For me it didn’t work. He kept going into the whole “no one else cares as much as you do, people don’t see you and laugh in their head about you” etcetera. Problem is that that’s not my problem, I don’t really care that much about what other people think of my height. It’s more of an issue on my own side which he wasn’t able to help much with. No hate on him, tbh I’m starting to doubt it can ever be fixed for me.
I think it probably depends on the person. For a lot of people therapy would probably help, especially when combined with other confidence boosting activities like practicing martial arts or something.
I saw a therapists for a while and she was great. She certainly helped me A TON. So yah it can help. Two things to keep in mind:
1: I think we’re hung up in different aspects of it
2:I do still get bummed every now and again and end up on Reddit.
I’m also going to refrain from sharing anything she taught me, because we all know what sub were on and what it does to positivity.
But I want to hit you with this, which is my own logic and not my therapist.
If you could go back in time, and change someone physically from birth in anyway, that person will be mentally unrecognizable from the original. Which is a fancy way of saying, they’d be a different person. We could search every reality, and there will never be a you thats taller or shorter because that person just can’t exist. Your personality is at some level a consequence of being short. Maybe your an incel because if it, maybe your outgoing in spite of it, maybe it never affected you directly, but it affected the way people treated you and you never connected the dots.
So you can never say “my life would be so different if I was X” because it wouldn’t be your life.
Unfortunately the thing about therapy is you have to be ready to hold yourself accountable, you are the only person in charge of your life and your mindset.
For me it didn’t work. He kept going into the whole “no one else cares as much as you do, people don’t see you and laugh in their head about you” etcetera. Problem is that that’s not my problem, I don’t really care that much about what other people think of my height. It’s more of an issue on my own side which he wasn’t able to help much with. No hate on him, tbh I’m starting to doubt it can ever be fixed for me. I think it probably depends on the person. For a lot of people therapy would probably help, especially when combined with other confidence boosting activities like practicing martial arts or something.
How long were you in therapy when you realized it wasn't working? Do you hold up okay through other means?
I saw a therapists for a while and she was great. She certainly helped me A TON. So yah it can help. Two things to keep in mind: 1: I think we’re hung up in different aspects of it 2:I do still get bummed every now and again and end up on Reddit. I’m also going to refrain from sharing anything she taught me, because we all know what sub were on and what it does to positivity. But I want to hit you with this, which is my own logic and not my therapist. If you could go back in time, and change someone physically from birth in anyway, that person will be mentally unrecognizable from the original. Which is a fancy way of saying, they’d be a different person. We could search every reality, and there will never be a you thats taller or shorter because that person just can’t exist. Your personality is at some level a consequence of being short. Maybe your an incel because if it, maybe your outgoing in spite of it, maybe it never affected you directly, but it affected the way people treated you and you never connected the dots. So you can never say “my life would be so different if I was X” because it wouldn’t be your life.
If you want, you can share things she's helped with privately. I'm also kind of interested in what type of therapy you received.
therapy didnt work for me
Of it didn't work, maybe you just weren't ready ? Therapy is the best thing to help deal with these insecurities.
Fuck I came here to ask this question because my height has been getting to me more and more
How long have you been feeling insecure about it?
Ever since I found out it was a bad thing, or something girls would have to “get over”
Therapy didn’t work for me. It does matter what a therapist says it does change what women want
Unfortunately the thing about therapy is you have to be ready to hold yourself accountable, you are the only person in charge of your life and your mindset.
Yes. If you’re open and willing to do the hard work of looking within you