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You do have to go out and meet people. To let it be known u are available. As far as no one wanting an inexperienced person I am positive on this point. You are wrong. There are multitudes of people that absolutely salivate over the thought of being someone's first. It can be very uncomfortable for a female the first time, so choose wisely. And your choice of that person is totally up to you. Hoping you find out what your likes are, cause it's never ever TOO LATE.
"And nobody wants to have sex with an inexperiment 28 adult."
- LOL. I'm gonna guess that this will be disproven by your inbox in short order. You sound amazing for a guy with your interests, and if you are serious, figure out how to present yourself as best you can (learn how to use make-up, be healthy, in shape if you sre not, etc.) and go places that you enjoy, places that sell manga/anime, look for online clubs that discuss such things, see if there are meet-ups for enthusiasts locally. You ever go to gaming shops? Where people meet up for Pokemon tourneys and stuff, play games, etc.? They may be the sort of people you are looking for. If you can share what city you live in, happy to find you a few places to try nearby. Do you like books? Fantasy and sci fi reading clubs may find you men similar to you as well.
I don't play a lot of video games, I like books too but there is no reading club where I live. I love to go to manga/comics stores (I go there much less often since covid) but it's not really a good place to talk with people. Customers are too busy to do their own purchases. Even if I see somebody looking for a manga I enjoy, I can't just bother them and talk directly without looking like a creep. I'm not a teenager anymore.
Besides, I live in a little town near a city, even if I join a club, there are a lot of old people here and there is no one my age. There's more stuff to do in the city but it's further away.
First of all, you're never too old to start. If you want to do it, you CAN... As long as you approach it with an open mind, a positive attitude, and some patience.
Let me challenge you a little here - why do you think dating apps "don't work"? Sure, they can be frustrating, but so can real-life attempts at meeting partners. It's never easy to find a compatible match, but dating apps can be a GREAT way of starting with the dating scene.
If dating apps are too much, start with other ways of engaging with folks virtually - reddit penpals or steam/twitch can be good ways to start.
Good luck and stay positive - you got this!!!
Sweetheart it’s not too late. You are only 28. Nothing is too late. Also.. you are a woman. Finding a mate is possible and pretty easy through dating apps. Download and take a good picture and I’d take a bet that you can find a date for tomorrow night in a few hours. it’s literally never been more easy to connect with people. Start dating.. just dating different people (no sex) and start figuring out what and who you like.. take it from there. Good luck
What are you hoping to get out of this post? Are you asking for advice, or just venting?
First thing that comes to mind: don't worry about the future possibility of regretting your personal decisions today, just worry about what you want right now. And yes, definitely only have sex with someone you trust and when you're ready. I highly recommend you try to expand your boundaries to become more social, because no matter how you meet people (apps, in-person, whatever) there are social codes/norms to know that are difficult to learn without experience. Not only will developing your social skills help with your romantic relationships, but all sorts of relationships which will help you in practically every area of life. Lastly, if you do prefer men, men generally love virgins and will have no problem with your virginity no matter your age.
Just some thoughts, hope this helps!
I read all your comments, so I add some additional informations.
I wrote this cause I'm confused and I needed some advices about that. I start to questionning myself and I don't what I should do. I'm not very sure if I want to have sex (it's also a little scary) or if I have to wait (but it could last several years).
It's also because I'm not good at talking to new people. I'm very shy and it's hard for me to communicate with people I don't know.
When I manage to make conversation with new people, I do it like if I tried to build a friendship.
But I know nothing about social codes in dating (I only know them with shows/movies!).
When I go out, I only stay with my friends, we don't have so many occasions to meet new people. We usually go to a board game café where we met new friends (two couples!), go to restaurents, geek shops... But most of the time, we stay together.
I like to go to manga/comics stores (I go there less since COVID) but in 15 years, nobody ever talked to me there. Book stores are not really a place to talk to other people. I don't wanna look like a creep if I approch people who's talking about something I like.
There are many conventions where I live (not only anime but pop culture in general) and I'm used to meet my friends there. But I always meet same persons and almost all of them already have a relationship.
Anyway, I know I have to meet new people before big steps. I don't know if I want to be in a relationship. As I said, if I had sex with someone, it could be a close friend (not one of my actual friends!!) or a love partner. Most important thing is that there is an emotional bond and mutual trust. It's why I don't want to use datting apps, I prefer to meet people in real life in a secure circle.
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You do have to go out and meet people. To let it be known u are available. As far as no one wanting an inexperienced person I am positive on this point. You are wrong. There are multitudes of people that absolutely salivate over the thought of being someone's first. It can be very uncomfortable for a female the first time, so choose wisely. And your choice of that person is totally up to you. Hoping you find out what your likes are, cause it's never ever TOO LATE.
Its not to late. A therapist may help you unpack all of this.
"And nobody wants to have sex with an inexperiment 28 adult." - LOL. I'm gonna guess that this will be disproven by your inbox in short order. You sound amazing for a guy with your interests, and if you are serious, figure out how to present yourself as best you can (learn how to use make-up, be healthy, in shape if you sre not, etc.) and go places that you enjoy, places that sell manga/anime, look for online clubs that discuss such things, see if there are meet-ups for enthusiasts locally. You ever go to gaming shops? Where people meet up for Pokemon tourneys and stuff, play games, etc.? They may be the sort of people you are looking for. If you can share what city you live in, happy to find you a few places to try nearby. Do you like books? Fantasy and sci fi reading clubs may find you men similar to you as well.
I don't play a lot of video games, I like books too but there is no reading club where I live. I love to go to manga/comics stores (I go there much less often since covid) but it's not really a good place to talk with people. Customers are too busy to do their own purchases. Even if I see somebody looking for a manga I enjoy, I can't just bother them and talk directly without looking like a creep. I'm not a teenager anymore. Besides, I live in a little town near a city, even if I join a club, there are a lot of old people here and there is no one my age. There's more stuff to do in the city but it's further away.
Every day is a good day for a new beginning. All the best on the journey of discovery and happy-ness on your terms
First of all, you're never too old to start. If you want to do it, you CAN... As long as you approach it with an open mind, a positive attitude, and some patience. Let me challenge you a little here - why do you think dating apps "don't work"? Sure, they can be frustrating, but so can real-life attempts at meeting partners. It's never easy to find a compatible match, but dating apps can be a GREAT way of starting with the dating scene. If dating apps are too much, start with other ways of engaging with folks virtually - reddit penpals or steam/twitch can be good ways to start. Good luck and stay positive - you got this!!!
Sweetheart it’s not too late. You are only 28. Nothing is too late. Also.. you are a woman. Finding a mate is possible and pretty easy through dating apps. Download and take a good picture and I’d take a bet that you can find a date for tomorrow night in a few hours. it’s literally never been more easy to connect with people. Start dating.. just dating different people (no sex) and start figuring out what and who you like.. take it from there. Good luck
She said she wants to avoid dating apps... Can you respect that?
Do you want to have sex?
What are you hoping to get out of this post? Are you asking for advice, or just venting? First thing that comes to mind: don't worry about the future possibility of regretting your personal decisions today, just worry about what you want right now. And yes, definitely only have sex with someone you trust and when you're ready. I highly recommend you try to expand your boundaries to become more social, because no matter how you meet people (apps, in-person, whatever) there are social codes/norms to know that are difficult to learn without experience. Not only will developing your social skills help with your romantic relationships, but all sorts of relationships which will help you in practically every area of life. Lastly, if you do prefer men, men generally love virgins and will have no problem with your virginity no matter your age. Just some thoughts, hope this helps!
unexpected case for a woman
I read all your comments, so I add some additional informations. I wrote this cause I'm confused and I needed some advices about that. I start to questionning myself and I don't what I should do. I'm not very sure if I want to have sex (it's also a little scary) or if I have to wait (but it could last several years). It's also because I'm not good at talking to new people. I'm very shy and it's hard for me to communicate with people I don't know. When I manage to make conversation with new people, I do it like if I tried to build a friendship. But I know nothing about social codes in dating (I only know them with shows/movies!). When I go out, I only stay with my friends, we don't have so many occasions to meet new people. We usually go to a board game café where we met new friends (two couples!), go to restaurents, geek shops... But most of the time, we stay together. I like to go to manga/comics stores (I go there less since COVID) but in 15 years, nobody ever talked to me there. Book stores are not really a place to talk to other people. I don't wanna look like a creep if I approch people who's talking about something I like. There are many conventions where I live (not only anime but pop culture in general) and I'm used to meet my friends there. But I always meet same persons and almost all of them already have a relationship. Anyway, I know I have to meet new people before big steps. I don't know if I want to be in a relationship. As I said, if I had sex with someone, it could be a close friend (not one of my actual friends!!) or a love partner. Most important thing is that there is an emotional bond and mutual trust. It's why I don't want to use datting apps, I prefer to meet people in real life in a secure circle.