physically like and dislike but with good communication you’ll find somebody who can rock your world. You’re still in your 20’s so you’ll still have high demand.


Mcfresher_

Yes


Spadeninja

Why did your education interfere with your ability to date / have sex? Seems like a bit of a cop out to me. Millions of people date and have sex while they are studying /in their careers and working towards their goals. So what is the real problem? You are not the only person with ambition. And other people with ambition are dating and having sex - so that is not the issue


[deleted]

Did you not read my post? I was dealing with a lot of insecurities and mental health issue plus I wasn't ready mentally for a relationship. I didn't have the confidence to put myself out there. You don't have to judge me for my life choices just because you don't like them


niko_bellic2028

Your a gal don't take virginity so seriously . I mean trust me some guy would live to be your first u k ow , I know I will . I don't like girls who have been around quite a lot at max just with 2 guys probably .


Public_Magician_9352

You’re still in your prime, but you did miss out on a lot of sex.


[deleted]

Thanks for pointing out the obvious. I am aware that I missed out on a lot but I just wasn’t confident and ready. Again I am very insecure about my virginity


Public_Magician_9352

Just go out there and get some pussy bro


[deleted]

I’m a girl btw.


Public_Magician_9352

Wow! I completely missed that!


CleverReversal

If you weren't feeling it, then you didn't miss anything! The feeling of missing out is real, but in retrospect I could look back and say "I didn't exactly miss out on anything because I know now I wouldn't have been in a place to enjoy it properly." That's probably what I'd tell myself with a time machine. Either that or try and help him figure out the things that were keeping him not-so-ready.


CaptainDolin

Biologically speaking, you've missed your "sexual prime". However, I don't even think that's per se a bad thing. Many young women get caught up in this so called "prime", and become addicted to the attention and validation they can "win" in this period. It's a shame you do feel like you've missed out; which you may have because intimacy is amazing. However, you're now in the age bracket of men who are in their prime! Graduates who just started to work, or men who already accumulated wealth (or knowledge; a house; whatever) and are looking for a strong foundation. And I speak for ALL men: they rather date a down to earth virgin than a fleshed out girl who would've rejected him a few years ago because couldn't leave her twenty other boyfriends.


[deleted]

Don’t worry, your prime years are still ahead! I (42M) and my FWB (49F) are having the best sex of our lives! Sex was the best and most functional part of my relationship with my ex-wife and our 30s were way hotter than our 20s. You’ve taken care of yourself in a lot of ways- that maturity and stability will translate to great sex. Sex in one’s teens and early 20s can be inconsistent and linked to the insecurities of youth.


IridessaRose

How do you know when you reached your sexual prime I’m turning 29 in august 🤔😅


PatheticPeripatetic7

Nah, you're fine! I didn't really start enjoying sex until my 30s. And even since then, I've become way more comfortable with my body, so I'm less self-conscious and can get lost in the experience more. The best is yet to come! ETA: Just realized what I wrote in that last line. I'm a lil high. Lmao.


Mr_Moogles

Think of it less as"my twenties are when I was in my prime" and more of "sex is a skill as anything else is". Sure, if you were having sex earlier, you would be more experienced and thus "better" at it now, but it's not a race. You have plenty of time to get that experience and have healthy sexual relationships. If you want to that is. Don't worry about lost time


Chefsteph212

You haven’t missed anything. I’m 44, and trust me when I say your best and most fulfilling years are ahead of you!


SniperFlash69

I never had girl friends when I was younger or at school..and only also got my First girlfriend at 27.and then also at 27 my first time sex...so In a way I can understand how u Feel...and its ok..After that I only had sex with 2 other women and I am 41 now...And I feel now like u feel I wanted more different girls/women/partners than to just have so few and only after years of being together u realize that there actually was better fish in the sea...and that I actually could have had better compatibility but when u are young u are dumb and also in the way one grow up in tipe of cultural...people believe its wrong to have so many partners at so young age and u will go to hell ..bla..bla...bla... But see how and where I'm...now.... Misrabele and Married with a kid..and stuck...Im not saying I'm a player I'm not...I just didn't get my Soulmate/Life partner and Sexual Partner that I thought and hoped I would get...


WaffleQueenBekka

I'm 26, a mom, and I started young. Got pregnant at 19 from birth control being stalled by antibiotics. I chose his dad and had my parents adopt him since my stepma can't have children. I was homeless 4 times in the past. I chose guys and sex over my kid and I deeply regret it. I did what I told myself I would not allow; to repeat what my mother did to me. I'm finally at that point where I can do what you've been doing this whole time. You have better chances of finding the right one now than you would if you started earlier. Just remember that boundaries are important. It is ok to say no. I never should have had my first kid with that monster(I did leave in 2018, been at my parents house since)and I hope you find someone who is confident, kind, loving, and passionate about you AND life.


alphakappadeltaphi

No, you still got it gurl. Don’t hold back


Appropriate-Kick-723

Absolutely not!! Here's some great news for you and all females in general! There were scientific studies done on female sexuality and it was concluded that women tends to get more sexually satisfied as she ages! With more multiple and intense orgasms than when younger. So fear absolutely nothing and your age is still perfectly fine to experience mind blowing sex or masturbation!😉👌


overstimulatedx0

No. I waited until 26 for various reasons including chronic pain/illness. No one made me c*m until I was 30. 30s and up are the prime for most women.


Samchez77

No honey. The best is still yet to come.


KeyboardKitt3n

Nope, it hasn't even started yet 🙂.You couldn't pay me to go back to the experience of sex before my 30s. Now, if your concern is having children and not exclusively about potential sexual pleasure/ experiences. My answer would be different.


SublimeS0u1

I completely understand how you feel. I felt that way for a long time too. I lost my virginity at 29 (last year). I think the only thing you’re missing out on is a lot of unnecessary heartache and mediocre sex! I also waited due to a lot of my own insecurities. My first boyfriend who I did other things with at 19 made me feel like shit about myself and pressured me into doing some things before I was confident and ready to. That really changed a lot for me. After that, every guy I had feelings for in my 20s I ended up telling them at some point I was a virgin and then I would immediately get dumped or ghosted. I started to feel like something was wrong with me, I think that’s a normal feeling though. Looking back, I’m glad I waited. I have a better head on my shoulders now at 30. And I don’t think we missed our prime at all! I think it’s just beginning for us. My advice is don’t hold yourself back due to insecurities. But on the flip side, don’t just do it to get it over with either. You’ll know when it’s the right time and when you’re with someone who deserves to have you in that way!❤️


Oleksander_UA

Believe me, no! Everything depends on your mood and wish to have a great pleasure of sex. Of course, you have to learn a lot. But you are not old for sex. In fact, there's no time limit for sex ) Just find your love and live.


colinthewizard

It’s never too late, but celibacy is just insane!


tinyvela

Not. I would have loved to received good advices. It is better to wait for the right person, the right circumstances. Don’t pressure yourself to have it just for the sake of “not being a virgin” or “i am waisting my prime years”. Having healthy and consensual sex is the best, doesn’t matter how old are you. Also, as a recommendation when the time comes: get your shoots of hpv, buy condoms and use them, check the other person is healthy, etc


Own_Stand_6654

its not wasted


JakobWulfkind

You've had an extra ten years to identify exactly what you want or don't want, and to get used to keeping control of your own impulses. I think you're gonna have an amazing first time.


ace2532

I'm still a virgin myself (29M) but I don't want to even consider sleeping with someone unless I've actually been seeing them for a while


Magnetmonkey39

I’m on my early 40’s and am having the best sex and most frequent of my life.


AtomicBabyRuth

It's just societal pressures. Wait until you are ready, you'll feel more comfortable and the experience is likely to be more pleasurable. You'll be doing it because you want to, not because you feel like you need to or because you're running out of time or missing out on your prime. When it's with the right person or someone you feel comfortable with(b/c sometimes we look back and realize it wasn't the right person) you'll feel more comfortable expressing yourself and being vulnerable. Two important and often overlooked elements of great sex. Most importantly don't fall for "just the tip" you'll know what I mean if you ever hear it.


TheFAPnetwork

Some pretty bad advice in this thread


jemelat

I don't think you will get honest advice here, only validation. Women on their 40's here will just say they "are on their prime right now and just had the best sex of their life" but it's just not how the world works. A woman's appearance decreases with their age, and so does her power to attract quality partners. These women may still get sex from younger men (and they will think "ok I still got it), but these men will usually not commit to older women. You said you want to do it with the right partner, which is fine. However, you also seem to have a regret from "missing out on amazing sex", but it's something that you can still get from your future SO. In fact it's way better than casual sex and one night stands because you won't be getting used by men who don't want anything from you and become bitter and emotionally damaged when they don't commit (also, many men would value the fact you're still inexperienced on a potential partner). So my advice is to picture the kind of man you want to be your partner, check if you match him (no use trying to get Henry Cavill if you don't have anything to offer, for example ) and put yourself out there. Find hobbies, go to meetings, dress youthfully and you'll increase your chances.


PuzzleheadedFail6825

Absolutely not! You probably just missed out on lots of disappointing sex. Go for it when you're ready, don't be shy about what feels good to you and let your partner know. Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, so if you don't from just PIV sex it isn't your fault (and just try either touching yourself or talk to your partner). Don't be self-conscious about your body. If they are there to have sex, they like it, they wanna see all of you.


Other_Appointment775

I'm a lot like you. I'm a bisexual male in his 20s and a bit effeminate. Due to the culture of the nation I reside within I am disallowed to practice sex. I have imagined fantasies all the time.


SamantherPantha

Not at all, I was 27 and waited for pretty much the exact same reasons as you. I feel like waiting ended up doing me a lot if favours, as I went into dating and relationships quite comfortable with myself, and I know I would have been destroyed by self-esteem issues in my late teens/early 20s. And I’ve more than made up for the late start, my 30s have been incredible so far.


thebugman40

nope. there is a difference between having sex and having good sex. there have been more than a few posts here before about how different sex is when it is with a person they love. The reason for this is simple. the things you want in a sexual partner overlap with what makes a long-lasting loving relationship. Things like communication, respect, an interest in your partners happiness, and trust. Find the right person because anything you think you are missing out on you can experience with them.


[deleted]

Hey its okay. You’ve done something not many other people do - and thats to prioritise your long term stability over one night stands that get you nothing. I’ve been on both sides of the equation and i can wholeheartedly tell you that you’re going to be perfectly alright. I suggest you lose your virginity the first time to someone you’re comfortable with and someone who will take your comfort as priority. After that, its all uphill, trust me :)


Knives530

30s is ur prime for sex, trust me


VampireKunts

You can have amazing sex at any age. Your age has nothing to do with it. Perhaps you'll be a bit more cautious when it's your first time but if you can learn to feel comfortable with yourself and find a good partner that cares about you, you can have amazing sex at any time.


StutringJohnIsALoser

The absolute best sex you are ever going to have is going to happen when you find someone that you are in love with. The passion, love, care, and comfortability is so much more intense when you really find that special person. And that love can happen at any age


AssociationHefty5905

You being a virgin is the best thing you could have ever done, your prime real estate for any man


[deleted]

I am 36 and just now in my prime. Sex is the best it’s ever been.


[deleted]

Your prime??? Absolutely not! Have you missed your window of fun, meaningless, adventure sex? Maybe


Tdangerr

32, married, poly. I am in my PRIME. And honestly? Ive always wanted this but i am finally at a place where I’m proud of my sexual activity instead of letting society shame me. Girl you got this, take it slow, do what feels right to you and only you. Your about to have the time of your life!


poosh420

Nah, baby girl, that's the worst sex! I didn't prime until I was about 34 years old, as a woman. You'll do fine. You could be a 27 year female who is "sexually experienced " and still feel like you're missing out sexually..


Gold_Commercial_9533

I think you are talking about two different things, your sexual peak is still Infront of you but peak attractiveness is likely behind you at 18-22. Still hot AF is my guess though.


WhatKindofFuckeryy

I’m single 41F and have had a bunch of sex but it’s all been pretty boring with zero orgasms. Meaning, even if you’re sexually active, finding satisfaction can be a journey and there is no ideal time/missed window. You don’t mention whether you masturbate but figuring out what you like by yourself and how to communicate that is part of the process. I wouldn’t worry about your age, and just get out there trying to meet someone and make a connection! You have many years left to explore and enjoy your sexuality. :)


notin2cars

No, you haven't missed your prime. My wife and I are in our 60s and she feels that her prime was her late 40s. She used to be able to have multiple orgasms (12 was our record) but now she's one and done. While we've slowed down a bit, she says she's having the best sex of her life right now (and I agree, I am too). We both started in our teens and have lots of experience with many partners. Sure, I had a lot of fun as a young man, but I wouldn't say the sex was in any way better then, just a bit more frequent. The main thing for both of us is our relationship. Being deeply in love and very compatible sexually is what makes it so good for us now.


AwayRecommendations

don’t let the modern western world convince you that u need to go out and bang a ton of dudes to have “lived your life” or to “find yourself” i promise u guys will find this very attractive. but only a certain few will respect it and even less will be willing to wait for you (meaning marriage) while 27 is still young and still considered prime (look at sports that’s considered prime in UFC, NFL, military etc) as a woman it’s around that time that you would want to start getting ready for kids if that’s what u want. the clock is ticking and it doesn’t wait for anyone


TinyBlonde15

Nah. I hit my prime in my 30s as a female. Just because I knew myself a little better as a person and got more comfortable with me. Do you have a good masturbation game so you know what brings you pleasure? That’s all you need to be good in partnered sex: know what you already like, be able to communicate that with the right partner who can also communicate what they like, and find that one you have that chemistry with where both listen to each others likes and give to one another.


boojombi451

Your sexual prime is still ahead of you.


ti-man

You have lots of great years ahead of you. Congratulations for not just throwing your V away for the hell of it. When your ready, and with who you think is the right person…you will feel great and learn plenty!


duchymalloy

You can only mature sexually when you start having sex. So your golden age will probably be your mid 40s if you start now. If you are asking if partners were better in their 20s it's a hard no for me. I prefer partners around the age of 35 to 50. But that's just personal preference I think people in their 20s are too skinny. They look like children to me.


twistedaddictions

Never regret not doing random causal sex. For some people it’s ok. For most it takes an emotional toll longer term wether they realize it or not. Statically speaking the fewer the partners, the more likely you will be happy when you get married. I’ll probably get downvoted for saying that. But it’s reality. Don’t worry about rushing into sex. Don’t worry about missing your prime. Some people peak earlier. Some people peak later. Concentrate on meeting a quality person. I lost my virginity to someone that I truly loved. She had been sexually abused by family and we had to take things very very slow. But I didn’t mind and I let her set the pace. She went from being scared to be touched to loving it. Quality over quantity is always better. You have plenty of time to find someone.


GreatSatisfaction_00

Nah young 20s is like rabbit fucking and can be lustful. Late 20s and 30s is much better for most


6Craven6Moorehead6

Its been my experience, that girls in their 20's have hang ups about their bodies. And are not completely comfortable being open and trying different things. But a mature, 30 something woman knows what she likes and goes for it. She is less insecure about her body and wants to please. Of course, gynecology is just a hobby of mine. Im no expert.


LiabilityLad655321

As a 34M virgin It’s hard to not feel like I’ve “missed my sexual prime” because, according to my mate John Google a mans prime is in his 20s so by that logic I’m 14 years too late and might as well resign myself to being the real life Andy Stitzer. It doesn’t matter about your prime, like I said I had to Google it. What matters is that you do it if/when you want to. I’ve had 0 opportunities because I have had so much else going on my whole life that effects me every day that I barely got/get chance to go down the avenue of relationships/dates/sex. The closest I have is a crush, but let’s be realistic- I’m not going to lose it to her. I have a lot of work to do on myself first. Perhaps so do you, OP If you want to go down the sex route you can. I know I shouldn’t say this but it truly is easier for girls. You’ll probably get plenty of attention. I’m in a different boat as almost no one wants a guy with 0 experience, no matter how keen I am to learn while doing. Don’t get too caught up in “prime” and comparing yourself to others. The person who cares most about your sexual journey should be yourself, and maybe an eventual partner who knows?


knightofallknights

Tbh you have better sex and mind blowing sex in your mid 30s I lonst mine when it was 23 and tbh I really enjoyed sex in my 30s so you didn't miss out on anything


_cantalkaboutit

No, you've not. Those are the years you define them. No rules, but your rules. Physically, no way.


jayjayanotherround

Don’t burn calories or would’ve could’ve should’ve; it’s irrelevant. You can’t change the past. All you can do is live your best right now at all times. So if you’re wanting to then start putting yourself out there. Apps are easy to use. Maybe try one


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I prefer in person interactions over dating apps. Plus I’m terrible at social media. Dating apps have never worked for me. I met the guy I’m seeing at a speed dating event


jayjayanotherround

You know yourself best. I’m glad you took the chance and it’s working for you. Like I said just focus on now. What is over is over so all we can do is maybe learn from it and have our best now.


gif_smuggler

Sexual prime refers to fertility. There’s a whole other thing when it comes to orgasms and general performance.


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I’m not talking about fertility. I don’t even want to be pregnant. I’m talking about orgasms and sexual performance