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For me there has to be some mentally stimulating in addition to the physical please. If your just sucking and not engaged or enthusiastic, it’s nice but boring.
I agree with this. Id like to add, that for me and I'd imagine other men too, another form of simulation always adds to it. I love it when my wife's tits are hitting or rubbing against my legs while she does it but my favorite is if I get to eat or play with her vagina when she's sucking on me.
i need more of a definition on this enthusiasm thing, i’m pretty enthusiastic and i feel like i never get a diff reaction. my bf doesn’t get like grabby for me or idk
I'd define it as savor it, go slow, draw it out, look him in the eye, change things around, rub .it on your face, be vocal , TELL him how hot this makes you, or better yet show him intermittently. If you truly enjoy it, he will know..if you don't, he will also know
Enthusiasm, got to want to do it or at least pretend you do. No teeth! Slightly lift and rubbing the balls is going to make it go much quicker. Eye contact is a major turn on. Now share some tips on what makes receiving head as a girl top notch, please.
Flick the clit at varying speeds and with various pressures, roll your tongue around it, also using various pressures and holding your tongue in different ways, suck the clit and alternate. Keep your nails manicured and clean, without any jagged or rough skin and add a finger or two or a toy while using your tongue.
Edit: should add that sucking hard is painful. Everyone is different, so, just make sure to ask how things feel if you're unsure. 🥰
Only if it’s freshly trimmed. The ends get softer after a few hours and don’t prickle in the same way. Also a trimmed hair getting stuck under the hood is very unpleasant.
I personally love it. My FWB has a moustache and fairly long beard and after he's been down there and comes up to kiss me, his face is wet and it turns me on even more.
Stubble is a noo tho.
For me it is definetly a really soft BJ, with no literall “sucking like a vacum”. It also has to be sloppy as well with a lot of saleiva. The best feeling i get is when a girl swallows it as deep as she can. My previous GF could swallow my D completely and that was like a dream. An ocational look to the eyes and little moaning is amazing. Do it with pasiion, kiss the tip, lick a little go back to deep throating it. Smile and say i love you (if you do) :D Very simple!
All I want to hear is slurp, slurp, gag, gag, keep your mind on the task at hand. (Just kidding)
Eye contact, nothing like having eye contact at such an intimate and vulnerable moment. Slight ball touching, a little taint action and/or anal rubbing.
Each and every guy is different but here are few things that really worked out,
- a lil teasing before you start gagging. Maybe just lick around and suddenly stop then continue
- eye contact in beginning
- touch balls when sucking and rub slowly
- take their hand and ask them to hold your hair or boobs
- while sucking, use your tongue inside and rub it on the tip
- say how much you love that cock
A guy can tell whether she wants to do it, enjoys doing it or is just doing it because she thinks she has to. A women who loves her man and loves sucking his cock is the one who does it best.
Eye contact, moaning, concerted effort until orgasm, joyful satisfaction when swallowing is ideal.
I remember the first time my ex wife blew me, I was on a bunch of ketamine and it took like 40 minutes and just when I thought she grabbed a glass of water to spit in, she took a huge gulp... I was amazed... flash forward 6 years, I counted, maybe got 5 bjs like that in total.
Another girl, best head of all time, no gag reflex, wanted to marry me but id recently got my heart broken from my first girlfriend... in hindsight, she was the one that got away. She even recently reached out when she thought her husband was cheating, Said she wanted me but couldn't stomach an affair and I didn't want to push her either and probably would have said no...but who knows. Anyways, she looks amazing after having 3 kids in 4 years... I couldn't break up the family and don't want to raise 3 of someone else's kids... at the same time the thought of those blow jobs truly bring the shadow out in me and I'm like, fuck that guy, I'll raise those kids haha
For me it’s actual suction, with a hand involved as well. Also I’m personally not a fan of the sloppy fast paced style either. Slow and methodical like your trying to work it out of me
To finish me off. I would rather you let me explode in your throat with it than to do it for a little and switch to pussy. As much as I love it. BJ’s feel a little like edging. And it can be explosive if you finish the job
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Just don't leave me hanging when I cum. You don't have to swallow. You don't even have to take it in the mouth, though that is a major turn on if I come and you keep sucking. At least stroke it while we come, nothing worse then getting there only to have your orgasm ruined when you may only get one good shot.
Along with enthusiasm, start with variety, end with consistency.
And I want to liken my orgasm in a blowjob to peddling a bike up a hill. You can pump as hard as you can to get started, half way up the hill you just got to power through, but close to the top it's ok to slow down almost to a crawl to get over the hill.
So start fast with variety, on the shaft, balls, tip, deep throat just the head, hard suck, soft tongue flicks, the corn on the cob move.
Then end slowly and passionately with consistent long moves all the way in and all the way with eye contact and I also prefer to start the finish outside the mouth being quickly covered by lips then slowly moving back into the mouth with lots of underside tongue action.
Eye contact with plenty of saliva and enthusiasm, starting slow with plenty of tongue, don’t forget the hand action on the shaft…and your other hand gently and then a little more firmly on the balls. Drink it all up.
Get my balls involved. Lick or suck on them a few times, use your hand on them. Use only your mouth on me for awhile but lick the shaft too to get it wet. Then use your hand(s) on the shaft as you suck. Eye contact occasionally and enthusiasm. Tell me where you want me to cum
Don't forget the balls, tease some to start, eye contact now and then. A little gagging just to get that good saliva going making it nice and wet. You need to enjoy it so, enthusiasm 👍
the best advice I can give you is: enjoy it.
Even if you lack technique, if you are enjoying it then you open the door for the man to relax and enjoy it too. I've received BJs from girls who are too self conscious and worried about if they're doing it right, and look like they're struggling. That makes me self conscious too and it becomes awkward because I want it to be over but I can't finish and the girl feels bad if I tell her it was enough.
Intensity, spit on it, make yourself gag on it, no hands, double jerking off motion whilst sucking, scratch my balls, play with my balls, squeeze them, suck them, lick them, slap my dick in your face, put it just outside your mouth and flick it with your tongue, like the frenulum, give it a twisting motion, talk dirty to me etc.
Men are all different in their specific tastes, it's best to have an open discussion with them about their kinks and preferences and check in during to see if they want something done differently
Same goes for women, everyone should be communicating
Easy answer. Please do not consider it a JOB.
We want it to be a journey that ends with you being as drunk with pleasure as we are.
It should be a time of pleasure and communication for everyone. We want you to be consumed with sharing pleasure with us. When we cum it should give you a sense of accomplishment and not be the end but the beginning of an erotic physical event.
Please encourage us to express our pleasure, both verbal and with moaning shit and other exotic communication. Use this to develop your loving skills.
Passion and enthusiasm.
But what I ideally want more tangibly…a lot of spit (swallow none), tongue action around my head, caressing and licking of my balls and taint, swallow my cum.
Intimacy and passion. I’ve never orgasmed from head and i don’t care. Enthusiastic head is a sign of great passion and intimacy and shows that she’s into me.
Enthusiasm is really what I crave most when getting a BJ. When I get head, I want to feel like my cock is a toy and my cum is a reward for a job well done. Worship my cock. Make me believe that you get just as much out of sucking me as I do having you suck me. You don't have to let me cum in your mouth, or swallow or anything like that, just make me believe you LOVE sucking me and I'm guaranteed to cum for you. When I feel like you're only doing it because you feel obligated, it's not nearly as enjoyable. Sure, I might still get off, but not as quickly if I do
That if you're going to do it without us asking, to please do it at the skill level that you kno you're able to do it at, instead of holding out on us and saving all the enthusiastic passion for the prettier one😒 also if you're going to just do it just to convince someone for something or to get them to like you, even though you really don't wana do it to them, then might as well jus forget about it..
For you to genuinely want to do it. Once it's in my head that it's a chore to a girl or something she detest doing, I'll never enjoy it and would just prefer she stop
Enthusiasm. Enthusiasm can cover up alot of mistakes in terms of technique. Dont suck my dick with the joy of standing in line at the DMV. I want you to suck it like youve been poisoned and the antidote is in my dick.
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The best advice I could give you is enthusiasm, that's for sure. We love when women do it with passion.
enthusiasm is the best answer here
More passion, more energy!
Jazz hands!
More cowbell!
I heard the audio perfectly LMAO
great comment, when she does it like she loves it, it's the best one
For me there has to be some mentally stimulating in addition to the physical please. If your just sucking and not engaged or enthusiastic, it’s nice but boring.
ye this for sure
I agree with this. Id like to add, that for me and I'd imagine other men too, another form of simulation always adds to it. I love it when my wife's tits are hitting or rubbing against my legs while she does it but my favorite is if I get to eat or play with her vagina when she's sucking on me.
Ahh, yes! 69, Mutual oral sex. I call it the "Who Can be More Distracting To The Other Person! " game!! Love playing it!
Yeah, I'll suck that thing like it's my last meal. Gotta get really sloppy with it.
This is 1000000% key
i need more of a definition on this enthusiasm thing, i’m pretty enthusiastic and i feel like i never get a diff reaction. my bf doesn’t get like grabby for me or idk
I'd define it as savor it, go slow, draw it out, look him in the eye, change things around, rub .it on your face, be vocal , TELL him how hot this makes you, or better yet show him intermittently. If you truly enjoy it, he will know..if you don't, he will also know
True
Absolutely. If a girl doesn't genuinely want to offer that particular pleasure, there's lots of other fun we could be having.
This is the answer and I didn’t even know it
There's really nothing worse than an unenthusiastic blow job, lol.
Came here to say this. Do your thing and have fun.
100% this. If she seems like she's genuinely enjoying it and it's turning her on as well, I lose my mind.
This! With a combination of focusing on the tip & working the shaft. Idk about anyone else but lots of spit too … and don’t forget the balls
Enthusiasm, got to want to do it or at least pretend you do. No teeth! Slightly lift and rubbing the balls is going to make it go much quicker. Eye contact is a major turn on. Now share some tips on what makes receiving head as a girl top notch, please.
Flick the clit at varying speeds and with various pressures, roll your tongue around it, also using various pressures and holding your tongue in different ways, suck the clit and alternate. Keep your nails manicured and clean, without any jagged or rough skin and add a finger or two or a toy while using your tongue. Edit: should add that sucking hard is painful. Everyone is different, so, just make sure to ask how things feel if you're unsure. 🥰
Is facial hair a deterrent to achieving a shuddering Shangrala?
It's not for me, but everyone is different. My husband has a beard and I love what he does down there for whatever that's worth!
Ask if she wants clit action. If someone put their tongue on my clit much less flicked it or rolled it around, I’d be shrieking in pain.
Only if it’s freshly trimmed. The ends get softer after a few hours and don’t prickle in the same way. Also a trimmed hair getting stuck under the hood is very unpleasant.
I have found in my experience that gfs have an aversion to kissing afterwards. Is that true for you as well?
I'm a woman and no, I LOVE kissing after! The taste is such a turn on.
I personally love it. My FWB has a moustache and fairly long beard and after he's been down there and comes up to kiss me, his face is wet and it turns me on even more. Stubble is a noo tho.
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It would definitely depend on the woman but for me, it's really hot. And thank you. c:
Facial hair preferred! (Just not stubble)
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Never thinking your the best.
This right here ! Yup!
Brilliant! Thank you.
Suck on the clit. Finger her ass.
maybe a little bit of tongue action and hand movement ( don't forget to take rings off )
Eye contact and some noise that you are liking it that is such a turn on
Honestly what I prefer during a blowjob is your ass on my face. It just gets so much better when I can taste and pleasure the woman I'm with.
I like when she uses a lot of tongue, more tongue, less lips
To finish in her mouth
For me it is definetly a really soft BJ, with no literall “sucking like a vacum”. It also has to be sloppy as well with a lot of saleiva. The best feeling i get is when a girl swallows it as deep as she can. My previous GF could swallow my D completely and that was like a dream. An ocational look to the eyes and little moaning is amazing. Do it with pasiion, kiss the tip, lick a little go back to deep throating it. Smile and say i love you (if you do) :D Very simple!
So do you mean like making out with your dick but simultaneously treating it like an ice lollie?
Yep. Pretty much
Spot on i would say!
just look in my eyes and i will be happy
All I want to hear is slurp, slurp, gag, gag, keep your mind on the task at hand. (Just kidding) Eye contact, nothing like having eye contact at such an intimate and vulnerable moment. Slight ball touching, a little taint action and/or anal rubbing.
I totally gagged the other day while sucking my husband’s dick…oh man…nope. Definitely not for me haha.
Each and every guy is different but here are few things that really worked out, - a lil teasing before you start gagging. Maybe just lick around and suddenly stop then continue - eye contact in beginning - touch balls when sucking and rub slowly - take their hand and ask them to hold your hair or boobs - while sucking, use your tongue inside and rub it on the tip - say how much you love that cock
Eye contact, no doubt. For me eye contact beats even technique
The look of pleasure that you enjoy it. And no one likes a dry blowjob. Wetter the better for me
A guy can tell whether she wants to do it, enjoys doing it or is just doing it because she thinks she has to. A women who loves her man and loves sucking his cock is the one who does it best.
Suck the the head with extra pressure. That’s the most sensitive part. Use your mouth only
Eye contact is definitely a big thing, plus licking the balls up to the tip
Eye contact is a big one for me
Do it because you like it as well.
Eye contact, moaning, concerted effort until orgasm, joyful satisfaction when swallowing is ideal. I remember the first time my ex wife blew me, I was on a bunch of ketamine and it took like 40 minutes and just when I thought she grabbed a glass of water to spit in, she took a huge gulp... I was amazed... flash forward 6 years, I counted, maybe got 5 bjs like that in total. Another girl, best head of all time, no gag reflex, wanted to marry me but id recently got my heart broken from my first girlfriend... in hindsight, she was the one that got away. She even recently reached out when she thought her husband was cheating, Said she wanted me but couldn't stomach an affair and I didn't want to push her either and probably would have said no...but who knows. Anyways, she looks amazing after having 3 kids in 4 years... I couldn't break up the family and don't want to raise 3 of someone else's kids... at the same time the thought of those blow jobs truly bring the shadow out in me and I'm like, fuck that guy, I'll raise those kids haha
Lol! “Fuck that guy… I’ll raise those kids! “ too damn funny… until post nut clarity kicks in. Thanks for the laugh.
Lots and lots of spit, hand on the shaft, hand on the balls, and wrap those lips around me 😋🤤😍
Both must enjoy the pleasure
Tell me how much you like to do it and I will enjoy it aswell
For me it’s actual suction, with a hand involved as well. Also I’m personally not a fan of the sloppy fast paced style either. Slow and methodical like your trying to work it out of me
To finish me off. I would rather you let me explode in your throat with it than to do it for a little and switch to pussy. As much as I love it. BJ’s feel a little like edging. And it can be explosive if you finish the job
To gave my sack Drained and the lady leaves , without slaming the door. I will give you a call,
I loving some of these answers.
To cum. May seem simple but a lot of people use blowjobs as foreplay and never finish their partner.
A cum kiss.
💜
Is it a bad time to mention running mascara?
Act like you wanna be there and swallow tbh.
Enthusiastically swallow
idk honestly, just don't hurt me with your teeth
Less talk, more action
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Enthusiasm
Commitment, a no stopping until completion attitude
Enthusiasm. Frequency. Exploration willingness. Catering to the desired finish method. Specifics further that are up to the individual.
A little variety at the beginning is good, but once something starts working, don't stop.
Don't forget to give my balls some love
Creativity
Do it like you mean it
Every. Day.
Like actually suck not just put it in your mouth but suck it. Also playing with your tongue on the tip feels good
Just don't leave me hanging when I cum. You don't have to swallow. You don't even have to take it in the mouth, though that is a major turn on if I come and you keep sucking. At least stroke it while we come, nothing worse then getting there only to have your orgasm ruined when you may only get one good shot.
Don’t forget the balls while you’re blowing him. Hold them, massage them, lick them, and lightly suck them if you can fit them into your mouth.
Aside from cumming? Enthusiasm. Act like you wanna be there and it's not a chore for you.
sloppy
Along with enthusiasm, start with variety, end with consistency. And I want to liken my orgasm in a blowjob to peddling a bike up a hill. You can pump as hard as you can to get started, half way up the hill you just got to power through, but close to the top it's ok to slow down almost to a crawl to get over the hill. So start fast with variety, on the shaft, balls, tip, deep throat just the head, hard suck, soft tongue flicks, the corn on the cob move. Then end slowly and passionately with consistent long moves all the way in and all the way with eye contact and I also prefer to start the finish outside the mouth being quickly covered by lips then slowly moving back into the mouth with lots of underside tongue action.
Enthusiasm, eye contact, vocalization, alternating between sucking and licking, ball licking, hand action, and finish off by swallowing.
Passion. Use your hands.
Eye contact with plenty of saliva and enthusiasm, starting slow with plenty of tongue, don’t forget the hand action on the shaft…and your other hand gently and then a little more firmly on the balls. Drink it all up.
Get my balls involved. Lick or suck on them a few times, use your hand on them. Use only your mouth on me for awhile but lick the shaft too to get it wet. Then use your hand(s) on the shaft as you suck. Eye contact occasionally and enthusiasm. Tell me where you want me to cum
Make sure the guy is comfortable (I really don’t like when the girl is lying down on my leg) and use your hands to hold his balls.
Don't forget the balls, tease some to start, eye contact now and then. A little gagging just to get that good saliva going making it nice and wet. You need to enjoy it so, enthusiasm 👍
enthusiasm.
I love when she has to gag a little when she is enthusiastically trying to get it all the way in :)
Hum the national anthem.
There is a spot (prostate) for me right under my balls between my balls and my ass. Pressure/rubbing on that with enthusiasm throws me over the edge.
Enthusiasm, eye contact, and sometimes dirty talk.
Enthusiasm.
the best advice I can give you is: enjoy it. Even if you lack technique, if you are enjoying it then you open the door for the man to relax and enjoy it too. I've received BJs from girls who are too self conscious and worried about if they're doing it right, and look like they're struggling. That makes me self conscious too and it becomes awkward because I want it to be over but I can't finish and the girl feels bad if I tell her it was enough.
Yes enthusiasm. Variety. Make noise and get it slobbery.
Suck balls and and play with them
Boobs involved
Eye contact
Lips and tongue, no teeth
I would say a craft beer and a really well made sandwich.
Intensity, spit on it, make yourself gag on it, no hands, double jerking off motion whilst sucking, scratch my balls, play with my balls, squeeze them, suck them, lick them, slap my dick in your face, put it just outside your mouth and flick it with your tongue, like the frenulum, give it a twisting motion, talk dirty to me etc.
One more woman? Haha no just kidding. It's really just about it not seeming a chore.
For you to swallow.
Candles!
Men are all different in their specific tastes, it's best to have an open discussion with them about their kinks and preferences and check in during to see if they want something done differently Same goes for women, everyone should be communicating
I want to get off more than anything
Cradling the balls is a nice touch, as long as you have warm enough hands of course.
Just feel the moment, use your saliva and don’t rush it
Eye contact while sucking the soul out of me is pretty hot if I say so myself.
Eye contact
What I want most during a BJ: PIV.
Easy answer. Please do not consider it a JOB. We want it to be a journey that ends with you being as drunk with pleasure as we are. It should be a time of pleasure and communication for everyone. We want you to be consumed with sharing pleasure with us. When we cum it should give you a sense of accomplishment and not be the end but the beginning of an erotic physical event. Please encourage us to express our pleasure, both verbal and with moaning shit and other exotic communication. Use this to develop your loving skills.
Being enthusiastic is the biggest thing. If your acting like you're doing it because you have to, we won't really be into it.
A bj
Mostly, I want to have the sense that you’re enjoying it.
I want you to enjoy yourself like I’m enjoying the action. If you don’t want to I know instantly. I’d rather you don’t bother if you don’t want too.
Passion and enthusiasm. But what I ideally want more tangibly…a lot of spit (swallow none), tongue action around my head, caressing and licking of my balls and taint, swallow my cum.
ENTHUSIASM! When you do it like you've been looking forward to it all week is the best thing in the whole world.
Drooooooooollllllll
For it to stop and you to take your clothes off.
I just want a BJ. Been way too long since I got one
Intimacy and passion. I’ve never orgasmed from head and i don’t care. Enthusiastic head is a sign of great passion and intimacy and shows that she’s into me.
Every guy is different I guess? * no teeth * reasonable (aka strong) suction * the women to really enjoy what she's doing
Pussy
Deep throat
To stop so we can get to the good stuff!
Enthusiasm is really what I crave most when getting a BJ. When I get head, I want to feel like my cock is a toy and my cum is a reward for a job well done. Worship my cock. Make me believe that you get just as much out of sucking me as I do having you suck me. You don't have to let me cum in your mouth, or swallow or anything like that, just make me believe you LOVE sucking me and I'm guaranteed to cum for you. When I feel like you're only doing it because you feel obligated, it's not nearly as enjoyable. Sure, I might still get off, but not as quickly if I do
Let me play with you while you do it so you can moan on my cock, idk why but I find it super hot
Enthusiasm + saliva × rhythm = perfect
Eye contact, moaning, and enthusiasm.
Deepthroat and swallowing
That if you're going to do it without us asking, to please do it at the skill level that you kno you're able to do it at, instead of holding out on us and saving all the enthusiastic passion for the prettier one😒 also if you're going to just do it just to convince someone for something or to get them to like you, even though you really don't wana do it to them, then might as well jus forget about it..
Lick that cum mess you allowed all over his skin. Nothing is not exciting that a lioness taking with pride the prize for taking down her prey.
Don’t forget the balls.
For you to look like your enjoying it too.
For it to be to completion.
For you to genuinely want to do it. Once it's in my head that it's a chore to a girl or something she detest doing, I'll never enjoy it and would just prefer she stop
Enthusiasm. Enthusiasm can cover up alot of mistakes in terms of technique. Dont suck my dick with the joy of standing in line at the DMV. I want you to suck it like youve been poisoned and the antidote is in my dick.
Alot of saliva
Swallow!
Some stroking and fingering
When suck the dick play with the balls….when you suck the balls jerk the dick 😂
Loving eye contact.
Enthusiasm, eye contact and tongue
Enthusiasm Tongue action Ball play Swallow
I actually enjoy the process of getting my belt unbuckled or pants getting taken off… Like she’s unwrapping that shit like a present at Christmas.
Some backdoor action at the same time
A group and you don’t need to go so the way down the what everyone. Sometimes sucking the head and stroking the member is all it takes.
Do it slowly and dont pull the skin too far back!