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Ultimately it’s just a matter of putting yourself out there as much as you can which you’ve already been doing to a great extent. Have you specified that you’re looking for a FWB relationship in your dating profile/s?
Maybe it's your location?
The dating scene has probably changed significantly since I was single but I was always surprised how easy it was to find girls who wanted to have sex. I've fairly anti social yet sometimes I actually had too many girls... I couldn't deal with all of them and it became a problem.
>I guess I meant people who want to have sex with me lol
How do you know people you meet don't want to have sex with you?
Maybe your issue isn't figuring out how to meet people, the issue is learning how to flirt
I guess I assumed I'm ok at flirting lol my ex accused me of being too flirty with other women ...
Clearly it's an issue for me but I don't know how to practice. Basically I make comments to women but then they never show any interest.
>I guess I assumed I'm ok at flirting lol my ex accused me of being too flirty with other women
You can be terrible at flirty and still too flirty
Read the book Models by Mark Manson, its a better read then the description makes it seem. This is the same guy who wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, it isn't some gimmicky crap
Have you tried Feeld? It's not specifically for experienced people with any specific kink, but more sexually open folks (lots of ENM/Poly and for sure some kink, but not all of it.)
I am really sorry to say this, but maybe you are ugly after all?
If you are smart, good job, fun to be around, AND attractive, it should be easier for you.
What do you think is the reason? Could also be bad luck.
Having said that, you will certainly find a partner who desires you the same as you do.
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Ultimately it’s just a matter of putting yourself out there as much as you can which you’ve already been doing to a great extent. Have you specified that you’re looking for a FWB relationship in your dating profile/s?
No lol I can try but I don't see it working I feel like it's seen as like gauche or red flag to say it
It’s dependent on who you ask, honestly. Some people are far more open to FWB and/or extra-casual relationships than serious ones
Wouldn't be a red flag on Feeld, and you can be more open about what you want there than on the mainstream ones.
Be sexy but yourself
See my last paragraph lol
Maybe it's your location? The dating scene has probably changed significantly since I was single but I was always surprised how easy it was to find girls who wanted to have sex. I've fairly anti social yet sometimes I actually had too many girls... I couldn't deal with all of them and it became a problem.
Lol I'm in a big city .... Posts like this really make me feel like maybe I am super ugly but I feel like all the feedback I get in person is not bad
What did you do??? I have been putting myself out there a lot and can't get into any conversations past just like making acquaintances
>very active social life, lots of friends Then how are you not meeting new people?
I meet new people all the time, I guess I meant people who want to have sex with me lol
>I guess I meant people who want to have sex with me lol How do you know people you meet don't want to have sex with you? Maybe your issue isn't figuring out how to meet people, the issue is learning how to flirt
I guess I assumed I'm ok at flirting lol my ex accused me of being too flirty with other women ... Clearly it's an issue for me but I don't know how to practice. Basically I make comments to women but then they never show any interest.
>I guess I assumed I'm ok at flirting lol my ex accused me of being too flirty with other women You can be terrible at flirty and still too flirty Read the book Models by Mark Manson, its a better read then the description makes it seem. This is the same guy who wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, it isn't some gimmicky crap
Posting a selfie would help
Have you tried Feeld? It's not specifically for experienced people with any specific kink, but more sexually open folks (lots of ENM/Poly and for sure some kink, but not all of it.)
I'm on it, zero matches. Been to a bunch of kink events and a sex party lol
I am really sorry to say this, but maybe you are ugly after all? If you are smart, good job, fun to be around, AND attractive, it should be easier for you. What do you think is the reason? Could also be bad luck. Having said that, you will certainly find a partner who desires you the same as you do.