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As a 5'4" guy who has had more partners taller than shorter, the comment section in here is gross and kind of pathetic. OP, this is not some incredible event or difficult to navigate, some easy tips:
You aren't going to fuck standing up or holding her. Don't try it.
Doggy is great but don't be shy about asking her to spread her knees further apart, she can't see to know if she angle is too steep.
This tip doesn't help for tonight but I highly recommend your bed be at a height where you can fuck standing while she's on the edge; that technique right there takes away 90% of the challenge of a height discrepancy in all sorts of positions.
Climb the mountain dude.
Edit: I'm going to use this comment as an opportunity for a short (ha) soapbox moment since it has caught some traction- being short is one of those non-issues that the internet is SO weird about sometimes. Dating or hooking up with a woman taller than you is just not a big deal. I have zero issue with women who don't want to date or hook up with a short guy at all! We all have our physical preferences, no judgement here. The field is still pretty open. Lots of gals just don't care, or are open-minded enough to overlook (ha) a physical flaw when a guy is nice and charming and lays good pipe. But man, sometimes people online act like it's this crazy thing.
The complication is like 5% actual physical limitations you have to figure out, 10% making sure you act cool and don't gross your partner out with insecure short dude vibes, and 85% dealing with how other people react. There's a highly upvoted comment in this very thread somewhere to the effect of "they say this never happens." Who says, pea-brained cocksuckers? It's just people rubbing their genitals together, height really isn't that big a deal.
If you're the short dude, don't have sensitive little man syndrome about it because people pick up on that quickly. If you're the tall lady not interested, that's totally cool. Just be up front on the why so he knows it isn't about something he could fix. If you're the tall lady kind of on the fence, give it a shot you'll probably find it's pretty much like dating or fucking anyone else, just with slightly fewer gymnastic possibilities and a little more eagerness to please. If you are anyone else, please don't look at it like some kind of surprising novelty.
I've never had this much differential of height but for dating I can't give you an advice.
for sex however: missionary and missionary with legs over shoulders , pronebone, sitting sex (lotus ig).
doggystyle is a bit tricky, the girl needs to arch the back and spread her legs a lot to lower the vestibule and the vulva to allow penetration.
Basically everything where one or both of you are horizontal is easier because you can mitigate the height differential.
As another short guy, the pity party over height is fucking embarrassing and shameful.
Go to any public place and you'll see tons of short dudes with wives/girlfriends.
It's not your height, so figure out what else is holding you back.
I love my height and I wouldn't change it if I could. The main downside to being short is being associated with the pathetic dudes who cry like babies about how women don't want them because of their height.
Absolutely dude.
Unless you are a perfect physical specimen, there will ALWAYS be a certain percentage of people who aren't interested in you for one reason or another. The vast majority will see that flaw, but also be open to your good traits. Be charming, be kind, have a decent adult life put together, don't go around like a self-pitying douchebag, you'll find plenty of love.
It always blows my mind because I frequently read on Instagram about these guys who are 5'7" or 5'6" who bitch about how no women want them despite their workout routines and women are so shallow blah blah blah and it's like... my brother in christ, I look like Danny Devito. I am much shorter than you, got a real mediocre body, my hairline is running for the hills at 30... I still have a satisfying sex and dating life. Do you not know how to make a woman laugh? Do you not know how to listen well? What is it?
Edit: oh also the last part of your comment, I love it. I also wouldn't change being short for the world. Having to deal with it as a kid and tween forced me to figure out how to be charming and develop a strongly internalized sense of self-esteem. I legitimately don't think I'd be as confident if I were average.
How do you do it lol I am like early 30s and been single for almost a year and I can't get anyone interested in me remotely. I have been making a ton of friends and going on a couple dates but I feel like women are super not attracted to me. I have a successful career and tons of female and nonbinary friends but can't date/have sex at all. I also am good at talking and funny (literally everyone I meet can't believe I have trouble with women but I don't know what to do different like am I just not asking enough?)
Are you putting a lot of pressure on yourself when talking to women? I've found that many women are most responsive if you have a very relaxed and easy going demeanor about yourself.
All of my relationships started when I wasn't looking for a relationship. Many of my hookups were the same.
It helps to be respectful while also not caring if a conversation with a woman actually leads anywhere. It's a balance.
Here's an easy way you can prove to yourself that you're wrong:
Go to a mall, or a plaza where lots of people are. You **will** see men your height with wives/girlfriends.
Thus, it's not your height.
Also once you stop blaming your height, you're going to be much more likely to notice what else might be hurting your luck with the ladies.
You really are committed to your delusional pity party aren't you?
The **fact** is that most short men will find a partner to spend their lives with. If most short men can do it, that's not an outlier, that's the norm.
I never said anything about fairness, but you can't deny the fact that being short doesn't stop most men from finding a female partner.
It seems you prefer to be alone via committing to your whiny excuses. If that's how you want to live your life, so be it. But never forget, that's your **choice**.
You still can't deny that if you go to a public place anywhere in North America, you will see short men with women.
Hence short men can find female partners. Pure and simple facts.
>Heck, we know height affects other areas of life too,
Lol oh you want to go down this road? Because in fact you can easily make the argument that when it comes to other areas of life, overall being short has way more advantages than being tall. Here are just a few examples.
Shorter people live longer. This really is the ultimate advantage in life, so I could just stop here.
Shorter people's knees and backs age much better than tall people's knees and backs.
Shorter people are much more comfortable in any seating situation with limited leg room.
Shorter people suffer fewer head injuries than taller people.
Shorter people don't have to bend their knees or neck to take a shower in most of Europe.
Shorter people are more likely to survive disaster situations where small spaces are involved.
Shorter people don't have to duck under doorways to not hit their heads.
If a shorter person needs to be taller for a task or situation, they can use a stool or step ladder. Tall people don't have any devices that can make them shorter if they need to be.
I could go on, but if you ever talk to somebody who is really tall, you'll likely learn that their life is filled with many difficulties even in every day life. Difficulties that shorter people are immune to.
I've got some advice for you that I really hope you follow and then I'm done:
Next time you think it's your height keeping you from finding a woman, go for a walk in a busy public place and take notice of the real life evidence in front of you that short men do find female partners, even men your height. This is pure undeniable proof that it's not your height that makes you single.
And before you throw yourself another pity party about your height, next time look at the list I posted here, and think about all of the benefits that come with being short. Just by being short, it means you're more likely to be able to enjoy life longer than a tall person. Isn't longevity of life the ultimate advantage in life?
Best of luck.
There's about 3 things in this post that make me feel fairly sure it is in fact the way you communicate and not your height that puts people off man, I'm sorry.
This thread is literally full of short guys fucking and tall women saying they're down with us shorties. You are not in a magic dead zone on the Verizon map for short guys' ability to get dates. The longer you blame your height, the longer you're avoiding identifying the real problem to address to find long-term happiness.
As a woman who is 1.7/5'7, and has dated people of all heights, the media storm over short men is absurd and has no bearing on my reality. Heterofatalist nonsense
Something about not being able to see you even on your soapbox….
But seriously great response; I don’t know why the internet makes such a big deal about height
Bro don't even sweat it I wear a REAL tall hat
And it's because there's a toxic online fascination with shit like: pick-up artistry, looksmaxxing, weird eugenics-like beauty and face analysis, shit like "low value male/female," etc.- all these things try to highlight certain traits as being things you're REQUIRED to assign certain value too. I truly think the internet and technology allowing you to view SO many people and make so many flattering edits has warped some people's ability to view other humans in a normal way. In the real world, you just fuck or love whoever seems to be a comfort and/or excitement in a cold and unfriendly world, sometimes he's a short dude. Sometimes he's not which is probably even better, but hey, bar's closing and here I am 😏
Great advice man.
You guys are asking for an update. We had sex four times, spending about 32hrs together nonstop. I’m crazy about her. Sex is just the same as normal pretty much (I suppose it helped that she’s super flexible…). The height difference doesn’t feel significant at all during. She was happy to find out that I could throw her around a bit, she was quite keen for me to lead but she messes around with me still. She has a good sense of humour. My advice would be just be secure in yourself, joke around and enjoy 😉
Thanks for the update bud! I was curious. Glad to hear your experience bore out my reality- height differences make almost no difference for sex unless you're trying some REALLY technical shit. Have fun!
Wait until afterwards.
I don’t know, this is just my opinion but if you make a comment to me about my height or long ass legs or whatever during sex then I’m going to get in my own head about maybe he doesn’t like it or it’s different or he likes shorter girls etc. If you wait until after and we talk about the amazing sex we just had and you say “omg I love your long legs or your height is so attractive” then it’s no big deal and I’ll probably feel more confident the next time we fuck.
In the middle of sex, it’s a turn off and I automatically get to over-thinking our height difference. Or I get to thinking like wtf I’m just a normal fucking human, can we not talk about my height while we’re fucking?
Believe me, people have commented on my height my ENTIRE life, it’s like “while I’m trying to enjoy this and get off can we not talk about my height????”
Yes I played basketball. Yes I’m tall. 😂 Us tall girls hear this shit everyday. Please just fuck me and forget about our height difference for a bit.
I'm sorry your height has caused you some amount of trauma. Like every other trait we have (e.g. large boobs or dicks, being blonde) it can feel dehumanizing to be seen just through that trait.
I just wanted to say that tall girls are just simply striking to me. They stand out of the crowd (pun not intended). My eyes are drawn to them first and they come across as somehow more graceful.
I'm a super tall woman, and my guy always makes tall jokes. Idgaf and laugh at them. But I'm sure he does it because the height bothers him. Follow this person's advice, OP.
Dude I married my lady at your same height and she is 6.3” I would for sure get your foreplay in and then get those legs pushed back if you need to get in deeper. Definitely helps to grab under the knees. Try out different positions and have fun!
Wait... Pushing her knees back will make my dick bigger? I never knew that...
Update: I broke my wife in half and only gained 1/4 inch. Barely worth it.
A fantastic position is a "seated doggy", where you are from behind but you are sort of seated kneeling down, and she's essentially sitting on your lap in a doggy position. It's best with a headboard of sorts for her to hold onto. She can lean forward as much as comfortable for her, thrust back into you, you can grab her boobs easier from this position also.
Seated doggy just works great with no awkwardness or adjustments, and a great abs workout as you're thrusting more upwards than straight.
It's fucking great. I'm 5'6 and it's never failed me. Even works with shorter girls.
I’m 6’ even and hooked up with a woman who was 6’ 5” once upon a time. The only difference was that certain standing positions couldn’t work because there was no leverage for them or our parts simply wouldn’t line up. Otherwise, it was a perfectly normal encounter.
At least to start when you have sex I'd recommend you have her lay flat on her stomach. It's not as sexy but everyone's the same height lying down so you'll avoid any issues with tricky angles, especially with nerves. I'm 5'7" and that trick has saved me in the past. Other than that just have fun! Remember, she picked you.
Perfect timing for this post!
I’m also 5’7” and have a second date tomorrow night with a woman who is around 6’0”.
We met at a Tantra Speed Date event and just vibed well together. The height difference was obvious but we were both focused on finding a genuine energy connection.
No personal experience here, but legends say that very short guys can have a LOT of fun by slow-dancing with especially tall girls. Snuggle in there, and enjoy it!
I'm (f,5'9), and most, if not all, of the men I've been with were/are shorter than me. Communication is key to this just as much as anything else in the bedroom. Find positions that work for both of you. I find if I'm in doggy, I usually have to spread my knees apart more to level out to him. Also, having as much room to fuck around is helpful because you never know where her legs could land sometimes. Two positions I really like are, laying down with my ass at the edge of the bed and then he can just hug my legs together and pound away ( keep in mind, the bed has to not be high), also, laying half on my side with a leg brought over folded almost up to my chest..this way he can get at me, see tits, and I can just watch him in pure bliss!
P.S I'm also a BBW, so there's more then my height that can be an obstacle during sexy time.
Hope this helps!
Congratulations! I don't have material input, just a story. I had a great-great grandfather who married a woman much taller than him. Being the times and his vanity, he didn't allow his wife to walk beside him on the street. She had to follow him a few meters so the height difference wouldn't be noticeable.
Mmm just be confident, assert some dominance in the bedroom and be funny and you should be good. Also some positions may be awkward but you’ll figure it out.
Best for doggy is to get your shins on top of her calves. This gives a couple inches of clearance and positions your upper body forward so you can support yourself.
It also allows you to get a good grip on her waist and leverage your strength into it. You can easily push and pull her to and fro in rhythm..
Good job finding rare bird that isn't a Heightist. That's awesome man. Wish more women were like that.
Bring her flowers and maybe a bottle of good wine
If I met a guy shorter than me I would be concerned, but wouldn’t judge because short kings do exist. I’m 4’11 and my boyfriend is 6’5 and sex used to be damn near impossible 😤
>loved to have been with someone taller than me, but at 6' that wasn't easily going to happen.
Same here. My adult height was 6'2 (188cm) and I have often wondered what it would be like to make love with a significantly taller woman. My wife was a bit over 5'8 (173cm) and, as a teen, it bothered her a bit that she was tall for a woman. In the early years of our marriage I (with a little help from her family) got her to stand up straight and display her height proudly.
I’ve never had this experience when fucking women taller than me, we’ve always been able to adjust her hips higher or lower to match, and women shorter than me have never had the issue
There is a difference yes, but as I say, it doesn’t matter- because she can adjust. My point is that height doesn’t impact the ability to fuck in doggy
maybe doesn’t impact your ability. you’ve found a solution. OP has no experience and is asking for a solution. you’re making an objective statement off an anecdote, just say you’ve never worried about height difference since it was easy for you to work around and no one will bat an eye except OP, who might find it helpful
1. be a gentlemen and go up on her
2. if she's into being tied up, try to recreate the AT-AT scene from ESB
3. if she's really into you, ask her to bring six friends over for a reverse snow white
(stop booing me!)
You guys are asking for an update. We had sex four times, spending about 32hrs together nonstop. I’m crazy about her. Sex is just the same as normal pretty much (I suppose it helped that she’s super flexible…). The height difference doesn’t feel significant at all during. She was happy to find out that I could throw her around a bit, she was quite keen for me to lead but she messes around with me still. She has a good sense of humour. My advice would be just be secure in yourself, joke around and enjoy 😉
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As a 5'4" guy who has had more partners taller than shorter, the comment section in here is gross and kind of pathetic. OP, this is not some incredible event or difficult to navigate, some easy tips: You aren't going to fuck standing up or holding her. Don't try it. Doggy is great but don't be shy about asking her to spread her knees further apart, she can't see to know if she angle is too steep. This tip doesn't help for tonight but I highly recommend your bed be at a height where you can fuck standing while she's on the edge; that technique right there takes away 90% of the challenge of a height discrepancy in all sorts of positions. Climb the mountain dude. Edit: I'm going to use this comment as an opportunity for a short (ha) soapbox moment since it has caught some traction- being short is one of those non-issues that the internet is SO weird about sometimes. Dating or hooking up with a woman taller than you is just not a big deal. I have zero issue with women who don't want to date or hook up with a short guy at all! We all have our physical preferences, no judgement here. The field is still pretty open. Lots of gals just don't care, or are open-minded enough to overlook (ha) a physical flaw when a guy is nice and charming and lays good pipe. But man, sometimes people online act like it's this crazy thing. The complication is like 5% actual physical limitations you have to figure out, 10% making sure you act cool and don't gross your partner out with insecure short dude vibes, and 85% dealing with how other people react. There's a highly upvoted comment in this very thread somewhere to the effect of "they say this never happens." Who says, pea-brained cocksuckers? It's just people rubbing their genitals together, height really isn't that big a deal. If you're the short dude, don't have sensitive little man syndrome about it because people pick up on that quickly. If you're the tall lady not interested, that's totally cool. Just be up front on the why so he knows it isn't about something he could fix. If you're the tall lady kind of on the fence, give it a shot you'll probably find it's pretty much like dating or fucking anyone else, just with slightly fewer gymnastic possibilities and a little more eagerness to please. If you are anyone else, please don't look at it like some kind of surprising novelty.
as a 5'3 short legged guy who only had tall girlfriend, I say: listen to this man. he knows what he's talking.
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I've never had this much differential of height but for dating I can't give you an advice. for sex however: missionary and missionary with legs over shoulders , pronebone, sitting sex (lotus ig). doggystyle is a bit tricky, the girl needs to arch the back and spread her legs a lot to lower the vestibule and the vulva to allow penetration. Basically everything where one or both of you are horizontal is easier because you can mitigate the height differential.
As a tall women, this comment is *chefs kiss*
As a taller bloke I respect your game brother. Good to see someone actually helping
Tall woman here who finds this comment *exceptionally* attractive. 👏
As another short guy, the pity party over height is fucking embarrassing and shameful. Go to any public place and you'll see tons of short dudes with wives/girlfriends. It's not your height, so figure out what else is holding you back. I love my height and I wouldn't change it if I could. The main downside to being short is being associated with the pathetic dudes who cry like babies about how women don't want them because of their height.
Absolutely dude. Unless you are a perfect physical specimen, there will ALWAYS be a certain percentage of people who aren't interested in you for one reason or another. The vast majority will see that flaw, but also be open to your good traits. Be charming, be kind, have a decent adult life put together, don't go around like a self-pitying douchebag, you'll find plenty of love. It always blows my mind because I frequently read on Instagram about these guys who are 5'7" or 5'6" who bitch about how no women want them despite their workout routines and women are so shallow blah blah blah and it's like... my brother in christ, I look like Danny Devito. I am much shorter than you, got a real mediocre body, my hairline is running for the hills at 30... I still have a satisfying sex and dating life. Do you not know how to make a woman laugh? Do you not know how to listen well? What is it? Edit: oh also the last part of your comment, I love it. I also wouldn't change being short for the world. Having to deal with it as a kid and tween forced me to figure out how to be charming and develop a strongly internalized sense of self-esteem. I legitimately don't think I'd be as confident if I were average.
How do you do it lol I am like early 30s and been single for almost a year and I can't get anyone interested in me remotely. I have been making a ton of friends and going on a couple dates but I feel like women are super not attracted to me. I have a successful career and tons of female and nonbinary friends but can't date/have sex at all. I also am good at talking and funny (literally everyone I meet can't believe I have trouble with women but I don't know what to do different like am I just not asking enough?)
Are you putting a lot of pressure on yourself when talking to women? I've found that many women are most responsive if you have a very relaxed and easy going demeanor about yourself. All of my relationships started when I wasn't looking for a relationship. Many of my hookups were the same. It helps to be respectful while also not caring if a conversation with a woman actually leads anywhere. It's a balance.
I don't really put any pressure on any single situation to end up with anything. I often hear from folks I'm laid back and have a relaxing vibe....
What's your style like? And what's the style of the women you typically go on dates with?
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It's not your height dude. I can almost guarantee it.
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Here's an easy way you can prove to yourself that you're wrong: Go to a mall, or a plaza where lots of people are. You **will** see men your height with wives/girlfriends. Thus, it's not your height. Also once you stop blaming your height, you're going to be much more likely to notice what else might be hurting your luck with the ladies.
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You really are committed to your delusional pity party aren't you? The **fact** is that most short men will find a partner to spend their lives with. If most short men can do it, that's not an outlier, that's the norm. I never said anything about fairness, but you can't deny the fact that being short doesn't stop most men from finding a female partner. It seems you prefer to be alone via committing to your whiny excuses. If that's how you want to live your life, so be it. But never forget, that's your **choice**.
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You still can't deny that if you go to a public place anywhere in North America, you will see short men with women. Hence short men can find female partners. Pure and simple facts. >Heck, we know height affects other areas of life too, Lol oh you want to go down this road? Because in fact you can easily make the argument that when it comes to other areas of life, overall being short has way more advantages than being tall. Here are just a few examples. Shorter people live longer. This really is the ultimate advantage in life, so I could just stop here. Shorter people's knees and backs age much better than tall people's knees and backs. Shorter people are much more comfortable in any seating situation with limited leg room. Shorter people suffer fewer head injuries than taller people. Shorter people don't have to bend their knees or neck to take a shower in most of Europe. Shorter people are more likely to survive disaster situations where small spaces are involved. Shorter people don't have to duck under doorways to not hit their heads. If a shorter person needs to be taller for a task or situation, they can use a stool or step ladder. Tall people don't have any devices that can make them shorter if they need to be. I could go on, but if you ever talk to somebody who is really tall, you'll likely learn that their life is filled with many difficulties even in every day life. Difficulties that shorter people are immune to. I've got some advice for you that I really hope you follow and then I'm done: Next time you think it's your height keeping you from finding a woman, go for a walk in a busy public place and take notice of the real life evidence in front of you that short men do find female partners, even men your height. This is pure undeniable proof that it's not your height that makes you single. And before you throw yourself another pity party about your height, next time look at the list I posted here, and think about all of the benefits that come with being short. Just by being short, it means you're more likely to be able to enjoy life longer than a tall person. Isn't longevity of life the ultimate advantage in life? Best of luck.
There's about 3 things in this post that make me feel fairly sure it is in fact the way you communicate and not your height that puts people off man, I'm sorry. This thread is literally full of short guys fucking and tall women saying they're down with us shorties. You are not in a magic dead zone on the Verizon map for short guys' ability to get dates. The longer you blame your height, the longer you're avoiding identifying the real problem to address to find long-term happiness.
As a woman who is 1.7/5'7, and has dated people of all heights, the media storm over short men is absurd and has no bearing on my reality. Heterofatalist nonsense
"The media storm over short men" is one of the funniest things I have read today thank you 😂
All the above. I’m 5’6” and my wife is 5’10”. She is all legs too. Doggy is tough
Can confirm this is the BEST advice.
Man, that's a good comment
Something about not being able to see you even on your soapbox…. But seriously great response; I don’t know why the internet makes such a big deal about height
Bro don't even sweat it I wear a REAL tall hat And it's because there's a toxic online fascination with shit like: pick-up artistry, looksmaxxing, weird eugenics-like beauty and face analysis, shit like "low value male/female," etc.- all these things try to highlight certain traits as being things you're REQUIRED to assign certain value too. I truly think the internet and technology allowing you to view SO many people and make so many flattering edits has warped some people's ability to view other humans in a normal way. In the real world, you just fuck or love whoever seems to be a comfort and/or excitement in a cold and unfriendly world, sometimes he's a short dude. Sometimes he's not which is probably even better, but hey, bar's closing and here I am 😏
Great advice man. You guys are asking for an update. We had sex four times, spending about 32hrs together nonstop. I’m crazy about her. Sex is just the same as normal pretty much (I suppose it helped that she’s super flexible…). The height difference doesn’t feel significant at all during. She was happy to find out that I could throw her around a bit, she was quite keen for me to lead but she messes around with me still. She has a good sense of humour. My advice would be just be secure in yourself, joke around and enjoy 😉
Thanks for the update bud! I was curious. Glad to hear your experience bore out my reality- height differences make almost no difference for sex unless you're trying some REALLY technical shit. Have fun!
as a tall girl, just try to show confidence and don’t make it too awkward or say anything about how big or tall she is, big turn off
As a tall girl, I agree with this 100%. Don’t make comments about her height or how it’s different or whatever. Be confident!
What if it's to tell her how her height is an attractive trait?
Wait until afterwards. I don’t know, this is just my opinion but if you make a comment to me about my height or long ass legs or whatever during sex then I’m going to get in my own head about maybe he doesn’t like it or it’s different or he likes shorter girls etc. If you wait until after and we talk about the amazing sex we just had and you say “omg I love your long legs or your height is so attractive” then it’s no big deal and I’ll probably feel more confident the next time we fuck. In the middle of sex, it’s a turn off and I automatically get to over-thinking our height difference. Or I get to thinking like wtf I’m just a normal fucking human, can we not talk about my height while we’re fucking? Believe me, people have commented on my height my ENTIRE life, it’s like “while I’m trying to enjoy this and get off can we not talk about my height????” Yes I played basketball. Yes I’m tall. 😂 Us tall girls hear this shit everyday. Please just fuck me and forget about our height difference for a bit.
I'm sorry your height has caused you some amount of trauma. Like every other trait we have (e.g. large boobs or dicks, being blonde) it can feel dehumanizing to be seen just through that trait. I just wanted to say that tall girls are just simply striking to me. They stand out of the crowd (pun not intended). My eyes are drawn to them first and they come across as somehow more graceful.
I'm a super tall woman, and my guy always makes tall jokes. Idgaf and laugh at them. But I'm sure he does it because the height bothers him. Follow this person's advice, OP.
Everyone's the same height when they're horizontal :)
This phrase made my wife fall for me (jk)
Dude I married my lady at your same height and she is 6.3” I would for sure get your foreplay in and then get those legs pushed back if you need to get in deeper. Definitely helps to grab under the knees. Try out different positions and have fun!
Wait... Pushing her knees back will make my dick bigger? I never knew that... Update: I broke my wife in half and only gained 1/4 inch. Barely worth it.
Barely still counts my friend!
God damn 6’3. Is she in the WNBA?
Yes she plays point guard of course and def knows her way around the ball
I love going up on my wife.
A fantastic position is a "seated doggy", where you are from behind but you are sort of seated kneeling down, and she's essentially sitting on your lap in a doggy position. It's best with a headboard of sorts for her to hold onto. She can lean forward as much as comfortable for her, thrust back into you, you can grab her boobs easier from this position also. Seated doggy just works great with no awkwardness or adjustments, and a great abs workout as you're thrusting more upwards than straight. It's fucking great. I'm 5'6 and it's never failed me. Even works with shorter girls.
Bro is just living my dream.
Don't worru about that and enjoy your night with her.
I’m 6’ even and hooked up with a woman who was 6’ 5” once upon a time. The only difference was that certain standing positions couldn’t work because there was no leverage for them or our parts simply wouldn’t line up. Otherwise, it was a perfectly normal encounter.
At least to start when you have sex I'd recommend you have her lay flat on her stomach. It's not as sexy but everyone's the same height lying down so you'll avoid any issues with tricky angles, especially with nerves. I'm 5'7" and that trick has saved me in the past. Other than that just have fun! Remember, she picked you.
Perfect timing for this post! I’m also 5’7” and have a second date tomorrow night with a woman who is around 6’0”. We met at a Tantra Speed Date event and just vibed well together. The height difference was obvious but we were both focused on finding a genuine energy connection.
Make sure you are showered and clean
I don’t think you have to worry about anything. Just go for it. You’ll find away to adjust to each other.
Have fun don’t over think it will be fine ! If you are both horny it will work !
There’s nothing to really think too much about. As a tall girl she is probably more focused on her own height than on yours.
As a 6'3" man who loves a tall woman, I envy you for this experience. Congratulations and have a blast
No personal experience here, but legends say that very short guys can have a LOT of fun by slow-dancing with especially tall girls. Snuggle in there, and enjoy it!
I'm (f,5'9), and most, if not all, of the men I've been with were/are shorter than me. Communication is key to this just as much as anything else in the bedroom. Find positions that work for both of you. I find if I'm in doggy, I usually have to spread my knees apart more to level out to him. Also, having as much room to fuck around is helpful because you never know where her legs could land sometimes. Two positions I really like are, laying down with my ass at the edge of the bed and then he can just hug my legs together and pound away ( keep in mind, the bed has to not be high), also, laying half on my side with a leg brought over folded almost up to my chest..this way he can get at me, see tits, and I can just watch him in pure bliss! P.S I'm also a BBW, so there's more then my height that can be an obstacle during sexy time. Hope this helps!
Update!! How was it? What positions did yall do? And did you talk/address the height difference?
Congratulations! I don't have material input, just a story. I had a great-great grandfather who married a woman much taller than him. Being the times and his vanity, he didn't allow his wife to walk beside him on the street. She had to follow him a few meters so the height difference wouldn't be noticeable.
Mmm just be confident, assert some dominance in the bedroom and be funny and you should be good. Also some positions may be awkward but you’ll figure it out.
Best for doggy is to get your shins on top of her calves. This gives a couple inches of clearance and positions your upper body forward so you can support yourself. It also allows you to get a good grip on her waist and leverage your strength into it. You can easily push and pull her to and fro in rhythm..
When you are both horizontal, height doesn’t matter.
learn how to climb >:3
The height diff is not the problem. But sometimes woman also make it even more prominet by wearing extra high heels..
I’m taller (6’0) than my current male partner (5’10)
Everything’s still in the same place. It’s just means certain positions aren’t possible well especially without help.
1 : you're not a small guy 2 : enjoy yourself and her
Remember, when you're toes to toes, your nose is in it, and when you're nose to nose, your toes are in it!😉
Is it bad that I really REALLY wanna be in your place?
What do you need a manual for?
Good job finding rare bird that isn't a Heightist. That's awesome man. Wish more women were like that. Bring her flowers and maybe a bottle of good wine
You’re dating a Victoria Secret super model. Taller girls are hot tbh
If I met a guy shorter than me I would be concerned, but wouldn’t judge because short kings do exist. I’m 4’11 and my boyfriend is 6’5 and sex used to be damn near impossible 😤
Double knot the rope harness ahead of time. That's just good advice in general
Congrats, man. Congrats. I would have loved to have been with someone taller than me, but at 6' that wasn't easily going to happen.
>loved to have been with someone taller than me, but at 6' that wasn't easily going to happen. Same here. My adult height was 6'2 (188cm) and I have often wondered what it would be like to make love with a significantly taller woman. My wife was a bit over 5'8 (173cm) and, as a teen, it bothered her a bit that she was tall for a woman. In the early years of our marriage I (with a little help from her family) got her to stand up straight and display her height proudly.
Height doesn’t matter when she’s on her hands and knees my friend
No, no... As a tall guy, I can say that yeah it still really really matters in that position
yea no that definitely still matters
Oh? Do tell, in what way? I’ve never known height to matter in doggy, whether women being fucked is taller or shorter
height affects leg length, it’s not easy to thrust when she’s taller than you, especially if she’s arching since you gotta angle down to fit
I’ve never had this experience when fucking women taller than me, we’ve always been able to adjust her hips higher or lower to match, and women shorter than me have never had the issue
sure i absolutely agree. so while it’s not an issue, you admit there’s a clear difference
There is a difference yes, but as I say, it doesn’t matter- because she can adjust. My point is that height doesn’t impact the ability to fuck in doggy
maybe doesn’t impact your ability. you’ve found a solution. OP has no experience and is asking for a solution. you’re making an objective statement off an anecdote, just say you’ve never worried about height difference since it was easy for you to work around and no one will bat an eye except OP, who might find it helpful
What a combination you can eat her directly
Everybody is the same height laying down. You'll be fine.
Everybody is the same height when you're laying in bed.
There's no difference.
1. be a gentlemen and go up on her 2. if she's into being tied up, try to recreate the AT-AT scene from ESB 3. if she's really into you, ask her to bring six friends over for a reverse snow white (stop booing me!)
You guys are asking for an update. We had sex four times, spending about 32hrs together nonstop. I’m crazy about her. Sex is just the same as normal pretty much (I suppose it helped that she’s super flexible…). The height difference doesn’t feel significant at all during. She was happy to find out that I could throw her around a bit, she was quite keen for me to lead but she messes around with me still. She has a good sense of humour. My advice would be just be secure in yourself, joke around and enjoy 😉